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My girlfriend snooped through my phone. Now what?

I found out my girlfriend snooped through my phone. I don't know how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by hobodeluxe on Jun 27, 2014 - 47 answers

It's a bad time...but when is it ever a good time?

I'm coming to realize that my partner is seriously abusing alcohol (and being cavalier about other substances) just as he's embarking on an existential crisis following a messy legal situation (finalizing a divorce that's 2+ years in the making). The relationship needs work; he needs work; hell, I might need work; but he's got a lot on his plate and I can't really pile on. I have kind of lost sight of what is reasonable here, and could use some perspective. [more inside]
posted by magdalemon on Jun 18, 2014 - 30 answers

How to stop thinking about my relationship?

My marriage is in limbo and I need to stop giving it so much emotional energy. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2014 - 23 answers

Is there good reason to cry over spilled beans?

Throughout the entirety of my life, my immediate family has existed under a heavy shroud of secrecy. Within my current relationship, I cast it off for my boyfriend. Is this a decision I will come to deeply regret? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 29, 2014 - 24 answers

How do I deal with my spouse having an external romantic relationship?

I found out my partner of 20 years/spouse of 11 was having an emotional/romantic affair with our best friend and lied to me about it. Now that we've gone through the initial reveal, I've told her I've forgiven her; she's hinting she's been thinking about romantic relationships outside of our marriage. tl;dr- Are we done here or can this be saved? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 22, 2013 - 49 answers

Struggling to forgive my SO's emotional cheating

How can I forgive my SO (and myself) for emotionally cheating on each other? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 12, 2013 - 12 answers

Trust vs. Control

I posted a pervious question regarding dating a man who wasn't forthcoming about a detail in his life (a 2nd child with a different woman) and my creeping suspicions that learning about him hiding this child was an indication of a future of lies and trust issues. I have let this man go, not because of the child, but because I am unable to trust him for many other reasons and now I want to learn a healthy balance between Trust and Control in relationships and dealing with insecurities. How do you move past insecurities and know when to just trust someone and recognize if your insecurities are causing you to control and sabatoge. [more inside]
posted by BrandNewMe on Oct 9, 2013 - 8 answers

Is this just a special-snowflake-petty relationship concern?

If your partner did something wrong when you first started dating and you didn’t find out until later when you were deep in a happy relationship, what would you do? How much of the past do you let go and how much of the past do you let define the present (e.g., break up)? [more inside]
posted by inevitability on Sep 12, 2013 - 47 answers

Whoops

I drunkenly fooled around with a married friend and now feel terrible about it. What, if anything, do I do next? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 2, 2013 - 28 answers

You pinkie swore!

Looking for perspective about a breach of trust in my relationship, albeit on a teeny tiny scale. Am I making too much of this, or is a promise a promise? [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing on Aug 31, 2013 - 49 answers

Partner lied about previous sexual partners & his faithfulness

A lie of omission, to be more accurate. When I met my (now) husband he understood that I hadn’t had sex and didn’t plan on it before marriage, and that I was looking for someone with similar beliefs about sex. Because he knew this, he was honest and told me that he had been in a long-term relationship with someone before for 7 years - I was fine with this. But I recently discovered that he had sex with 3 different women right as he was getting to know me, (one of whom I've since met at one of his work parties, and cringe to think I was the only one in the group who didn't know about this), and he didn't feel it was important to tell me about it when he proposed to me. [more inside]
posted by Zee101 on Aug 21, 2013 - 43 answers

Current boyfriend has lots of female friends...and I'm bothered...

Have you ever dated someone with several friends of the opposite sex? What about someone who is friends with many of their exes and still keeps up regular contact with them? He's given me no reason not to trust him, but I'm still hung up on this. Is it just a matter of me working on my insecurity? Or should he be changing his behavior? More details inside... [more inside]
posted by singinginmychains on Jun 11, 2013 - 57 answers

Therapeutic Faith.

Do you have faith in your therapist's sense of certainty? [more inside]
posted by mild deer on Mar 31, 2013 - 21 answers

Dating when you already have feelings you never intend to act on?

I have feelings for another woman that I have no intention of ever acting on, and my current relationship seems doomed because of it. Help. [more inside]
posted by zeek321 on Mar 8, 2013 - 78 answers

Relationship; and the one with her Male Friend

At the beginning of the relationship, she had asked to be exclusive. Told me she wants me to be her boyfriend. Thing's were going great. She mentions that she has a male friend visiting from out of town. Wasn't a big deal for me. Then it comes to light that he would be staying at her place for the weekend. [more inside]
posted by Nicholas Geary on Jan 2, 2013 - 120 answers

Kindle self-help book recommendations

Looking for recommendations of effective books/workbooks/web resources on emotional intelligence, abandonment issues, anger, fear, jealousy, trust issues and self-compassion. Bonus points for including all of the above and being available on Kindle. [more inside]
posted by f3l1x on Dec 30, 2012 - 6 answers

Why trust other people?

I have just ended a long term relationship due to a breach of trust. This has, however, added to my increasing lack of trust in other people -- which was little to begin with. Why should and how do I learn to trust people again? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 31, 2012 - 15 answers

How do I re-establish trust my long-term relationship after a lie?

How do I re-establish trust my long-term relationship after a lie? [more inside]
posted by otempora on Sep 25, 2012 - 36 answers

I'm in love, how do I not go crazy?

I love her and she loves me. Help me not lose my goddamn mind. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 28, 2012 - 10 answers

How to get over feelings of betrayal and build trust again in my marriage.

I want to get over feelings of betrayal and build trust again in my marriage. How do I bring it up to my husband? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 21, 2012 - 25 answers

How do I get over jealousy in a relationship?

I can't trust my girlfriend. I haven't been able to trust past girlfriends. Help? (snowflake details ahead) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 11, 2012 - 27 answers

How to love when love can be taken away from you at any time?

After a recent and unexpected breakup, I'm starting to feel like relationships can end at any time, and finding it hard to imagine letting myself love again. Help me figure out a healthier way to think about dating in general. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 22, 2012 - 22 answers

how to trust?

why do people say to you "you can tell me anything" when they don't really mean it? [more inside]
posted by timsneezed on Mar 2, 2012 - 20 answers

How much trust should be given in a new relationship?

How much trust should be given in a new relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 9, 2011 - 27 answers

Sex and Love.

How do you get over the shock and pain of discovering you've been sleeping with someone who hasn't been in love with you for months? [more inside]
posted by These Birds of a Feather on Nov 15, 2011 - 13 answers

About those "reformed" ex-boyfriends and girlfriends..

Reformed exes- "suck it and see", or leave it alone? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 16, 2011 - 22 answers

I have trouble trusting and I need help

Yes, I have trust issues and I don't think my girlfriend is helping any... I'm ready for therapy... what can I expect, what can I do to make it the most helpful, and what can I do to preserve my relationship through this -- or should I? [more inside]
posted by doompuppy on Jul 18, 2011 - 32 answers

What's it like when it's nice?

What are the nice aspects of becoming intimate with a "romantic partner"? What does it feel like when it's a healthy situation? Can you give me some examples of things that are nice about sharing your life in an intimate way with your partner? [more inside]
posted by Chrysalis on Jul 13, 2011 - 24 answers

Is it really a binary decision?

Are my relationship demands unreasonable? [more inside]
posted by Turkey Glue on Feb 16, 2011 - 75 answers

Space Is The Place...Except At Work

How do I handle a nosy and pushy coworker while I plan my next step? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 1, 2010 - 17 answers

Trust? How to give it freely?

Any advice on how to give trust freely and not get caught in the cycle of waiting till others earn trust? [more inside]
posted by PeaPod on Oct 17, 2010 - 12 answers

Is he my boyfriend or a creepy sex addict?

Should I trust him? Can people really change? [more inside]
posted by osloheart on Jul 19, 2010 - 71 answers

What would you do in this situation with ex therapist?

What would you do, if anything, in this complicated situation with ex therapist? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 25, 2010 - 11 answers

My sister's boyfriend was holding hands with someone else, what now?

Ran into my sister's boyfriend holding hands with another woman. She's trying to figure out what to do now. Advice on setting new limits and ground rules? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 19, 2010 - 60 answers

If it takes two pens to draw a pattern, which one's out of kilter?

My boyfriend feels he can't trust me. I want him to, and I want to make things work, but we need to break this pattern. What now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 11, 2010 - 26 answers

I need a different perspective on what I should do...

So I've been seeing this girl with a fiancé, and I'm looking for some advice here... [more inside]
posted by Cubanisimo on Apr 17, 2010 - 45 answers

I'm being "slightly cyberstalked" by my girlfriend... should I be concerned?

Recently, I discovered that my girlfriend of has been reading my postings on various sites on the internet through "shoulder surfing" my usernames on them... should I let it go? [more inside]
posted by doompuppy on Apr 12, 2010 - 99 answers

How do I get over trust issues in a relationship?

How do I get over trust/anxiety issues in a new relationship, with an assist from email snooping? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 6, 2010 - 17 answers

I think my fear of fake relationships might be stopping me from having real relationships - help?

Why am I so scared that people are trying to trick me/use me? Is this something you really need to be on guard against all the time or is it irrational thinking? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 6, 2010 - 23 answers

I urgently need help in abandoning my doubt before it destroys a once-in-a-lifetime chance.

I know my anxiety to be a liar. I don't know how to shut it up. Please help me get a handle on it before it derails something amazing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 29, 2010 - 16 answers

How do I overcome jealousy and lack of trust in my relationship?

Before my now-boyfriend and I decided to go exclusive, we had a long uncommitted period where we were just besties who had great sex. At the time, his other flings and involvements didn't bother me. Now that we're actually together, I am retrospectively jealous. Very jealous. How do I overcome my jealousy and lack of trust? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 25, 2010 - 13 answers

how to start again, if at all?

I’ve had reservations about my relationship. We agreed to some time of no contact, giving us both some time to think. How do I come back to it all 1) letting go of some of our past mistakes 2) ensuring that we don’t make them again? Am I even ready to start again? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 17, 2010 - 10 answers

I am trying to trust him

Am I totally off-base regarding trust issues with my boyfriend? Advice needed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2009 - 15 answers

I think I don’t like or trust my partner sexually any more.

I think I don’t like or trust my partner sexually any more. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? How did you manage? Long account under cut. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 18, 2009 - 41 answers

How can I make her realize I'm not her ex-husband?

We're trying to get back together, but she has trust issues. How to overcome these? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 16, 2009 - 11 answers

Where to start when you start over?

How do you start over, with a new love or without one? Heartfelt, soul-searching soap opera of my life and love inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 9, 2009 - 31 answers

I want to trust my boyfriend but he's making it so hard

I would like some unbiased opinion. Right now I am 4 months into a new relationship which has generally been going well. We get along great, have lots in common, and we have been spending a lot of time together. But I am having a hard time trusting him. [more inside]
posted by ninefour on Dec 29, 2008 - 24 answers

My precious girlfriend is too exquisite for words.

If actions are doubtlessly mightier than words, would this person be considered trustworthy? [more inside]
posted by johannahdeschanel on Dec 29, 2008 - 45 answers

Tell me you love me... on second thought, don't.

I have a hunch the new boyfriend is going to drop the "I love you" bomb this weekend. I'm psyched. Trouble is: I don't know if I believe him, and therefore don't know how to best respond. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 7, 2007 - 49 answers

Giving/Gaining Turst

How do you gain trust from someone who's been emotionally scarred. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 15, 2007 - 21 answers

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