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Difference between male and female grad students

I can't find an article (or an informal study) about the gender differences between a group of grad students. The male students were consistently doing better because they went to the professor and asked for more responsibilities (like teaching a class), while the female students thought the professors would come to the female students when the professors thought the female students were ready. [more inside]
posted by Monday on Aug 12, 2013 - 1 answer

Mars and Venus - are you for real?

Do men and women really have distinctly different communication styles. For those of you who are in healthy relationships (romantic love or platonic), is there a wedge in communication that you constantly have to go against your natural instincts and fine-tune in a way that you don't have to with same-sex friends? Is the stereotype true, do women need to 'talk it out' and men need to 'go to their cave'? Can women really improve the relationship by NOT talking about it and can men really improve the relationship by practicing reflective listening? Is there really a pre-programmed way to communicate based on your gender? Something in this widely-spread viewpoint really rubs me the wrong way, and I'm not sure if the cultural/societal views(at least in my area) regarding men/women relationships are in fact, entirely valid and its just my own personal issues that need work. What are your experiences?
posted by tenaciousmoon on Apr 17, 2013 - 23 answers

What is the dating world actually like?

I have a friend who insists on a certain way of understanding how men and women couple off. Basically, he sees the situation as rather animalistic, where all the women are essentially waiting to be asked out, and the first men to do so get the "choicest" women. The rest of the women are left for, well, the rest of the men. Obviously, this is pretty traditional/sexist/chauvinistic. Anyway, barring all that, he feels a constant urgency to get to women "before somebody else does," because "the best women will be taken." Of course, I understand asking someone out before someone else does, but his theory is off-putting to me. It seems like human personalities, reasoning, circumstances, geographies, and cultures throw a monkey-wrench into his theory. Things are a lot more complicated in my mind. Do you have an alternative way of seeing the dating world, have a different experience, or are there any studies that you could point me to on this subject?
posted by uncannyslacks on Jan 23, 2013 - 38 answers

Beauty Privilege?

Is woman's value really only physical? [more inside]
posted by thelastgirl on Aug 28, 2012 - 60 answers

What I need is an armor-plated bra.

You are a woman. You frequently go to concerts alone. You like rap and/or metal. What do you wear and what do you do at rap/metal shows to minimize molestation? [more inside]
posted by koucha on Jun 13, 2012 - 33 answers

Guys: He froze up in front of me, but does he have a girlfriend?

Guys: He froze up in front of me, but does he have a girlfriend? [more inside]
posted by fan_of_all_things_small on Jun 1, 2012 - 30 answers

Stop Shooting Myself in the Foot

I keep picking women who don't give as much as I feel I give and so I always end up feeling used. And because I keep picking them (even though the last one should've been enough to warn me off of the next one), I also end up feeling stupid too. Meanwhile, I've had women who've given to me the way I've given to those others, but I never seem to end up with them, even though they are exactly what I say I've wanted. How can I keep the good one and stop picking the bad ones? What is my problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 26, 2012 - 15 answers

Is it normal for a woman to begin feeling invisible in her thirties?

Is it normal for a woman to begin feeling invisible in her thirties? Please excuse the fact that this question might come off as totally narcissistic and a little crazy but it's been something that has been on my mind a lot lately and I was hoping to get some perspective on the situation. [more inside]
posted by thelastgirl on Apr 4, 2012 - 48 answers

Where did 30 years go suddenly?

Seeking Dear Abby, handholding and guidance for Dummies. Yes, this is about a man and yes I'm feeling totally clueless. Help. [more inside]
posted by infini on Feb 20, 2012 - 66 answers

Should I let my boyfriend sleep with other women?

Is it a poor idea to let your partner have sex with other people, knowing that you will be hurt by it? Will it be more likely to help or hurt our relationship if he indulges in his fantasies with other women – and is this a reasonable compromise for someone to make? [more inside]
posted by labandita on Jan 22, 2012 - 107 answers

You are what you eat--are you also HOW you eat?

Anecdata search: Do men eat differently than women do? (I'm not talking about WHAT they eat, but about HOW they eat.) [more inside]
posted by dlugoczaj on Jan 9, 2012 - 51 answers

what is good sex for men?

What is good sex for men? Once, I was married, in an abusive relationship. I've suddenly realized it is 15 years ago, and that I still haven't moved on. I've been in relationships since, each in their way failed, and each more or less failed because of my inability to get over the trauma of the abuse. Now, I've met someone new, after an almost total abstinence of 10 years. And I need to move on. The main issue for me, right now, is lack of confidence regarding sex. My ex-husband repeatedly told me I was no good in bed. And now I feel I have no idea what is good in bed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 8, 2012 - 31 answers

Feminism 102?

What books, articles or online resources would you suggest to introduce a well-intentioned guy to feminism? [more inside]
posted by peacheater on Jan 3, 2012 - 12 answers

Male-dominated workplaces that work for women - the good, the better and the best

I'm wondering about what measures can be taken to increase gender diversity in male-dominated workplaces. For women who work in male-dominated fields - how did your company's culture contribute to creating an appealing work environment for you? What can be done to build and foster this kind of culture? [more inside]
posted by remixnine on Sep 11, 2011 - 25 answers

My new name: Fabio.

Should I wear axe bodywash? [more inside]
posted by sully75 on Jun 13, 2011 - 97 answers

Where to discuss marital problems with other men?

Can anyone recommend a website where I can get input from other men (and I'm not against input from women too) about problems I have with my wife with her excessive moodiness, total lack of interest in physical intimacy, and general verbally hostile and abusive ways? I'm thinking either a traditional forum or a more contemporary Q&A type site.
posted by Dansaman on May 18, 2011 - 9 answers

How do you solve a problem like Roberto?

Should I just give up? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 15, 2011 - 45 answers

Stuck in an impossible dating dilemma: overhaul my entire self, or never have a relationship with a man?

Stuck in an impossible dating dilemma: overhaul my entire self, or never have a relationship with a man? [more inside]
posted by tamagogirl on Dec 7, 2010 - 28 answers

Advice for Sleeping Beauty with Atrophied Wings

Older women, younger men; is there hope for a sleeping beauty? [more inside]
posted by sleeping beauty on Oct 28, 2010 - 25 answers

I'm really not. Really.

My friend asked if I was bisexual and I am feeling really angry about it. Should I be mad at her? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 18, 2010 - 39 answers

Can I Make It Happen at 40?

I am a newly single 40 year-old woman who’d like to be in a stable relationship and to start a family. I’m afraid that the man I’m looking for does not exist. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 24, 2010 - 35 answers

Third time's the....nevermind.

Which cardinal rule of dating am I breaking? If I don't know what I'm doing wrong, how can I stop doing it? (Perhaps mildly NSFW). [more inside]
posted by motsque on Aug 17, 2010 - 59 answers

Should I date someone I'm not attracted to if the other option is never dating?

Should I date someone I'm not attracted to if the other option is never dating? I'm a girl. I went on a date with a boy I met on the internet, and it was pathetic. We talked about my mother, his mother, and lesbian movies I've seen. (Was that a bad subject for a first date? I'm inexperienced.) He was using open body language and I was using closed. I didn't realise this at the time. He was totally uninitiative and way too nice and I found that unappealing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2010 - 32 answers

Less Schlub, More Superhero, No Sports Team Logos

Question for the ladies: Looking for the "killer app" look in guy's casual and athletic wear without the sports team logos. What's the male version of Lululemon or Athleta? [more inside]
posted by Cool Papa Bell on May 11, 2010 - 15 answers

Why don't good looking guys my age hit on me, but groups of 14 year olds will?

Do really good looking guys ever ask for the numbers of women they don't know? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 20, 2010 - 44 answers

What are the origins of "the straight woman with a gay best friend" cliché?

What are the origins of "the straight woman with a gay best friend" cliché? [more inside]
posted by Joe Beese on Dec 29, 2009 - 16 answers

Name That Book!

Another "what book is this" query relating to a sci-fi book from the late 80s/early 90s concerning a society wherein the sexes live in different compounds and the males engage in ultra-violent rituals and war-type activities. [more inside]
posted by notcomputersavvy06 on Dec 27, 2009 - 8 answers

Should women expect men to cheat on them?

I'm 27 and single. I've never had a serious boyfriend. Just throwing that out there. My brother is 24. Our 1st cousins are visiting for Christmas. One of them is male and 19, the other is female and 16. Tonight we somehow got into a huge discussion about relationships. Basically my brother and cousin (the 19-year-old) were making the following points: [more inside]
posted by starpoint on Dec 21, 2009 - 115 answers

But what's it there for? Do you actually sleep on it?

Little known facts about men [more inside]
posted by lunalaguna on Nov 20, 2009 - 351 answers

If love is a battlefield, have I become a conscious objector?

Heterosexual male in his early 30s after a long-term relationship finds himself not really interested in the opposite sex. Is this normal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2009 - 15 answers

Can't I have my cake...?

Would it even be possible to pursue a friendship, or a good idea, for that matter? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 23, 2009 - 31 answers

I need help locating an article about how single men are more successful than married men.

Looking for an article regarding the fact that single men are responsible for more social breakthroughs than are married men/fathers. [more inside]
posted by myodometer on Oct 3, 2009 - 3 answers

I want a physical thing, no more, no less

How do I identify and meet women interested in a one night stand? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 12, 2009 - 19 answers

Mad Men Indeed

I have been watching the AMC series Mad Men (set in NYC office setting around 1960) and it made me wonder. Just how accurately does it portray the professional workplace of the period? (Ubiquitous smoking, drinking, degrading comments to women and overt flirting, etc.). In particular, was it ever considered normal to keep a stocked bar in every office/conference room? I realize things are exaggerated for TV and to contrast with today’s norms... but generally speaking was it really this bad back then? I guess I am looking for responses from those who are familiar with the TV show and worked in an office in this timeframe.
posted by punkfloyd on Jul 16, 2009 - 38 answers

Are those gosh durned kids really having as much free love as the Tv says?

How accurate are the media portrayals of young people engaging in risky sexual behaviors? [more inside]
posted by reenum on Jul 8, 2009 - 54 answers

Am I doomed to be a doormat forever?

Are relationships a zero sum game? Is there such a thing as a happy compromise? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 17, 2009 - 28 answers

Multitasking

It seems to be a commonly acceptably statement that women are better at multi-tasking than men. Is there any research into the opposite? Purely anecdotal evidence suggests that women aren't as hot at single tasking as men, but I've never seen this suggested...
posted by twine42 on May 25, 2009 - 4 answers

Why doesn't the rug match the drapes?

Why do some people's hair on their head and pubic hair not match in color? [more inside]
posted by reenum on May 14, 2009 - 30 answers

I just can't agree with you, lady, but I don't know why

"Women are different than men. In a relationship, a man needs to be the one who takes care of a woman when she's angry, who tells her to calm down. A man needs to be more understanding than a woman, and a woman needs to be allowed to have her moods." Really? I'd like to call bullshit, but I don't quite know how. (Long explanation inside) [more inside]
posted by saysthis on Apr 18, 2009 - 25 answers

More men are being laid off than women. Why?

Well, today on the cover of my local paper it said that "1.1 million men have been laid off (in this state) since last year. But, there's now 15,000 more women working than there were this time last year!" WHUT!?!? [more inside]
posted by shipbreaker on Dec 16, 2008 - 19 answers

How many men have written work under a woman's name?

Can you think of any men who write, or have written, or create in any medium, under a woman's name? (I'm excluding transsexuals, and examples such as men in Shakespearean theatre and Japanese Noh Theatre.) There are plenty of women who have written under men's names, but I can't come up with a single example of the other way round. A true situation, or just my ignorance? [more inside]
posted by kestralwing on Nov 25, 2008 - 43 answers

Health Benefits of Sex?

Sex is often touted as beneficial for one's health. Is this supposed to be true for both men and women, and how much evidence is there for the claim (apart from calorie expenditure, which is still negligible compared to actual aerobic exercise)? And is it primarily the orgasm that's supposedly healthful, or even sex sans orgasm?
posted by taramosalata on Nov 10, 2008 - 20 answers

You can't win, you twerp!

Help me resolve a Catch-22 about meeting new people of the opposite sex. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2008 - 46 answers

Pimp My Soon-to-be-Married Feet.

I'm a girl, getting married in a boy's suit. What shoes do I wear ? [more inside]
posted by duckus on Sep 8, 2008 - 23 answers

What conversation topics put a man on the Friends Ladder with women?

As a man, does talking to a woman about your adventures with other women put you on the friends ladder? [more inside]
posted by harwons on Sep 5, 2008 - 66 answers

NotOKCupid

Does dating through craigslist actually work? [more inside]
posted by spamguy on Aug 28, 2008 - 39 answers

Make me a platonic babe-magnet

I’m a girl. I have zero problems being friends with men. I try to be friends with other women, but they're not having it. I’m doing something wrong. What is it? [more inside]
posted by zoomorphic on Aug 28, 2008 - 51 answers

I'd really like to get to give this a shot - can you help?

Here’s one of those how-do-I-play-this? relationship questions. At the very beginning of a possible relationship (with a touring musician) that I'd really like to give a chance to, but he may be too scared. (explanation inside) [more inside]
posted by FlyByDay on May 6, 2008 - 25 answers

How can I get less wackadoodle when I meet someone I really like?

How can I be more relaxed, and less anxious (read: totally flipping out) about dating people I like? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2008 - 8 answers

Is it too soon to date again?

I'm on the cusp of dating someone soon after a breakup. Is it too soon? [more inside]
posted by stedman15 on Mar 20, 2008 - 23 answers

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