A friend and I have received the tremendous honor of being asked to co-officiate the wedding of our close friends, Bride and Groom. Bride and Groom have given us a long leash for the ceremony, with only two requests: first, that the ceremony be "humorous and heartfelt" and second, that we meaningfully acknowledge the Bride's mother, who died several years ago. What might be a good way to reconcile a humorous ceremony with an emotionally significant tribute? [more inside]
I love my boyfriend, I want to marry my boyfriend. I am deeply uncomfortable with being a bride.The idea of being engaged makes me want to hide under my desk and have a panic attack. Please hope me. [more inside]
A few months ago I got an invitation to the wedding of an old friend. ("old"=we were close friends a long time ago; I've seen him two or three times in the last decade and we're barely in touch online). It's far away from me, and we're not close anymore. Does he actually want me to come, or is this just a thing people do? The RSVP date is next week, so it's decision time. [more inside]
This November, my fiancé and I will finally be getting married. His family will be flying in from India, for the wedding. While his mother and sister will be leaving shortly after, his father will be spending an additional six weeks with us ... and I'm not sure how I'm going to handle such an extended stay. Talking to my fiance hasn't been very successful; he accused me of not wanting him to spend time with his dad. How do I deal with such a long visit? Help! (Additional important details below.) [more inside]
I've been performing weddings as a side gig for going on two years now. One of my trademarks is seamlessly working a few things related to the couple's interests into the ceremony. But the next couple? They like fishing and the Grateful Dead. If you know any literary allusions or jokes or stories or what have you that could tie fishing into a wedding, that would be much appreciated. If you know the Dead well enough to recommend romantic or relationship-oriented lyrics from their catalog, also good. If you can somehow do both of those things and find Dead lyrics that invoke love and fishing, YOU ARE A MIRACLE AND I LOVE YOU.
I want to buy a gift to present to my four-your-old stepson-to-be at our wedding. I am not sure what the gift should be. Special snowflake details inside :) [more inside]
Friends are getting married and have asked me to select a reading for the wedding. What are some good readings for weddings? (This will not be a religious wedding.) [more inside]
My partner's former roommate is getting married and we're invited. I want to go in the interests of not rocking the boat. But I have reasons for not wanting to go. [more inside]
My fiancee and I are getting married in a secular ceremony in Atlanta (ceremony in Fulton County, living in Dekalb County) two weeks from now. Our friend, who lives in California, will be officiating the wedding. We've already obtained the marriage license but want to make sure that our friend is properly credentialed to make the marriage legal when she signs it after the ceremony. [more inside]
We're looking for a rehearsal dinner in Toronto for up to 125 people. We'd like it to be transit-accessible. Our limit is $65/person for food and rental and we want a consumption bar. Any suggestions? [more inside]
My fiancee asks: I need to have my wedding dress altered and I'm trying to choose a place to go but having trouble finding a spot I can trust. Yelp reviews for some places are great but then there are the negative reviews that stick out and scare me away. [more inside]
My cousin is getting married abroad, and I don't want to go. I can't come to a decision. It's not a big financial/time strain, but I don't want to go, and don't know how to respond. [more inside]
I am in my sister’s wedding this summer, and need a bra recommendation. [more inside]
My fiancee and I are trying to keep wedding costs down and are entertaining the idea of printing some of the paper items necessary ourselves (rehearsal dinner invite, wedding invitation insert, ceremony program, etc.). Is there a consumer printer that costs under $150 that could do a pretty good job with these things? Looking at Amazon is kind of overwhelming with the various makes and models, and since I haven't bought a printer in many years I'm not sure what to trust. [more inside]
My boyfriend's wonderful, kind, generous sibling is getting married, hooray! But they think gay marriage is immoral, and as a queer person with many queer friends I don't know what to do now. [more inside]
Most of our friends have kids under age five. We're considering whether and how to make our wedding a kid-friendly event. Have you seen this done? Have you tried it? As a parent, what would help? Or do you just want a night out? Would anything make you more likely to stay overnight for more fun the next day? [more inside]
What are the pros and cons to having a wedding at a large vacation rental home? What should we be thinking about? Details inside. [more inside]
I'm considering forming an LLC, purchasing an event property (former church), and renting it as an additional income source - primarily for weddings and catered events. Assume I'm completely green in this industry - which is almost true. [more inside]
How do I write a memorable, but not too memorable wedding toast? I've looked at previous questions, and looked online but I'm having a trouble due to complicating factors. [more inside]
In March, Mrs. HeroZero and I exchanged vows and rings at City Hall with a very small group of friends and immediate family. On Labor Day, we're having a bigger wedding party with the friends and family who couldn't come to the original, tiny event. What are some ideas for making this ceremony meaningful in a way that's different from how a wedding goes? [more inside]
My youngest brother is getting married next month and, through the oft-celebrated-on-MeFi wonders of a Universal Life Church ordination, I'm set to perform the service. My brother and his spouse-to-be are both video game aficionados. I'd like to subtly insert some clever video game/nerd culture references into their vows. I'm not personally a gamer, though, so this stuff doesn't come naturally. What's more, I'd like to sort of walk a line such that said references would not be so over-the-top, eye-roll inducing, or confusing that non-gamers would be confused or irritated. Ideas?
One of the possibilities we've discussed for our wedding next year would be to have it in some sort of "country-ish" setting. We live in Atlanta but the idea of a more casual feeling wedding that mixes the beautiful, sprawling outdoors near to a covered building or tent is very appealing to us. [more inside]
I have two brothers-in-law, my husband's younger siblings. Both of them are getting married. The older of the two, who we'll call Brother A, has been planning his wedding for a while. His fiancé and he have been dating for a few years and are planning a traditional wedding for next year in August. The younger, Brother B, is getting married ASAP to a girlfriend he has only been dating briefly, for well... the classic reason for getting married in a hurry. They also want to get married in August, of this year. Brother A says that's "his" month. Is that even a thing? [more inside]
Looking for something in between gowns and suits. [more inside]
Brit who watches lots of American sitcoms here. It seems weddings in such programmes Friends, Big Bang Theory, Girls) are always performed by someone who 'bought a certificate online'. Does this really happen? I can't even imagine the amount of bureaucracy it would require here! Have anyone Mefites done it themselves?
My fiance needs a suit, possibly even a tux. He is very tall and slender. What are some good resources to find a suit that will look flattering on him? [more inside]
I agreed to be a bridesmaid for a friend who wants her bridesmaids to be a lot more present (physically) than I am going to be able to in the lead-up to the wedding. What do I do now? [more inside]
We are considering eloping or having a wedding with an extremely limited guest list. Has anyone had a great experience with this? Will I regret it? [more inside]
The focus should be on the bride, NOT on the taffeta-covered hobo skulking around the cheese trays: please, PLEASE help me (a non-fancy-dressing lady) dress myself for the four weddings I'll be attending this year. (Sequins shaped like) snowflakes inside! [more inside]
I have a great best man. I do not want to have a "co" best man at my wedding. I have another friend who is very close to me, and I want to give him a title that signifies he isn't simply a groomsmen but is one of my very closest friends. Is there another title I can give him which will make him feel important and that's not BS. Thanks, Z
I am getting married in the middle of July 2014, and have a link to our gift registries on our wedding website. We sent out "Save the Date" cards in January that had the URL for our website printed on it. So it is now the end of February, and we are already starting to receive giant parcels of food processors and other household items which we have put on our registry. Should we wait until after our wedding to start using these items, or should we treat these items in the same way one would treat a wrapped Christmas gift, and wait until the actual event for which these gifts were purchased for has transpired? What's the normal etiquette for a thing like this?
Over the past two years an old friend and I have been working to mend years of mutual resentment stemming from poor choices we both made in the past. I don't feel like the details of those choices are particularly relevant to the problem at hand, but we've both had to reach out and admit to wrongdoing. This isn't a one-way issue, we both did horrible things to each other. [more inside]
My fiancee and I are getting married in April and we're planning to do our first dance to be sort of a last dance (after the parent dances) that kicks off the dance/party portion of the evening. Our dancing will be "fast", a reflection of our fun-loving personalities (and reflection that we met at a bar, dancing), perfect for a fairly rowdy crowd (but safe for all ages), and not requiring anything new to learn. . Have you done or seen something like this? What tips do you have? [more inside]
I said I would go to my cousin's wedding this weekend. I am on my second day home sick with a massive cold and just don't think I'll be up to it... [more inside]
What’s my moral obligation here regarding my brother’s wedding? A doozy inside. [more inside]
A good friend of mine is getting married soon, and is looking for some Arabic language music for her wedding ceremony. She is of Lebanese Christian descent, and I believe would prefer more secular music. Any poppy, or dance floor-friendly, or romantic, or classic, or beautiful suggestions would be much appreciated!
As the title states I've got a wedding in Charleston, SC in July. I'm planning on getting a blue seersucker jacket anyways, so I've been looking on how to put this all together. I've come up with two ensembles that I think would work best. The main differences between the two are the pants really...white pants vs blue. The shoes coordinate appropriately as white shoes/pants wouldn't really work. The shirt choices, white or pastel pink are negotiable, as is the bowtie vs regular tie. I'd likely pocket square it up as well. Opinions? I'm open to any other styles or ways to arrange it all. If it bears any relevance my girlfriend will be wearing this.
I don't know a thing about menswear except that men sometimes wear it. My husband's one suit is finally done for, and he needs a new one by the end of the week. [He doesn't know much, either.] He wears a suit primarily for weddings and funerals, maybe once or twice a year. What style of suit will last him for years without becoming out-of-date? [more inside]
Give me examples of awesome wedding toasts. Touching, unique, funny - whatever. Just ones that stood out to you. Either what was said, or his they delivered it, or whatever made it great. It can be from personal experience, or link to a movie scene or something from a book passage. Anything applies.
Whole lamb: spit roast or roast on grill (or cut up and grill?). Planning an outdoor festive summer wedding, and the menu is smoked brisket and lamb. I've long wanted to spit roast a lamb, or roast it whole in the ground, but I've also been hearing from experienced hands that this is not great for lamb (although it is traditional), because different parts of the lamb are best cooked to different temperatures--they suggest getting a whole lamb butchered, and roasting the cuts individually. Does anyone have any experience, or suggestions, they can share? I saw this thread, but it didn't speak to the overall advisability of the endeavor. Thanks!
I'm currently a maid of honor in NYC. My bride wants to invite 24 ladies to a night on the town for her bachelorette party. Please help us not kill each other. [more inside]
[geometryfilter] I have to assemble a tiered cake stand to hold cupcakes at a wedding tomorrow. The tiers and the styrofoam thingies that will separate the tiers are all circular. How do I make sure that I get each tier centered properly on the next?
What is the socially acceptable way to refer to weddings of different cultures in the US? Is it non-PC to refer to 'American weddings' when distinguishing traditional white-American weddings, vs weddings of other cultures? [more inside]
What's that movie? filter: I'm looking for the title of a classic movie where a couple plans a wedding and it makes everyone unhappy. [more inside]
My friend is getting married and has requested that instead of a present wedding attendees give money to facilitate post wedding travel. I would like to give them some travel related gift other than money. Is this wrong? [more inside]
Help me assess how much of a problem these not-so-nicely printed wedding invitations are. [more inside]
(re)met the daughter of a family friend last weekend at a wedding. We hadn't seen each other since we were 6 or 7 and she is two years younger than I am. The challenge--spent three hours together, live 600 miles apart, and I can't stop thinking about her. A few more details, but the question is "How can I see if this has potential to go somewhere?" [more inside]
Can anyone recommend a small jazz or blues band (3 or fewer musicians) to play a short wedding reception in a small space in New Orleans in October? [more inside]
You live in NYC, and you want to have a party to celebrate your very simple City Hall marriage ceremony. But it's complicated. (money issues and feeling guilty inside!) [more inside]
Help me put together a wedding planning binder for a friend! [more inside]