My BF and I saw an ad for the upcoming Deep Water Horizon movie, and I commented that there seem to be a lot of these "men trapped in desperate situations" movies. He wanted suggestions for "based on actual events" that aren't exclusively men. Trying to google turned up a lot of unhelpful results. Any ideas?
So I recently realized that a favorite poet of mine, Alice Duer Miller, published one more book of poems than I thought she had. I have been consequently wallowing in feminist poetry with snappy meter and rhyme for the last couple of days. Now that I'm done with my book, I'm looking for more poetry that strikes a chord, especially poetry by and about women. Where should I look, and who should I read? [more inside]
Is anyone familiar with practices/policies/laws/cases surrounding mandating a pregnancy test either in the medical environment or in other cases? I am interested in anecdotes, personal opinions, as well as pointers to articles or other resources. [more inside]
So this happened. I would totally subscribe to the magazine on the right for my daughter. Am trying to find its (English language) equivalent. Does one exist?
I just moved back to the Willamette Valley after a couple-year stint in year-round warm climates. While living in Oregon I never quite got the hang of constant clothing layering and dampness. I am determined this time around to look fashionable while staying warm and dry. It seems like everyone is perpetually wearing outdoor gear (REI/Patagonia/North Face rain layers, practical waterproof clogs, sporty-wear) and I'm just not into doing that - I want to look put-together and stylish. How can I go about doing this? More snowflakes inside. [more inside]
After my weekend spent purging my closet of BAGS full of clothes to donate that are too young, too cheap, too ill fitting, and just too plain ugly, I now find myself with a few holes and thin areas in my (blessedly) more manageable wardrobe. I'd like to fill those holes (slowly, eventually) with pieces that are classic, high quality, and (unicorn!) ethically produced (or at least MORE ethically produced than many major brands). Problem: I LOATHE shopping and am a style/fashion amateur. Where should be looking? What should I be looking for? Details inside. [more inside]
What questions would you like to ask a researcher specializing in the area of mothers who have lost children (usually boys) to gun violence? [more inside]
Mefites, I trust you way more than the random lists on Goodreads. Could you suggest some recent-ish biographies of interesting, mostly not-very-well-known women? [more inside]
Does anyone know of a 'bildungsroman' type novel (ie, life development from childhood through adulthood and beyond) written in the 1st person by a woman?. . . Something like Karl Ove Knausgård's "My Struggle" series of novels, but with a female protagonist and written by a woman? [more inside]
i want an office wardrobe I don't have to think about. Please help! [more inside]
I'm moderating a panel next month featuring researchers on areas related to domestic violence and working with survivors in a health care context. I've been asked to come up with questions for the panelists to prepare to answer. What should I ask them? What would you like to know, or what do you think is the most important problem in this area? [more inside]
Lately, I've noticed that I am very passionate about things having to do with sexuality, especially women’s sexuality and health. What careers exist related to this passion? So far I've thought of a nurse practitioner specializing in women's health, a certified nurse midwife, a pelvic physical therapist, an ob/gyn, and an industrial designer specializing in sexuality or women's health (if that job even exists). What are these careers like on a day-to-day basis? What other careers relating to sexuality are out there? Would any of these careers work for me? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
Historically, how have ladies dealt with armpit hair? [more inside]
Where can I buy the best-quality, most stylish and most hardwearing brogues for women anywhere in the UK? [more inside]
I've decided I'm done carrying heavy purses and doing damage to my shoulders and back. But that means a backpack. However I'm a woman in my 30s who dresses nicely for work (and stylishly otherwise). Women who have found stylish backpacks, what are your recommendations? Price range up to $250ish, leather, tan/light brown. Thank you!!
Do you have any good home remedies for hair loss in women? I have noticed that my hairline is receding somewhat. My part looks a bit wider and you just see a bit more of my scalp generally. I cannot identify a cause but it happened over the course of 4-8 months. I eat a good diet with plenty of protein (eggs, etc.). Thyroid tests normal. I have noticed a bit more hairs shed in the shower, but nothing that unusual. No hairs on the pillow, but some on the floor. Scalp okay but a bit of dandruff. I have been using a new hair color but I can't imagine it would cause my hair to fall out at the roots when rest of it is long and healthy looking. The loss is mostly at the temples and top third of my head. I used to have A LOT of hair. Any suggestions or home remedies are welcome!
I am in need of a few additional podcasts and as nearly all of the podcasts I listen to are hosted by guys, I would like some recommendations of podcasts by women. See below the fold for my interests and my current podcasts. [more inside]
I'm basically looking for the opposite of Forever 21 cheapy disposable stuff. I don't want designer fashion (and especially don't want their astronomical prices!), but I'd like clothes that I can wear to work or more casual shirts and dresses I could wear on the weekend. I used to shop at Ann Taylor and Banana Republic, and I still do on occasion, but I'm wondering if there are clothes that are higher quality that don't cost too much more. For example, Hanna Andersson's women's clothing intrigues me, especially the dresses in pima cotton.
How did you “know” you’re trans? [more inside]
Another baby naming question (girl edition). Parental disagreement and other special criteria inside. [more inside]
I spotted the boot of my dreams, but didn't ask the wearer where she got them. Can you help me on my footwear quest? [more inside]
Hi everyone, I am trying to figure out where to shop. I am an average sized woman, 5, 4" and I work part time in a school and have three young kids. I need things that coordinate and can more or less go between work and home...although I am in the stage where things get stained often!! I just tried stitch fix. I was so disappointed! The quality didn't seem to be great, the items looked like not great quality, one dress was way too long, three shirts looked like maternity on me, and one was polyester, which is awful in HOT, HOT weather where I live. I have no time to shop, but I don't want to go buy boxy looking clothing. I would like clothing that fits, and I can't figure out where to get this. I am spending way too much money shopping online and guessing just to have to pay all of the shipping fees to order and return! I have seen people recommend Boden, but others say sizes are inconsistent. I'm not a huge fan of JCrew. Thanks so much!!
I see on AskMe all the time, whenever someone refers to an adult of the female gender as a "girl," several people will immediately pop up to sternly correct them. I've come to accept this as part of the site culture here, and keep it in mind for my own questions and comments, but it quite honestly seems bizarre based on my own life experience. I'm curious how common this view actually is, and whether people actually stick to it in real life. [more inside]
I am single after an 8 year relationship. I was engaged. I have no idea how to navigate today's dating landscape. Most of my past relationships have developed out of having regular contact with someone for a long time and getting to know them and become friends. Details inside.... [more inside]
I have been married with an older woman for about 4 years and now I have developed interests towards younger girls. [more inside]
I have basic sewing skills and would like to improve and be able to make some clothing for myself and my (currently small) children. What I think I'd really like is to choose one (at a time) patterns/items of clothing and make it many many times, in different sizes, different fabrics, and gradually adding modifications as I become more comfortable with the basics. [more inside]
This is probably something I should have figured out at 17 rather than 27, but here I am. My own experiences with women haven't been really positive. I was always a bit shy when I was younger. My dad was abusive so I ended up clinging to my mother. My mom is a good woman but she can be a bit controlling and overbearing at times. Plus she was a conservative muslim so it's not like she ever encouraged me to date and indeed actively discouraged me from doing so. [more inside]
Thinking about some soft skills I may be lacking in the workplace (listening, speaking up, confidence), and wondering how I can improve. [more inside]
I love songs that feature the female singers going "off the rails" in response to the pain in their lives. Drugs, sex, alcohol! Help me find more songs to rock featuring a woman letting go/losing it to music. Bonus points if they have a music video. [more inside]
I have always had fine hair and not enough of it. Now I seem to be balding. [more inside]
I have a business in the IT service industry and there’s a gender imbalance in my staff, which I want to address. [more inside]
Specifically if a man identifies as feminist, should he then understand why a woman would take stories of sexism against other women personally? An ongoing source of conflict with a man in my life is that we'll discuss something sexist happening in the world and when I want a moment of commiseration about it like "man, that sucks, what a shitty world, I'm sorry" he won't give it and doesn't understand why I take it personally unless it is something that personally happens to me. [more inside]
I'm trying to find one or two words to name a product collection that has been created to tell a story. The story is about moments that have changed women and sport, forever. Lots of different sports. The obvious words are things like legacy and legend and transcendence, victory and breakthroughs and limitless. I'm looking for one step more abstract: things like steel or supernova or phoenix or Atalanta (the Greek goddess who could outwrestle & outrun men). It could be a plant or an animal or an element or an industrial thing or a star, I'm seeking some words that convey badassery. Full disclosure: this might get made into an actual thing. I can't give you royalties or any credit. But I will give you my undying thanks and if I can manage it, I will mail you one of the things once it is made!
Every year I make a donation in honor of my (deceased) mother's birthday. She was an outstanding scientist and teacher, won a bunch of mentoring awards, and helping women advance in STEM fields was important to her. I'm no longer able to donate to the organization I used in the past. Where should I send my money? (about $150). [more inside]
I want to replace my winter coat and have some very picky requirements. Here they are, with the most important ones first: [more inside]
Hey, I'm looking for artwork to hang around my house. It can be public domain (something I can download and print) or something I can order online. I want drawings, paintings, photos, etc. of women - all women, plus women with women, plus butch women with femme women, plus queer wo/men. [more inside]
Be confident is probably the most common advice that is given to men who want to do better with women. It's basically the gold standard advice. I myself have been working on myself for a while now. I finally have a job, am losing weight, and am trying to get my life together. Having said all that there are still parts of my life that I'm not proud of. I mean I don't think anybody is 100% confident. [more inside]
I travel for work, but not often enough to get the upgrade. What's best to wear on cross-country flights? [more inside]
What are your best examples of women's or feminist organizing behind the barricades in urban uprisings?
I'm interested in hearing from women who had (or have?) an intense terror of pregnancy and childbirth, but decided to get pregnant anyway. How did you cope with this fear? [more inside]
I'm scheduled to be on a panel about lack of women in senior roles within my industry. So I'm looking for pointers to articles, short podcasts, studies, puff pieces, reports, and just general interesting point of views on encouraging women into industries (from both women AND women). [more inside]
I have managed to fail at all societal goal-posts as a single late thirty-something woman with no husband, children, job, money or property in Asia, what do I do next? [more inside]
I'm looking for historical overviews and more specific personal accounts, with an emphasis on readability. [more inside]
I've always been a nerd/geek girl and as a result I have internalized a ton of toxic misogyny. As I get older I'm finding it difficult to accept (and god forbid love) my femininity. I know I need to learn to be OK with being a woman, but it feels shameful and gross. Help? [more inside]
People think I'm a big b-word. I'd like to change this recurrent situation I'm finding myself in, without pandering or being manic and fake. [more inside]
A little while ago I showed my boyfriend, who has sometimes infuriating views about women, this College Humor video about women's hymens. After watching this, he said that the video was sexist towards men. Why am I so angry, and is that a fair assessment? And how to defend feminist positions more cogently than I presently do? [more inside]
My wife is a theater major who is in an upcoming prestigious national scholarship competition and needs material to mine. [more inside]
From I guess what you could call an "aspiring" feminist to all else well-read on the matter: How do I become a "good" feminist? [more inside]
Is there a way for me to blog under my real name and still avoid exposing myself to stalking, doxxing, threats, and harassment? [more inside]