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How do I deal with my spouse having an external romantic relationship?

I found out my partner of 20 years/spouse of 11 was having an emotional/romantic affair with our best friend and lied to me about it. Now that we've gone through the initial reveal, I've told her I've forgiven her; she's hinting she's been thinking about romantic relationships outside of our marriage. tl;dr- Are we done here or can this be saved? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 22, 2013 - 49 answers

I cheated, he found out. What now?

Boyfriend found out I was cheating on him. I want to apologize because I didn't get the chance to. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 3, 2013 - 51 answers

Whoops

I drunkenly fooled around with a married friend and now feel terrible about it. What, if anything, do I do next? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 2, 2013 - 28 answers

Cheating: Clueless girlfriend edition

How do I move on after infidelity? I recently discovered that my BF has been cheating on me. Need advice on how to proceed, mentally/emotionally - snowflakey details inside. [more inside]
posted by tillei on Aug 24, 2013 - 18 answers

Partner lied about previous sexual partners & his faithfulness

A lie of omission, to be more accurate. When I met my (now) husband he understood that I hadn’t had sex and didn’t plan on it before marriage, and that I was looking for someone with similar beliefs about sex. Because he knew this, he was honest and told me that he had been in a long-term relationship with someone before for 7 years - I was fine with this. But I recently discovered that he had sex with 3 different women right as he was getting to know me, (one of whom I've since met at one of his work parties, and cringe to think I was the only one in the group who didn't know about this), and he didn't feel it was important to tell me about it when he proposed to me. [more inside]
posted by Zee101 on Aug 21, 2013 - 43 answers

Once an attempted cheater....

I have had some tough times with my partner of just over two years and we were on the way to solving them. But something new has come up and I am trying to get some perspective on whether it is reasonable for me to carry things on or if I'm in denial and need to end it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 11, 2013 - 35 answers

Partner of 6 years kissed someone else - what next?

That's basically what I know right now. He kissed someone he's in a group with after the two of them went out to lunch. We've been together for 6 years, have been living in different states for the past year and a half; the distance was supposed to end this summer when we moved in together in a new city, but now I don't know what to think. He told me himself this morning; the kiss happened yesterday. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 4, 2013 - 24 answers

My GF cheated on me. How do I get to a point of clarity so I can make a decision?

Girlfriend of 3 years got blackout drunk slept with a random acquaintance while on a business trip. I need tips, methods and advice to find clarity so I can make a good decision, rather than one of impulse. I'll do my best to keep this brief, but, well, these things have details: [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 31, 2012 - 107 answers

Can a 3 year relationship survive a break after trust is broken (not infidelity...but almost)?

Can a 3 year relationship survive a break after trust is broken (not infidelity...but almost)? [more inside]
posted by fezzle on Dec 8, 2011 - 38 answers

For once [ha!], I might actually be overreacting...

I love my boyfriend and we've been talking about getting married. I'm a little wary of some things about his past and some things he's said, even though he's been nothing but wonderful to me. I'm reluctant to address them with him directly because I don't want him to feel like I'm judging his character. Are my concerns valid, or do I let this one go? [more inside]
posted by Be cool, sodapop on Jun 12, 2011 - 52 answers

Can we make this work?

I told myself I would never post a relationship question, but here goes: My boyfriend had, what amounts to in my mind, an emotional affair that's been going on for the past 6 months. I need help deciding if this is worth salvaging. There are, of course, lots of details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 29, 2010 - 43 answers

How do you trust someone you are just getting to know?

Started seeing a new guy very recently. I know for a fact that he had a a boyfriend when we met; however, he claims that things haven't been working out and that they're "taking a break." How do you know whether to believe someone if you haven't known them very long? [more inside]
posted by Vinegaroon on Dec 28, 2010 - 15 answers

It's another cheating question!

Some friends found my husband's active profile on a swinging website. I did not know he was doing this. Needless to say, I'm angry. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 26, 2010 - 24 answers

Is he my boyfriend or a creepy sex addict?

Should I trust him? Can people really change? [more inside]
posted by osloheart on Jul 19, 2010 - 71 answers

My sister's boyfriend was holding hands with someone else, what now?

Ran into my sister's boyfriend holding hands with another woman. She's trying to figure out what to do now. Advice on setting new limits and ground rules? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 19, 2010 - 60 answers

Tell me you love me... on second thought, don't.

I have a hunch the new boyfriend is going to drop the "I love you" bomb this weekend. I'm psyched. Trouble is: I don't know if I believe him, and therefore don't know how to best respond. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 7, 2007 - 49 answers

Now I Know How Simone Warne Must Have Felt.

Is my fiancée cheating on me, or is this simply a case of a wrong number at the wrong time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 29, 2007 - 131 answers

Do not seem to be able to walk away

Relationship filter - Help me be a stronger person... [more inside]
posted by spotty_dog on Sep 1, 2007 - 14 answers

Is it possible for an otherwise happy relationship to survive an act of willful cheating?

Is it possible for an otherwise happy relationship to survive an act of willful cheating? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 17, 2007 - 86 answers

how do i regain trust after being cheated on

how do you regain trust after being cheated on [more inside]
posted by frogger12 on Apr 19, 2007 - 27 answers

I cheated on my girlfriend, should I tell her?

I just cheated on my girlfriend and have no idea what I should do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 16, 2005 - 64 answers

Are Popular Women More Likely to Cheat Than Unpopular Women?

Are pretty and popular women more likely to cheat than unpopular women? I have always gone for the quiet, shy girl that was pretty, but pretty in the sort of way that most guys wouldn't notice. Are girls that can have any guy they want more likely to cheat? Or are they more faithful because they have trouble finding guys interested in more than their looks or popularity?
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2004 - 19 answers

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