My friend's on-again/off-again nonstop crazy drama relationship just turned physically abusive six days ago. Now they are separated, again, and hopefully for good. I have reason to believe that the separation won't last, and I don't know how I could or should deal with that. Please help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2009 - 13 answers

How worried should I be that the broken heart of a 13 year old boy will result in violence – or, should I say, more violence? [more inside]
posted by kbar1 on Oct 10, 2009 - 37 answers

Would it be possible for a regular person to kill an adult cow with their bare hands if they absolutely had to (like for reasons of self defense or honor)? [more inside]
posted by tastybrains on Sep 25, 2009 - 35 answers

What is it like to be a volunteer victim advocate? [more inside]
posted by kathrineg on Aug 23, 2009 - 7 answers

How can I tell if my friend's fiance is an abuser and if he is, what can I do to help her realize she needs to leave him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2009 - 29 answers

Someone has threatened to come to my home after I specifically told them not to on a message board. What can I legally do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2009 - 15 answers

I am not a violent person. I wanted to know if anyone who considers them self nonviolent has been in a violent relationship or used violence in a relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 7, 2009 - 47 answers

Iranian government's worst recent and verifiable transgressions? [more inside]
posted by GenTso on Jul 3, 2009 - 5 answers

My friend and her ex-boyfriend got in a fight, he got violent and beat her up pretty bad. She got in the car with their baby and fled cross-country to stay with her parents. There is a hearing next month to determine custody of the child, and she doesn't want to lose the kid to what is likely going to be an abusive father. Lawyer up, right? Problem is, not a lot of money. Can you point me to any organizations in California that provide pro-bono / sliding-scale / low-cost legal aid services for abused women? [more inside]
posted by sergeant sandwich on Jun 28, 2009 - 10 answers

It seems like the only thing that can get me off is extremely unpleasant written erotica (details inside, to keep the front page clean). Do I have a problem? Should I see a therapist? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 30, 2009 - 47 answers

Does anyone know about a past or present culture or subculture where it is acceptable to start or end a fair fight with a cockpunch? [more inside]
posted by Free word order! on Nov 7, 2008 - 11 answers

Someone sneaks up behind you and wraps a rope or belt around your neck to choke you. What is the best way to survive? [Yes, I watch too many violent movies] [more inside]
posted by hihowareyou on Oct 16, 2008 - 26 answers

I'm completely confused about why this is bothering me so much. Can you help me figure it out? My wonderful adorable boyfriend of several years has recently begun a D&D campaign with his friends, and their typically evil characters go around murdering, stealing, and raping. Why oh why do I have no problems with the first two in games, but become incredibly frustrated when I hear about that third? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 10, 2008 - 103 answers

Last night, a close friend of ours was the victim of a domestic dispute. Her live-in boyfriend became convinced of infidelity in the relationship (a relationship that was headed to the dumps anyway), came back to their apartment, violently pulled her off of the couch screamed at her and repeatedly punched her in the stomach. Police were called, no charges filed (Red flags here). Now she and the daughter are staying with us, but are afraid to return home. Where do we go from here? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 15, 2008 - 10 answers

Is there a situation when its good to give into an aggressive man? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 1, 2008 - 34 answers

I would like others to explain to me why some non-Christian people abstain from certain “sinful” activities…and how to interact with them. [more inside]
posted by sixcolors on Jul 24, 2008 - 58 answers

Scary roommate situation. I want to leave and I'm trying to figure out if I have any way of getting my money back, which I really need to help me get another room. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 5, 2008 - 32 answers

I'm looking for a photo of Banksy-style graffiti involving rabbits fighting each other. [more inside]
posted by kidsleepy on Mar 18, 2008 - 6 answers

Last fall I served on a jury for a six week murder trial, now I can’t watch scary stuff on my TV. [more inside]
posted by quarterframer on Feb 29, 2008 - 32 answers

Help me find an article about chess, might have involved Garry Kasparov, might have been in Smithsonian magazine and/or on the Blue likening chess playing to a really violent sport with quotes like this "There is nothing cute or charming about chess; it is a violent sport, and when you confront your opponent you set out to crush his ego." from this article but I recall it being longer and in a more general magazine.
posted by terrortubby on Jan 18, 2008 - 8 answers

Domestic violence filter : Please help me to cope with my abusive und violent brother. My twin brother gains satisfaction from ruining my life. What shall I do? (lengthy explanation) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 30, 2007 - 38 answers

Can you refer me to sophisticated discussions of violence that is driven by hybrid forms of capitalism and religion? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 16, 2007 - 2 answers

Is my college being negligent about the safety of my housemate and myself? [more inside]
posted by SansPoint on Oct 3, 2007 - 27 answers

What is the best way for me - a gay man living in a country where I don't speak much of the language and where gay people are relatively repressed - to promote greater rights for gay people here? [more inside]
posted by mdonley on Sep 30, 2007 - 17 answers

My sister called with disturbing news: tonight, gunfire broke out in the apartment building she just moved into. What advice should I give her? [more inside]
posted by roger ackroyd on Sep 4, 2007 - 19 answers

What are some old-school rap or hip-hop songs that go against the gang/sex/drugs culture? [more inside]
posted by daninnj on Apr 16, 2007 - 49 answers

Who prays like this? (loud & aggressive) [more inside]
posted by Pasa la bola chetu on Apr 5, 2007 - 13 answers

A friend of mine is having a very hard time dealing with the aftermath of a recent traumatic event that remains prominently in the forefront of the local news. [more inside]
posted by stagewhisper on Mar 19, 2007 - 5 answers

I was in Mexico for three days with my boyfriend when he because physically violent. It was the first time he had ever done so. I have the bruises and cuts from earlier today. Because the incident took place in Mexico, US police say they cannot do anything. Do I have any options at this point? We're both applying to law schools, and the ABA has strict policies against criminal backgrounds. He's a criminal, but I don't know what to do. I can't believe he's getting away with this.
posted by Mister Fyodor on Mar 9, 2007 - 45 answers

MugFilter: Has anyone here been mugged or held up in recent years? [more inside]
posted by chef_boyardee on Nov 7, 2006 - 75 answers

Trying to find a Flash game that I played a good couple of years ago. It was one of your average sidescrolling fighting games, pitting you against a bunch of baddies, with the somewhat unique catch that nobody had any arms, just hands. [more inside]
posted by cyrusdogstar on Oct 17, 2006 - 4 answers

My girlfriend's ex is destroying our relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 17, 2006 - 59 answers

Where do I look for information on Jewish violence? Does Judaism have much violence in its history? I'm specifically looking for information on pre-Zionist Jewish militance, if such existed. Were there any major battles or wars involving Jews before the twentieth century?
posted by goo on May 12, 2006 - 14 answers

Why do I like violence so much? [more inside]
posted by Smarson on Mar 21, 2006 - 41 answers

Why hasn't Fred Phelps perished due to violence yet? [more inside]
posted by daninnj on Mar 20, 2006 - 35 answers

Why did the violence over the European cartoons of Mohammed erupt when it did? [more inside]
posted by blue mustard on Feb 6, 2006 - 13 answers

Where can I find out information about gun availability. I recently heard that handguns are no more available than they ever have been, but that doesn't seem right. I found some stats on the Department of Justice site, but these stats don't exactly cover what I'm looking for. It seems to me that over time, there would of course be more guns available, since guns don't stop working and more are always being made. Unless guns are destroyed, it seems the numbers are always going to rise.
posted by abbyladybug on Jan 26, 2006 - 21 answers

KatrinaFilter: I don't understand most kinds of violence, but seldom am I as baffled as in this case: why would one fire at a medical convoy performing rescue work, as has reportedly happened in New Orleans? [more inside]
posted by goodnewsfortheinsane on Sep 1, 2005 - 43 answers

I got held up a gun-point about a week and a half ago. [more inside]
posted by Jon-o on Jul 27, 2005 - 32 answers

Has anyone seen this shockwave (or something) movie I'm looking for with a lethal mouse? [more inside]
posted by Slimemonster on Jun 3, 2005 - 1 answer

Prompted by a Metatalk comment yesterday (can't link; page down; sorry) about meeting people from the internet: where did the stereotypical worry about strangers from cyberspace being serial killers come from? Did it ever happen? More than once? [more inside]
posted by mygothlaundry on Apr 8, 2005 - 16 answers

Several years ago, I heard, on some TV show that the total number of people who have died up until now is less than the number of people alive today. Then I saw this. (+) [more inside]
posted by arse_hat on Feb 8, 2005 - 23 answers

From Escobar in the '94 World Cup to Uday and now Liberia, soccer tends towards the ultra-violent. Why?
posted by Kwantsar on Jul 4, 2004 - 8 answers

What's the best thing your community (interpret this as widely or narrowly as you like) has done to deal with hatred and violence? [more inside]
posted by stonerose on Mar 26, 2004 - 8 answers