Wedding in 5 weeks. We still haven't figured out any of the script for our wedding. The officient sent us a handful of sample ceremonies, but none of them really feel like us. The "I ______ take thee _________ to be my wife/husband, for richer or poorer" etc vows we are totally stuck on, and frankly the ring exchange lines are also sticking us up too. Please help. The green always has such creative suggestions! Don't fail me now! [more inside]
Is someone 'allowed' to invite themselves to the church service of an acquaintance's wedding? Technically allowed, or socially allowed? Are church services 'open'? [Snowflakey fact scenario inside.] [more inside]
I got engaged about a week and a half ago. This is terrific, except now I have to tell my mom about it and she is almost certainly NOT going to be kind. I want her to hear from me, but I need to do it in a way that minimizes her ability to be emotionally abusive. Help? [more inside]
My wedding is coming up this fall, My dad and I have brewed the beer to serve. Now we'd like to come up with some punny names for the beer. Please Help! What we have so far: Something Borrowed, Something Brewed (Speckled Heckle, A Spotted Cow Clone (A popular beer here in wisconsin)) [more inside]
My 33 year old older brother is sponging off my parents and isn't getting a job, I'm worried that he's going to get kicked out of my parents' house. He got fired a while ago and I'm pretty sure his main problem is depression/having given up; I'm pretty sure he's better than this though. [more inside]
My best friend is flying over to the US next week to have a very small wedding ceremony with her beloved and some family, before they both come back to England to live. It was all pretty late notice and none of her friends from over here will be attending. She's said she doesn't want a big fuss made and they will probably have a party over here next year to celebrate, but I'd still love to give her a little something to take along so that she knows I'm thinking of her. Ideas please! [more inside]
my friend invited me alone to her wedding. I asked her about it. I'm invited with no guest. now, do I have to go? [more inside]
Planning my wedding in Atlanta - looking for a place for a really, really small wedding that's nice and not too expensive. [more inside]
I am interested in learning more about anthropological approaches to family structure, and especially marriages and funerals. I have heard that anthropologists think of marriages and funerals as fundamentally similar because they are about shifts in who is a member of a family. A marriage adds someone, and a funeral takes someone away. Both marriages and funerals often take place in religious settings. Extended families are invited to both. A ritualized meal follows both a wedding and a funeral. These events are announced in newspapers, etc.. Can you tell me what anthropologists have written about these structural similarities of weddings and funerals? Any leads would be most appreciated.
Seeing prices of GBP 1300 - 2000, which is above what I'd like to spend, and the lower end seems to lack experience, am I just being a cheapskate? [more inside]
My wife and I are attending a wedding(ish) event, and are a bit stumped for gift ideas. The couple is currently in the US for the ceremony and attendant celebration, but will soon be heading back to Thailand, where they normally live and work. They didn't do any sort of registry, and obviously won't want to take anything bulky or heavy with them. Any brilliant ideas, other than cash?
I need to go to a wedding in 2 weeks. I own no clothes except jeans & shorts. I'm 25. I haven't worn a skirt or anything since I was 15, and it was awful then. But I would like to wear clothes that are awesome. I really like this pinboard, and in particular this outfit, though with less pattern & scarf. Basically I've been looking enviously at awesome lesbian wedding pictures. Where should I shop? What should I buy? I am totally at a loss. [more inside]
I'm getting married in a couple of months. When we got engaged, I was so excited--I planned most of the basic details of the wedding in a haze of extreme happiness. Now that it's getting closer, I'm no longer excited. I'm actually mildly dreading it and I'll do anything to avoid getting out of wedding prep stuff. [more inside]
What are the good old-school country songs I can two-step to with my dad at my upcoming wedding? Looking for stuff along the lines of the old country royalty - Hank Williams, Johnny Cash, Patsy Cline, Willie Nelson, etc. [more inside]
My two good friends are getting hitched in September. Both are going to be present at the 'wedding shower'. I'm trying to come up with a good gift to give them that is outdoor/nature themed. My original idea was to get them something like a double person sleeping bag (way too expensive though.. $200+) and now I'm still trying to put something together. I will probably add in a giftcard with $20 on it for them to purchase midnight snacks, smores ingredients. As their wedding gift I will be getting them the National Park Annual Pass which is why I'm hoping their gift now can be used during their camping/hiking adventures. They have all the typical gear like tents, boots, etc. Any other clever ideas out there?
We just decided to get married in San Francisco, in about a month. Do you have any recommendations for a wedding planner who will help with venues and food? We are thinking of an outdoor ceremony followed by a dinner at a restaurant or catered venue. Or a boat cruise with decent food. We don't need flowers, music, dancing, invitations, decorations or seating arrangements. We basically need someone to suggest an available venue (and get the requisite permits if needed) and organize the food reception afterwards. This will be for about 20-30 guests. Any suggestions on a specific location, or for a wedding planner? The goal is something like a cross between eloping and a wedding. Fast and fun! [more inside]
My fiance and I are getting married this November in Las Vegas. It will be just the two of us, Elvis, and a photographer- and we need to figure out who the photographer will be. [more inside]
Philadelphia-filter: ISO of an awesome salon or hair and makeup team for a wedding. [more inside]
Our wedding is in two weeks, and we are stocking our own bar. Problem is, we have absolutely no idea what to buy. How much alcohol do we need for 100 people, and what kinds? More details within. [more inside]
My friend and her fiance have been engaged for five years and they've finally set a wedding date for next year. Over the past several years, my friend has changed into someone I barely recognize. I’ve had to distance myself from her toxic behavior and no longer count her as a close friend. She still thinks of us as best friends and hasn’t asked anyone else to be in her bridal party. She has no other close friends to ask but I just can’t do it anymore. What’s the kindest possible way to tell her? [more inside]
I went "no contact" with my birth family years ago, but I will have to see and likely interact with all of them for the first time since then at my sister's wedding, which is happening soon. How can I make sure that I can ably address whatever might come up with ease and clarity? I am not looking to re-establish any sort of regular communication with them at all, I am just trying to figure out how to gracefully handle encountering them at a single event. [more inside]
What time of year and what location is feasible for having a wedding in Northern Europe, given that we aren't averse to snow and want to have a small ceremony? [more inside]
My close friend is getting married in a few weeks, no registry. I'm traveling to the wedding. Cash is cold, no? What's a bridesmaid to do? [more inside]
I make a gift for our wedding anniversary every year. This year I need to make something out of / involving leather, but the amount of work/resources needed to craft leather seems quite daunting. Any ideas or cool alternatives? [more inside]
I've taken an exciting job in Italy! Everything has gone well with the immigration process for me, but I'd also like my wife to get here too... [more inside]
Seeking ideas for being a witty, interesting and entertaining wedding MC. [more inside]
I'm getting married next week. Eeep! I've scoured the archives, but am still looking for the right song to end the ceremony. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
We're holding a small, very causal, non-traditional outdoor wedding and are trying to figure out what the groom should wear. There is a trend in various combinations of vests, bowties and suspenders,. We're thinking about going with something like this, but we don't want it to look like a 70s blue tuxedo in a decade. We're excited about everything we've decided so far and we definitely don't want to go with something overly formal. If the groom wears a vest and tie or bowtie and suspenders, is it going to look trendy and terrible in 10 or 15 years?
Hi there! My fiancee and I are looking to get married in Florida in either the spring or fall (hopefully when it’s not boiling hot). We plan to invite about 200 people and we’re looking for a venue where we can have both the ceremony and the reception (and if it were a hotel as well, all the better). We’re looking for someplace within a 45-minute drive of Boca Raton, so we’re talking about places like Delray Beach, Boca del Mar, Deerfield Beach, Pompano Beach all the way down to Fort Lauderdale. (There may be other places nearby besides the ones I’ve listed.) The trick is, we’re looking for an INDOOR venue that’s more than just four solid walls. Ideally we’d like something with lots of windows and a view, and maybe even a patio. If anyone has any ideas, we’d be very grateful. TripAdvisor or Yelp links are *especially* welcome. Thanks everyone! Much obliged to MetaFilter!
I'm getting married in 10 days, and it's stressful for everybody involved, mostly because I have controlling parents who are intricately involved with every part of this. Any tips/advice for coping with this situation? Lots of culture-specific snowflake details inside. [more inside]
Getting married in a few months, which means I want to start any facial/beauty regimens now. I don't usually do this stuff, so am entranced by the field of options. However, I know that this field contains the biggest BS factor of any out there. Please give me your best ideas of things that are scientifically proven to work, or that there is at least some data about why it works or would or wouldn't work. Please also tell me which of the things I'm considering looking at are drecht or dangerous crazytown. Help me not waste my money or wind up maimed. [more inside]
I'm looking for readings that talk about going on adventures together, or even better, one person taking the lead and showing the other person a lot of adventures. [more inside]
What quote or passage about love that was 'meant to be' or about rekindled romance, or about always knowing that someone was right for you, should I use in my maid of honor speech at a wedding? [more inside]
Is it okay to ask guests not to take photos during our wedding ceremony? [more inside]
Please help me find this retro wedding dress boutique in NYC that caters to plus-sized women. I may have totally made up this place in my head. [more inside]
Please suggest to me the best DRUGSTORE makeups and hair products that will look the best, last the longest, will look good in pictures, and will be the most likely to survive a long day where I kinda need to look good the whole time. I don't have access to fancy pants brands, so this needs to be more budget "found at your local Shoppers Drug Mart" products. [more inside]
Hello all. I was wondering if anyone has recommendations for a wedding dress shop in London or the Home Counties. I've googled extensively, but there's nothing like a personal recommendation, and none of my friends/family have got married in recent years. I'm looking for a fairly traditional style of dress, budget is flexible (ie, splurge), and excellent customer service is really important to me. Complicating factor: if all goes well, I'll be about five months pregnant on the wedding day, so a shop that could handle that would be great. Any suggestions (or warnings!) would be much appreciated. Thanks!
What glue do I need to attach crochet lace to a card / wedding invite? [more inside]
The bride wants a not-too-expensive, traditional-looking bridesmaids dress. One of the bridesmaids is allergic to polyester. Where should I tell her to look? [more inside]
What's a good generic wedding gift for two older people? Details inside. [more inside]
I am getting married really soon, and I have known for a while that my best friend will not be at the wedding (for a really good reason - not that she needs one of course - but that's not the issue). I thought I was totally okay with it - it's just a party! I know she loves me! - but all of a sudden it hit me really, really hard that she won't be there. I don't know how to make this feel better. This is a terrible snowflakey question, but I am really, really sad, and I need better ways to think about this. [more inside]
My partner and I are planning our wedding up in Buffalo, NY, for this October - yay! We've got most things covered at this point, but one thing we're both feeling clueless about is arranging to have music for the ceremony and reception. Can you help? General advice and Buffalo-specific recommendations would be gratefully welcomed! [more inside]
My dear friend who is known for making awesome mix tapes/CDs/playlists is getting married, and I'd love to give him an awesome mix CD as part of my wedding present. So, musical & in-the-know folks of AskMe, please give me your best suggestions for what songs should be on it! Artist suggestions welcome too, but ideally you will suggest specific songs. [more inside]
I am getting married this fall and still haven't found someone to do my hair or makeup for the big day. Looking for a stylist and artist that are affordable (we are on a tight budget). The wedding is in Wauwatosa, WI. Please help!! Thank you!
Help me, etiquette mavens of AskMe! Fiance and I are in the midst of planning a wedding for this fall, but we just found out that he's losing his health insurance soon. How ok is it to have a courthouse ceremony now, but still hold a "real" wedding in the fall? [more inside]
What did you, a non-religious person, do for your wedding ceremony? What was the basic structure? What resources did you use to help you plan? [more inside]
What should the musician wear at a wedding? [more inside]
What are some fun things to put in a wedding pinata that are not candy? Preferably some kind of inexpensive small trinket that people will want to keep as a memento. If it matters, the wedding will be in late November.
Does anyone know how to best serve warm corn tortillas to 150 people in a park? [more inside]
I am a groom-to-be seeking advice on how two confirmed non-dancers can handle the "first dance" at our wedding reception. Difficulty: something we can figure out in less than 2 weeks. [more inside]