Cluelessly-dressed 30-year-old office-working lady here. I have come to the conclusion that it is in my best interest to start leaning much more toward the business
side of business casual
on a daily basis.
Professional women/fashion mavens of Metafilter, could you lend me a hand with these business wear-related queries? [more inside]
I have a friend who insists on a certain way of understanding how men and women couple off. Basically, he sees the situation as rather animalistic, where all the women are essentially waiting to be asked out, and the first men to do so get the "choicest" women. The rest of the women are left for, well, the rest of the men. Obviously, this is pretty traditional/sexist/chauvinistic. Anyway, barring all that, he feels a constant urgency to get to women "before somebody else does," because "the best women will be taken." Of course, I understand asking someone out before someone else does, but his theory is off-putting to me.
It seems like human personalities, reasoning, circumstances, geographies, and cultures throw a monkey-wrench into his theory. Things are a lot more complicated in my mind. Do you have an alternative way of seeing the dating world, have a different experience, or are there any studies that you could point me to on this subject?
I am searching for beautifully crafted, durable women’s shoes made from leather that will last for years. I know this is a tough bill to fit so I am not limiting this search to any particular kind of shoe or price range. For boots, I typically look for strong welting (Goodyear method) but this is increasingly difficult to find. I love the look of Frye’s but most seem poor quality for the money. For example, the outsole and upper are simply glued together in most models (although the engineer boots look pretty solid). For heels/dress shoes, I am interested in full-grain leather instead of the bonded or “genuine” stuff. I’ve heard good things about Fluevog and Chie Mihara, but haven’t looked into them yet. Any experiences? What other brands might have these qualities? Are there high quality men’s shoe brands out there that also make shoes for women?
Random Art Filter: What is this painting of two women and a tiger? [more inside]
Are there any stores that still stock tall/long womens' pants and jeans in their brick and mortar stores? [more inside]
Female sports players: what are your favorite and least favorite sports to play co-ed, and why? [more inside]
Friend keeps calling other women whores and I find this offensive, but she thinks I'm "censoring" her [more inside]
What is the history behind feminism supposedly claiming that women could "have it all"? [more inside]
At age 45 I'm noticing changes in the hair all over my body: less on my head; more on my chin; darker, thicker moustache; more on my feet. Bonus difficulty: I am a woman. [more inside]
I am finally all caught up on Fringe having first started watching just a month or two ago. I need some veteran viewers to answer an overarching question I have. Mild spoilers likely. [more inside]
Is there such a thing as a fashion related charity? [more inside]
Help me find a more recent book about issues surrounding women and the healthcare field, and issues surounding the field in general in terms of the attitude that medical professionals are almost superhuman, and the authoritarian attitude of doctors. [more inside]
I hate being photographed and avoid mirrors because of emotional abuse in the past. How can I overcome this, and how can I make sure I don't give my kids messed up ideas? [more inside]
Recently I came to the realisation that I am a really plain, unattractive woman. There have been signs for a while, but I only recently put them all together and the realisation hit me - I"m ugly! How do I deal?
I don't mean that I have poor self-esteem, but that I am objectively plain. Please don't tell me I need better self esteem - it's not about that! [more inside]
help me find movies depicting women in a healthy relationship, where her space, interest or financial independence are respected. [more inside]
What's a memorable gift for a woman turning 30? Any ideas? [more inside]
Can you suggest some kick-ass female career/life role models for this social-sciences loving, radical left-leaning, and possibly autistic, woman? I need to read about other people who have been successful in the areas I've struggled in. Not Temple Grandin, please. Many snowflakes inside. [more inside]
Went in to a clothing store, cute girl around my age who works there comes up to me and offers to help me out. She seemed interested in me (asked a lot of questions about me) but I'm not sure if it was because she was just being nice because she worked there or was really interested in me. I was however oblivious to any of her body language in the moment. She then goes as far as to offer me a job and told me to fill out an online application. Her immediate supervisor called me before I even had a chance to fill out the application after she told them about me (assuming she put in a good word). I did not get her number. I feel like I wasn't able to read her signals being in the moment. How can I salvage this and is it worth pursuing? How would I go about moving the relationship onward and upward in the best way?
I have two romantic interests in my life: one who adores me and is giving herself to me wholeheartedly, and one who seems to be a better match but lives 850 miles away and is just getting out of a relationship. What should I do? [more inside]
Can you recommend places for a woman to find masculine formal wear in London, UK? [more inside]
FashionFilter: Help me find an awesome coat. This one on Etsy
is the best one I've found so far, but I hesitate to buy something I can't try on before I buy or return if I don't like. More details inside. [more inside]
How do aspiring stand-up comedians who aren't straight white men find success at open mics? [more inside]
How reasonable is it to expect my future/potential boyfriend or husband to NOT fantasize / masturbate to other women? Is it off-my-rocker to expect this from a man I'm in love with? [more inside]
Safe, at home free weight program for bone health? ISO recommended videos, DVDs, diagrams, etc. [more inside]
Is woman's value really only physical? [more inside]
Looking for suggestions to handle the medical proffesion constantly telling me that my only problem is that I am FAT. [more inside]
I'm newly in charge of social media for my campus' Women in Computer Science group. What should I do to be the best at this? [more inside]
Enlighten me on current state of the art thinking, discourse and vocabulary around gender politics please. Terminally unique details inside. [more inside]
What would be a good movie choice? [more inside]
Women's Lingerie stores (online or offline) [more inside]
As a woman, is there cardio I can do to help build strength and some bulk in my upper body? [more inside]
Are women actually at more risk of violence than men at night? I'm looking for crime statistics and well supported research (such as reports and journal articles) on violence (such as muggings, assault, etc ) and gender. [more inside]
Dear fashionable women of MeFi, what are 4-5 staple belts that I should have in my wardrobe? I've been upgrading my wardrobe and I need some belts but what are the must-have belts that should be part of any fashionable (or semi-fashionable) wardrobe? [more inside]
Where can I find reasonably-priced basic pieces for women online? [more inside]
I'm a woman in her mid-twenties who is coming to realize that she might like other women in the romantic sense. I'm in NYC. How/where can I meet and date other women and get to know NYC's queer scene? [more inside]
Looking for examples of strong, athletic women that inspire you. [more inside]
I'm not fully attracted to the girl I am dating, but I love her personality and we get along great, what do I do? [more inside]
Is it worth buying an electric razor, or is shaving underarms/legs with a regular disposable just as good? [more inside]
You are a woman. You frequently go to concerts alone. You like rap and/or metal. What do you wear and what do you do at rap/metal shows to minimize molestation? [more inside]
Guys: He froze up in front of me, but does he have a girlfriend? [more inside]
Love my women's-specific road bike, hate the numbness and pain its saddle causes in my women's-specific parts. Help me fix this? [more inside]
What are your best sources for women's business casual clothing? [more inside]
Testosterone supplementation for women - looking for research or information to share with my doctor. [more inside]
Where are all the cool lady podcasts? I listen to TAL, Wiretap, Radiolab, The Truth, etc., all of which I love, but I would like to hear some female perspectives in the mix as well. I prefer science-y content but comedy or just life in general works too. I'm open to anything, really, just want to hear some great female podcasting.
Please recommend a dressing gown/bath robe that a) isn't white b) isn't indecently short c) isn't made from a staticky material d) isn't going to fall apart after three washes. [more inside]
Can you recommend me some great nonfiction books by women authors? [more inside]
I keep picking women who don't give as much as I feel I give and so I always end up feeling used. And because I keep picking them (even though the last one should've been enough to warn me off of the next one), I also end up feeling stupid too. Meanwhile, I've had women who've given to me the way I've given to those others, but I never seem to end up with them, even though they are exactly what I say I've wanted. How can I keep the good one and stop picking the bad ones? What is my problem? [more inside]
My superiors keep checking out my cleavage during conversation at work. What now? [more inside]
Are you a lady? Do you run? Do you know about sports-bras and other lady things? Help! [more inside]
Does anyone know where to get reproductions of Lalla Essaydi
? [more inside]