Metafilter feminists help me out! I an trying to compile a list of things that only ambitious women get to hear as they fight their way into management. Things like "you sound too abrasive". But also getting ignored in a specific way. I would like these to be things someone has actually said to you or someone you know. Can you help me?
I have a female friend at work who I would very much like to be into me and am not sure if due to that I am reading into things - I probably am. For example, "what does that sudden hug mean?" or "Is this a dinner date or just dinner?" [more inside]
I'm looking for the most creative perfume branding and packaging design. It could be a unique cap or bottle design, but more importantly I'm looking at the labels, colors, and boxes. What are some of your favorites?
My 4yr old daughter recently dismissed super hero stuff as 'for boys'. I showed her a photo of the recent reimagining of Thor as a woman and she was very impressed. Can you recommend any comics/cartoons etc suitable for her age with women super heroes? Bonus points if in spanish. Since I haven't really kept up with the literature, please assume that I don't even know the basics)
How can somebody on the receiving end of the unfortunate manifestations of Asian fetish ("yellow fever") suck it up and get on with her day/life as best as possible? [more inside]
I aspire to be a woman who knows how to take care of a car. Where do I begin? [more inside]
Where is all the lesbian/queer erotica that doesn't suck? (NSFW, naturally) [more inside]
Looking for warm AND comfortable leggings/tights for regular sized women. [more inside]
Er, a woman who tends to feel the cold, and who will spend falls/winters in the UK. How rainproof should it be? How warm should it be? Should it be brightly colored to avoid getting hit by a car in the fog? [more inside]
My mother is visiting Berkeley and would like to shop for clothing. She is 80 and her taste runs to Koret and Coldwater Creek but both of those have become online only. Can you recommend a brick and mortar clothing store where she might enjoy shopping for herself? She would be interested in a chain store or an interesting boutique.
What other media falls along the same lines as Gillian Flynn's Gone Girl and Taylor Swift's Blank Space? (more details with spoilers inside) [more inside]
How and when did referring to a woman as a "number" become a euphemism?
Where can I find slightly fancy, office-appropriate, preferably elbow-sleeve tops? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I am a very sensitive, delicate flower of a woman with very sensitive and delicate lady bits to match. I prefer to keep these lady bits smooth, but said bits are easily irritated and thrown off-balance by just about anything - including shaving cream. [more inside]
I'm trying to incorporate more exercise in my life by walking more, but is this necessarily better when all the increased walking is done in high heels? [more inside]
Boss is proposing that I accumulate EDO (extra) time and use it to make up time caring my my daughter when she's sick. He says the average days off (family care +personal sick days) at our company is 5 and I'm too far beyond that ( 9 total out of an entitlement of 3 family care + 9 personal sick days). I think he is going to bring it up again today. Is this a fair and reasonable request? [more inside]
I need a bike commuting jacket. I love love love this one from Betabrand BUT IT DOESN'T SHIP TIL JANUARY WHAT. Help me find an alternative to survive fall/winter in DC. [more inside]
I really like these from Boden, but the colors this year are not so great. Who else sells well-made, tailored, plaid/check wool blazers for women? [more inside]
Who are some important women in technology that are lesser-known in the world? Especially women of color, LGBTQ women, and non-American women? [more inside]
Anti-feminists seem to often use the word "female" in the noun form, in places where people would ordinarily just use "women." (I don't want to spend a lot of time hunting up evidence of this, but here are some examples. There's also this and this.) I'm curious to know how/why this became a thing -- for example, I've wondered if it has something to do with military or police usage, because those are the only places I've previously noticed women being referred to as females. Does anybody know?
I need some examples of organisations using trans*inclusive language in interesting and welcoming ways - particularly on the web and on social media. When I need to communicate that a group is open to women and trans* people, but not cisgender dudes, I feel like I'm using the same clunky phrases every damn time. Help me find new ways to say it without tying myself in linguistic knots. [more inside]
At the ripe old age of 37, I've decided I'd like to look more put together and explore wearing clothes that aren't my usual uniform of "jeans, add t-shirt; in case of winter, add sweaters." But there are always snowflakes. [more inside]
I have a daughter entering college, for a while I have been thinking of her leaving and about things that women have to look out for, which in general men don’t. Some examples [more inside]
Everyone knows about the controversy around the exploration of sexism in gaming. I've (foolishly?) waded into the fray, and I am having a really hard time finding any stats regarding what percentage of female characters die violent deaths vs. male characters. I do not want to argue without solid facts. Anyone know if this data exists? Thanks!
I'm a woman (mostly), and I'm the chairperson for our local hackerspace, we have female participants but it's a small minority... and we would really love to be more diverse. [more inside]
What's it like being a woman in the landscaping industry? [more inside]
So my friend just completed post for her movie and she asked me to do a simple poster for it. The movie is about how the growth of the feminist movement in Northern Ireland under British rule. I am giving her many options, some of which are specific to the time and place and some of which are more about women in general. Thoughts? [more inside]
Can you help me find the form-fitting, top-supporting undershirt of my dreams? I'm looking for something I can buy 15-20 of because I hate shopping and just want to get it over with. I've been wearing "long and lean" tank tops, and they're completely amazing fresh off the rack, but they get loose and stretchy after only a few washes and wears. Specifics below the fold! [more inside]
Wanted: female-authored mystery/thrillers in the same vein as Kate Atkinson & Tana French [more inside]
I met someone today who explained that their tattoo was based on a style adopted by Indian women during British Occupation which served as a way of turning off British men who might otherwise want to take them away for various unsavory purposes. The women would in some cases get these tattoos on their necks and faces. Although the person told me the Indian term for this particular style of tattooing I failed to write it down, and now cannot seem to google up this phenomenon. Was hoping someone knew about it, what it's called, or could provide some links to more information.
I'm inept at dating in the real world. Help me learn how to take a girl from acquaintance to date and face the uncertainty in between. [more inside]
After getting really into Marion Zimmer Bradley's Darkover series, I'm looking for similar reading material. Can y'all recommend other sci-fi novels featuring a predominantly female cast?
How can you, naturally or otherwise, optimize female hormones to help regain the metabolism and hormonal profile of someone in their teens or 20s? (And is this even possible or desirable?) [more inside]
How would scientific folks go about making women biologically around the same size and strength as men? [more inside]
Where do I find more of these perfect pants? Felt like pajamas, but acceptable to wear in public and to work?? AMAZING. [more inside]
What are some awesome breweries/distilleries run by women? [more inside]
Tips for succeeding in the workplace (Special snowflake details: female people pleaser) [more inside]
I like waxing my lady parts, but it's expensive and I'm prone to ingrown hairs, so I'd like to switch to just trimming. I have a beard trimmer that works well for the hair above my labia. But I'm hesitant to trim the labia majora itself. How do you hold it to avoid nicking yourself inside? (I've already done this, unfortunately). How do you see what's going on in the back? Help.
I'm looking for books in any genre with only three limiting factors. They have a female protagonist, NO sex and NO romance.
In what sports (especially endurance sports) do women perform better than men? And biomechanically speaking, why? [more inside]
Can you reassure me that majoring in computer science and trying to find a job in technology and software as a woman isn't going to be terrible? [more inside]
Seeking literary fiction with a transient, often solitary, female hero, please! [more inside]
We got Carrie Underwood's Before He Cheats, we got Dixie Chicks' Goodbye Earl; I would like more suggestions of country songs sung by ladies about exacting revenge or just seriously fucking up some no-good man.
I love programming/sysadmin case studies, I love women's perspectives, and I'm swinging back into listening to podcasts. Help me find more of what I love? [more inside]
Boy meets Girl. Then Boy does, what exactly? [more inside]
The style of blouse that the woman is wearing in this stock photo looks very flattering on me. I have one blouse like that, but I'd like to buy more. What search terms can I use to find them, or what stores should I check out?
I am tired of novels that have an enigmatic woman at the center of the novel. Can you recommend some books to me where all of the female characters actually act like real people? [more inside]
Second sock question in under an hour! This one is about ladies' socks though. [more inside]
Anecdotally, it seems clear to me that women are far more likely to move to a new city for her husband's job than vice versa. But I'd like some hard numbers! There has to have been research on this, but I have no idea how to find it. [more inside]
I'm a lady. I have a job interview coming up for which I was advised to wear a suit. I can't find my real suit, (may have donated it) but I doubt if it fit me anymore anyway. What I do have is a black sheath dress, a nice navy blue blazer, a nice grey blazer, a nice grey pencil skirt that is a slight mismatch with the grey blazer, and a pair of pants that's also a slight mismatch with the grey blazer, and a selection of those nice decorative shells that women wear under suits. I think I have black pumps somewhere, and I also have some nice looking oxford heels. Can I make something work with what I have or should I go try to find a suit? In addition, opaque or sheer tights? This is for a non-management web design job for which I thought suits were passe.