In March, Mrs. HeroZero and I exchanged vows and rings at City Hall with a very small group of friends and immediate family. On Labor Day, we're having a bigger wedding party with the friends and family who couldn't come to the original, tiny event. What are some ideas for making this ceremony meaningful in a way that's different from how a wedding goes? [more inside]
posted by HeroZero
on Jul 20, 2014 -
My youngest brother is getting married next month and, through the oft-celebrated-on-MeFi wonders of a Universal Life Church ordination, I'm set to perform the service. My brother and his spouse-to-be are both video game aficionados. I'd like to subtly insert some clever video game/nerd culture references into their vows. I'm not personally a gamer, though, so this stuff doesn't come naturally. What's more, I'd like to sort of walk a line such that said references would not be so over-the-top, eye-roll inducing, or confusing that non-gamers would be confused or irritated. Ideas?
posted by DirtyOldTown
on Jul 19, 2014 -
One of the possibilities we've discussed for our wedding next year would be to have it in some sort of "country-ish" setting. We live in Atlanta but the idea of a more casual feeling wedding that mixes the beautiful, sprawling outdoors near to a covered building or tent is very appealing to us. [more inside]
posted by rbf1138
on Jul 15, 2014 -
I have two brothers-in-law, my husband's younger siblings. Both of them are getting married. The older of the two, who we'll call Brother A, has been planning his wedding for a while. His fiancé and he have been dating for a few years and are planning a traditional wedding for next year in August. The younger, Brother B, is getting married ASAP to a girlfriend he has only been dating briefly, for well... the classic reason for getting married in a hurry. They also want to get married in August, of this year. Brother A says that's "his" month. Is that even a thing? [more inside]
posted by Comrade Doll
on Jun 30, 2014 -
Brit who watches lots of American sitcoms here. It seems weddings in such programmes Friends, Big Bang Theory, Girls) are always performed by someone who 'bought a certificate online'. Does this really happen? I can't even imagine the amount of bureaucracy it would require here! Have anyone Mefites done it themselves?
posted by Dorothea_in_Rome
on May 24, 2014 -
My fiance needs a suit, possibly even a tux. He is very tall and slender. What are some good resources to find a suit that will look flattering on him? [more inside]
posted by lady3bird
on May 22, 2014 -
I agreed to be a bridesmaid for a friend who wants her bridesmaids to be a lot more present (physically) than I am going to be able to in the lead-up to the wedding. What do I do now? [more inside]
posted by kagredon
on May 17, 2014 -
We are considering eloping or having a wedding with an extremely limited guest list. Has anyone had a great experience with this? Will I regret it? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC
on Apr 9, 2014 -
The focus should be on the bride, NOT on the taffeta-covered hobo skulking around the cheese trays: please, PLEASE help me (a non-fancy-dressing lady) dress myself for the four weddings I'll be attending this year. (Sequins shaped like) snowflakes inside! [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew
on Apr 1, 2014 -
I have a great best man. I do not want to have a "co" best man at my wedding. I have another friend who is very close to me, and I want to give him a title that signifies he isn't simply a groomsmen but is one of my very closest friends. Is there another title I can give him which will make him feel important and that's not BS. Thanks, Z
posted by quiverandquill
on Feb 28, 2014 -
I am getting married in the middle of July 2014, and have a link to our gift registries on our wedding website. We sent out "Save the Date" cards in January that had the URL for our website printed on it. So it is now the end of February, and we are already starting to receive giant parcels of food processors and other household items which we have put on our registry. Should we wait until after our wedding to start using these items, or should we treat these items in the same way one would treat a wrapped Christmas gift, and wait until the actual event for which these gifts were purchased for has transpired? What's the normal etiquette for a thing like this?
posted by melorama
on Feb 21, 2014 -
Over the past two years an old friend and I have been working to mend years of mutual resentment stemming from poor choices we both made in the past. I don't feel like the details of those choices are particularly relevant to the problem at hand, but we've both had to reach out and admit to wrongdoing. This isn't a one-way issue, we both did horrible things to each other.
posted by ISeemToBeAVerb
on Jan 22, 2014 -
My fiancee and I are getting married in April and we're planning to do our first dance to be sort of a last dance (after the parent dances) that kicks off the dance/party portion of the evening. Our dancing will be "fast", a reflection of our fun-loving personalities (and reflection that we met at a bar, dancing), perfect for a fairly rowdy crowd (but safe for all ages), and not requiring anything new to learn. .
Have you done or seen something like this? What tips do you have? [more inside]
posted by sandmanwv
on Dec 4, 2013 -
I said I would go to my cousin's wedding this weekend. I am on my second day home sick with a massive cold and just don't think I'll be up to it... [more inside]
posted by JoannaC
on Oct 10, 2013 -
A good friend of mine is getting married soon, and is looking for some Arabic language music for her wedding ceremony. She is of Lebanese Christian descent, and I believe would prefer more secular music. Any poppy, or dance floor-friendly, or romantic, or classic, or beautiful suggestions would be much appreciated!
posted by palindromic
on Sep 24, 2013 -
As the title states I've got a wedding in Charleston, SC in July. I'm planning on getting a blue seersucker jacket anyways, so I've been looking on how to put this all together. I've come up with two ensembles
that I think would work best.
The main differences between the two are the pants really...white pants vs blue. The shoes coordinate appropriately as white shoes/pants wouldn't really work. The shirt choices, white or pastel pink are negotiable, as is the bowtie vs regular tie. I'd likely pocket square it up as well. Opinions? I'm open to any other styles or ways to arrange it all.
If it bears any relevance my girlfriend will be wearing this
posted by PetiePal
on Jun 19, 2013 -
I don't know a thing about menswear except that men sometimes wear it. My husband's one suit is finally done for, and he needs a new one by the end of the week. [He doesn't know much, either.] He wears a suit primarily for weddings and funerals, maybe once or twice a year. What style of suit will last him for years without becoming out-of-date? [more inside]
posted by galadriel
on Apr 22, 2013 -
Give me examples of awesome wedding toasts. Touching, unique, funny - whatever. Just ones that stood out to you. Either what was said, or his they delivered it, or whatever made it great. It can be from personal experience, or link to a movie scene or something from a book passage. Anything applies.
posted by rastapasta
on Mar 3, 2013 -
Whole lamb: spit roast or roast on grill (or cut up and grill?). Planning an outdoor festive summer wedding, and the menu is smoked brisket and lamb. I've long wanted to spit roast a lamb, or roast it whole in the ground, but I've also been hearing from experienced hands that this is not great for lamb (although it is traditional), because different parts of the lamb are best cooked to different temperatures--they suggest getting a whole lamb butchered, and roasting the cuts individually.
Does anyone have any experience, or suggestions, they can share? I saw this thread
, but it didn't speak to the overall advisability of the endeavor. Thanks!
posted by oneironaut
on Dec 29, 2012 -
I'm currently a maid of honor in NYC. My bride wants to invite 24 ladies to a night on the town for her bachelorette party. Please help us not kill each other. [more inside]
posted by thirdletter
on Dec 26, 2012 -
[geometryfilter] I have to assemble a tiered cake stand to hold cupcakes at a wedding tomorrow. The tiers and the styrofoam thingies that will separate the tiers are all circular. How do I make sure that I get each tier centered properly on the next?
posted by undue influence
on Dec 13, 2012 -
What is the socially acceptable way to refer to weddings of different cultures in the US? Is it non-PC to refer to 'American weddings' when distinguishing traditional white-American weddings, vs weddings of other cultures? [more inside]
posted by Conductor71
on Nov 15, 2012 -
What's that movie? filter: I'm looking for the title of a classic movie where a couple plans a wedding and it makes everyone unhappy. [more inside]
posted by petiteviolette
on Oct 5, 2012 -
My friend is getting married and has requested that instead of a present wedding attendees give money to facilitate post wedding travel. I would like to give them some travel related gift other than money. Is this wrong? [more inside]
posted by Xurando
on Sep 25, 2012 -
(re)met the daughter of a family friend last weekend at a wedding. We hadn't seen each other since we were 6 or 7 and she is two years younger than I am. The challenge--spent three hours together, live 600 miles apart, and I can't stop thinking about her. A few more details, but the question is "How can I see if this has potential to go somewhere?" [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 23, 2012 -
Can anyone recommend a small jazz or blues band (3 or fewer musicians) to play a short wedding reception in a small space in New Orleans in October? [more inside]
posted by Latifolia
on Aug 19, 2012 -
You live in NYC, and you want to have a party to celebrate your very simple City Hall marriage ceremony. But it's complicated. (money issues and feeling guilty inside!)
posted by anonymous
on Aug 9, 2012 -
Handcuffing the groom to a midget on his stag do is an immoral and degrading tradition. So, we want to find a gorgeous, very tall, blonde Atlas of a hunk to handcuff him to, in Dublin. Where should I look? Modelling agencies? Dating website?
posted by omnigut
on May 26, 2012 -
Estranged from my sister because of her wedding and personality. To make this right or cut off my narcissistic sister. [more inside]
posted by sweltering
on May 13, 2012 -
We've been invited to a wedding brunch/shower at a restaurant in NYC and I've already RSVP'd that we're attending - should I be expecting that we have to pay for our meal? [more inside]
posted by Neely O'Hara
on May 2, 2012 -
So, how long does it really take to plan a wedding? (I know the answer is 'it depends on the wedding', but honestly, we don't even know where to start.) [more inside]
posted by Catseye
on Apr 7, 2012 -
I'm posting this as anonymous as I have some friends and family who read this site, and they don't know we're this serious yet.
My girlfriend and I are talking about getting married this summer if we can afford it and afford living together. We're looking at possibly Saint Malo off of Highway 7, Panorama Point or doing something in Rocky Mountain National Park. We're leaning more towards a summer wedding outdoors, June or July. Saint Malo is great, but expensive for what we want ($1000 for a few hours). Panorama Point in Golden Gate State park is more feasible. We're both really practical so we want our friends and family there but not at significant cost or debt.
Other then Rocky Mountain National Park or Golden Gate State park, what are some good locations in Colorado for an outdoor wedding?
In terms of cost, food for < 30 guests, location, photographer etc... what should we plan to spend? We're talking about doing it on a weekday.
posted by anonymous
on Oct 31, 2011 -
I have to be in a wedding this week and I really don't feel like dealing with the new request about having to wear heels.
And I look like a WIDE LOAD in this stupid dress I have to wear. Help me calm down. [more inside]
posted by KogeLiz
on Oct 18, 2011 -
I have extreme anxiety about leaving the house and being in groups. I'm going to my sister's wedding this holiday weekend. I've worked up to dealing with crowds on ferries, driving there, what I'll be wearing and gifts I'll be giving. I still have no clue what to say to people or what people talk about at these events. Help? Specific special details included. [more inside]
posted by kanata
on Oct 2, 2011 -
Taking my wedding dress on a plane- Help!
I have two options:
1) Take it in the bag and hope that the plane will hang it up in first class even though i am sitting in coach
2) Pack it in my bag (its fairly small and lace) and get it steamed somewhere on the other end. Where can you get things steamed? Do they do that at dry cleaner?
What do you recommend?
posted by tessalations999
on Aug 29, 2011 -
Two weddings coming up:
Wedding A is outside at night, and wedding B is indoors at night and the invitation states that it is "formal." I own two suits: a black wool traditional suit, and this one: http://www.mrporter.com/product/301855 [more inside]
posted by rbf1138
on Jul 25, 2011 -
Ideas for bachelorette party in Providence, RI? I really wanted to do a group hot tub/ sauna thing but have not been able to find a place. I have a group of about 12 ladies. I love the outdoors, spas, games. It would be nice to do something intimate where we can talk and bond. Also, a low price point is important because the girls are all coming from out of town. Thanks so much for your help!
posted by tessalations999
on Jun 6, 2011 -
My friend (let's call her Amanda) is having a stagette, which is being planned by a completely different group of friends from the ones that we share. She's known these ladies since childhood, and I hardly know them at all. I feel like Amanda's friends are planning a stagette that goes strongly against Amanda's taste and wishes. Should I say something to the party planners? If so, how? (more inside) [more inside]
posted by owlparliament
on Jun 2, 2011 -
Wedding week, visiting parents, close quarters: my parents helped me buy the apartment my fiance and I live in. They'd like to stay on our couch for three nights before the wedding. I love them, like spending time with them, and would want them to stay with us... any other week except this one! Am I being a jerk? [more inside]
posted by sestaaak
on May 29, 2011 -
Weddings: can we invite some of my second cousins without inviting them all? And how to minimize the fallout it we don't? [more inside]
posted by joshuaconner
on May 26, 2011 -
We need to hire an affordable NYC musician to play at our wedding. Ideally it would be a banjo player but I will settle for something traditional like a violinist. We're on a shoestring budget. DJ recommendations are fine, too. [more inside]
posted by Hwaet
on May 23, 2011 -