Is a man who pretends to be friends with a woman when he is actually interested in more than friendship doing something shady? Should said woman (myself) drop him as a friend or give him a chance to adjust? He’s a good friend and generally a positive, interesting and charming friend to have (smart, insightful, witty, capable of deep conversation, trustworthy with secrets, understanding…). I’m simply not interested in dating him (for many reasons, the most glaring of which is that he’s sexist in subtle ways that I couldn’t tolerate in a partner), but I value and love his friendship and conversation. I do not want to date him, ever. I don’t know if I should salvage our friendship or let it go, for his sake and mine...I've included the details below but I think this summary captures what I am trying to intellectually and emotionally figure out. [more inside]
posted by grassbottles on Feb 28, 2013 - 54 answers

I really need help in dealing with a situation of unrequited love with a best friend, to becoming complete strangers, and then back to best friends again. [more inside]
posted by stonecutters88 on Oct 15, 2012 - 12 answers

How do I minimize awkwardness when I see a couple I stopped being friends with because, in part, I found myself falling very hard for one of them? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 30, 2012 - 21 answers

Falling for someone that is leaving... in 15 days... should I tell them? I am not even sure if the feelings are reciprocal. If you have advice for the foolish and insecure, please see the ridiculous bean-plating that follows... [more inside]
posted by glip on Dec 5, 2010 - 23 answers

How do I dial back a friendship before my heart gets trampled any more? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 10, 2010 - 32 answers

How do I approach friendship with a (formerly?) broken heart? [more inside]
posted by bearette on May 21, 2010 - 10 answers

I fell in love with my best friend; love was unrequited; decided to cut contact with her to try and get over her (hasn't worked); now I want to have her back but only if she wants to date; how do I do this without being a jerk? LONG explanation ahead... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2008 - 37 answers

Is it possible to remain friends with someone you're in love with? [more inside]
posted by jstef on Sep 10, 2007 - 45 answers

Is it too pathetic to ask an ex who wants to be friends to quit calling me because I’m still stuck on him? If not, how can I do it and maintain a shred of dignity? What do I say? [more inside]
posted by poxuppit on Feb 27, 2007 - 32 answers