A couple of literary friends are getting married, and I'd like to indulge their bibliophile tendencies. What are some ideas for gifts that would make practical additions to a home library? [more inside]
We're getting married. We both dislike jewelry but have decided to wear simple rings. But the selection is overwhelming. Do you enjoy this sort of thing and want to help us? [more inside]
The best weddings (to me/us) seem to be the ones where the couple's tribe is invited to participate in some way. We'd love ideas for how to make this happen. [more inside]
I'm hoping that I can get some recommendations for places to get married in either Devon or Somerset in England. Me and my girlfriend are hoping to get married in March-April 2017. We have three main requirements for the venue: 1) We can hire our own caterers or have self catering 2) The cost of the venue hire excluding catering is less than £3000 3) That the ceremony and reception are in the same place 4) For the wedding venue to hold roughly/up to 150 people Also, we're having trouble finding a venue like this... is there any particular terminology for a more inexpensive choice of venue as we only seem to be able to find posh mansion/expensive manor type houses at the moment.
Help me pick a wedding present for our friends who are getting married in the States and moving to Berlin next month! [more inside]
OK, so I have the wedding songs from musicals thing covered. Mr. 317 and I are getting married next summer, and would like to incorporate monologues from plays into our ceremony. Can you think of any great ones? Funny is okay.
We are looking for an nice, special and simple spot near Beacon, NY for our wedding. Google and there are lots of wedding "venues"; but these are not what we want. A special spot; a beautiful building; a nice garden. We can have it catered locally, but want to avoid the usual rented event/hotel destination spots.
Need songs for a skydiving themed wedding, help? [more inside]
I'm getting married in a month! Thinking of creative ways to invite our guests to share something of themselves with us. Guestbooks are cool and if that's what we end up with, no problem, but wondered if the hive mind has seen something cooler? Recently saw a wedding where the outcome of this was something that could be displayed, and it got me wondering. [more inside]
We just got engaged and are now in the research/planning process for our wedding. We are considering many options, from destination wedding (not likely, but in the running), large local wedding, small local wedding, or anything in between. The question that keeps popping up is: Is spending a huge chunk of money on our wedding worth it? [more inside]
I bought a (nonrefundable, of course) plane ticket to a wedding thinking the wedding was in the evening. It turns out it is in the afternoon. My flight is supposed to get in at 9 am the day of the wedding. I am in the wedding party. Should I take an overnight bus instead to insure that I am there on time? [more inside]
I really want this planner. But $63 seems steep. But it's really, really pretty. But are there better options?! [more inside]
We've chosen Marie's Wedding as a father-daughter/mother-son dance for our wedding next week. It's in 4/4 as far as I can tell. We just realized we have no idea how to dance to it. Difficulty level: we don't know how to dance anyway. [more inside]
So, live-in boyfriend of three years brother is getting married in September. We live in a different state from him and they're not particularly close, so I've only met his brother a few times and his fiancée once, but I'm on friendly terms with the family (I spend Christmas with them, etc). Boyfriend probably talks to his brother about every 6 months. [more inside]
I had a lovely informal courthouse wedding. Next Friday I will be having a large formalish party thrown by my parents. I'm wearing this dress in champagne with nude pumps. But what the heck do I wear from the neck up? [more inside]
For our Boozy Summer Camp-themed wedding, soon-to-be-Mr. Dorinda and I want to get bandanas with our made-up camp logo printed on them to give out to our campers/guests in their welcome baggies. We'd also like to not spend a gazillion dollars on what is in the grand scheme of things an incredibly minor part of our shindig. [more inside]
Hello hivemind, my spouse and I have our anniversary coming up and I would like to get us simple gold engrave-able his/hers ring set. The rings need to be well made and durable (not tarnishing). I am looking at online stores/etsy sellers -- are there any that you could recommend that could fit the bill? Your input is much appreciated!
Another 'find me a dress like this dress' question. I'm loving this dress for my wedding. Not loving the price tag. Suggestions for something similar either online or in Toronto? [more inside]
I am in the early stages of planning my wedding for next spring, and starting to look into who I would hire to play some tunes for the ceremony and party. I have a pretty good grasp of how insanely expensive wedding stuff is, but I'd sorely underestimated the going rate for a dj. Can I skip it, or is that a terrible mistake? Snowflakes within. [more inside]
I will be attending a wedding as a guest next weekend. My options for a suit are: dark grey, light grey, and a lighter navy. I'm interested in buying a new shirt and tie combo for the occasion, but I'm looking for some options. I'd like something that's bright and fun, but doesn't clash (which I often have a hard time discerning). [more inside]
I need to stop reading wedding boards. Everyone says I need a day-of-coordinator for my wedding, but do I really? [more inside]
My partner proposed to me yesterday! Hooray! We will be planning a very small wedding (under 20 guests). Here's the thing: neither of us like the woman my brother is dating. [more inside]
I'm getting married this summer :D and can't decide what to wear D: I really bristle at the idea of wearing traditional men's formal wear, especially a tux—it just feels wrong and inauthentic for who I am. I need help finding something that feels right and while we've had no trouble saying 'screw tradition we'll do it our way' for pretty much everything else wedding wise I'm struggling in figuring out what that is for me in this case. [more inside]
My spouse and I will soon be celebrating a milestone in our marriage. I would like to get her an anniversary ring. But I’m uncertain about the options. If you know anything about jewelry I would appreciate your advice. [more inside]
BF and I are going to tie the knot in a civil ceremony later this year with just our parents and siblings (one each) in attendance, but we'd still like to give everyone a traditional wedding-ish experience. However, I'm finding it hard to search for wedding planning advice/inspiration, as apparently anything less than 50 or so guests is a "small" and "intimate" wedding! Where can I find information on how to throw a wedding for less than ten people? [more inside]
I'm in a wedding next month and all the bridesmaids must wear pumps or sandals or something... as long as they're nude colored. Nude colored shoes look awful to me. Help me find a pair that aren't too bad? And I can't wear heels.... but they must have heels. Sigh. [more inside]
I am getting married on Halloween this year and after a few months of trying to find a unique dress for the occasion and kept coming back to one that I love, both for the personal touch (I have always loved bats since my childhood), appropriate for the elaborate-ness I was wanting to go for, and perfect for the vintage Halloween theme I had in mind. Where do I start? Many questions from someone with very little experience in the seamstress / costume industry. The original image that inspires the look is here. More below the fold of what I've found online. [more inside]
I'm currently harboring a lot of resentment towards my girlfriend. Her brother is a molester and she's unsure of what to do about it, and she has cancelled our wedding due to being unsure and afraid of losing the rest of her family. I have no idea what to do or where to turn, how can I stop feeling resentful? [more inside]
I am pastor of a church that does many weddings each year. For years, we've provided couples a CD with 20 brief samples of classical/sacred music recorded by our church organist. This allows the couple to easily select music for every part of their ceremony, but I think it might be easier and cheaper to just post these online. Can you guide me in posting 20 or so samples of 1 minute or less on our website so we avoid the cost of copying CDs? [more inside]
I am getting married in August. I'm very excited to be married, have not much enjoyed the planning process. I am at a loss for how to proceed with my parents after a wedding related disagreement and would like to get some feedback on possible responses. [more inside]
How do I get married when every aspect of weddings is shrouded in complicated family and social pressure, to the point where I don't actually know what I really and truly want? [more inside]
I live in central Jersey, but for #reasons am planning on getting married next month at the courthouse in NYC. I have a few questions about how to make this a special day. [more inside]
I'm double-booked -- I have a very important work commitment (a PhD viva) scheduled on the same weekend as my friend's wedding which is a six hour flight away. I can't reschedule the viva, but this is also one of my closest friends in the world and I know she will hate it if I don't come. What, if anything, can I do to make it up to her?
Our dear friends are having their wedding on October 8th. Our wedding is October 15th. Gulp. We really want to go. But is that a bad idea? What even happens the week before your wedding? [more inside]
In searching for a particular vendor for our wedding, I came across one company with a non-disparagement clause in their contract. I wasn't planning on complaining about anyone online or giving out 1-star reviews willy nilly, but is this a reason not to work with this company? [more inside]
Can you recommend a person or service in Toronto who will coordinate the event for us on our wedding day? [more inside]
My fiance and I are getting married, and he'll be officially adopting my 6-year-old son immediately afterwards. We'd like to incorporate the (impending) adoption into the wedding ceremony. The officiant will adjust the language, but we're also hoping to find a great reading that addresses parent-child relationships or adoption in some way. Ideas? [more inside]
My colleague has been invited to an engagement party for his friends who are Indian-Fijian Hindu. What can he expect at the party and what would be an appropriate gift? If it matters everyone lives in Australia at present.
My friends are getting married in Buffalo. After their reception, we'd like to find a relaxed bar/venue to have some post-party drinks/fun. Where should we consider? [more inside]
We're introverts who don't like the spotlight or surprises, and our family wanted to throw a surprise performance at our wedding reception. The discussion around this isn't going well. How do we communicate more effectively about this, both re: this specific reception and introversion in general? [more inside]
My wife and I are in the midst of a back-and-forth with our wedding photographer because we're not happy with the image deliverables we were given. While the subjects/scenes in the photos are great, the quality is way below what we were expecting. We wanted advice on how to reason with our photographer because we believe we have legitimate concerns that aren't being handled correctly. [more inside]
I need some help knowing how to navigate hiring a DJ for my wedding reception. The difficulty: my fiancee and I are fairly particular about the music we want to hear. Can I just hand a flash drive or a playlist of 100 songs to a DJ and just say "only these songs, nothing else" - is that a thing that happens, or what? Because that's really what I'd like to do, but I'm not sure wedding DJs actually are willing to do that.
My partner (future mr. snacks) and I want to hold a private ceremony with our closest friends, no parents involved, before we launch willingly into chaotic 300+ people wedding events with family. Looking for ways to navigate the emotional & possibly cultural weirdness of this situation: can we pull this off respectfully? Should we even try to keep the small one a secret? Snowglobe inside. [more inside]
We just got engaged. We want a simple, simple, simple NYC wedding (but not a city hall/bar party thing). We do not want to plan it ourselves: we do not know how and do not have interest or talent at this sort of thing. We want a wedding planner. Advise. [more inside]
So my only friend is getting married this year and he has asked me, a female, to be his best man. His fiancee is totally down with this and all is fine. I would very much like to be mostly in charge of what I am wearing for a host of reasons. Advice required. [more inside]
i'm getting married around 6PM in april. the wedding is supposed to be outside (that's the plan, if we don't get rain). the reception will follow inside and we have the space till midnight. i'm a really pale person and i wear sunscreen every day, but i want to avoid crazy flashback for the indoor photos. should i skip sunscreen for the day? it'll be late, and i doubt i'll get a bad burn. if i do wear sunscreen, does anyone have a recommendation for something that will give me reduced flashback? thank you. : )
Engagement/marriage discussion is growing more serious. Neither of us (male/female) like wearing jewelry. Moreover, the cost of an engagement ring bothers me. What alternatives exist? [more inside]
A very close friend (American) is marrying someone from another culture (Iranian), and they currently both live and work in another country (Singapore). They love to travel and neither of them are religious (in fact, both are atheists.) I'm helping them design a wedding ceremony and am looking for a non-religious poem or reading that compares love to the experience of travel and/or encountering new cultures. I've searching online fruitlessly. The couple seems not to like Rumi-style romantic poems, so something more wry/modern would be great. Thank you MeFi!
My partner and I will be taking advantage of Colorado's unique self-solemnizing law, which allows couples to marry themselves (no city official or pastor or even witnesses required.) That means we can create a meaningful marriage ceremony that appeals to us and only us. Thing is, we're from the midwest and need some ideas of great places to wed in Denver. No traditional wedding spots needed. We like hiking and legal marijuana smoking. Difficulty level: we want to do outdoorsy things in winter or early spring. We also enjoy arts and culture events or sites. We need your amazing ideas please. [more inside]
What's the deal with announcing your own engagement and "stealing the thunder" of another wedding? What's the optimal way to set a wedding date with other people's weddings in mind? [more inside]