I've agreed to be the MOH at an old, cherished friend's destination second wedding this year (after the couple secretly eloped), but unfortunately, the bride and groom can't agree upon an actual wedding date and location. As of today, this wedding is potentially either 5 or 8 months away but still up in the air. Which is beginning to interfere with the ability of the guests to plan their lives this year... snowflakes below... [more inside]
I'm looking for short, simple, and fun games along the lines of Love Letter. Bonus points for being romance, family, or happiness themed, as we're looking to place simple games at each table for a wedding. [more inside]
I need advice on a) what to do, and b) how to process my feelings. My fiance and I have been engaged for a year. Our original plan was to have a traditional wedding in June 2015. We decided that it was too much and we wanted to elope. 3 weeks ago, we set our "wedding date" for December 18th. Today my fiance told me that he felt depressed (he sometimes gets pretty bad seasonal depression) and stressed out, and that if we get married now, he's not going to enjoy it at all. He wants to reschedule again. [more inside]
I'm attending a wedding in Mumbai this upcoming weekend and am having a crisis of apparel. [more inside]
Some friends are asking me to propose locations for my bachelorette party over Presidents Day weekend 2015. My challenges are: 1) finding destinations with comfortable weather in February 2) finding somewhere easy to get to from multiple locations: Philly/DC, Minneapolis, San Francisco 3) being mindful of cost 4) avoiding overlap with our honeymoon plans [more inside]
In the midst of wedding preparations here in Chicago, I have totally whiffed on flowers. We want to Midwest prairie flower corsages and such for our wedding this Saturday based around some milkweed pods we've been saving. We tried Kennicott's to no avail because they only do wholesale. Any ideas for where on the northside of Chicago we could go to cheaply (or even for free, if we're ethically picking something) acquire wildflowers and grasses this week?
This quote is all over the internet with conflicting attributions. Can you help me identify the original source? "You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving..." [more inside]
(ugh.) Friend B from this post is getting married next month, and I don't want to go. Or I do want to go, to support her fiance and be with old friends. But I don't want to celebrate her in any way. How do I proceed and keep my dignity? [more inside]
My best friend is getting married in a few weeks and I need to get her a gift. Since she and her fiance already have most of what they need for their home (consolidating two apartments into one), I don't want to get them a thing, but maybe some sort of subscription where they get something delivered every month. I need suggestions please. [more inside]
In March, Mrs. HeroZero and I exchanged vows and rings at City Hall with a very small group of friends and immediate family. On Labor Day, we're having a bigger wedding party with the friends and family who couldn't come to the original, tiny event. What are some ideas for making this ceremony meaningful in a way that's different from how a wedding goes? [more inside]
What outside-the-box-color nail polish would best accent a black cocktail dress (with silver accent beading) and silver shoes? [more inside]
I'm shooting a friend's wedding this weekend and I'm looking for inspiration and ideas for non-standard wedding photography. NOT 'the happy couple's beautiful day' but something different. I'm not the primary shooter so I was thinking of doing something more 'fine arts', perhaps even dark... but I'm not yet sure where to take it. [more inside]
A friend is having a 2-day wedding to a man whom only one of the 4 of our invited group has met, in a location that's an expensive pain in the butt to get to, and will make us all late for work Monday. None of us really want to go. Are we horrible people? [more inside]
What is the greatest recording of the Blue Danube Waltz? I want to dance to it at my wedding. I have Googled and whatnot. I want to hear personal suggestions from MeFites.
I'm attending a wedding in a week and have been told by a relative that I should bring a suit. I don't have a suit, haven't owned one in a long time. I'm needing to unearth my inner Italian to get some threads that work for this occasion. [more inside]
My fiancee and I are getting married in August 2015, next year. We have had all the big talks about our future, including children. Previously, we were happy to wait until we were married to have children, but recently she has been changing her mind. What gives? [more inside]
Fiance and I are attempting to plan a wedding for less than 150 guests in early March 2015 in the Philadelphia area. We currently live in Montgomery county, but we are open to considering locations in the 5 county area (and are learning toward Philadelphia, which will make things easier on our out of town guests). We want to keep the venue/catering/booze costs around $15,000 if possible, which seemed super easy before we started searching. Help! [more inside]
Another wedding question... So, newly engaged, which is awesome, but now that we've started trying to plan it, I feel so incredibly overwhelmed...and not in a good way. The first thing we need to do is figure out where. We have a budget of $5000 max, and every place I have researched or contacted has been at minimum $2000-$3000, and 90% of these would force us to use their own caterers and vendors. We are ready to try something nonstandard, but I have never even been to a wedding before, so...we am having problems coming up with ideas for a small wedding and reception of like 50 people max. [more inside]
we are having a sundae bar at our wedding. what is the best (cheapest) way to get very large quantities of candies and chocolates for a sundae bar for 175 people? We're willing to spend money on delicious, but not on packaging. We are willing to ship stuff, but not to pay extravagant fees to do so. We are willing to buy at Costco, but it seems like cheaper should exist somewhere? Also, what are your favourite sundae toppings that you would be excited to see at a sundae bar? Also, if you have any tips about how we should lay it out in a cute way, please feel free to inspire us. thank you!
I have a relative who needs to get dressed up for her kid's wedding. She's asked me for advice, and I'm not sure where to look. Snowflakes, people, there are so many snowflakes. [more inside]
How do I ask my aunt not to write about me in her blog (specifically wondering about wording), and how do I politely stick to my guns if she pushes back? Snowflakes after the fold. [more inside]
I'm inclined to think that any young lady whose father walked her down the aisle of Trinity Church in Lower Manhattan in a late 18th or early 19th century wedding was probably born to wealth. Pretty size-able wealth. Are we talking robber baron wealthy, or what? Or was the church actually available to all comers?
My dear friend got married late last year and I'm a little behind on sending him and his new wife a wedding present. I'd like to find them something ~$50, related to cheese (like a cheese smoker or a really cool cutting board—they love cheese and will be opening a small cheese shop soon). I'm having a very hard time finding such a thing. They also like vintage, retro, rockabilly, steampunk and the like. They are in California and I am in England; sending them something from the US would be preferable but if there's something uniquely British here and not too much cost to ship I could manage that too. Any ideas for specific items to purchase would be most welcome, thanks!
I recently got engaged, and am so happy about this! But, I am not the type of girl who always dreamed about what my wedding would be like...basically, I'm more of a casual-type person who is not super into party planning (nor is the hubby-to-be). :) I feel like we need some help in figuring out how to make this wedding happen, but I don't want to get sucked into all the wedding industry stuff...we are not rich, and to the extent we will want to spend money on this, it is probably not on things like ridiculously expensive flower arrangements. So, two questions: [more inside]
Practical: Any ideas for fun-but-cheap bachelorette weekend accommodations or activities around the central East Coast? Context: I'm the last single friend of our group of friends, and the most broke. I'm comfortable with talking about money, but my friends are WASPier types who'd prefer to never, ever discuss anything to do with finances, and tend to change the subject abruptly when it comes up. This is a problem when I'm expected to pitch in for something that I really can't afford, but that everyone else can. I'm thinking the best solution is to pitch an alternative that I can afford. [more inside]
I'm looking for tips for looking after a 8 month-10 month old baby at weddings? [more inside]
Where can I buy pens in Sydney, and/or who has a wide variety of pens (gel pens, paint pens, that sort of thing)? I am working on my sister's wedding invitations and am rather pressed for time... I am especially interested in the Sakura Souffle pens, if you know of anyone who carries them. [more inside]
I may or may not have to present during the wedding ceremony and the following dance and performance numbers, but I'd at least like to have a great poem to present as a framed gift with some photos. [more inside]
We met with a potential wedding reception venue today to get a quote, and the owner suggested that we can invite some people just to the party after the ceremony and dinner. From a cost cutting perspective that sounds awesome. But is it just too squicky, etiquette-wise? [more inside]
I'm getting married next month to a guy I dated 30 years ago in college! Help us find the perfect music! [more inside]
My handsome fella and I are getting married in San Francisco, CA in early October! I was hoping to get some Mefi-approved recommendations for a restaurant, a hair salon, and a photographer! (I'm not expecting all three in one, but how amazing would THAT be?) [more inside]
I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding later this month, and I need shoes. Problem: I hate high heels, and they hate me right back. The bride has said she's fine with me wearing flats. I just went shopping, hoping to find some flats, and came home empty-handed. And so now I turn to you, o fashionable high-heel wearing people of Metafilter. [more inside]
At my wedding I'm planning to have each table named and themed around a different colour. I would like to put a poem relating to the colour on the table. The problem is, the only poem I have come up with is 'a red, red rose' by Robert Burns which is exactly what I'm looking for, but I have 7 more colours to find. Please give me poems that feature a colour (any colour apart from grey or black) and have a general theme of love and/or marriage.
Accordionfilter: tunes for civil partnership wedding? Specifically a 5 minute part in which documents are signed. [more inside]
I have a very good friend who is getting married - I am her maid of honor. She is having a destination wedding, and told guests that she and her husband do not want any gifts, as us making the trip is gift enough. I got a couple small, sentimental things for her that will be meaningful, but I also want to get a nice gift for the couple, especially since they got us some generous gifts from our registry when we got married. More inside... [more inside]
I am an epic ugly crier, and I cry incredibly easily. I have always been this way, and a lot of my family are the same way. We attribute it to my grandmother, who we always joked must have her tear ducts connected to her bladder. Happy things, sad things, frustration, excitement. Not pain for some reason, but just about any emotion will make me cry. When I really get going I hyperventillate, lose the ability to talk (relating to the hyperventilating I guess), my skin goes super blotchy, and man... it is just ugly. And it takes a long time to calm back down. Added bonus is that I usually top all this off with an epic cry headache afterwards. This is a problem because I am getting married in a month and I seriously don't want to be ugly crying my face off the entire time. As it stands I can't even READ the ceremony without getting teary. I have no idea how I am ever going to get through saying my vows. [more inside]
Wedding in 5 weeks. We still haven't figured out any of the script for our wedding. The officient sent us a handful of sample ceremonies, but none of them really feel like us. The "I ______ take thee _________ to be my wife/husband, for richer or poorer" etc vows we are totally stuck on, and frankly the ring exchange lines are also sticking us up too. Please help. The green always has such creative suggestions! Don't fail me now! [more inside]
Is someone 'allowed' to invite themselves to the church service of an acquaintance's wedding? Technically allowed, or socially allowed? Are church services 'open'? [Snowflakey fact scenario inside.] [more inside]
My 33 year old older brother is sponging off my parents and isn't getting a job, I'm worried that he's going to get kicked out of my parents' house. He got fired a while ago and I'm pretty sure his main problem is depression/having given up; I'm pretty sure he's better than this though. [more inside]
My wife and I are attending a wedding(ish) event, and are a bit stumped for gift ideas. The couple is currently in the US for the ceremony and attendant celebration, but will soon be heading back to Thailand, where they normally live and work. They didn't do any sort of registry, and obviously won't want to take anything bulky or heavy with them. Any brilliant ideas, other than cash?
I need to go to a wedding in 2 weeks. I own no clothes except jeans & shorts. I'm 25. I haven't worn a skirt or anything since I was 15, and it was awful then. But I would like to wear clothes that are awesome. I really like this pinboard, and in particular this outfit, though with less pattern & scarf. Basically I've been looking enviously at awesome lesbian wedding pictures. Where should I shop? What should I buy? I am totally at a loss. [more inside]
I'm getting married next week. Eeep! I've scoured the archives, but am still looking for the right song to end the ceremony. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
Is it okay to ask guests not to take photos during our wedding ceremony? [more inside]
Please suggest to me the best DRUGSTORE makeups and hair products that will look the best, last the longest, will look good in pictures, and will be the most likely to survive a long day where I kinda need to look good the whole time. I don't have access to fancy pants brands, so this needs to be more budget "found at your local Shoppers Drug Mart" products. [more inside]
Hello all. I was wondering if anyone has recommendations for a wedding dress shop in London or the Home Counties. I've googled extensively, but there's nothing like a personal recommendation, and none of my friends/family have got married in recent years. I'm looking for a fairly traditional style of dress, budget is flexible (ie, splurge), and excellent customer service is really important to me. Complicating factor: if all goes well, I'll be about five months pregnant on the wedding day, so a shop that could handle that would be great. Any suggestions (or warnings!) would be much appreciated. Thanks!
The bride wants a not-too-expensive, traditional-looking bridesmaids dress. One of the bridesmaids is allergic to polyester. Where should I tell her to look? [more inside]
My partner and I are planning our wedding up in Buffalo, NY, for this October - yay! We've got most things covered at this point, but one thing we're both feeling clueless about is arranging to have music for the ceremony and reception. Can you help? General advice and Buffalo-specific recommendations would be gratefully welcomed! [more inside]
Help me, etiquette mavens of AskMe! Fiance and I are in the midst of planning a wedding for this fall, but we just found out that he's losing his health insurance soon. How ok is it to have a courthouse ceremony now, but still hold a "real" wedding in the fall? [more inside]
What should the musician wear at a wedding? [more inside]