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Help with cartoon Film

maxmix — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 15:09:10 -0800

It is a 60's or 70;s cartoon film, it starts live action and involves a boy who enters a cartoon world, I seem to recall a winding road, and has a Dr Suess kind of feel to it.....Pretty vague I know, but it's all i can remember, apart from it being shown on Cartoon network about 10 Ish years ago, any one help me??

What you gon do with all that junk inside your trunk?

sickinthehead — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 15:08:12 -0800

Which is the safer car position for my dog? We have a VW Golf and a German Shepherd. Traditionally, when the dog travels with us he sits in the back seat. Yesterday we drove 12 hours home for Thanksgiving and I had to sit in the back with my dog the entire time as we drove an additional person home with us this time. It was an...adventure.

This led to the following debate between my husband and I:

He wants to get one of those bar things that extend from the back seat to the roof of the car and start putting the dog in the trunk. I think it's an unsafe proposition because I think we're most likely to be rear-ended if in an accident, and that would effectively smush my dog. I think he's way safer sitting in the back seat, and therefore we should continue this arrangement. What do you think? Note I'm only looking at this from the perspective of his safety.

Good guys get blue, bad guys get red.

uaudio — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 12:06:39 -0800

How close are we to handheld laser weapons? I read an article about a laser on a C-130 burning a hole through a car, a 747 that can shoot down an ICBM, and now a truck-mounted laser that can bring down a plane or UAV. What kind of science challenges do we need to meet before these weapons are issued to soldiers, etc.? I'm sure the power is the biggest challenge, what other ones are there?

Exercises with partners

bleucube — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 08:39:37 -0800

I'm teaching a physical class that involves close contact. For warm up exercises I like to have people work in pairs to get comfortable touching. I can only think of a couple... 1. Sit up paddy-cakes
2. Stacked push ups (taking turns with feet on back)
3. Piggy back squats
4. Piggy back running

I need a lot more - any suggestions?

Sex with an ex?

bananaskin — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 12:15:25 -0800

I'd like to hear stories or comments from others who have slept with their exes. I am a woman in my 40's....I had dated my ex-boyfriend for about 2 years, off and on. He was an alcoholic & liar during that time. Slept with other women without telling me supposedly during our "off" times, but there were definately overlapping times in which he never disclosed what he was doing. I found out and broke it off, then we got back together and on the cycle went. He no longer sleeps with other women, or so he says. Of course I do not believe him. He stopped drinking 6 months ago. But his basic selfishness & dishonesty continued.

Anyway, during our last break up & no contact for 6 weeks, I finally caved and called him to come over in the middle of the night, "just for sex". Of course, he comes over, jumping at the chance for sex. I had thought in the past, and wonder now if sex was his sole or main desire all along, not a real relationship.

We now have done this 2 times, and the experience was good, I guess. It was just plain sex. There was no intimacy. In fact, the whole thing from beginning to end was in the dark with absolutely no eye contact. I still hate him, but feel good to have this physical comfort, being quite lonely. I am "using" him now, and that feels like some sort of revenge, but I am sure he is not being hurt at all in this, as he enjoys it too.

I just wonder, how do you keep from getting hurt out of something like this? This really is not my nature, as I really want to have an emotional, real, relationship with sex growing out of that. I have found that I feel a little sad and dissappointed with the emptiness, being that the sex is devoid of any communication, intimacy, sharing of emotion. But I find if he just comes over late at night, then leaves right away, I can sort of "compartmentalize" this away from the rest of my daily life.

At the same time, it does feel a little liberating to just use him for sex and enjoy it just for that.

Any other people out there who have done this and have some stories to share or advice?
Thank you.

What to talk about - Do's and Don'ts meeting up with the ex's dumper friend?

zulonline — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 08:50:13 -0800

What to talk about - do's and don'ts on a meeting up with a good friend of the person who broke my heart quite badly a few months ago?
I am meeting up tonight with a good girl-friend of the man who broke my heart quite badly and "used" me for some time.

I don't want to create a bad impression , appearing/ talking too happy, or too hurt, or too indiferent etc, about my ex / (her friend )when I meet up with her as she is a good person and I like to keep / start a nice friendship as we were about to just before my broken up with her friend.

I need to emphasise that I am not interested in getting back with the dumper at all, just want to keep my ex's friend friendship.

I feel hurt still about the person who hurt me but I am moving on with my life quite well lately, and as it has been a few months since the broken up I am not as emotional any more. This may allow me to talk about different things , but whn the question arises about my ex situation/ broken up what it would be the best way to approach/ answer the question?

I know I should act natural, but I'd like to have some more ideas, Thank you.

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"If I could rearrange the alphabet, I'd put the vowels all at the beginning... what?"

LSK — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 18:51:59 -0800

Help an aspie initiate making out with girls in college. I've adapted to most social situations, mostly due to reading about them, but this is one field that seems to assume that the participants have an instinct for it. I've had a friend with benefits before, but we met online, basically solely with the intent of a FWB relationship, and she had walked me through my first makeout session with her and with sex.

I'm not exactly sure wherein my issue lies, or what I'm failing to grasp. I've made multiple female acquaintances, some of whom live in my dorm, but I have no idea when it's appropriate to initiate making out, where to do it, or how to start. I've been told it just happens, but I don't think I'd ever initiate anything if I were "just letting what happens happen" - I'd be too afraid.

Admittedly I want to avoid a committal monogamous relationship through most of college. I genuinely want to get sex out of college, and avoid tying myself down in the non-kinky way (An education is a higher priority, but of less relevance to this post.)

Help me with sending html using squirellmail

citybuddha — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 10:31:09 -0800

I want to send HTML emails using Squirellmail. I am having a time finding instructions. Any help here?

How do I act tough on the street?

wastelands — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 19:10:05 -0800

How do I reduce the amount I'm threatened on the street in an urban environment? I am a tall, young male, but about one a month on average, I get hassled by people on the street. No one has outright attacked me, but enough people "test" me by blocking my way, lunging at me (pretending to attack), yell at me and challenge me, etc. that it bothers me and makes me nervous.

I'm not so much interested in "how to defend my self"; there's plenty of that kind of material out there. I'm interested in how to not look so weak and nervous -- how to head off attacks before they even begin by projecting a tougher attitude.

For me personally:

* I definitely have some agoraphobia; I feel uneasy when first going out, especially after being cooped up for awhile. I tend to be a hermit on weekends and evenings unless I have something social planned or the weather's especially nice
* I wear glasses (i.e. nerd association)
* I dress nicely, yet sometimes walk through areas that have street people who probably resent the fact that I have money
* I enjoy walking fast, just naturally, but maybe that can be interpreted as being afraid.
* I'm bad at making eye contact

But I hope this thread is useful for people in general who live in rough areas, so please, any general tips are great too.

Things I'm doing or plan to do:

* I am trying to not look down at the ground so much, trying to look straight ahead more
* I really want to get into better shape and join an MMA gym (not just for self-defense, but because martial arts is fun for me, just haven't done it in ages)
* I'm trying to stand up taller and not slouch or hunch my shoulders so much
* Eventually want to get contacts, to look less nerdy and just because glasses are a PITA sometimes

Thanks!

The biscuit shall rise again!

hal_c_on — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 09:48:31 -0800

How do I make fantastic southern-type biscuits? There are only a few ingredients (I think), and people regularly produce them...but my Cali-Yank pedigree will not allow me to make them? I'm referring to savory soft biscuits, not the cookie-tin biscuits, of course.

I've done tons of recipes but nothing turns out like I've tasted. Water, flour, baking powder, crisco/shortening, baking soda, butter, and (butter)milk are all the ingredients I need (right)?

I've seen people using lard, but I don't eat lard...and the restaurants/individuals who have made biscuits I ate told me that besides dairy, there are no animal products in the recipe.

How do I make fantastic biscuits...and the hell with cutting calories/fat. I just want good biscuits.

Luddite Lawyer needs help!

bananafish — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 21:21:00 -0800

CD-ROM with hypertext links to other documents on CD-ROM? I'm a luddite lawyer who needs help. So the Judge's rules say that I can file my brief on a CD_ROM and include hypertext links to exhibits on the same CD-ROM. I would love to do this since I will have many, many exhibits. How can I do this?

Help with Dell media centre

maxmix — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 14:37:39 -0800

Dell media Cente light illuminated all the time I have a 6 month old Dell Studio 17 and the Media Centre button's light stays illuminated at all times, Meaning that I cannot access any of the Media Centre buttons because of this. I phoned Dell and they told me to remove the battery, hold power off and re start-This helped at first, but when I turn my laptop off and back on the Media centre light re illuminates and I'm back to square one. Also once my Laptop is switched If I touch the Media centre button it switces my machine back on!

Any one have any suggestions of how to solve this problem, mainly because I dont wan't to spend 45 mins waiting to get through to Dell

Dealing with the boss

page123 — Fri, 08 May 2009 16:51:05 -0800

How do you deal with the boss who is intimidated by you as new employee and she is manipulating others to push you out?

a place to stay with my dogs

Palmerpoodles — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 17:42:49 -0800

I will be driving west on I 80 from PA to Colorado. I would like to stay with families,farms or dog friendly inns or B&Bs rather than the chains. My dog friendly travel guides list the common chains so Im hoping for some folks to invite us in. (we're very nice,well behaved and would pay for the privelge)

LOAN or GIFT?

mwhybark — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 11:28:07 -0800

Today was the first day the stimulus withholding showed up in my paycheck. I can't tell: is this additional $13 just a change in withholding, or is my annual income tax actually reduced by $400? If it's just another bullshit rebate, I do not want this money. Please advise. Links and authoritative citations much appreciated!

Help with name of Film

maxmix — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 12:34:18 -0800

Can anyone help me with the title of this film??? It's a 1970s US film where some Airmen are trapped in a bunker by a machine gun firing robot (I think). I thought it starred Richard Baseheart, but i've Googled him and I can't find any film he made that is similar!!!! Can anyone help, please.....(It's driving me mad)

How do I keep my head straight about a girl?

weh546 — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 00:20:13 -0800

How do I keep my head straight about a girl, while being the rebound, even though I am really interested in her? Very confused. So I recently had a one night stand with one of my friends who I know from school. This is a girl that I had been interested in since I met her last year, but didn't want to do anything since she was taken. She broke up with her boyfriend, told me about it, and I moved in as the rebound and met with her this past weekend for a night in the city. As a one night stand I'm not sure what to do in this position.

Leading up to the event of us hanging out was fun, it was exciting and we were flirting over the phone by text messaging. The idea of meeting in the city was even both ways. I had a great time in the city with her and it was nice to be with a girl. This was also something that she wanted also, and I was happy to give her comfort and relaxation.

Since then, I feel I am in more of a negative position, more so feeling like a burden rather than a positive influence of comfort. I feel that by talking to her I am overwhelming her, and am maybe being a little obsessive about it.

I obviously am not intending to be overwhelming but I might be coming across that way. I really just want to tell her that I understand that she has a lot going on, that she needs to figure things out, and that she should sort those out and not even worry about my feelings.

I kind of just want to keep the door open for later possibilities because I know that she wants to figure things out right now.

I'm really at a loss for what to do and am definitely confused. I don't want to end up pushing her away, I really want to keep this open and just as positive as it was.

I feel I am always the one trying to make more out of what was there in the end. Situations like this have happened in the past, I get depressed, and honestly, it sucks. I think the one day no call thing really works wonders. How do I come across as being friendly without making myself so vulnerable?

After writing this, I also think I am the one that needs to take is slow and easy.

Should I ignore my ex friend with Benefits Birthday tomorrow?

zulonline — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 18:22:37 -0800

Should I ignore my Ex - Friend with Benefits Birthday tomorrow? And how speak to him after that after that? All my story is already explained on my last question threads, basically I managed to moved out from a difficult situation in which I found myself cared of, but rejected.

Still this person gets in touch with me ocassionaly and ask me about my life. I still got his keys from his flat , where I used to live before the "breaking up ", and I think he does'nt want to lose me as a friend.. but I can't guess what is in his mind, probably he feels guilty about cousing me pain as he did not feel in the same way I have.

Last week he called me briefly to say hi and asked me the favor to send a package to his doughter for Chritsmas , I went to his flat while he is abroad and picked up. He said he will let me now the adress where I have to send it. I haven't heard of him for a week, and is now his Birthday tomorrow! I dont know if he came back to the City or still is abroad.

I am totally confused , I have done all eforts to move on with my life for the last 2 months, I still feel him as a friend in some ways as he looked after me for sometime when I needed, although he deprivated me of his love while living together. And that makes me feel still so angry and upset .

I feel that ignoring his Birthday by not calling or texting him, will show him I don't want part of him anymore, and I will don't make a fool of myself again, as I invent and did everything for the past 2 years to win his love with not so good results.

But on the other hand, I feel that if I ignore his birthday, he willl think I am upset I am not over him, ( altough I am very upset becasuse last time he called I said that it was nice to see his flat was very tidy and nice when I picked up my mail and , as the last call he mentioned he had a friend ( a college secretary from his work and she stayied at his place for a few days and she kept the flat nice and tidy, I got really upset , and I showed to him ) also It is diff for me to be harsh to people even more when I have spent so much time caring about them and loving them , then acting on the oposite way make me feel guilty .

I also think he will be upset If I don't call him, he may think I am playing games ? or get resentment thinking that just because he doesn t love me , I can't be just his friend,? also I feel sad in case he came to the City and spend his B alone, and just because he was who decided to keep as just friends, he doesn't dare to call me on his day?

I am also afraid perhaps of loosing his friendship in a long term it might make me feel bad when I will be really over him.

So the question is please , should I call him tomorrow or not?
what do I say if I call, and what do I say if I don't when he contact me later to tell me his doughter adress? , how should I act ? what do I say about his birthday?

Thank you for your advice..I am very lonely at the moment and I'd like to have some diferent opinions which would help me to make up my mind to rhis respect. As you probably read I am quite confused and anxious about it. Cheers.

investing on losers

SirStan — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 13:44:32 -0800

Investing/Day Trading -Why is it bad to pick stocks off the losers of the day assuming they will rebound? I have been casually watching stocks on Google's daily losers list, and playing with $1000 of pretend money and Excel.. and so far I am up 50% on three weeks (not counting $9/trade fees).

So -- Why doesn't this system work? Bonus points for any investing research that shows its a bad idea (tm).

Naturally there are some mega losers.. but even back when Fannie May tanked.. there would have been money to be made by buying at the crest of the loss, and selling the next day.

For example... If I had invested $1000 in Fannie May at the end of trading on September 8th, and sold it at the end of the day on September 9th I would have netted $356 (minus trade execution fees). I caught Foundry Networks as they started to go up a second time on the 24th of October @ $10.85 and now they are at $12.39.

Naturally there are really bad examlpes of this (like the drug company Savient, but even that might go up tomorrow! It seems like people overreact on large percentage sales.. and then it rebounds.

Am I playing with fire that will burn me? Is this how day trader junkies get hooked?

Please help me with my powerbook keyboard conundrum. Are you geniuser?

citybuddha — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 04:44:15 -0800

Please help me with my powerbook keyboard conundrum. Are you geniuser? Since March my powerbook g4 keyboard has been acting wonky.
In march some of the keys on the right end of the keyboard would'nt work.
The p, return, 0, \, and couple other over there as well. I had it replaced under applecare in late March. Come September the same issue is happening again so I had it replaced. My applecare has expired so I needed to pay out of pocket. The day I picked it up the same thing is happening. According to the genius the problem was the keyboard. I don't think so anymore.
It seems to work occasionally. eare are a few things I must do to get it to work properly.
I must zap the pram once. After that the keyboard works fine until the computer goes to sleep. After that the problem reappears so I must zap again.
I tried a simple restart three times but that did not solve the issue,I need to zap the pram.
Just a note here, in March, when the problem began, there were a couple more keys that did not work. Those keys were also on the same side of the keyboard.
Also my lower ram slot is not working.
I await your brains

help my wife and cats get home

crazylegs — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 00:33:47 -0800

Looking for one way car rental, ride share, or other transport east from Toronto. On October 26 my wife is flying into Pearson Airport with our two cats. She needs to get from there to Prince Edward County, about three hours east of Toronto. I've been researching car rental agencies and most of them don't seem to allow return of the car to Belleville or Kingston, which would mean her having to drive the car all the way back to Toronto and then take a bus back to P.E.C.
I'm looking for any or all of the following information:
1 - A car rental company that will rent a car at Pearson and allow it to be returned in Belleville (ideally, or else Kingston).
2 - A ride share opportunity where I might find someone driving east on that day who would be able to give her a lift.
3 - Any other means of transport that would allow a relatively tired woman and two fairly stressed out cats to get from point A to point B (note: the terms 'tired', 'woman', 'stressed', and 'cats' rule out hitchhiking, and probably a bus).
If by some intervention of Providence, you, yourself, the person reading this, are a Torontonian who has just been thinking "saaaay, I'm up for a trip to Prince Edward County around about October 26... if only I had some cats to entertain me on my journey...", then by all means get in touch!
Thanks!

Points of Light?

melangell — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 20:56:41 -0800

In past seasons of "Real Time with Bill Maher" what did the points of light on the map represent? I once sent this question into the show's email address, but, sadly, never got a response. Since the set has changed this season, I am hoping that the hive mind may answer this quandary or else I guess I may never know.

I want my old iTunes Back.

nomad73 — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 10:08:43 -0800

I stupidly updated and installed iTunes 8 on my Win XP Home laptop. Now some icons have turned "generic." This annoys me and I would like to go back to an earlier version of iTunes The only icons that have turned generic are ones for MS Office (files and the icons for the actual app) and Adobe. The icons still function normally - the correct program launches, opens the document fine, etc. But I'm still quite annoyed by this. At first I thought it was a Windows update that did it and I did a system restore, which fixed the problem. Then I tried starting iTunes and got some error - can't remember what. So I downloaded an re-installed iTunes 8 again. And the icons went away again. I'd like to go back to an earlier version of iTunes without losing my playlists, listen-counts and so on. I found an old installer for iTunes 7.5 or so, but it won't let me install it. I assume I must uninstall iTunes 8 and then install 7.5 but again - am worried about losing playlists. Any advice? This will be the last time I update that program - v. 7.0 was a nightmare and v. 8 has problems too. Ugh! Thanks.

Casual relationships in high school?

LSK — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 19:35:14 -0800

Casual relationships in high school? (I originally posted this on Yahoo Answers before realizing that this was far, far beyond the ability of a typical YA denizen to answer.)

I'm starting the next year of my high school this Tuesday. There's a girl who I talked with a lot during the last week of last year, and I think I'd be interested in engaging her in a casual relationship. I don't think I'm ready for a girlfriend, and I don't think she's the person I'd want to have for a permanent girlfriend, but I wish to engage in sexual exploration, and she seems open-minded enough to be willing to participate in that.

(Well, yeah, this basically is a description of a friend-with-benefits.)

This, then, is the question:

How does one introduce a suggestion to engage in a casual relationship? Is there a good, slightly more concise and less rude way to say, "Hi, I like you as a person, but I don't want to have you as a girlfriend, but I would like to explore myself sexually through you, and I think that you'd like to help both of us learn about ourselves."

How to overcome social stratification , and as a consecuence a brokenheart ?

zulonline — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 03:58:10 -0800

Social stratification is braking my heart . Can any of you out there, help me translate this situation and maybe give me some guidance as to how to go forward? I am a woman 35 y/o. I met Mr Perfect after 8 months of my marriage brake down. At the beginning he was eager to become my boyfriend even though there’s a big difference in our social stratus. I am a professional foreign still settling down in the Country. He’s is at the top of an important Oil company. He loves glamour, elegance, travelling, he’s always interested in current affairs, he and his friends are diplomats, some from the media ,his life is about work, luxury and Intellect.

When Mr. Perfect realized my intellect and background wasn’t up to his standards, was quite late as I’d moved already in into his flat as a tenant (paying rent). As his work is based abroad, he just come to the City a few days every month . We began to have sex after he asked me to be his girlfriend. And we didn’t stop when he asked me to be just friends.

(I have to point out that I suffered from domestic violence on my previous relation ship, and I was left in this foreign country overnight, with no friends, no money, nor family. I was recovering and having treatment from depression, and anxiety. However I never stopped working and kept studying English in order to register my technician degree in this Country and be able to help my parents and give them a better life.)

Having Mr. P coming every month at home and having some of his attention for a few days, made me feel I had a home again. I felt supported and cared again , I felt that the new string –free relationship was good for me, so I could have time to heal my heart, have a place where I didn't have to share with people and give time to my mind and self to cure.

I began to behave like the perfect 50’s women/wife, (although I am naturally like this) taking care of every single detail of his clothes, food, skin etc...

Mr perfect was never too amorous after sex. He cooked for me, always called me to ask how I was, and would gave advice when I needed, he support me to bring my parents for a Holliday , he sent them a nice food purchase, gave me a couple of perfumes as a gift , and he said many times he cared for me a lot.

I began to feel frustrated and hurt when I noticed that the main reasons for which he contained himself to loved me was because social matters, my background, my English pronunciation, my clothe appearance, my instable born Country, my intellect.

So I began to do big efforts in order to improve myself in ALL aspects in which I considered I could be up to his “standards” or criterions of his “perfect woman”. He said once to me that I was wonderful and I had many of the qualities he was looking for in a woman to marry, but he needed to have someone who could fit easily into his world. ..Obviously I could not understand this and it broke my heart.

I spent all time and money, I earned for the last year and a half improving my language skills, changing my accent, mastering etiquette, buying books, going to lectures, mastering elegance , buying stylish clothe, but Mr Perfect didn’t notice or when he did, did not put too much attention to it. I felt he still see me as the foreign little girl who he has to subside. He doesn’t even notice the intellectual changes I’ve made as I could not even mention I did all of this for me/ him...

Mr perfect supported me financially for a short period of time when I lost my Job. I was free of rent for 3 months; he also lent me some money to pay an important driving course which can help me to get a better Job in my arear in a future.

Mr Perfect began to say hurtful things to me ,like he is expecting to meet someone nice to get marry and have children with, and started to be mean, grumpy, and irritable lately . However in bed always nice and caring.

Last month when he came, after having slept together, he said that this country was too expensive and he was thinking to rent the whole flat and take a place up for him somewhere else.

I was shocked and devastated with his decision. And when he sow it, he said that I shouldn’t worry as he’ll give me a few months to work things out , and as I don’t have money for my deposit he’s willing to let me free rent for 2 , 3 months so I could save money from my new Job for the time I need to move out.

First, I asked him to let me stay and share the flat. I was overwhelmed thinking I had to move out and have a miserable life again in a small room, and with nobody in this Country to count with, also what about all those efforts I did, for nothing now?

But he changed his mind a few times about it and the last thing he said by phone when I asked it was that he feels trapped in every corner , that he is subsidising his mother, his little daughter , and me.. And he evaded the conversation when I asked him to tell me which were his recent plans.

It caused me so much pain, also that I decided to move out asap and take an option of work accommodation. The change is going to be drastic; I’ll be living in a very shitty room and struggling to make my ends meet for long time.

The questions to my mixed emotions and problems are:

1- Mr Perfect is coming next week for 4 days. He does not expect me to move out so soon as he knows I did not have money even for a new deposit, and otters matters which I had benefit, just for living at his place. (I did everything I could to find solutions). The questions is that I don’t know who to express politely in English that I rather will be moving out in the next week, without showing all this mixed feelings of rancour, anger, rejection, alienated, love ,hate ,gratefulness.

2- How to react if he tries to approach me sexually?

3- What to say when he asks where I am going to moving in? and how to answer any other question about my” new life”? I don’t want him to feel sorry for me, and guilty , but also I don’t want to let him feel, I will have a great time, after his mean decision and behaviour. What’s best to do?

I understand him in someway, as I can force any one to love me, I think he iswas confused in a time and could not let he go completely in this relationship. But still why he did not give me an opportunity? When he saw I was improving myself ?

He always said he is my friend, and I feel terribly sad of loosing him as such, because I don’t feel like talking to him after I leave , I feel this situation has damaged again my self stem and I feel so hurt and disappointed.

5 - I don’t know how to behave when he comes leaving him a taste of dignity of me, also I don’t want him to think I am angry, or I am ungrateful.

6-Also I feel so bad because I am thinking to disappear from his life once I’ve moved out… , but if he calls eventually which would be the best way to deal with it showing some gratefulness?
7- How can I cope with the fact I will be living in awful conditions, and start everything as when my husband left me 2 years ago?

8--And The biggest concern , is that I feel that the fact that I still don’t speak perfectly English, and I am not very intellectual, even though my efforts , I will always be rejected and alienated and unable to aspire to be with a cultured gentleman in this British Society as I am used to now. This is really making me feel powerless and with great feelings of frustation and confusion about love and society.

Thank you so much for your advice