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I hate you. You hate me..

Anonymous — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 11:42:35 -0800

I woke up this morning hating everyone and everything. Help? I woke up this morning in a nastiest funk. I hate where I live, I hate where I work, I hate my friends and family, I hate myself and I hate my partner! I am fighting the urge to just walk out, buy a plane ticket across the country and leave forever. I know that this is not the right thing to do but every extra second that I stay here I am just upset and resentful.

I can usually run away until this feeling subsides but I am not able to sequester myself at the moment. Help me deal with this feeling until I can get in to see a counselor, I don't want to fight with my partner, I don't want to leave, I don't want to throw everything away. At least I don't think I do but every so often I wake up feeling incredibly dissatisfied with my life and those in my life. These bad funks have happened 2 or 3 times before and they have always in the past gone away after a day or so.

I am lucky to be alive, healthy and living in a country where I have more liberties than many can imagine. I am lucky. Right? Help me get this into my thick skull so I can stop being an ass and start be grateful.

Is this what a mid-life crisis is like, minus the cheating?

Toss-away email: getawaygetawayfromme@gmail.com

Do men who date porn stars continue to use porn?

Sully — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 08:44:09 -0800

Do men who date porn stars continue to use porn? In a lot of advice columns, I keep seeing upset letters from women whose male partners use porn. Everything else in their relationship is great, except for that. So I was wondering if anyone here knew an actual person who was dating a porn actress, and had inside knowledge as to whether they continued to use porn.

Throw [Every Last One Of] The Bums Out!

Rykey — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 16:45:58 -0800

ThrowTheBumsOutFilter: What would be the foreseeable political, economic, and/or social consequences of EVERY incumbent congressional candidate losing his/her seat in 2010? I'm trying to expand upon an idea I have for a story about a grassroots campaign in the USA that succeeds in unseating every member of congress (both houses). Obviously, such an upset would be a logistical nightmare on Capitol Hill, but for the purposes of this story, I'm interested in how the nation would be affected by an all-rookie congress-- politically, economically, and socially, short- and long-term.

For the purposes of this question, assume that yes, this crazy, nearly impossible situation actually came to pass, but that everything else is bound by reality (i.e., no speculations that involve the supernatural, science fiction, etc.).

How to harden the fuck up already

Anonymous — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 21:45:43 -0800

I feel too much. Help me stop. Background: I’m middle-aged, healthy with no hormonal imbalances and non-theist. I have reasonable self-esteem. I’m not depressed (have been before, so I know the difference.) I find my overwhelming emotions make my life unpleasant. This is not new. It’s always been this way. I’ve done cognitive behaviour therapy , successfully I believe. I understand about automatic negative self talk etc. Yes, I’ve been to psychologists – they seem to think I’m fine.

Most of the time, my rational side which is saying, “okay, you’re upset about this, but it’s no big deal” can’t win over my emotional side which is saying “oh god, it hurts, make it stop.” I find myself unable to focus on my tasks, even if I’m successful in not thinking about the event that precipitated these feelings. Sometimes, I feel so bad, I want to be sick. Even after I’ve resolved the issue successfully, I have this ball of anxiety in my stomach.

For the most part, this battle remains internal. Colleagues and family usually have no idea that I’m devastated. But it affects my life in that I don’t really want to involve myself in activities that involve other people because of the risk I (my feelings) will be hurt. I also avoid (necessary) conflict and when I do engage, my internal reaction is often disproportionate to the matter.

Some things that upset me include a mildly negative review of my work, being misunderstood in a conversation, the potentiality for making someone else upset, people on askme calling me unkind things. I know it’s ridiculous. I know I’m acting like a special little snowflake. I know everybody deals with disappointment and disapproval on a daily basis without freaking out. I don’t want to be like this. I want to be able to shrug off these things, like you do. I don’t want to care. I’d rather not use drugs, if there’s any alternative.

Help me stop feeling so much. If I can’t stop it, how can I make it less intrusive?

Why do I get the dry heaves when I get hungry?

livinginmonrovia — Sat, 12 Aug 2006 20:36:12 -0800

Why do I get the dry heaves when I get hungry? I used to never had a problem getting hungry...if I couldn't eat for a little while. In the last couple of years I have an almost instantaneous reaction when I get hungry. All of a sudden I go into the dry heaves. I have to desperately search for something to eat or eat a Tums. It's rather annoying, not to mention uncomfortable. Other than that I don't have any symptoms. Does anyone have experience with this. Ideas? I'm a 44-year-old slender female without any major health problems. I have a fairly healthy diet with no restrictions.