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The "how" and the "who first"

While my concerns about divorcing my spouse are numerous, there are two in particular that I could really use some advice on. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 3, 2014 - 20 answers

One date with someone who was bereaved shortly after

I've been on one date with a man whose brother died shortly afterwards. I want to support him and respect his decisions (including about whether to continue the relationship) but absolutely do not want to take advantage of his grief. I don't know how to approach this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 14, 2014 - 18 answers

I will survive! But I'd like to keep my sanity, too.

Hostile, toxic workplace is causing me tons of stress. I can and will do my job well, conduct myself appropriately, and be courteous and pleasant as Mrs. Cleaver at a dinner party while I'm there. When I get home, I just fall apart. Being fake for 14 hours a day is exhausting, self-censoring every word that comes out of my mouth is a trial, and documenting in detail every mundane task I've performed is time-consuming. I need any advice, articles, or techniques to help me fake it through my days and stay sane! [more inside]
posted by notaninja on Apr 12, 2014 - 18 answers

How to be supportive when you're really worried about the future?

My husband is miserable at his job and would like to change. This will likely mean a cut in our income and taking on more debt for him to go to school. How can I be more supportive when I worry about the change in our financial circumstances? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 15, 2014 - 48 answers

Strategies for quality time with my wife when life gets in the way

How does a youngish (36) married couple spend quality time together when demanding jobs and childcare responsibilities seem to make it nearly impossible? What are your strategies? How do you cope? [more inside]
posted by Creamroller on Nov 13, 2013 - 18 answers

How to support a spouse when you don't agree on their plans?

My spouse wants to quit their current job. I want to be supportive, but I find it difficult when I don't understand or agree with the decision to walk away. [more inside]
posted by jade east on Oct 8, 2013 - 32 answers

Asking someone out after job rejection

So I didn't get the job, sadly, but I'm interested in asking out one of the people who interviewed me (not the hiring manager). I'm female, he's male, we're both in our early 30s. Would that be weird? It's a fairly casual organization, but I may be interested in applying for another job there in the future...
posted by three_red_balloons on Sep 17, 2013 - 28 answers

How can I get through med school if I dislike group work?

I've just started medical school and the emphasis on group work is overwhelming me. I know that medicine is generally a team-oriented profession. I have certainly worked well in teams before, and found it enjoyable. I am affable and pulling my own weight is never an issue. Still, the fact that I have to work in a group for four hours a day, five days a week, is draining me like no other. I am angsty and tired. Please, fellow introverts and independent workers, especially those who are familiar with medical education -- how might you approach working in a heavily team-oriented environment? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit on Sep 8, 2013 - 13 answers

She has started to work in the same company with me, what now ?

I was a perfectly happy man 3 months ago. Then i met a woman by early May, we were in a relation two weeks later. It was too good to be true and apparently things unfold to a rebound situation on her end. We peacefully broke up. I was struggling at first but knew that things will get back to normal soon... after all it wasn't a relation lasted for years. This was until she started to work in the same company with me 2 weeks ago. Now i feel like i am stuck in this limbo forever. [more inside]
posted by yamamato on Aug 14, 2013 - 11 answers

Workfilter: How to be professional in the face of major disappointment

I've been at my job for the past five years and have had a lot of success, and have won a lot of awards for my work. However the folks that have seen my work and recognized my work have either left the organization or are on leave this summer. I interviewed for a position that I was qualified for and was not hired. A person that joined my team a year ago, Sally, spent the summer sucking up to the person who was tapped to be the hiring manager, Harry, who is a man that was newly hired in May, right before the person who would have been the hiring manager (my current boss) left on three months of leave. Sally got the job over six other applicants (including myself) that were more qualified. Everyone on the team is upset/angry at this situation, and we are worried about what this woman will do with this new power. Looking for guidance on how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 12, 2013 - 16 answers

Caught between my boss and my staff - how do I respond skillfully?

I need help in figuring out how to respond to a work situation between my boss and my staff. I am the second in command in our office, and manage all of the administrative staff. The administrative staff support all of the professional staff. (Think something like a law firm, or university department, where professional staff rely on and share administrative support). My boss is driving my administrative staff crazy. [more inside]
posted by It's a Parasox on Jun 17, 2013 - 28 answers

Crisis of success

What are some examples (historical, fictional, anecdotal, whatever) of groups, companies, partnerships, bands, teams where the founders achieve a bit of success and are then forced to reevaluate their relationships and objectives? [more inside]
posted by lowest east side on Nov 27, 2012 - 18 answers

Law clerk at small firm, partner lost his shit. Stay or go?

Lawyer filter. I'm a full time law clerk and part-time law student and need serious, objective advice regarding my boss and whether I should continue at the firm. [more inside]
posted by chloe.gelsomino on Aug 31, 2012 - 22 answers

What was time apart from your significant other like for you?

Help me make a decision: What was your experience living abroad without your partner for a year or more? [more inside]
posted by wintersweet on Jul 7, 2012 - 38 answers

Have you seen the movie "Secretary"? Yeah, like that.

Asking for a Friend/CoWorker: Boss and underling develop feelings for each. Both break it off, but now friend is feeling hurt and rejected. What advice can I give her? [more inside]
posted by Danithegirl on Jun 19, 2012 - 19 answers

How to un-have a crush on a coworker?

I have a crush on my coworker. And an awesome partner who I am crazy about. How do I get rid of the crush? A few special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 1, 2012 - 13 answers

Work-y Love Triangle: Help Me Keep It Simple.

I like him, I am pretty sure he likes me, yay! Complications: we essentially work together, and he theoretically has a girlfriend. Tips/suggestions needed for navigating this situation with maturity, honesty, and a minimum of hurt feelings. Stories and anecdotes about similar situations--with good outcomes or otherwise--VERY welcome. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2012 - 63 answers

relationships + college + work + ADD = bad news

How can I better manage and balance and save my relationship, college, and work along with my ADD? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 1, 2012 - 15 answers

Teach me, Obiwan.

I have a new boss. He is awesome. Now what? [more inside]
posted by SoulOnIce on Jan 27, 2012 - 15 answers

"It's going wonderfully! When are you getting married/having kids/retiring?"

What do I say to well-meaning but nosy people when they ask me how the job hunt in my boyfriend's city is coming along? [more inside]
posted by lizbunny on Jan 12, 2012 - 22 answers

What do real editors do, anyhow?

Help me be a better editor... for my wife. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 15, 2011 - 16 answers

Who'd say no to an exciting adventure? My husband.

How can my husband and I balance my dream job (in Asia) with his not-quite-wanting to go? [more inside]
posted by blazingunicorn on Aug 23, 2011 - 44 answers

How to get a coworker to help you

Is it possible to learn from a co-worker who doesn't seem to like you? [more inside]
posted by Desert Paintbrush on Jul 28, 2011 - 27 answers

How do I manage a resistant employee?

How do I manage a resistant employee? I'm new to this job and I need some advice on people management of a difficult person. [more inside]
posted by dawn_chorus on Mar 31, 2011 - 20 answers

America-India Relations

Sparks are flying between myself and a workmate/friend from India. Help me get my head around the cultural aspect of this. [more inside]
posted by dogcat on Feb 3, 2011 - 13 answers

[job filter] How can I fight to keep a job that I love now that the higher-ups have decided that my girlfriend and I can't work together?

[job filter] Should I bother to / How can I fight to keep a job that I love now that the higher-ups have decided that my girlfriend and I can't work together? [more inside]
posted by sarastro on Feb 2, 2011 - 26 answers

Professional boundaries for an adult education environment

I am seeking information (website/blog/journal article/etc) that will help me talk about the need for professional boundaries & role definition for staff working in an adult learning environment. Bonus points for info that talks about both the teacher-student relationship, and relationships within the staff team/whole organisation.
posted by MT on Feb 1, 2011 - 1 answer

What options does my Argentine boyfriend have to move back with me and find work in the United States?

What options does my Argentine boyfriend have to move back with me and find work in the United States? [more inside]
posted by inatizzy on Dec 1, 2010 - 9 answers

Did no one learn from Tiger's mistakes?

Which should I secure first, new work or new shelter? Gawd, what a day. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 24, 2010 - 23 answers

I know it's a bad idea. How can I stop?

I just hired someone who is capable, personable and great at the job. So what do I do about my crush on him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 15, 2010 - 16 answers

Please don't pitch to me!

What's the best way to handle an obsessive friend making unwanted pitches to you? [more inside]
posted by Flitcraft on Jan 11, 2010 - 20 answers

Help me make specific suggestions to someone who needs to become more proactive and collaborative, and less reactive and emotional.

Help me make specific suggestions to someone who needs to become more proactive and collaborative, and less reactive and emotional. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 1, 2009 - 8 answers

Dealing with lunatics at work 101

A co-worker rants and raves constantly and I'm getting sick of it. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 30, 2009 - 22 answers

Foot Met Mouth--Now What?

Re: Work Interview Etiquette. I messed up bad. I don't know what to do or if I should do anything. The scenario (names will be changed): [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 17, 2009 - 8 answers

Help me get my new co-workers to like my introverted, hard working self.

Just started a new job. I want these people to like me. Other than working hard, what's the best way for an introverted person like me to make a good impression with my new co-workers? [more inside]
posted by Effigy2000 on Mar 31, 2009 - 23 answers

Help us get along better!

How can we create more unity among departments at work? [more inside]
posted by trillian on Mar 26, 2009 - 3 answers

Figuring out the coldness

Has someone ever treated you coldly as a way to suppress feelings for you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 16, 2009 - 24 answers

Why don't you talk about your girlfriend?

I've been working with this guy for 3 months, and we've gotten on really well the whole time. Today he casually brought up his girlfriend for the first time. Why hasn't he mentioned her before? [more inside]
posted by bibliophibianj on Feb 11, 2009 - 31 answers

How to climb up the ranks?

How do I develop a professional relationship with a senior executive in the business in order to move up the ranks? [more inside]
posted by heartofglass on Dec 19, 2008 - 3 answers

Getting credit for your ideas / combating someone who steals/takes credit for them

Do you know any effective strategies for getting credit for your ideas and work? One of my coworkers (a gentleman my senior by 20+ years who was recently quietly demoted below me because his lack of vision and tech skills) is regularly taking credit for my ideas at work and outside of work among industry leaders. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 16, 2008 - 13 answers

Unwelcome flashbacks

My past experiences are coloring my perception of the present, my personal life is crashing into my professional life, help me make it stop. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 5, 2008 - 17 answers

Why do I annoy people?

I seem to annoy a lot of people. I don't mean to, it just happens. What can I do to become less annoying? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 8, 2008 - 34 answers

How to split the baby

I'm looking for thoughts on how to split up baby care between partners during maternity leave. [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama on Jul 10, 2008 - 17 answers

Dating a Coworker

I've come to the realization that I'm head-over-heels crazy about a co-worker. [more inside]
posted by downing street memo on Apr 24, 2008 - 55 answers

They're just not that into me...yet

How do I say 'Thanks, no really!' after an unsuccessful job interview, without looking like the needy girl whose long-time crush has blown her out after one date? [more inside]
posted by freya_lamb on Apr 3, 2008 - 14 answers

How do I deal with my boyfriend's insane work schedule?

How can I deal with the fact that my boyfriend is never around? [more inside]
posted by lxs on Mar 29, 2008 - 33 answers

Can I be friends with husband's team's spouses?

Is it possible for the wife of a CEO (me) to be good friends with the wives of my husband's management team spouses? We socialize a few times per year and I always sort of feel guarded with them. I like many of them a lot and would like them as friends. Part of me sees it as not a good idea though? Would it compromise my husbands relationships at work? Might there be trust and confidentiality issues? Maybe it is just about how close I get to them? Keeping boundaries as far as what we talk about? Staying away from talk about the company? Would I be able to share important things going on in my life or will it become company gossip---and spread like wildfire? Anyone here have experience with this?
posted by seekingsimplicity on Feb 7, 2008 - 10 answers

Getting over a coworker

How do you get over someone you work with? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 4, 2007 - 12 answers

cultivating je ne sais quoi

Is it possible to create a descriptor of 'star performers' that's not tied to contextual skillset requirements? [more inside]
posted by raisons de coeur on Sep 18, 2007 - 11 answers

Help me survive an appraisal at work

Tomorrow I have my annual appraisal with the deputy head of the department at the Uni. where I work. This is not my first time, as I been in this job for several years, but this time I am looking for advice on how to make this into a meaningful and useful meeting instead of the usual box-ticking exercise. Also, what is the best way to answer the standard questions they ask such as: "What were your most significant achievements since the last interview?" [more inside]
posted by slimeline on Jul 12, 2007 - 3 answers

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