I took the dive into wedding planning and tried on dresses. It was fun, but everything felt pretty formal (and really expensive). I have seen interesting and more budget friendly dresses at places like Modcloth and so now I wonder: what other companies or stores carry wedding dresses? [more inside]
Me: a trans white lesbian, her: a black bisexual woman. Wedding in Kansas in April 2017. Will it still be legal? Is it worth risking it? Should we do the marriage certificate now and the wedding as planned?
We want to throw a party for about 300 people that happens to begin with a wedding ceremony. What are some nontraditional / outside-the-wedding-industrial-complex strategies for creating a meaningful, festive, family-centered, and cost-conscious celebration event for such a large group? We're in St. Louis, Missouri but are very interested in general strategies and examples from other regions that may not be as commonly known here, as well as St. Louis-specific advice. Help! [more inside]
While I am glad we won't get Hurricane Matthew, it's expected to rain and be gloomy on my wedding day. I am devastated. Recommendations for making it more enjoyable? [more inside]
I'll be attending a wedding with a Victorian era dress theme. I've got my tailcoat and waistcoat picked out, which you can take a look at here. Unlike in the photo I'll be wearing it with a white dress shirt underneath. I'm wondering what I should go for in an ascot/cravat/tie/whatever. I'm less concerned about 100% period accuracy than I am about something that looks interesting and/or good. If it affects the recommendation at all, I'm blond and fair skinned, and don't currently plan on wearing a hat. Any and all suggestions or ideas are welcome, thanks!
We've chosen Marie's Wedding as a father-daughter/mother-son dance for our wedding next week. It's in 4/4 as far as I can tell. We just realized we have no idea how to dance to it. Difficulty level: we don't know how to dance anyway. [more inside]
So, live-in boyfriend of three years brother is getting married in September. We live in a different state from him and they're not particularly close, so I've only met his brother a few times and his fiancée once, but I'm on friendly terms with the family (I spend Christmas with them, etc). Boyfriend probably talks to his brother about every 6 months. [more inside]
I'm double-booked -- I have a very important work commitment (a PhD viva) scheduled on the same weekend as my friend's wedding which is a six hour flight away. I can't reschedule the viva, but this is also one of my closest friends in the world and I know she will hate it if I don't come. What, if anything, can I do to make it up to her?
Our dear friends are having their wedding on October 8th. Our wedding is October 15th. Gulp. We really want to go. But is that a bad idea? What even happens the week before your wedding? [more inside]
Can you recommend a person or service in Toronto who will coordinate the event for us on our wedding day? [more inside]
We're introverts who don't like the spotlight or surprises, and our family wanted to throw a surprise performance at our wedding reception. The discussion around this isn't going well. How do we communicate more effectively about this, both re: this specific reception and introversion in general? [more inside]
The idea of a marker/symbol of engagement appeals to me (as does the idea of tweaking gendered norms). I'm not otherwise terribly ornamentally inclined, so this feels like a good one-exception for her. I've seen suggestions online of "Eventual-wedding-ring on right hand, swap hands at the ceremony", which sounds particularly appealing, though I haven't seen anything consistent about where this might be common or how common it might be. Within the United States, about how well would this be received/understood? [more inside]
My question relates to my Previous Ask from January. The once-postponed, drama-filled wedding plans of one of my best friends since adolescence are now (allegedly) back on again! Looks like I may need to actively excuse myself from being the MOH this time, that is, IF this wedding actually happens... [more inside]
Need a gift for a couple in their 40s that appears thoughtful, though clearly it isn't as I need it this week. [more inside]
It's been a few years since the 2nd edition of weddings for dummies on the green, so I'm here to ask for the 3rd edition, I guess. [more inside]
I'm going to be giving a reading for a friend's wedding at a conservative Catholic church in Michigan this fall. I'm an areligious southern woman who never dresses up, but is built for Pinup Girl Clothing. Please help me find something that is classy, not frumpy, to wear. Measurements, etc. inside. [more inside]
My fiancé and I are planning on having a smallish wedding, and we are organizing it relatively quick (only 7 months in all). We cut our invite list down to 45 guests and found a perfect reception hall that provides catering (cocktails and sit-down dinner) for a maximum of exactly 45 guests. Yay, perfect! Beautiful location, great prices, and no need to find a caterer. Until his father announced that he is inviting 5 guests . . . . [more inside]
I am looking for a pretty/creative way to print/publish/bind a document to give to my friends as a gift. [more inside]
My life is full of wonderful stressful things, and I can't juggle all of them right now. I need help – I'm just not sure what kind of help I should be looking for, or where to look. [more inside]
My sister (early 50's) is getting married for the second time next year. Last week she sent me a shared doc with early wedding plans that I'm not onboard with because they involve my kids and I being assigned fairly substantial jobs without her ever asking. And the trouble ensues from there. [more inside]
I just want to get over this hurt feeling before the wedding happens in August [more inside]
Looking for last-minute advice on officiating a wedding. It'll be a secular service, for my sister... floating on the Mississippi. [more inside]
...is our ability to accessorize. I am wearing this dress to a summer, semi-outdoor wedding, but the only thing I know is that I'm wearing this dress, basically. Help me figure out the rest of it, please! [more inside]
The sister of my boyfriend of 10 years! (yes i know...) is getting married and her close friend is likely to attend. This close friend and my boyfriend dated briefly before we met, so over 10 years ago - everyone was very young. About 5 years ago my boyfriend slept with her one night and I found out about this 2 years ago and was extremely hurt. I have thought a lot about it and I feel like i don't want to put myself through encountering her at the wedding. More details inside - apologies for the length. [more inside]
I'm invited to the courthouse part of an interfaith wedding of a relative of my girlfriend. I've scoured metafilter and the rest of the internet for the etiquette concerning gifts, but couldn't find anything applying to the situation. What would be appropriate? [more inside]
I would like a friend to officiate my wedding, but apparently the state and city of New York have a problem with ULC ministers. Do you have any other suggestions for sites, etc., that will minister-ize folks? [more inside]
A friend is going to officiate our wedding. We want to give her a nice folder or binder with which to hold the ceremony script. Time constraint: We need this by Monday. [more inside]
My brother-in-law invited my wife and my kids to his wedding, but not me. This evening, he texted my wife asking her to do a reading at the wedding. She's going to say yes. I feel amazingly resentful. Help. [more inside]
So I really love Sondre Lerche's "You Knocked Me Off My Feet," and I'm looking for something similar to it, with more romantic lyrics and slightly less repetitive, for a wedding first dance. Thank you for any suggestions!
A wedding guest just told us that her plus-one has tricky dietary restrictions our caterer cannot handle. What are our obligations? [more inside]
I've never thought about weddings and now I'm engaged, I need to and they are *expensive*!!! Please help me figure out realistic expectations for a dog-friendly wedding for 100 in DC. Also recommendations please. [more inside]
I'm looking for a short reading for our wedding that we can ask an athiest friend of ours to read. Other portions of the ceremony will contain religious elements, but we don't want to ask him to read anything that might make him feel uncomfortable or awkward. [more inside]
I'm getting married in July, and I found a potential wedding dress I like (yah! here @ modcloth) but they don't have it available in my size anymore (boo!). Does anybody have suggestions for dresses out there that are similar-ish? [more inside]
Trying to decide between getting a hotel room or going home after our wedding. On your wedding night, where did you stay? Did it make a difference? [more inside]
I'm wondering if the hivemind can help me find the perfect wedding dress. I'm getting married (YAY!) and my online searching hasn't come up with many options that I think would work for my particular needs. Can you help? [more inside]
So I have recently spent an entire day in the mall trying on high heels. I really never wear them, don't care for them, and, on my more dramatic days, liken them to eyelash curlers as instruments of torture and oppression. That being said... [more inside]
We have booked a big room for our wedding, and I would like to produce a professional looking room plan. Any suggestions for good software? What do event planners use? I have experience with drafting software but only expensive programs like AutoCAD that I don't currently have access to. Mac or PC is fine.
I make and sell bow ties and other wedding-ish related mens' accessories, and I've been invited to vend at an upcoming wedding market event. I've never planned a wedding (Mrs. usonian and I eloped) nor attended a wedding expo in my life, and have no idea what to expect in terms of how people shop at these things. [more inside]
I'm a physicist, and I'm marrying a biologist. Can Mefi suggest any wedding readings suitable for us? We're looking for something along a sciency theme.
My fiance and I are both atheists with strong antitheist views. We're getting married in November and want something that represents us. His family, however, is extremely religious (Baptist) and will have certain expectations of us; they don't easily take no for an answer. What is the best way to balance the two worlds? [more inside]
I've agreed to be the MOH at an old, cherished friend's destination second wedding this year (after the couple secretly eloped), but unfortunately, the bride and groom can't agree upon an actual wedding date and location. As of today, this wedding is potentially either 5 or 8 months away but still up in the air. Which is beginning to interfere with the ability of the guests to plan their lives this year... snowflakes below... [more inside]
I'm looking for short, simple, and fun games along the lines of Love Letter. Bonus points for being romance, family, or happiness themed, as we're looking to place simple games at each table for a wedding. [more inside]
I need advice on a) what to do, and b) how to process my feelings. My fiance and I have been engaged for a year. Our original plan was to have a traditional wedding in June 2015. We decided that it was too much and we wanted to elope. 3 weeks ago, we set our "wedding date" for December 18th. Today my fiance told me that he felt depressed (he sometimes gets pretty bad seasonal depression) and stressed out, and that if we get married now, he's not going to enjoy it at all. He wants to reschedule again. [more inside]
I'm attending a wedding in Mumbai this upcoming weekend and am having a crisis of apparel. [more inside]
Some friends are asking me to propose locations for my bachelorette party over Presidents Day weekend 2015. My challenges are: 1) finding destinations with comfortable weather in February 2) finding somewhere easy to get to from multiple locations: Philly/DC, Minneapolis, San Francisco 3) being mindful of cost 4) avoiding overlap with our honeymoon plans [more inside]
In the midst of wedding preparations here in Chicago, I have totally whiffed on flowers. We want to Midwest prairie flower corsages and such for our wedding this Saturday based around some milkweed pods we've been saving. We tried Kennicott's to no avail because they only do wholesale. Any ideas for where on the northside of Chicago we could go to cheaply (or even for free, if we're ethically picking something) acquire wildflowers and grasses this week?
This quote is all over the internet with conflicting attributions. Can you help me identify the original source? "You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving..." [more inside]
(ugh.) Friend B from this post is getting married next month, and I don't want to go. Or I do want to go, to support her fiance and be with old friends. But I don't want to celebrate her in any way. How do I proceed and keep my dignity? [more inside]
My best friend is getting married in a few weeks and I need to get her a gift. Since she and her fiance already have most of what they need for their home (consolidating two apartments into one), I don't want to get them a thing, but maybe some sort of subscription where they get something delivered every month. I need suggestions please. [more inside]
In March, Mrs. HeroZero and I exchanged vows and rings at City Hall with a very small group of friends and immediate family. On Labor Day, we're having a bigger wedding party with the friends and family who couldn't come to the original, tiny event. What are some ideas for making this ceremony meaningful in a way that's different from how a wedding goes? [more inside]