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He loves me, I love him not

A few days ago my training partner/coach/ friend professed his feelings for me; I don't feel the same way. Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 8, 2014 - 32 answers

I need to NOT like this person. Immediately.

I've started a real nice friendship with someone in a serious relationship. I can't help it but I feel like I'm starting to develop strong feelings. I need to stop and prevent these thoughts from going any further. [more inside]
posted by MeaninglessMisfortune on Mar 7, 2014 - 28 answers

Do we actually share a mysterious lineage, or are they just infatuated?

The other evening, as I was standing checking my pockets for something outdoors at a busy transit connection point, I was accosted by a person in their mid-20s (I am older) who first walked past me, then stopped and walked back towards me and said something (in an indeterminate, non-English accent, possibly of Eastern European origin, and in what struck me as an accusatory, perhaps even bitter, tone of voice) about my not recognizing someone from "your lineage." [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 5, 2014 - 22 answers

Recommend media that is dark, sad, and beautiful

I love the theatrical, haunting, sad, yet, beautiful music of Lana Del Ray. Can you recommend any similar music, or accompanying literature and cinema? Thank you!
posted by blithecatpie on Oct 24, 2013 - 38 answers

How do I create healthy boundaries with this crush?

I happen to still really like a guy-- he doesn't like me back-- but I'm still managing to step over all sorts of boundaries-- any advice on how to reel myself in and act more maturely? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by Ocellar on Oct 15, 2013 - 6 answers

I like him. I really really like him.

I've met this guy, I'm developing on crush on him, and now I just want something to happen! What do I do from here? [more inside]
posted by Ocellar on Sep 4, 2013 - 24 answers

Songs about letting go of unrequited love?

I'm trying to make a playlist to help me get past an unrequited-love situation. I'm looking for songs where the people actually know each other, not ones where they're in love with a stranger. [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Aug 16, 2013 - 38 answers

Should I go no contact or continue to hang out?

I met this girl last year at a party, she was slightly interested in me back then (I found out from her recently) but never pursued me and we did not keep in touch. I met her once again 2 months ago, this time I was mesmerised at first sight. I hung out with her 2 times with my friends and finally mustered the courage to ask her out on a date. She said yes, but I could sense from the get go that she was not as into me as I was into her, stating that she wants to take things slow. We went out on 3 dates, made out on the first and slept together on the third. Two days later, she said I was sending out cues that I'm very serious about it and am possessive of her, and how that freaks her out. She said that she is in no shape for a relationship in that she needs to heal and is going through too many things at this point in time. [more inside]
posted by polyhistor on May 29, 2013 - 32 answers

How can I deal with unrequited love with this friend?

I have had over a year of ups and downs with a friend who I have feelings for. We've always become CLOSE to being together but never quite. I still have feelings for him and I don't know what to do to finally resolve this issue. Please help me. [more inside]
posted by impactsmoothie on May 25, 2013 - 57 answers

Lose a good friend or try to fix it?

Is a man who pretends to be friends with a woman when he is actually interested in more than friendship doing something shady? Should said woman (myself) drop him as a friend or give him a chance to adjust? He’s a good friend and generally a positive, interesting and charming friend to have (smart, insightful, witty, capable of deep conversation, trustworthy with secrets, understanding…). I’m simply not interested in dating him (for many reasons, the most glaring of which is that he’s sexist in subtle ways that I couldn’t tolerate in a partner), but I value and love his friendship and conversation. I do not want to date him, ever. I don’t know if I should salvage our friendship or let it go, for his sake and mine...I've included the details below but I think this summary captures what I am trying to intellectually and emotionally figure out. [more inside]
posted by grassbottles on Feb 28, 2013 - 54 answers

Crap

My boyfriend of four months just told me he loves me. I don't love him, and I don't think I will in the future, but I do LIKE him. Now what?! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 18, 2013 - 41 answers

The Curious Incident of the Disappearing Man

A man with whom I was once-upon-a-time very much in love pops back into my life about once a year, then vanishes again. Do I stop him? Do I just roll with it? Blizzard inside. [more inside]
posted by like_a_friend on Dec 31, 2012 - 37 answers

He likes me. He likes me not. Solutions?

Unrequited crush...or is it? [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude on Dec 23, 2012 - 15 answers

How to move on (and out?)

[heartbreak/confused sexuality filter] Recently admitted my romantic feelings toward a close friend, but have no idea how to pick up the pieces of my actions and move forward. Somewhat messy details within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 17, 2012 - 11 answers

How can I make sure past unrequited feelings never return and just try to remain friends?

I really need help in dealing with a situation of unrequited love with a best friend, to becoming complete strangers, and then back to best friends again. [more inside]
posted by stonecutters88 on Oct 15, 2012 - 12 answers

Normally the awkwardness is part of my charm

How do I minimize awkwardness when I see a couple I stopped being friends with because, in part, I found myself falling very hard for one of them? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 30, 2012 - 21 answers

How to choose between waiting and moving on?

At the moment, I find myself waiting for a friend to grow healthier (both emotionally and physically) on the off-chance that this growth will allow our friendship to turn romantic further on. Should I simply resign myself to friendship alone (do my level best to date other people, cement myself in her friend zone), or is there some long-term logic to what feels, right now, like madness? [more inside]
posted by trainsurfing on Jul 18, 2012 - 24 answers

How do you give clear signals that it's just not gonna happen?

How do you send clear signals when someone is flirty with you, but you are not interested, yet still like them as a person? [more inside]
posted by abirdinthehand on Jun 30, 2012 - 13 answers

Should I tell my secret work crush before she leaves the company?

Should I tell my secret work crush before she leaves the company? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 9, 2012 - 53 answers

Dealing with a friend's crush

How do I deal with unwanted advances from someone who I really, really want to be friends with? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 21, 2011 - 41 answers

He is not sure about me or what he's doing with his life?

As everyone has already reminded me, I asked questions on here before about my bf. He admitted he is not in love with me but cares deeply for me? Still wants to be together? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 on Nov 14, 2011 - 27 answers

What songs deal with unrequited loved between a gay man and a straight man?

What are some songs that lyrically deal with unrequited love between a gay male and a (questionably) straight male? [more inside]
posted by donquixote on Apr 12, 2011 - 31 answers

15 short days...

Falling for someone that is leaving... in 15 days... should I tell them? I am not even sure if the feelings are reciprocal. If you have advice for the foolish and insecure, please see the ridiculous bean-plating that follows... [more inside]
posted by glip on Dec 5, 2010 - 23 answers

melodrama, fade-out, third option?

How do I dial back a friendship before my heart gets trampled any more? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 10, 2010 - 32 answers

How do I go about moving on from this?

How can I begin taking steps to get past this heartache that I've been hanging onto after falling in love with my best friend and move on to find someone who is actually emotionally available? [more inside]
posted by dorothyrose on Jun 6, 2010 - 5 answers

the way forward with a broken heart

How do I approach friendship with a (formerly?) broken heart? [more inside]
posted by bearette on May 21, 2010 - 10 answers

How can I resist the temptation to despair?

How can I resist the temptation to despair as I get older and still find myself unable to break consistent patterns of frustration in my work and personal life? (long) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 12, 2009 - 14 answers

I'm pretty sure I'm not that into you

Girl meets boy. Girl and boy have date. At end of date girl and boy say "let's do this again." Then after they each go home, girl thinks, "you know...I don't think I'm into boy as a romantic prospect after all." Now boy is asking for second date. What should girl do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 7, 2009 - 65 answers

I've accidentally been leading a friend on.

Help me clean up a complicated friend-triangle before it becomes a messy love-triangle. [more inside]
posted by brenton on Dec 5, 2009 - 13 answers

Alice's Lament

I'd like to start resuming a friendship, but the other person is mistaken about why I backed off. Should I tell him why? It's...complicated. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 21, 2009 - 7 answers

Music for the good kind of unhappy

Music about unrequited love. [more inside]
posted by Gotham on Jun 4, 2009 - 58 answers

Books that are a tease.

I'd like to read some mindless romance novels. I'm looking for books that have the drawn-out, difficult, possibly unrequited string-you-along love of a television series. [more inside]
posted by IWoudDie4U on May 21, 2009 - 28 answers

Help -- I've fallen for my housemate!

OMG-does-he-like-me-filter: help, I've fallen for my housemate! I have two requests for you, MeFites: 1) Please read my [long] story and tell me if I'm totally kidding myself about this situation; and/or 2) Tell me your own story about the time you fell for your roommate, housemate, or close friend. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2009 - 41 answers

Why can't I quit her? My head says NO but my heart says GO. please HELP!

Why can't I quit her? My head says NO but my heart says GO. please HELP! [more inside]
posted by anonymous35 on Apr 30, 2009 - 35 answers

Help me feel like my life is less like a movie.

What should I do about a long-term attraction? Also, my mother recently died. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 12, 2009 - 16 answers

Trying to make unrequited love into mutual love

I fell in love with my best friend; love was unrequited; decided to cut contact with her to try and get over her (hasn't worked); now I want to have her back but only if she wants to date; how do I do this without being a jerk? LONG explanation ahead... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2008 - 37 answers

UnrequitedLoveFilter: How do I stop the negative self-talk?

UnrequitedLoveFilter: How do I stop the "If only I had done..." negative self-talk? [more inside]
posted by airguitar2 on Oct 21, 2008 - 21 answers

I'm in love with my roommate

Study abroad roommate-love 101! Help me detach! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 16, 2008 - 8 answers

How to handle unrequited love with a best friend?

Is it possible to remain friends with someone you're in love with? [more inside]
posted by jstef on Sep 10, 2007 - 45 answers

How do I make him stop?

My housemate is in love with me and I am going bonkers. [more inside]
posted by skjønn on Sep 10, 2007 - 46 answers

Since I fell for you

How can I get over the heartbreak that ensues over what was essentially a no-strings fling between two friends? [more inside]
posted by the luke parker fiasco on Apr 8, 2007 - 37 answers

How do I ask an ex to quit calling?

Is it too pathetic to ask an ex who wants to be friends to quit calling me because I’m still stuck on him? If not, how can I do it and maintain a shred of dignity? What do I say? [more inside]
posted by poxuppit on Feb 27, 2007 - 32 answers

The One that got away.

How do I get over The One that got away? She's moving on and I'm not. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 17, 2006 - 19 answers

Drop that zero and get with the hero

If the woman of my affections has been dating some other guy for a year -- a relationship she has said is "not that serious," in frequent playful e-mails to me -- what strategy is smarter? Stay in a queue until she becomes available? Ask what's up? Steal her away? Can anyone share successful or unsuccessful ploys to turn the other guy into the Baxter, when the woman involved is a pretty neat friend you'd like to avoid losing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 15, 2005 - 12 answers

Songs for Post-Breakup Blues

WhyDoesItHurtSoMuchFilter: Recently, my boyfriend of about 3 years broke up with me. Apparently not because of anything I did, but because he needs to "sort some stuff out" (which apparently means jumping into the arms of another man in under a week, but I digress). Unfortunately, I'm still madly in love with him. Oh, and we're roommates. Anyway, I'm looking for songs that I can buy from iTunes Music Store to express the mixture of sadness / betrayal / anger / hopelessness / listlessness / general malaise / etc. I'm feeling. Do you have a mixtape for the dumped? [more inside]
posted by chota on Jun 5, 2005 - 52 answers

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