I have ended a long-term relationship where we both had mental health issues (bipolar depression in my case). I haven't worked since 2005 but am a graduate (was back in 1991 though, I'm 44 now) and have about 12 years of work experience. I believe I could work again if given the opportunity, and am willing to do the work either on myself or in terms of learning marketable skills to become employable. I also have about £50,000 ($70,000 I guess?) remaining from an inheritance, which I'm using to live on. It's actually possible to buy a modest apartment where I live for that money, but then I would not be eligible for out-of-work benefits, hence the need to rent. I have never rented before, I lived in my parents house until age 36 and then with my partner in her mother's house until age 44. So I have no references to offer as a previous renter, and am quite socially isolated due to shyness so not sure about finding character references either. My credit score is great due to only modestly using a credit card for 10 years and paying it off each month, and not getting into debt during that time. How can I best sell myself to a letting agency as someone their landlords might want to rent to, and what concessions would I need to make for renting to be a possibility - pay a big deposit? rent in advance? money in escrow account? [more inside]
posted by AuroraSky
on Apr 13, 2014 -
I have come to the conclusion that I am bad with money, and I need help. The question is, who can provide me with the help I need. I've researched various professions online and have a hard time telling who would best suit my needs: a bookkeeper, an accountant, a financial counselor, a daily money manager, someone else entirely?? More than one of these?? [more inside]
posted by buddylove
on Mar 6, 2013 -
Can anybody who's seen the film please tell me what the actual dinner was in the movie My Dinner With Andre? Do you see the protagonists actually order and eat their food? What was the food? Do they comment on it? Does it look nice? Thanks a lot.
posted by Ted Maul
on Feb 5, 2013 -
My boyfriend has a kid from his previous marriage, who is now long distance. He'll be coming to stay for a month in a few months, and I'm not sure what to do! (so many snowflake details!) [more inside]
posted by euphoria066
on Jan 22, 2013 -
I have been having a "war" with some competitors. They meet in the same restaurant where I've called a meeting next week. My meeting is couched as an "open meeting" (meaning anyone who is interested can come). It's a roundtable meeting of like minded people and meant to be informal, and it's not through any employer. I've put the invitation up publicly onto a blog. The problem is, if the three people who I've warred with were to show up, the meeting could quickly become their meeting. I want to take hold of the reins of my own meeting. [more inside]
posted by naplesyellow
on Nov 11, 2012 -
How do I get along with my opinionated, controlling and overbearing mom during her visit without fighting thereby worsening our relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 26, 2012 -
A man is in love with a woman but admits to disliking and resenting her children. Am I trying to rationalize a relationship that doesn't (and will never) work? [more inside]
posted by passing.by
on Aug 20, 2012 -
Artistic musings on the catastrophic loss of loved ones, and/or the possibility of ever really "getting over it"... [more inside]
posted by segatakai
on Aug 12, 2012 -
how to cure from codependency? i am in a relatiosnhip with a guy for 8 months. we had some problems because i made him my life, i hink about him 24/7, i stress out about texts, phone calls and i panick if i do not get any. i am afraid i smother him. he asked me he would like to be again the independent girl i used to be when he met me. now, i feel posesive nd jelous if he goes out with his family or visits his mom. i feel i am ridiculous but i can't control myself. i feel i am obsessed with him
posted by barexamfreak
on Aug 10, 2012 -
I am a technology specialist for a large public school district. In my school, I am a "prep" teacher. Classes come to me, the teacher leaves, and I have them for 50 minutes. Last year, for various reasons, I developed a phobia of being alone in charge of 25-30 kids by myself. I kept seeing danger to them and being unable to help.
I took a leave from the middle of April through the end of the year. I tried to get an ELL position; that's my other license. ELL is small group and/or co-teaching and I would be just fine returning to it. [more inside]
posted by Kazimirovna
on Aug 3, 2012 -
London Filter: Aunt and Mom plus one nephew looking for a place to stay mid-August. Any ideas that are three day weekend central to everything with some character? [more inside]
posted by Funmonkey1
on Jun 27, 2012 -
I've achieved the absolutely perfect FWB situation. Absolutely perfect aside from the fact that I can't stand him. [more inside]
posted by ad4pt
on Jun 4, 2012 -
US Marine Corps: Active Duty vs. Reserves: My partner wants to be an active duty Marine but his only option may be to join the reserves. Mefites, what is your expierence with active duty vs. reserves, and how can I help him cope with his disapointment? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Apr 21, 2012 -
This is a bit beyond my computer abilities...
I am running mac OSX 10.5.8. I am trying to find a version of adobe air that will run on my machine but am just having the hardest time locating or even finding out what version works with my OS. Some love here would be appreciated.
posted by citybuddha
on Nov 13, 2011 -
Should my father in law be telling me what to do in regards to buying a house with my wife? [more inside]
posted by ljs30
on Oct 23, 2011 -
I broke up with my first girlfriend of 2 years last night; did I do the right thing? / What am I doing with my life? *CAUTION: WALL OF TEXT * [more inside]
posted by Snorlax
on Oct 18, 2011 -
Is it ok to choose to (temporarily) not interact with my depressed teen sister? What's the best way to provide very distant support? [more inside]
posted by ad4pt
on Sep 12, 2011 -
How do I handle this situation without looking like a jerk?
We have a new person at work. This person will need a laptop and the company will purchase it. I have a laptop purchased by our company, but it's about 2-3 years old. I'd like to get a new laptop as mine is somewhat outdated, but the if I get a new one, the company wants me to give my old one to the new person. How do I handle this? I'm going to be in charge of the transfer and this new person will see that I am getting a new one while he is getting my old one. I don't want to look like a jerk. What do I say? Help?
posted by focus
on Jul 18, 2011 -
how far back can you go to get a lung xray for ct comparison? And does having single nodules in each lung increase chance for cancer?
posted by barberpowell
on Jun 6, 2011 -
I am trying to find a desktop or office cubicle ( by which I mean pretty small and elegant) compatible amplifier. I just really need a headphone amplifier since I wont ever be able use any speakers at work, but I must be able to select between 3 different sources. [more inside]
posted by digividal
on Apr 28, 2011 -
Is it worth it at 40yrs. old to take out student loans and go back to school full-time for 2 years? The profession I am interested in has a starting pay around 45-60K and is in the healthcare profession, so jobs are plentiful. I would be taking out about 30K in loans and of course, losing my current salary. My spouse and I both make pretty good money, we have a 4 month old child, we own a home and have 2 car notes, but no other debt. Considering these factors is it worth it to take on that amount of debt at 40 to make that kind salary?
Is having a more satisfying career, being a happier person, parent and spouse (not that I am unhappy personally, just very dissatisfied with my career) worth the loss of salary and debt?
Is that fair to my family?
posted by flesti
on Apr 14, 2011 -
Does anyone know if the music in the English trailer for The Girl Who Played With Fire is original to the film, or if it was pilfered from somewhere else?
posted by New England Cultist
on Dec 21, 2010 -
bunch of questions/confirmations about getting a reading device., mainly about formats and what is possible on the different devices. Despite reading a number of articles about the different devices, i still can't figure it out. [more inside]
posted by alkupe
on Nov 6, 2010 -
Is it possible to create a fillable PDF form that includes logic?
Assume there is a sum calculation with total of $1000.00
If check box = selected, tax=12%,
else if check box off, tax =0.
If check box is selected, the tax field will show $120.00 and the grand total below it (sum of total + tax) will be $1120.00
If check box is not selected, grand total will be $1000.00
posted by bright77blue
on Aug 18, 2010 -
Friends with Benefits filter (NSFW). Single straight woman, mid 40's. Despite putting in a reasonable effort, I haven't met anybody that I would like to pursue a relationship with. But I do have an attractive buddy who I'm certain would be up for a FWB thing. We dated 20 years ago, no interest in going that route. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 10, 2010 -
Where are some redundant switchmode power supplies with dual 240 AC inputs and a 12V DC output... I am looking for some models but google is not working for me. [more inside]
posted by gttommy
on May 24, 2010 -
BizarroFilter: GoogleFu failing me, very much need to stare into the abyss of my favourite cartoon of all time. Dan Pariro, Bizarro: Coke machine (a "That's Life!" machine, actually) offering such things as "Virtue" "Integrity" etc, but with yellow sticky reading "SOLD OUT" over "Shiny Crap". [more inside]
posted by TigerMoth
on Apr 20, 2010 -
How do I stop getting in awful moods because of my franky kind-of-irritating housemates? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jan 4, 2010 -
It is a 60's or 70;s cartoon film, it starts live action and involves a boy who enters a cartoon world, I seem to recall a winding road, and has a Dr Suess kind of feel to it.....Pretty vague I know, but it's all i can remember, apart from it being shown on Cartoon network about 10 Ish years ago, any one help me??
posted by maxmix
on Dec 18, 2009 -
How close are we to handheld laser weapons? I read an article about a laser on a C-130 burning a hole through a car, a 747 that can shoot down an ICBM, and now a truck-mounted laser that can bring down a plane or UAV. What kind of science challenges do we need to meet before these weapons are issued to soldiers, etc.? [more inside]
posted by uaudio
on Nov 19, 2009 -
I'm teaching a physical class that involves close contact. For warm up exercises I like to have people work in pairs to get comfortable touching. I can only think of a couple... [more inside]
posted by bleucube
on Nov 2, 2009 -
What to talk about - do's and don'ts on a meeting up with a good friend of the person who broke my heart quite badly a few months ago? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 26, 2009 -
I want to send HTML emails using Squirellmail.
I am having a time finding instructions.
Any help here?
posted by citybuddha
on Aug 11, 2009 -
CD-ROM with hypertext links to other documents on CD-ROM? I'm a luddite lawyer who needs help. So the Judge's rules say that I can file my brief on a CD_ROM and include hypertext links to exhibits on the same CD-ROM. I would love to do this since I will have many, many exhibits. How can I do this?
posted by bananafish
on Jun 18, 2009 -