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My Best Frenemy's Wedding

(ugh.) Friend B from this post is getting married next month, and I don't want to go. Or I do want to go, to support her fiance and be with old friends. But I don't want to celebrate her in any way. How do I proceed and keep my dignity? [more inside]
posted by magdalemon on Aug 21, 2014 - 45 answers

Help me get out of this wedding

So, back in February or so, we were invited to a friend's September wedding in Cape Cod (both us and the friend are in LA). It sounded great; my fiancée and I RSVPed. Now, due to a passel of unforeseen circumstances, we can't really do it. Can you help us get out of it without being giant assholes? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 6, 2014 - 18 answers

Inviting only *some* family to our wedding?

We’re in the very earliest stages of wedding planning, trying to come up with a guest list so that we have approximate numbers in mind when we look into venues, etc. How can - or should - we balance a seriously lopsided family tree with our desire to have our friends there (and not go bankrupt/remain engaged forever)? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Austenite on Jun 24, 2014 - 47 answers

Am I wrong to be totally unenthused about a friend's wedding?

A friend is having a 2-day wedding to a man whom only one of the 4 of our invited group has met, in a location that's an expensive pain in the butt to get to, and will make us all late for work Monday. None of us really want to go. Are we horrible people? [more inside]
posted by area.man on Jun 19, 2014 - 38 answers

International wedding registry headaches

Difficulty level: Dutch/Canadian/Australian. Mr Fish and I are getting married in July. A lot of Mr Fish's Canadian family are coming, and this is my first time meeting a lot of them. We absolutely do not expect gifts but we're already getting questions about registries. Do international registries exist? [more inside]
posted by nerdfish on Feb 26, 2014 - 3 answers

SelfishFilter: Is there a polite way to say "gifts ok"?

Some friends are throwing us a wedding reception and have requested "no gifts" on the invitation. Can I somehow ask them to change that or is that just the done thing now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 24, 2013 - 60 answers

But I don't like you - must I toast to you?

My stepsister is getting married this Saturday, a stepsister who has always presumed closeness to everyone in her stepfamily. I do not like her very much for reasons that are not relevant here. I am a bridesmaid in the wedding. She e-mailed all of the bridesmaids and in the same e-mail about our jewelry, mentioned that they'd be making time for speeches during the rehearsal dinner while the band is on a break (yes! There's a band at the rehearsal dinner, which is a whole other story...). She asked for us to let her know if anyone was interested in giving a toast. Should I? [more inside]
posted by juliagulia on Nov 7, 2013 - 39 answers

'We like you fine, but we're not buying dinner for you.'

We met with a potential wedding reception venue today to get a quote, and the owner suggested that we can invite some people just to the party after the ceremony and dinner. From a cost cutting perspective that sounds awesome. But is it just too squicky, etiquette-wise? [more inside]
posted by nerdfish on Oct 9, 2013 - 42 answers

Follow-up after a wedding gift was sent - is six weeks too soon?

Is it too early - or is it a jerky move - to ask friends if they got a wedding gift I sent six weeks ago? [more inside]
posted by handful of rain on Oct 1, 2013 - 35 answers

How to best deal with and/or avoid estranged parents at a wedding?

I went "no contact" with my birth family years ago, but I will have to see and likely interact with all of them for the first time since then at my sister's wedding, which is happening soon. How can I make sure that I can ably address whatever might come up with ease and clarity? I am not looking to re-establish any sort of regular communication with them at all, I am just trying to figure out how to gracefully handle encountering them at a single event. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 2, 2013 - 50 answers

No photos, please?

Is it okay to ask guests not to take photos during our wedding ceremony? [more inside]
posted by just_ducky on Jun 9, 2013 - 30 answers

Getting married after getting married: the insurance-panic edition

Help me, etiquette mavens of AskMe! Fiance and I are in the midst of planning a wedding for this fall, but we just found out that he's losing his health insurance soon. How ok is it to have a courthouse ceremony now, but still hold a "real" wedding in the fall? [more inside]
posted by badgermushroomSNAKE on May 21, 2013 - 107 answers

Friend Ettiquete: Missing the Wedding, Do I Make the Bachelor's Party?

Is it worth it to fly home for my friend's bachelor party? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 29, 2013 - 14 answers

My dream wedding is a courthouse ceremony

We've decided to get married. Yay! I am the female half of a straight couple, if that matters. In the near future, we want to go to our local (US) courthouse and have a civil ceremony with just a judge and our immediate families present: his parents, my parents, his sibling+partner, my sibling+partner+child. Later this year, we'll throw an informal party and invite our extended circles to that as a larger celebration/reception. Our immediate families are supportive of this plan and just want us to be happy, but I have already gotten some pushback from friends and it gave me pause. So I guess I have questions about the practicality and etiquette of our plan and... whatever else we haven't thought about. Neither of us has been married before. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 26, 2013 - 53 answers

Letitia Baldrige died for my sins

We are very, very late with our wedding thank-yous. Over a year. We know we are horrible people, okay? Now what? [more inside]
posted by Madamina on Nov 6, 2012 - 32 answers

How should I address wedding invitations to significant others of my friends?

How should I address wedding invitations to significant others of friends? [more inside]
posted by mai on Sep 25, 2012 - 14 answers

What does the couple who has everything register for?

We live in a tiny Manhattan apartment and have everything we need. What do we register for? [more inside]
posted by alicetiara on Sep 19, 2012 - 37 answers

Wedding Filter: How do you seat divorced parents at a wedding?

Wedding Filter: How do you seat divorced parents at a wedding? [more inside]
posted by wcmf on Sep 10, 2012 - 31 answers

Help me craft a nicely worded invitation for a party!

I'm getting married - yay! I'm having a simply civil ceremony at the NYC wedding bureau and then plan to have a party a few days after. My dear me-fi'ers- What do you think is the best way to word an invite to a post-ceremony celebration? [more inside]
posted by carmenghia on Jul 26, 2012 - 12 answers

Give Me a Number!

What is an appropriate amount to spend on a wedding gift for myself and my guest, if I am a bridesmaid? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 26, 2012 - 16 answers

Can I bring a date to my friend's wedding?

I just received a wedding invitation to a friend's wedding. The invitation itself was addressed to me only. In the RSVP, there are two blanks... one where I'm to fill in my name, and another labeled "Number attending". I'm not sure if this means I'm allowed to bring a date or not. [more inside]
posted by ohmy on Apr 18, 2012 - 26 answers

Overdue Wedding Gift Etiquette

OverdueWeddingGiftFilter: What's the best way to handle overdue wedding gifts? [more inside]
posted by Kattiara17 on Apr 2, 2012 - 12 answers

Is this a wedding or a fundraiser?

When I asked my brother if there was something in particular he would like for his upcoming wedding, he told me not to give him anything unless it was cash. I have a few issues with this request. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 14, 2012 - 79 answers

Wedding etiquette regarding invites and rsvp

My partner was not invited to my friend's wedding yet my ex-husband and his new girlfriend are. Bride and Groom to be were both invited and attended ex and my wedding previously. I live with my partner and its a serious relationship. My ex-husbands gf is now pregnant. I find this all upsetting. How should I respond? [more inside]
posted by Under the Sea on Jan 13, 2012 - 67 answers

Wedding invitation etiquette

Wedding invitation protocol question for the non-Martha Stewart demographic. [more inside]
posted by nebulawindphone on Nov 2, 2011 - 10 answers

What, Jane Doe doesn't get her own mention?

We're currently addressing wedding invitations. For reasons both personal and political, I really really hate the practice of addressing things to Dr. and Mrs. John Doe. Will it be stupid or scandalous or silly if we go with Dr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe? Or just John and Jane Doe? [more inside]
posted by Hwaet on Aug 19, 2011 - 36 answers

How to Be Good to Her Under Difficult Circumstances?

My sister is being extremely difficult. Should I go to her wedding? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 23, 2011 - 59 answers

Is it too late to mail wedding thank yous?

My wedding was almost two years ago, and I never sent out official thank you cards, because apparently I suck. I want to go ahead and send them out now, but would that be even more awkward? [more inside]
posted by crowyhead on Jul 11, 2011 - 41 answers

Will a proposal steal the bride's thunder?

Is it a bad idea to propose the day before (or the day of) my girlfriend's good friend's wedding? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 30, 2011 - 70 answers

My fiancé refuses to let his parents help out with our wedding.

My fiancé refuses to let his parents help pay for our wedding. Should I say anything, or am I walking into a minefield? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 25, 2011 - 33 answers

Need some Mrs. Manner's advice, stat.

Question about a wedding invitation situation with a coworker/ college friend... [more inside]
posted by CharlieSue on Mar 6, 2011 - 18 answers

Is there a "Miss Manners" attachment to this thing?

Plate o' wedding beans: We're starting to receive early wedding gifts, both from people attending and not attending the ceremony in 3.5 weeks. Should we open them? Acknowledge their receipt? Send proper thank-you notes? Help me, Emily-Post-i-fites. [more inside]
posted by supercres on Feb 22, 2011 - 19 answers

Is turnaround fair play when it comes to weddings?

Despite my profile name, my wife and I recently celebrated our two year anniversary. Yay! We recently received an engagement party and wedding invitation from a couple that didn't give us a gift for our wedding. Now, we're not sure how to handle the gift situation. Do we get them a gift as we would any other wedding, do we scale down the size of the gift, or do we not give a gift at all? [more inside]
posted by love is a murderer on Oct 19, 2010 - 65 answers

What to do about a partially acknowledged wedding gift?

YetAnotherWeddingGiftQuestion: A month ago my husband and I attended a friend's wedding. We took our gifts to the reception (a cookbook and a set of pots and pans, wrapped in the same distinctive wrapping paper). Today we received a thank-you note - for the cookbook. Do I ask the bride and groom about the cookware? My motivation isn't "we got you this nice gift, and we want you to acknowledge it." When we got married, we received one set of china that we couldn't ever attribute to anyone, and it bugs me to this day that we couldn't properly thank the gift-giver. So, do I ask? Or just let it go? These folks are friends, but not close ones.
posted by killy willy on Sep 8, 2010 - 20 answers

Ok to ask?

If I'm invited to a cocktails only and dancing wedding reception, may I ask to bring a date? [more inside]
posted by hellameangirl on Aug 31, 2010 - 48 answers

How to ask a prickly question about wedding gifts?

Prickly wedding etiquette question: We got married a little ways back, had a wonderful wedding, an unforgettable honeymoon, and are now back in the real world again. We're ready to sit down and write our thank-you cards, and have run into a slight... hiccup. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 19, 2010 - 43 answers

Advice for a first-time maid of honor

WeddingFilter: When bridal shower arrangements get out of hand [more inside]
posted by TrishaLynn on Apr 8, 2010 - 37 answers

Wedding Invitation Etiquette

Wedding Invitation Etiquette - my husband and I are hosting and paying for my stepdaughter's wedding and she has just ordered the invitations without involving us in any way - shouldn't the invitations be sent from the hosts - her father and I? I'm not concerned about the style or cost but I thought we would have the honor of extending the invitations or at least reviewing the contents before they are sent out. Or am I being hopelessly old-fashioned? Thoughts?
posted by anonymous on Mar 4, 2010 - 53 answers

Getting married next may, what's the etiquette for inviting friends of parents.

All my recently married friends said that most of their wedding drama came from their parents asking to invite friends. My parents have begun campaigning for a few of their friends to be invited. What's the correct response? [more inside]
posted by valadil on Dec 4, 2009 - 42 answers

How can I politely decline a wedding invitation

Please help me decline a wedding reception invitation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 7, 2009 - 13 answers

New baby, new etiquette

New baby, new etiquette: A couple with a new baby (< 6 months) receive a wedding invitation addressed only to the couple. Is baby presumed invited (portable lapsitter)? Is baby presumed not invited (potentially noisy)? Is it variable (call and ask)? [more inside]
posted by xo on Aug 26, 2009 - 80 answers

wedding etiquette

My husband and I will be attending the wedding of his nephew next weekend.  The wedding is at 12:30-the reception is at 5:30. My husband wants us to wear one outfit for the wedding and another for the reception.  I say no one else is going to change, and we should not.  He says he is right and this is what we should do.  Any thoughts on this?? Thanks
posted by JAD'E on Jul 10, 2009 - 31 answers

Am I allowed a wedding guest?

I've received a wedding invitation and I'm clueless on a point of etiquette. The invitation and reply cards are made out to "Mr. Indyz", not "Mr. Indyz and Guest." Does this imply that I am not expected or allowed to bring a guest? [more inside]
posted by indyz on May 27, 2009 - 33 answers

Help on wedding gift etiquette!

According to the google, I have up to a year after someone's wedding to get them a gift. Then why did I get an email that asks about my "unaccounted for gift" and how should I respond? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 27, 2009 - 34 answers

Who should receive this annoucement?

Wedding Announcement Etiquette [more inside]
posted by JennyJupiter on Apr 14, 2009 - 10 answers

Wedding gift, or not?

Emergency last-minute wedding gift etiquetteFilter! Invite sort of says don't really bring gifts, but sort of says do. What do I do?! [more inside]
posted by paultopia on Mar 19, 2009 - 22 answers

How to deal with an "and guest" invitation?

I received an invitation to a wedding for me "and guest". I'm not seeing anyone. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by rwatson on Feb 21, 2009 - 36 answers

awkward wedding situation

What's the etiquette for forced social interaction with a quasi-ex/hookup? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 25, 2009 - 21 answers

What do do about late wedding thank-yous?

Bad wedding etiquette: Got married in May. Haven't sent the thank-yous out yet. Aside from being ashamed of ourselves, what should we do? [more inside]
posted by bristolcat on Nov 11, 2008 - 39 answers

My maid-of-honor invited her parents without my permission

Asking for desjardins: My maid-of-honor (MOH) invited her parents to the ceremony, which is fine since they can watch her young son, but she also asked if they could stay for the dinner, and share her hotel room (which I'm paying for). I reluctantly said OK, but I'm wondering if I should ask for recompense from the parents? [more inside]
posted by salvia on Sep 25, 2008 - 27 answers

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