Moving from Ohio to Florida with my 2 cats So many options : we decided to drive them than fly them... The vet said less stressful Now shoukd we do hard top cat carrier vs soft top? Any advice? Should we separate them? [more inside]
I am teaching a cooking class to smallish children at a summer camp next week. Help me figure out what do/make with with time constraints and young children! [more inside]
A stranger thought I stole his citybike and proceeded to yell at me. I live in a nice area and this man "looked" to be a respectable middle aged business man, so it came as quite a shock for me. I know I shouldn't care about what crazy strangers say, but getting called a bitch and a fucking c*** really disturbs me! [more inside]
How do I keep this going?---We're best friends living together--2 gay men---after 7 year relationship . My mental health nosedived, I got angry 24/7,my lover became a caretaker who kept me from worst impulses--he quit his job for years just to deal with my harmful ways. But now we have a house, lots of dogs, a fledgling business. Finally getting the right help, I've stopped playing destructive head games. I miss partner but best friends thing is actually working better than much of the relationship did. We actually talk more, get along better. what gives? [more inside]
I'm an atheist. I don't wear this fact on my sleeve. Most of the time, I actively avoid religion as a conversational topic. There are some conversations, however, where you can't duck the topic, because you're providing support to someone who has experienced a personal tragedy, such as the death of a loved one, and in the course of that conversation, they will invoke their religious beliefs. The question I am posing is: how can I provide emotional support and maintain proper boundaries while respecting their beliefs and my own as well?
Me, my elementary-age kid and spouse will be traveling to San Diego in several weeks. Things I would love to see there: fun street art (eg - a giant Mario on a brick wall, murals, pop art, etc) cool outdoor sculptures that kids are allowed to climb on, etc. [more inside]
Teeny Everyday was born ten days ago, and mom and baby are doing very well. To celebrate paternity leave ending, Mom had the bright (or maybe not so bright) idea of a road trip to her favorite national park, Death Valley. However, I've only been there once, and am somewhat hazy on the details of how we got to certain places of interest, like Zabriskie Point. Is this trip unrealistic with a newborn? [more inside]
We are visiting family members that I have not seen as a kid, what conversation starters can I have in my back pocket to avoid any awkward lulls in conversation? [more inside]
I'm curious to know your stories, or what it is that keeps you happy in the relationship you are in? Also is it possible to grow in love with a person when you are in a happy relationship? Before I confused love with infatuation and I don't want to go through that again! [more inside]
We stumbled on a Rain Drop Chandelier we'd like to purchase for over our coffee table. Before purchasing I googled the fixture details, finding the same fixture for 60% at Another Site. So we're good to go, only to find the site does not take creditcards. At checkout the main site gives the following information: As we are located in China, it is not easy for us to receive money from gloabl customers just for a low profit: 1. Paypal does require too high service-charging-fee (above 25% of total amount) from us. 2. Western Union is not safe for buyers. Also, it is not convenient to make a transaction. 3. Credit card channels usually hold the money at least 25 days. Therefore, now we do accept iTunes Gift Cards for your payment. My Question: Is this legit and just something I've never encountered? [more inside]
Is it time to chat with my father in law about how he feels in regards to my income and supporting his daughter? [more inside]
I'm going to be flying alone next month with my baby who will be almost one month old then. She just stopped nursing, and she's very much into crawling, rolling, and standing right now (as I type, she's not yet walking). She doesn't sleep when she's being held; she needs a crib or her carseat for that. There's no direct flight between here and destination city, and we can either divide it up between two 3-hour flights or one five-hour and one one-hour. I'm not a good flyer when I'm responsible only for myself, so I'm positively daunted by traveling alone with my daughter. I would appreciate any advice you could give me. [more inside]
I have ended a long-term relationship where we both had mental health issues (bipolar depression in my case). I haven't worked since 2005 but am a graduate (was back in 1991 though, I'm 44 now) and have about 12 years of work experience. I believe I could work again if given the opportunity, and am willing to do the work either on myself or in terms of learning marketable skills to become employable. I also have about £50,000 ($70,000 I guess?) remaining from an inheritance, which I'm using to live on. It's actually possible to buy a modest apartment where I live for that money, but then I would not be eligible for out-of-work benefits, hence the need to rent. I have never rented before, I lived in my parents house until age 36 and then with my partner in her mother's house until age 44. So I have no references to offer as a previous renter, and am quite socially isolated due to shyness so not sure about finding character references either. My credit score is great due to only modestly using a credit card for 10 years and paying it off each month, and not getting into debt during that time. How can I best sell myself to a letting agency as someone their landlords might want to rent to, and what concessions would I need to make for renting to be a possibility - pay a big deposit? rent in advance? money in escrow account? [more inside]
I have come to the conclusion that I am bad with money, and I need help. The question is, who can provide me with the help I need. I've researched various professions online and have a hard time telling who would best suit my needs: a bookkeeper, an accountant, a financial counselor, a daily money manager, someone else entirely?? More than one of these?? [more inside]
Was I being creepy / out of line when I offered this girl a ride? [more inside]
Can anybody who's seen the film please tell me what the actual dinner was in the movie My Dinner With Andre? Do you see the protagonists actually order and eat their food? What was the food? Do they comment on it? Does it look nice? Thanks a lot.
My boyfriend has a kid from his previous marriage, who is now long distance. He'll be coming to stay for a month in a few months, and I'm not sure what to do! (so many snowflake details!) [more inside]
I have been having a "war" with some competitors. They meet in the same restaurant where I've called a meeting next week. My meeting is couched as an "open meeting" (meaning anyone who is interested can come). It's a roundtable meeting of like minded people and meant to be informal, and it's not through any employer. I've put the invitation up publicly onto a blog. The problem is, if the three people who I've warred with were to show up, the meeting could quickly become their meeting. I want to take hold of the reins of my own meeting. [more inside]
Pretending to be normal. [more inside]
How do I get along with my opinionated, controlling and overbearing mom during her visit without fighting thereby worsening our relationship? [more inside]
A man is in love with a woman but admits to disliking and resenting her children. Am I trying to rationalize a relationship that doesn't (and will never) work? [more inside]
Normally I make a point of staying out of the deep end, but sometimes I realize I'm never more than a step away from it...
Artistic musings on the catastrophic loss of loved ones, and/or the possibility of ever really "getting over it"... [more inside]
how to cure from codependency? i am in a relatiosnhip with a guy for 8 months. we had some problems because i made him my life, i hink about him 24/7, i stress out about texts, phone calls and i panick if i do not get any. i am afraid i smother him. he asked me he would like to be again the independent girl i used to be when he met me. now, i feel posesive nd jelous if he goes out with his family or visits his mom. i feel i am ridiculous but i can't control myself. i feel i am obsessed with him
I am a technology specialist for a large public school district. In my school, I am a "prep" teacher. Classes come to me, the teacher leaves, and I have them for 50 minutes. Last year, for various reasons, I developed a phobia of being alone in charge of 25-30 kids by myself. I kept seeing danger to them and being unable to help. I took a leave from the middle of April through the end of the year. I tried to get an ELL position; that's my other license. ELL is small group and/or co-teaching and I would be just fine returning to it. [more inside]
Help identifying tunnel in BBC TV program, Coast [more inside]
London Filter: Aunt and Mom plus one nephew looking for a place to stay mid-August. Any ideas that are three day weekend central to everything with some character? [more inside]
I've achieved the absolutely perfect FWB situation. Absolutely perfect aside from the fact that I can't stand him. [more inside]
US Marine Corps: Active Duty vs. Reserves: My partner wants to be an active duty Marine but his only option may be to join the reserves. Mefites, what is your expierence with active duty vs. reserves, and how can I help him cope with his disapointment? [more inside]
What can be done about discrimination at work and if you feel bullied? [more inside]
This is a bit beyond my computer abilities... I am running mac OSX 10.5.8. I am trying to find a version of adobe air that will run on my machine but am just having the hardest time locating or even finding out what version works with my OS. Some love here would be appreciated.
Should my father in law be telling me what to do in regards to buying a house with my wife? [more inside]
I broke up with my first girlfriend of 2 years last night; did I do the right thing? / What am I doing with my life? *CAUTION: WALL OF TEXT *
I broke up with my first girlfriend of 2 years last night; did I do the right thing? / What am I doing with my life? *CAUTION: WALL OF TEXT * [more inside]
Righting social injustice, and racism, in investment banking [more inside]
Is it ok to choose to (temporarily) not interact with my depressed teen sister? What's the best way to provide very distant support?
Is it ok to choose to (temporarily) not interact with my depressed teen sister? What's the best way to provide very distant support? [more inside]
How do I handle this situation without looking like a jerk? We have a new person at work. This person will need a laptop and the company will purchase it. I have a laptop purchased by our company, but it's about 2-3 years old. I'd like to get a new laptop as mine is somewhat outdated, but the if I get a new one, the company wants me to give my old one to the new person. How do I handle this? I'm going to be in charge of the transfer and this new person will see that I am getting a new one while he is getting my old one. I don't want to look like a jerk. What do I say? Help?
how far back can you go to get a lung xray for ct comparison? And does having single nodules in each lung increase chance for cancer?
So I need to move some balls [more inside]
I am trying to find a desktop or office cubicle ( by which I mean pretty small and elegant) compatible amplifier. I just really need a headphone amplifier since I wont ever be able use any speakers at work, but I must be able to select between 3 different sources. [more inside]
Is it worth it at 40yrs. old to take out student loans and go back to school full-time for 2 years? The profession I am interested in has a starting pay around 45-60K and is in the healthcare profession, so jobs are plentiful. I would be taking out about 30K in loans and of course, losing my current salary. My spouse and I both make pretty good money, we have a 4 month old child, we own a home and have 2 car notes, but no other debt. Considering these factors is it worth it to take on that amount of debt at 40 to make that kind salary? Is having a more satisfying career, being a happier person, parent and spouse (not that I am unhappy personally, just very dissatisfied with my career) worth the loss of salary and debt? Is that fair to my family?
How do I play Modern Warfare 2 online with two local players? [more inside]
Does anyone know if the music in the English trailer for The Girl Who Played With Fire is original to the film, or if it was pilfered from somewhere else? SLYT
bunch of questions/confirmations about getting a reading device., mainly about formats and what is possible on the different devices. Despite reading a number of articles about the different devices, i still can't figure it out. [more inside]
Friends with Benefits filter (NSFW). Single straight woman, mid 40's. Despite putting in a reasonable effort, I haven't met anybody that I would like to pursue a relationship with. But I do have an attractive buddy who I'm certain would be up for a FWB thing. We dated 20 years ago, no interest in going that route. [more inside]
Can I apply for federal employment under Schedule A? [more inside]
Where are some redundant switchmode power supplies with dual 240 AC inputs and a 12V DC output... I am looking for some models but google is not working for me. [more inside]
BizarroFilter: GoogleFu failing me, very much need to stare into the abyss of my favourite cartoon of all time. Dan Pariro, Bizarro: Coke machine (a "That's Life!" machine, actually) offering such things as "Virtue" "Integrity" etc, but with yellow sticky reading "SOLD OUT" over "Shiny Crap". [more inside]
What I do with a manipulative, probably child molester Dad? [more inside]
How do I stop getting in awful moods because of my franky kind-of-irritating housemates? [more inside]