I'm in my 30's, and I don't orgasm during sex. I still like sex - a lot! - but I find myself compulsively "faking it" in every single relationship, and I'm not sure how to stop or if I should. [more inside]
How does one navigate sex work or sexological bodywork as a female client in the United States? [more inside]
I've just had an article published nationally, and oh boy is that addictive and fun! I want to do more, so I need ideas to pitch! I'm looking for some tweeters and some Facebook groups and posters to follow who will have awesome kink/womens'/sex-positive/sex-work/trans/lgbt/poly/etc news, criticism and analysis. Feminist and socialist feeds also a plus. Many thanks, hive mind!
How can I (lady) have enjoyable sex? [more inside]
I have a friend who insists on a certain way of understanding how men and women couple off. Basically, he sees the situation as rather animalistic, where all the women are essentially waiting to be asked out, and the first men to do so get the "choicest" women. The rest of the women are left for, well, the rest of the men. Obviously, this is pretty traditional/sexist/chauvinistic. Anyway, barring all that, he feels a constant urgency to get to women "before somebody else does," because "the best women will be taken." Of course, I understand asking someone out before someone else does, but his theory is off-putting to me. It seems like human personalities, reasoning, circumstances, geographies, and cultures throw a monkey-wrench into his theory. Things are a lot more complicated in my mind. Do you have an alternative way of seeing the dating world, have a different experience, or are there any studies that you could point me to on this subject?
Is woman's value really only physical? [more inside]
Testosterone supplementation for women - looking for research or information to share with my doctor. [more inside]
Is it normal for a woman to begin feeling invisible in her thirties? Please excuse the fact that this question might come off as totally narcissistic and a little crazy but it's been something that has been on my mind a lot lately and I was hoping to get some perspective on the situation. [more inside]
Is it a poor idea to let your partner have sex with other people, knowing that you will be hurt by it? Will it be more likely to help or hurt our relationship if he indulges in his fantasies with other women – and is this a reasonable compromise for someone to make? [more inside]
What is good sex for men? Once, I was married, in an abusive relationship. I've suddenly realized it is 15 years ago, and that I still haven't moved on. I've been in relationships since, each in their way failed, and each more or less failed because of my inability to get over the trauma of the abuse. Now, I've met someone new, after an almost total abstinence of 10 years. And I need to move on. The main issue for me, right now, is lack of confidence regarding sex. My ex-husband repeatedly told me I was no good in bed. And now I feel I have no idea what is good in bed. [more inside]
At what point does it go from typical pregnancy hormones to a physiological/psychological concern? [more inside]
Stuck in an impossible dating dilemma: overhaul my entire self, or never have a relationship with a man?
Stuck in an impossible dating dilemma: overhaul my entire self, or never have a relationship with a man? [more inside]
Older women, younger men; is there hope for a sleeping beauty? [more inside]
Which cardinal rule of dating am I breaking? If I don't know what I'm doing wrong, how can I stop doing it? (Perhaps mildly NSFW). [more inside]
Questions about male-female attraction and my validity as a man. [more inside]
I'm 27 and single. I've never had a serious boyfriend. Just throwing that out there. My brother is 24. Our 1st cousins are visiting for Christmas. One of them is male and 19, the other is female and 16. Tonight we somehow got into a huge discussion about relationships. Basically my brother and cousin (the 19-year-old) were making the following points: [more inside]
Previously dated men, now wants to date women. Problem: I can't tell when women are interested in me or if they just want to be friends. [more inside]
How do I identify and meet women interested in a one night stand? [more inside]
How accurate are the media portrayals of young people engaging in risky sexual behaviors? [more inside]
Dom in life, sub in bed - how to get over feeling like a hypocrite? [more inside]
Why do some people's hair on their head and pubic hair not match in color? [more inside]
Is there anything I can do to be able to orgasm without a vibrator? [more inside]
Sex is often touted as beneficial for one's health. Is this supposed to be true for both men and women, and how much evidence is there for the claim (apart from calorie expenditure, which is still negligible compared to actual aerobic exercise)? And is it primarily the orgasm that's supposedly healthful, or even sex sans orgasm?
As a man, does talking to a woman about your adventures with other women put you on the friends ladder? [more inside]
Am I fair in blaming a snail's-pace relationship on my weak ability to show affection? [more inside]
Sex positions for overweight people? NSFW details inside [more inside]
I'm interested in reading feminist commentary on female sexual preferences, especially on the near-universal (?) preference of women for taller and older men. What does the range of opinions within feminism look like, and what books or articles or essays ought I search for? Suggestions for materials that respond to feminist perspectives on this topic are also welcome.
I'm 29 and haven't had sex. How can I reconcile with the fact that it might not ever happen for me? [more inside]
Do women have different phrases to describe the act of masturbation? [more inside]
One often hears about the mid-thirties "sexual peak" for women. I have some questions about that. [more inside]
My girlfriend and I have religious and cultural differences. How can our relationship work? [more inside]
Peripatetic, endearingly-awkward geek seeks amazing advice for casual sex shenanigans. [more inside]
[NSFW] Women of the world...how can I have an orgasm when everything just feels so intense? [more inside]
What is the evolutionary relevance of PMS?
I’d like to read some fiction books where the heroine is intelligent, 40+ years old, not incredibly gorgeous or incredibly wealthy or incredibly famous, but with responsibilities (like teenage kids or a career), who has explicit & hot sex. Chick lit all grown up, you might say. [more inside]
Is there academic research that claims that viewing of advertising material a ritual of genderization? [more inside]
SexualityFilter: I was raised as a strict religious conservative, but have realized that's just not me and I am starting over. I'd like to learn a lot more about myself, sexually. What tips and books do you have to help give a 23 year old woman sexual knowledge and confidence? [more inside]
Not sure if this is AskMeFi material, but google returns mostly porn results for "Asian wife backseat," and I can't find any previous question: I often see Asian men driving with women (presumably their wives) in the backseat. Nobody is riding shotgun. It is definitely the exception (i.e., most putative Asian couples I see are riding side-by-side). Does anyone know what this is about? [more inside]
how does it feel to have your period? [more inside]
Is it normal for a woman to be unable to orgasm alone or with a (male) partner unless she fantasizes about women? [more inside]
How do I date more than one person at a time? [more inside]
What do I have to do to give my lady friend an orgasm? [more inside]
Help: my new boyfriend has had way more sex than me. [more inside]
How do I make my wife feel sexy? [more inside]
I'm 21 years old and I'm tired of sex... [more inside]
So apparently it's legal to have sex in a bar bathroom in Italy, but what about the U.S.? Related question: is it illegal for a woman to go in the men's room (or vice versa)? Anybody ever gotten in trouble (beyond just embarrasment) for something like this?
Equality of rights under the law shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any state on account of sex.
How could anyone possibly be against THAT?
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How could anyone possibly be against THAT?
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Why are sexually promiscuous men "studs" and sexually promiscuous women "sluts"? And on that note, is it studly or slutty to hook up with one person on a Monday and go out with a different person on a Tuesday? Just asking.