A friend and I have agreed to be in a third friend's wedding this fall. Lately the bride-to-be has been suggesting some potentially expensive pre-wedding activities. My friend and I are concerned with what we're expected to pay for as bridesmaids.
My questions are:
Is footing the bill for the bachelorette party or bridal shower the responsibility of the bridal party if the bride (or her sorta wealthy future mother-in-law) plans it?
Is it gauche for us to approach the bride and ask her what her expectations are after agreeing to be in the wedding?
posted by redbed
on May 29, 2007 -
Wedding Help - What are the various odd jobs and loose ends that friends could have helped you with when you got married? How can I make myself useful to dear friends getting hitched in another country at the end of the summer? [more inside]
posted by nelleish
on May 8, 2007 -
Does anyone have a recommendation for a wedding photographer in the Edinburgh (Scotland) area? [more inside]
posted by ascullion
on Apr 24, 2007 -
WeddingFilter: Help my girlfriend and I gracefully decline a request to work the reception table. Again. And forevermore. [more inside]
posted by krippledkonscious
on Apr 10, 2007 -
Please point me toward resources to help me cope with my family and their responses to my impending (gay) engagement. My Google-fu seems to be failing me. There's more details on my specific situation inside. [more inside]
posted by fiercecupcake
on Apr 3, 2007 -
How does one get ordained as a minister in NYC, so that they can perform legally binding weddings?
posted by skwm
on Jan 3, 2007 -
We're gettin' hitched in Pittsburgh!
I need help finding a reception/ceremony venue that 1) will hold at least 150 people, 2) will let me bring in my own catering, 3) will have a bar or a way to bring in a few kegs, and 4) be in a tent or indoors. [more inside]
posted by Alison
on Jul 21, 2006 -
My fiance is looking for wedding dresses this weekend, and is wondering if anyone has recommendations for stores in the San Francisco Bay Area (esp. SF, Peninsula and San Jose areas). She is looking for places with a good selection of <$2000 dresses. Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
posted by rorycberger
on Jun 15, 2006 -
I'm best man at my friend's wedding in July. What are all of my responsibilities? [more inside]
posted by sdis
on May 14, 2006 -
WeddingsFilter! Recommend elegant (read:non-Elvis), beautiful places in which to have a wedding ceremony in Las Vegas. Sound oxymoronic? [more inside]
posted by plexiwatt
on Jan 5, 2006 -
BridalShowerFilter: We are hosting a bridal shower for about 20 people at my house on Sunday. I have two questions. One is about punch. [more inside]
posted by anastasiav
on Sep 30, 2005 -
Dear Abby what should I do...
I’m in the wedding party of a once close friend, but I’m having doubts as to whether or not I should participate.
posted by anonymous
on Aug 22, 2005 -
Branch Centerpieces. Anybody know how to make them? The future Mrs. and I are cutting corners at our wedding by serving as our own florists. Ideally, they'd look something like this
but with white lights or candles replacing the Asian motif. Help from experienced DIYers would be appreciated...
posted by herc
on Jun 23, 2005 -
I'm supposed to be best man in a wedding for someone whose family is getting bent out of shape about me wearing my family's tartan because his family and mine never got along. Are there rules for this sort of thing? [more inside]
posted by small_ruminant
on May 22, 2005 -
Did you get married at the courthouse? Did you provide the judge with a gratuity? [more inside]
posted by peep
on May 7, 2005 -
I'm shooting my sister's wedding. I don't have experience shooting events like this. What should I know about shooting weddings? [more inside]
posted by mullingitover
on Apr 18, 2005 -
Weddingfilter: Church ceremony from 2 to 3pm; reception starting at 7pm, less than a half hour of travel in between. Is it too long to make people wait? Out of towners will have hotels nearby; friends might not really have anywhere to go. [more inside]
posted by onlyconnect
on Mar 30, 2005 -
I'm maid of honor in my sister's wedding in a month. The dress we ordered to match the other bridesmaid's dresses doesn't fit AT ALL. [more inside]
posted by LittleMissCranky
on Mar 30, 2005 -
WeddingFilter: My wedding ceremony will be secular. A friend will officiate. So we need to plan out the ceremony on our own. What is your advice for planning a meaningful ceremony? [more inside]
posted by about_time
on Mar 16, 2005 -
The soon-to-be-Mrs. and I have a wedding coming up in about six months, and we're in the planning stages right now. Married members - what do you know now (about wedding planning) that you wish you had known then? What are the little things that we should be thinking of now, but aren't? Others - what were some little things that you remember about weddings you've attended? What worked, and what didn't? [more inside]
posted by UKnowForKids
on Feb 25, 2005 -
If you were going to throw out the etiquette books, forget every tradition you've ever learned and try to build an inexpensive, small (30-50 person) wedding from the ground up, what traditions would you absolutely want to hold on to? What would you throw out the door? What would you do to make it less stressful for a couple that doesn't handle crowds well? And if you've got more than a year lead time, when would you even start thinking and worrying about this? [more inside]
posted by croutonsupafreak
on Oct 20, 2004 -
Do you regret having spent all that money and energy on your big, splash-out wedding? [MI] [more inside]
posted by squirrel
on Oct 4, 2004 -
Artwork for a wedding gift? It's probably a little risky, but I think I know their tastes such that it will go over well. [More, as usual, inside.] [more inside]
posted by aladfar
on Aug 6, 2004 -
I am fairly well resolved to do what must be done to turn my girlfriend into my fiance. One thing is delaying this: I'd like to get an engagement ring without enriching the diamond monopoly (she and I are both on the same page about this). What's to know about substitute/faux/synthetic gemstones? Are they worth it? What would make a good ring given this unorthodox constraint? Any and all suggestions much appreciated!
posted by cleetus
on Jul 14, 2004 -
I've heard that making Wedding Creative Stuff is this crazy ripoff conjob, and I'm all for getting into that. Invites, photography, videography, it's a goldmine! I'm pretty stocked equipment wise with Prosumer-level cameras and video equipment, and I'm a designer by trade. Question is, how do I start out? Should I do some friends' and family weddings for free? Do I have to get cushy with Wedding Planners? And do people really pay so much for the crap I usually see because they're naive or do I have to pull some Car Salesman trickery (i.e. "You only get the photos if you purchase this custom binded book")?
posted by Stan Chin
on Feb 6, 2004 -
Etiquette question: when weddings and professional obligations clash, what do you do? [more inside] [more inside]
posted by jessamyn
on Jan 24, 2004 -