My Search-Fu is utterly failing me. Where did I read the line (paraphrased): "He was like a tennis player who mistakes his best game for his everyday game [or natural level or basic capability]". I want to say it was in a novel by a female author,: Lessing, Christie or Woolf maybe? I might be completely wrong. Fairly sure the narrator's voice was female. Can anyone help?
How do you make friends with other women when you don't really have friends who are women? [more inside]
I am a composer with a commission to write a song or song set for solo soprano. I had a text in mind, but it turns out the author won't give me permission to use it. I am now looking for other poems or short stories that would work well set to some rather complex music. [more inside]
One of my friends was recently describing a salacious black velvet painting and I've been trying to find an image of it or something like it with no luck. [more inside]
I'm in my 30's, and I don't orgasm during sex. I still like sex - a lot! - but I find myself compulsively "faking it" in every single relationship, and I'm not sure how to stop or if I should. [more inside]
I just got back from a week in a women-only environment and apparently I had no idea how desperately I've always needed to avail myself of a space like that. How do I find other women-only gatherings? Or how can I start one of my own? [more inside]
Strongly overcome with the desire to compile a playlist that discuss and highlight emotional labor and when it's unequal. Can you help? [more inside]
Working on a playlist of fun, catchy pop songs by women whose underlying (or overt) message is simply, "No, seriously, fuck you. FOREVER." Can you help? [more inside]
Where can I find excellent movie discussion, analysis, reviews, dissection, etc by women? I feel like I have a stable of great film-related youtubers, writers, and podcasters that I enjoy, but they are largely male -- I'd love to discover more current work from women in this area. Thank you!
I'd like to dabble more in graphic novels and comics for "grown ups". I like Julia Wertz and Allie Brosh--so basically I'm looking for stuff that is kinda gritty yet also kinda funny, preferably with a female's point of view. Who else might I enjoy? [more inside]
What would be the best self-defense training for 40-something, small woman in moderately good shape? [more inside]
I need help finding a really thin, but warm women's jacket. [more inside]
What are some great movies from the 80's and 90's that were either directed by or written by women? [more inside]
A low-carb, ketogenic diet has ALWAYS worked for me. Until now. After 6 weeks AND introducing exercise into the mix, the scale isn't budging. What gives? [more inside]
I'm working on writing and shooting a story of a female fighter for a film competition. Unfortunately, all the fighters I know, whether in mma or boxing, are all guys. Obviously, women also go to the gyms around me but not that many compete. And my friends weren't close to any female fighters. They offer some insight but I'd rather talk with a woman who has been in the ring or interested in competing amateur or otherwise, so at the very least I don't create a story that rings false. Any ideas about how to get in touch with women who do competitive boxing/mma? [more inside]
How does one navigate sex work or sexological bodywork as a female client in the United States? [more inside]
My daughter is 8 and she loves her bedtime stories, but she doesn't want to be read to, she would rather we recite a story out loud while sitting in the dark. Well yesterday my imagination ran out so I told her the story of Mata Hari as best I knew it and she loved it! [more inside]
I am a female over 40 and will be getting a clinical psych evaluation from my state rehab agency because I've told them I suspect I am on the spectrum. I'm looking for accommodation and support via the diagnosis. I'm concerned about getting misdiagnosed. [more inside]
I have a problem buying clothes online. I'm in an in-between point in my fashion life: I'm not dressing like an undergraduate, but I haven't reached the LL Bean stage in my life either, and I don't have an office job that requires wearing business casual. Where do you all shop online? [more inside]
I'd like examples of women who have sacrificed their lives. [more inside]
Who are some actually-radical feminists and what (and where) are they writing these days? [more inside]
As I plan my own transition into a career in programming/IT, I'm looking to hear from women who already work in the field and are happy about it. [more inside]
I am working on diversifying my pop culture experience and am feeling limited by what Netflix thinks I should watch. Please recommend some of your favorite movies, TV shows, and documentaries streaming on Netflix that would help me expand my pop culture diet - especially if they are directed by/acted by/about women, people of color, and people outside the upper middle class New York/LA milieu.
I have a new job I really don't want to mess up. But I'm in an atypical situation and I lack office interpersonal skills. Already my supervisor, we're both women, is growing wary of me. Help me with your brilliant advice. Wall of hardened snowflakes requiring blowtorch inside... [more inside]
Reading this thread made me realize that I am completely unaware of the current state of SF/F. Who are some female SF/F authors from the last 15 years that you would recommend? [more inside]
I'm writing about feminism and gaming on the internet. I'm a woman. I know that if I gain any reasonable amount of success, it'll probably come with death threats and hacking attempts and doxxing and the like. What should I do now, while very few people are reading me, to protect myself? [more inside]
I'm a woman in science. I recently finished my Ph.D in Chemistry, and, after getting burnt-out on the academic track, I've gotten a job in a small startup synthesizing new materials for energy purposes. I've been told to find a "female mentor" to help me navigate the startup/industry world of chemistry. But how do I find a female mentor? Where do I look? What do I look for? [more inside]
I am a woman whose experience in technology is eerily similar to that of the women in these two articles. I am at a breaking point. But rather than leave the field, I would like to shift employment so that I'm working at exclusively women-led or women-run companies. Can anyone provide some ideas for potential places to apply for full-time employment? [more inside]
Are there any statues, memorials, paintings, or other depictions of Columbia (the feminine symbol of freedom) in Washington, DC? [more inside]
Do I really need to wear a sports bra when I exercise or is it fine to wear a regular bra with medium support /underwire? More inside... [more inside]
Does anyone know of a few good brands that do a customizable travel make up palette that includes not only eye shadow but liner, as well as foundation, bronzer etc? I can't seem to find anything online except for a few hits on the big "mature" skin companies like Estee Lauder.... Thanks ladies!
I'm interviewing for jobs a few months out from having a baby and I'm at a loss for what to wear. I could use suggestions for a few clothing items to buy to interview in now that I have some in-person interviews, without having to buy a new outfit for every interview or spending a lot of money on clothes that won't fit for very long. [more inside]
I have a blog that I've kept for a while without talking about my gender. I'm wondering about the consequences of coming out as a woman on a not-at-all well-read blog. [more inside]
Metafilter feminists help me out! I an trying to compile a list of things that only ambitious women get to hear as they fight their way into management. Things like "you sound too abrasive". But also getting ignored in a specific way. I would like these to be things someone has actually said to you or someone you know. Can you help me?
I have a female friend at work who I would very much like to be into me and am not sure if due to that I am reading into things - I probably am. For example, "what does that sudden hug mean?" or "Is this a dinner date or just dinner?" [more inside]
I'm looking for the most creative perfume branding and packaging design. It could be a unique cap or bottle design, but more importantly I'm looking at the labels, colors, and boxes. What are some of your favorites?
My 4yr old daughter recently dismissed super hero stuff as 'for boys'. I showed her a photo of the recent reimagining of Thor as a woman and she was very impressed. Can you recommend any comics/cartoons etc suitable for her age with women super heroes? Bonus points if in spanish. Since I haven't really kept up with the literature, please assume that I don't even know the basics)
How can somebody on the receiving end of the unfortunate manifestations of Asian fetish ("yellow fever") suck it up and get on with her day/life as best as possible? [more inside]
I aspire to be a woman who knows how to take care of a car. Where do I begin? [more inside]
Where is all the lesbian/queer erotica that doesn't suck? (NSFW, naturally) [more inside]
Looking for warm AND comfortable leggings/tights for regular sized women. [more inside]
Er, a woman who tends to feel the cold, and who will spend falls/winters in the UK. How rainproof should it be? How warm should it be? Should it be brightly colored to avoid getting hit by a car in the fog? [more inside]
My mother is visiting Berkeley and would like to shop for clothing. She is 80 and her taste runs to Koret and Coldwater Creek but both of those have become online only. Can you recommend a brick and mortar clothing store where she might enjoy shopping for herself? She would be interested in a chain store or an interesting boutique.
What other media falls along the same lines as Gillian Flynn's Gone Girl and Taylor Swift's Blank Space? (more details with spoilers inside) [more inside]
How and when did referring to a woman as a "number" become a euphemism?
Where can I find slightly fancy, office-appropriate, preferably elbow-sleeve tops? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I am a very sensitive, delicate flower of a woman with very sensitive and delicate lady bits to match. I prefer to keep these lady bits smooth, but said bits are easily irritated and thrown off-balance by just about anything - including shaving cream. [more inside]
I'm trying to incorporate more exercise in my life by walking more, but is this necessarily better when all the increased walking is done in high heels? [more inside]
Boss is proposing that I accumulate EDO (extra) time and use it to make up time caring my my daughter when she's sick. He says the average days off (family care +personal sick days) at our company is 5 and I'm too far beyond that ( 9 total out of an entitlement of 3 family care + 9 personal sick days). I think he is going to bring it up again today. Is this a fair and reasonable request? [more inside]
I need a bike commuting jacket. I love love love this one from Betabrand BUT IT DOESN'T SHIP TIL JANUARY WHAT. Help me find an alternative to survive fall/winter in DC. [more inside]