Either one of two things has happened. (1) I've met someone I'm very compatible with who has "matching baggage" and with some patience it will work out to be a happy, healthy, sustainable relationship. OR (2) I've met someone whose issues spell trouble for me, and I may need to cut my losses but I'm not sure where to start. I'm way too close to it, and on balance so far it's definitly something I want to keep working on because I care about him a lot and like how we fit together - but I need a reality check.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 27, 2013 -
30 answers
That's basically what I know right now. He kissed someone he's in a group with after the two of them went out to lunch. We've been together for 6 years, have been living in different states for the past year and a half; the distance was supposed to end this summer when we moved in together in a new city, but now I don't know what to think. He told me himself this morning; the kiss happened yesterday.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 4, 2013 -
24 answers
An 18-year-old girl I met online who I'm interested in dating's parents (who, I should note, are still financially supporting her) want all sorts of my info before they'll let her meet me and I believe they want it regardless if she meets me here or if I meet her there. Her parents want, among other things: My address and addresses and phone numbers of various family members of mine; scans of pieces of my ID; to check if I have a criminal record.
Is it wrong of me to want to withhold this info from them?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 27, 2013 -
96 answers
I split up with my wife a couple of months ago, and have been doing really well since then. Recently I've been feeling a little bit like she's been stalking me on social media, and today I've woken up to messages asking me why I'm in contact with someone from my past. How do I handle this?
(I've tried to anonymise this as best I can)
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 24, 2013 -
45 answers
How do I decide whether this relationship is worth staying and working on or leaving and working on myself?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 30, 2012 -
31 answers
So I'm on a performance plan at work due to dishonesty. Please help me turn this around.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 14, 2012 -
53 answers
I have just ended a long term relationship due to a breach of trust. This has, however, added to my increasing lack of trust in other people -- which was little to begin with. Why should and how do I learn to trust people again?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 31, 2012 -
15 answers
How do I deal with the conflict between my therapist's professional boundaries and the information my college wants? Also, how to deal with the trust issues this is creating?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 12, 2012 -
19 answers
I want to get over feelings of betrayal and build trust again in my marriage. How do I bring it up to my husband?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 21, 2012 -
25 answers
I can't trust my girlfriend. I haven't been able to trust past girlfriends. Help? (snowflake details ahead)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 11, 2012 -
27 answers
Grandma set up an uneven trust and we want to distribute it equally. Who do we talk to and what do we ask them? Questions about imbalanced inheritances, DIY redistribution of wealth, and taxes within...
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 1, 2012 -
14 answers
After a recent and unexpected breakup, I'm starting to feel like relationships can end at any time, and finding it hard to imagine letting myself love again. Help me figure out a healthier way to think about dating in general.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 22, 2012 -
22 answers
I am angry at everyone who tries to be friendly with me because of a repeated thing that has happened to me socially and with my family as well. I really don't want to become bitter and friendless but I either feel like I'm putting on an act or I get angry.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 22, 2012 -
19 answers
Girlfriend of 3 years got blackout drunk slept with a random acquaintance while on a business trip. I need tips, methods and advice to find clarity so I can make a good decision, rather than one of impulse.
I'll do my best to keep this brief, but, well, these things have details:
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 31, 2012 -
107 answers
What are some ways to structure a trust? I'm setting up a trust so that if I die, my child would not have a sudden, relatively large windfall. I've got life insurance, 401k and quite a bit of equity in a house, and at this time, I think it would be problematic.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 3, 2011 -
11 answers
{Relationship Filter} So my husband of less than a year looked up an old friend last month. Said friend happens to be married, female and goregous. They hadn't spoken in more than 10 years. They've been e-mailing, and my husband says he has no ulterior motives.
I'm not so sure.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 14, 2011 -
41 answers
I believe my boyfriend may be entering in to an emotional affair with a former coworker via facebook. How do i bring this up without seeming untrusting when nothing physical has happened (yet?)
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 2, 2011 -
37 answers
I told myself I would never post a relationship question, but here goes: My boyfriend had, what amounts to in my mind, an emotional affair that's been going on for the past 6 months. I need help deciding if this is worth salvaging. There are, of course, lots of details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 29, 2010 -
43 answers
Is it detrimental to date a psychiatrist (not my own) after being in an emotionally abusive relationship?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 13, 2010 -
24 answers
I met a guy's dog recently. She started growling at me like crazy, barking, and then peed on the floor. I will admit, I am not a dog person, and they make me really nervous. I just don't want to pet your dog, and I think they can sense it. I wonder, though. Do dog people think less of people who don't like dogs?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 1, 2010 -
75 answers
How do I overcome my severe trust issues with men? Very long backstory inside, be warned.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 7, 2010 -
25 answers
How can I rebuild my relationship with my SO and my parents when someone seems set to undermine it?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 10, 2010 -
6 answers
Grandparents (my parents) want to take my precocious ~3 year old and his ~5 year old cousin out for the day, wife is nervous and wants me to go, but the grandparents are put off, how do I handle this diplomatically?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 28, 2010 -
41 answers
I’m engaged. Wedding date is set, I have my dress and all our vendors are booked. But, thinking about life with my fiancé is scaring me. Is this normal pre-wedding jitters, my own anxiety, or a sign that we aren’t right for each other?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 16, 2010 -
60 answers
Some friends found my husband's active profile on a swinging website. I did not know he was doing this. Needless to say, I'm angry.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 26, 2010 -
24 answers
Ran into my sister's boyfriend holding hands with another woman. She's trying to figure out what to do now. Advice on setting new limits and ground rules?
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posted by anonymous
on May 19, 2010 -
60 answers
My boyfriend feels he can't trust me. I want him to, and I want to make things work, but we need to break this pattern. What now?
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posted by anonymous
on May 11, 2010 -
26 answers
How to deal with / move on from a long term relationship when your partner suddenly loses passion in said relationship?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 22, 2010 -
27 answers
How do I get over trust/anxiety issues in a new relationship, with an assist from email snooping?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 6, 2010 -
17 answers
Why am I so scared that people are trying to trick me/use me? Is this something you really need to be on guard against all the time or is it irrational thinking?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 6, 2010 -
23 answers
I know my anxiety to be a liar. I don't know how to shut it up. Please help me get a handle on it before it derails something amazing.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 29, 2010 -
16 answers
Before my now-boyfriend and I decided to go exclusive, we had a long uncommitted period where we were just besties who had great sex. At the time, his other flings and involvements didn't bother me. Now that we're actually together, I am retrospectively jealous. Very jealous. How do I overcome my jealousy and lack of trust?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 25, 2010 -
13 answers
I’ve had reservations about my relationship. We agreed to some time of no contact, giving us both some time to think. How do I come back to it all 1) letting go of some of our past mistakes 2) ensuring that we don’t make them again? Am I even ready to start again?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 17, 2010 -
10 answers
