How did you “know” you’re trans? [more inside]
Another baby naming question (girl edition). Parental disagreement and other special criteria inside. [more inside]
I spotted the boot of my dreams, but didn't ask the wearer where she got them. Can you help me on my footwear quest? [more inside]
Hi everyone, I am trying to figure out where to shop. I am an average sized woman, 5, 4" and I work part time in a school and have three young kids. I need things that coordinate and can more or less go between work and home...although I am in the stage where things get stained often!! I just tried stitch fix. I was so disappointed! The quality didn't seem to be great, the items looked like not great quality, one dress was way too long, three shirts looked like maternity on me, and one was polyester, which is awful in HOT, HOT weather where I live. I have no time to shop, but I don't want to go buy boxy looking clothing. I would like clothing that fits, and I can't figure out where to get this. I am spending way too much money shopping online and guessing just to have to pay all of the shipping fees to order and return! I have seen people recommend Boden, but others say sizes are inconsistent. I'm not a huge fan of JCrew. Thanks so much!!
I see on AskMe all the time, whenever someone refers to an adult of the female gender as a "girl," several people will immediately pop up to sternly correct them. I've come to accept this as part of the site culture here, and keep it in mind for my own questions and comments, but it quite honestly seems bizarre based on my own life experience. I'm curious how common this view actually is, and whether people actually stick to it in real life. [more inside]
I am single after an 8 year relationship. I was engaged. I have no idea how to navigate today's dating landscape. Most of my past relationships have developed out of having regular contact with someone for a long time and getting to know them and become friends. Details inside.... [more inside]
I have been married with an older woman for about 4 years and now I have developed interests towards younger girls. [more inside]
I have basic sewing skills and would like to improve and be able to make some clothing for myself and my (currently small) children. What I think I'd really like is to choose one (at a time) patterns/items of clothing and make it many many times, in different sizes, different fabrics, and gradually adding modifications as I become more comfortable with the basics. [more inside]
This is probably something I should have figured out at 17 rather than 27, but here I am. My own experiences with women haven't been really positive. I was always a bit shy when I was younger. My dad was abusive so I ended up clinging to my mother. My mom is a good woman but she can be a bit controlling and overbearing at times. Plus she was a conservative muslim so it's not like she ever encouraged me to date and indeed actively discouraged me from doing so. [more inside]
Thinking about some soft skills I may be lacking in the workplace (listening, speaking up, confidence), and wondering how I can improve. [more inside]
I love songs that feature the female singers going "off the rails" in response to the pain in their lives. Drugs, sex, alcohol! Help me find more songs to rock featuring a woman letting go/losing it to music. Bonus points if they have a music video. [more inside]
I have always had fine hair and not enough of it. Now I seem to be balding. [more inside]
I have a business in the IT service industry and there’s a gender imbalance in my staff, which I want to address. [more inside]
Specifically if a man identifies as feminist, should he then understand why a woman would take stories of sexism against other women personally? An ongoing source of conflict with a man in my life is that we'll discuss something sexist happening in the world and when I want a moment of commiseration about it like "man, that sucks, what a shitty world, I'm sorry" he won't give it and doesn't understand why I take it personally unless it is something that personally happens to me. [more inside]
I'm trying to find one or two words to name a product collection that has been created to tell a story. The story is about moments that have changed women and sport, forever. Lots of different sports. The obvious words are things like legacy and legend and transcendence, victory and breakthroughs and limitless. I'm looking for one step more abstract: things like steel or supernova or phoenix or Atalanta (the Greek goddess who could outwrestle & outrun men). It could be a plant or an animal or an element or an industrial thing or a star, I'm seeking some words that convey badassery. Full disclosure: this might get made into an actual thing. I can't give you royalties or any credit. But I will give you my undying thanks and if I can manage it, I will mail you one of the things once it is made!
Every year I make a donation in honor of my (deceased) mother's birthday. She was an outstanding scientist and teacher, won a bunch of mentoring awards, and helping women advance in STEM fields was important to her. I'm no longer able to donate to the organization I used in the past. Where should I send my money? (about $150). [more inside]
I want to replace my winter coat and have some very picky requirements. Here they are, with the most important ones first: [more inside]
Hey, I'm looking for artwork to hang around my house. It can be public domain (something I can download and print) or something I can order online. I want drawings, paintings, photos, etc. of women - all women, plus women with women, plus butch women with femme women, plus queer wo/men. [more inside]
Be confident is probably the most common advice that is given to men who want to do better with women. It's basically the gold standard advice. I myself have been working on myself for a while now. I finally have a job, am losing weight, and am trying to get my life together. Having said all that there are still parts of my life that I'm not proud of. I mean I don't think anybody is 100% confident. [more inside]
I travel for work, but not often enough to get the upgrade. What's best to wear on cross-country flights? [more inside]
What are your best examples of women's or feminist organizing behind the barricades in urban uprisings?
I'm interested in hearing from women who had (or have?) an intense terror of pregnancy and childbirth, but decided to get pregnant anyway. How did you cope with this fear? [more inside]
I'm scheduled to be on a panel about lack of women in senior roles within my industry. So I'm looking for pointers to articles, short podcasts, studies, puff pieces, reports, and just general interesting point of views on encouraging women into industries (from both women AND women). [more inside]
I have managed to fail at all societal goal-posts as a single late thirty-something woman with no husband, children, job, money or property in Asia, what do I do next? [more inside]
I'm looking for historical overviews and more specific personal accounts, with an emphasis on readability. [more inside]
I've always been a nerd/geek girl and as a result I have internalized a ton of toxic misogyny. As I get older I'm finding it difficult to accept (and god forbid love) my femininity. I know I need to learn to be OK with being a woman, but it feels shameful and gross. Help? [more inside]
People think I'm a big b-word. I'd like to change this recurrent situation I'm finding myself in, without pandering or being manic and fake. [more inside]
A little while ago I showed my boyfriend, who has sometimes infuriating views about women, this College Humor video about women's hymens. After watching this, he said that the video was sexist towards men. Why am I so angry, and is that a fair assessment? And how to defend feminist positions more cogently than I presently do? [more inside]
My wife is a theater major who is in an upcoming prestigious national scholarship competition and needs material to mine. [more inside]
From I guess what you could call an "aspiring" feminist to all else well-read on the matter: How do I become a "good" feminist? [more inside]
Is there a way for me to blog under my real name and still avoid exposing myself to stalking, doxxing, threats, and harassment? [more inside]
In popular media, what are some examples of the "romantic tortured loner genius inventor" archetype who are women? [more inside]
I need a running jacket for a 38 degree weather with rain and wind (and in the dark sometimes) [more inside]
I'm looking for a higher-quality replacement for my favorite leather boots. Google, AskMe archives, Frye and other sites yield nothing so far. I guess front lace-up boots are not the trend right now; surely the style is classic, and someone's making them? FWIW, I'm female with average width calves. [more inside]
I am looking for pictures, video clips (interviews, music videos, movie clips) and articles about women with short hair who can serve as role models for me. [more inside]
Am in the midst of planning a start up business and actually need two names (for different price points- mass market and higher end). More.... [more inside]
I am female and 30 years old and currently in a great awakening that has been forming my whole life but only really starting to happen over the last few years. I'm a recovering Christian with relatively new feminist realizations and I want to find others like me. [more inside]
This previous question could almost be me--except that I'm much larger. I need to find a wedding outfit for a December wedding in Vegas, and I'm profoundly uncomfortable in dresses. Can you help me find sources for dressy straight-butch-ish clothes, in maybe a 26/28 size pant and a top size that ranges from 28 into the 30s? [more inside]
I'm attending my sister-in-law's wedding next month and we finally got confirmation that the ceremony/reception dress code will be "cocktail". I'm a woman who is tired of buying dresses I hate wearing and feeling uncomfortable at these sorts of things, so what can I wear that's appropriate but also me? [more inside]
I'm looking for clothing stores within driving distance of Dayton, Ohio that are known for their quality. [more inside]
I've long noticed a pattern in my industry that women get pushed out (or move out?) of creative roles and into "Mom" roles. The stop being compositors/animators/developers and become production assistants and production coordinators. Pay-wise and career-respect-wise, it's a lot like being the default parent - not much pay, and not much respect. Lately, I've noticed more stereotypically gay men (leaning toward the twink/pup variety) taking on production assistant/coordinator roles. Is this related at all to gender roles and default parenting, or am I noticing trends which do not exist? [more inside]
I want some books about women going on the traditional hero's journey! Ideally, non-fantasy and non-young adult. [more inside]
I've had an issue throughout my career of helping less senior women in their careers only to have them turn around and try to sabotage me in some fashion. Help me not become paranoid of women. [more inside]
Hello, MeFi! I was at a class reunion last weekend where some photos were uploaded to Facebook. Urgh. I look horrible. I am not aging gracefully. I am shocked at how much I've changed in just a couple of years and am saddened that I'm now looking "my age" - late 40s. What are some of the things you do to keep yourself looking and feeling great? [more inside]
Hey Brilliant People, happy Monday! I'm looking for film, tv, novel, play, etc. examples of women heros who are fighting against sexual predators especially ones who are doing it in secret? Like super heros! Can anyone think of a character like that? Thanks so much!
I'm looking for more examples of professions like programming that started out as "women's jobs" but were later taken over by men, when they realized the work had potential to be prestigious. Mothers cooking for their families vs mostly male pro chefs is another one, though probably harder to place historically. I'm sure there are more examples. Do you know any, with sources if possible?
Or more accurately, we don't have an agenda for a retreat. A Woman's Retreat. Have you been to a wonderful one? Have you always you wished you could go to a wonderful one and do ...what? [more inside]
My Search-Fu is utterly failing me. Where did I read the line (paraphrased): "He was like a tennis player who mistakes his best game for his everyday game [or natural level or basic capability]". I want to say it was in a novel by a female author,: Lessing, Christie or Woolf maybe? I might be completely wrong. Fairly sure the narrator's voice was female. Can anyone help?
How do you make friends with other women when you don't really have friends who are women? [more inside]