I can't find an article (or an informal study) about the gender differences between a group of grad students. The male students were consistently doing better because they went to the professor and asked for more responsibilities (like teaching a class), while the female students thought the professors would come to the female students when the professors thought the female students were ready. [more inside]
Do men and women really have distinctly different communication styles.
For those of you who are in healthy relationships (romantic love or platonic), is there a wedge in communication that you constantly have to go against your natural instincts and fine-tune in a way that you don't have to with same-sex friends?
Is the stereotype true, do women need to 'talk it out' and men need to 'go to their cave'? Can women really improve the relationship by NOT talking about it and can men really improve the relationship by practicing reflective listening? Is there really a pre-programmed way to communicate based on your gender?
Something in this widely-spread viewpoint really rubs me the wrong way, and I'm not sure if the cultural/societal views(at least in my area) regarding men/women relationships are in fact, entirely valid and its just my own personal issues that need work.
What are your experiences?
I have a friend who insists on a certain way of understanding how men and women couple off. Basically, he sees the situation as rather animalistic, where all the women are essentially waiting to be asked out, and the first men to do so get the "choicest" women. The rest of the women are left for, well, the rest of the men. Obviously, this is pretty traditional/sexist/chauvinistic. Anyway, barring all that, he feels a constant urgency to get to women "before somebody else does," because "the best women will be taken." Of course, I understand asking someone out before someone else does, but his theory is off-putting to me.
It seems like human personalities, reasoning, circumstances, geographies, and cultures throw a monkey-wrench into his theory. Things are a lot more complicated in my mind. Do you have an alternative way of seeing the dating world, have a different experience, or are there any studies that you could point me to on this subject?
Is woman's value really only physical? [more inside]
You are a woman. You frequently go to concerts alone. You like rap and/or metal. What do you wear and what do you do at rap/metal shows to minimize molestation? [more inside]
Guys: He froze up in front of me, but does he have a girlfriend? [more inside]
I keep picking women who don't give as much as I feel I give and so I always end up feeling used. And because I keep picking them (even though the last one should've been enough to warn me off of the next one), I also end up feeling stupid too. Meanwhile, I've had women who've given to me the way I've given to those others, but I never seem to end up with them, even though they are exactly what I say I've wanted. How can I keep the good one and stop picking the bad ones? What is my problem? [more inside]
Is it normal for a woman to begin feeling invisible in her thirties? Please excuse the fact that this question might come off as totally narcissistic and a little crazy but it's been something that has been on my mind a lot lately and I was hoping to get some perspective on the situation. [more inside]
Seeking Dear Abby, handholding and guidance for Dummies. Yes, this is about a man and yes I'm feeling totally clueless. Help. [more inside]
Is it a poor idea to let your partner have sex with other people, knowing that you will be hurt by it? Will it be more likely to help or hurt our relationship if he indulges in his fantasies with other women – and is this a reasonable compromise for someone to make? [more inside]
Anecdata search: Do men eat differently than women do? (I'm not talking about WHAT they eat, but about HOW they eat.) [more inside]
What is good sex for men? Once, I was married, in an abusive relationship. I've suddenly realized it is 15 years ago, and that I still haven't moved on. I've been in relationships since, each in their way failed, and each more or less failed because of my inability to get over the trauma of the abuse. Now, I've met someone new, after an almost total abstinence of 10 years. And I need to move on.
The main issue for me, right now, is lack of confidence regarding sex. My ex-husband repeatedly told me I was no good in bed. And now I feel I have no idea what is good in bed. [more inside]
What books, articles or online resources would you suggest to introduce a well-intentioned guy to feminism? [more inside]
I'm wondering about what measures can be taken to increase gender diversity in male-dominated workplaces. For women who work in male-dominated fields - how did your company's culture contribute to creating an appealing work environment for you? What can be done to build and foster this kind of culture? [more inside]
Should I wear axe bodywash? [more inside]
Can anyone recommend a website where I can get input from other men (and I'm not against input from women too) about problems I have with my wife with her excessive moodiness, total lack of interest in physical intimacy, and general verbally hostile and abusive ways? I'm thinking either a traditional forum or a more contemporary Q&A type site.
Should I just give up? [more inside]
Stuck in an impossible dating dilemma: overhaul my entire self, or never have a relationship with a man? [more inside]
Older women, younger men; is there hope for a sleeping beauty? [more inside]
My friend asked if I was bisexual and I am feeling really angry about it. Should I be mad at her? [more inside]
I am a newly single 40 year-old woman who’d like to be in a stable relationship and to start a family. I’m afraid that the man I’m looking for does not exist. [more inside]
Which cardinal rule of dating am I breaking? If I don't know what I'm doing wrong, how can I stop doing it? (Perhaps mildly NSFW). [more inside]
Should I date someone I'm not attracted to if the other option is never dating?
I'm a girl. I went on a date with a boy I met on the internet, and it was pathetic. We talked about my mother, his mother, and lesbian movies I've seen. (Was that a bad subject for a first date? I'm inexperienced.) He was using open body language and I was using closed. I didn't realise this at the time. He was totally uninitiative and way too nice and I found that unappealing.
Question for the ladies: Looking for the "killer app" look in guy's casual and athletic wear without the sports team logos. What's the male version of Lululemon or Athleta? [more inside]
Do really good looking guys ever ask for the numbers of women they don't know? [more inside]
What are the origins of "the straight woman with a gay best friend" cliché? [more inside]
Another "what book is this" query relating to a sci-fi book from the late 80s/early 90s concerning a society wherein the sexes live in different compounds and the males engage in ultra-violent rituals and war-type activities. [more inside]
I'm 27 and single. I've never had a serious boyfriend. Just throwing that out there.
My brother is 24. Our 1st cousins are visiting for Christmas. One of them is male and 19, the other is female and 16. Tonight we somehow got into a huge discussion about relationships. Basically my brother and cousin (the 19-year-old) were making the following points: [more inside]
Little known facts about men [more inside]
Heterosexual male in his early 30s after a long-term relationship finds himself not really interested in the opposite sex. Is this normal? [more inside]
Would it even be possible to pursue a friendship, or a good idea, for that matter? [more inside]
Looking for an article regarding the fact that single men are responsible for more social breakthroughs than are married men/fathers. [more inside]
How do I identify and meet women interested in a one night stand? [more inside]
I have been watching the AMC series Mad Men (set in NYC office setting around 1960) and it made me wonder. Just how accurately does it portray the professional workplace of the period? (Ubiquitous smoking, drinking, degrading comments to women and overt flirting, etc.). In particular, was it ever considered normal to keep a stocked bar in every office/conference room?
I realize things are exaggerated for TV and to contrast with today’s norms... but generally speaking was it really this bad back then? I guess I am looking for responses from those who are familiar with the TV show and worked in an office in this timeframe.
How accurate are the media portrayals of young people engaging in risky sexual behaviors? [more inside]
Are relationships a zero sum game? Is there such a thing as a happy compromise? [more inside]
It seems to be a commonly acceptably statement that women are better at multi-tasking than men. Is there any research into the opposite? Purely anecdotal evidence suggests that women aren't as hot at single tasking as men, but I've never seen this suggested...
Why do some people's hair on their head and pubic hair not match in color? [more inside]
"Women are different than men. In a relationship, a man needs to be the one who takes care of a woman when she's angry, who tells her to calm down. A man needs to be more understanding than a woman, and a woman needs to be allowed to have her moods."
Really? I'd like to call bullshit, but I don't quite know how. (Long explanation inside) [more inside]
Well, today on the cover of my local paper it said that "1.1 million men have been laid off (in this state) since last year. But, there's now 15,000 more women working than there were this time last year!" WHUT!?!? [more inside]
Can you think of any men who write, or have written, or create in any medium, under a woman's name? (I'm excluding transsexuals, and examples such as men in Shakespearean theatre and Japanese Noh Theatre.) There are plenty of women who have written under men's names, but I can't come up with a single example of the other way round. A true situation, or just my ignorance? [more inside]
Sex is often touted as beneficial for one's health. Is this supposed to be true for both men and women, and how much evidence is there for the claim (apart from calorie expenditure, which is still negligible compared to actual aerobic exercise)? And is it primarily the orgasm that's supposedly healthful, or even sex sans orgasm?
Help me resolve a Catch-22 about meeting new people of the opposite sex. [more inside]
I'm a girl, getting married in a boy's suit. What shoes do I wear ? [more inside]
As a man, does talking to a woman about your adventures with other women put you on the friends ladder? [more inside]
Does dating through craigslist actually work? [more inside]
I’m a girl. I have zero problems being friends with men. I try to be friends with other women, but they're not having it. I’m doing something wrong. What is it? [more inside]
Here’s one of those how-do-I-play-this? relationship questions. At the very beginning of a possible relationship (with a touring musician) that I'd really like to give a chance to, but he may be too scared. (explanation inside) [more inside]
How can I be more relaxed, and less anxious (read: totally flipping out) about dating people I like? [more inside]
I'm on the cusp of dating someone soon after a breakup. Is it too soon? [more inside]