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Where can I read about this kind of dissociation?

Where can I read about dissociation in which the mind convinces someone that something was positive? I'm thinking about Hawkeye from the end of M*A*S*H* and the chicken as an example of what I mean. (trigger warning) [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats on Nov 20, 2015 - 11 answers

Resources for working with distracted kids with ADHD, history of trauma

I'm looking for materials, tips, and ideas on working with elementary school kids. Many of them come from economically challenged families, lack stability, and have experienced significant trauma. [more inside]
posted by jeffgerhard on Nov 15, 2015 - 6 answers

Losing a Limb

From a non-medical perspective, what is it like to recover from having most of a leg amputated? [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight on Nov 5, 2015 - 5 answers

When the past is present

I'm coming to terms with some things that have happened to me and I seriously *need* to see what healthy, well-adjusted members of the public can tell me: [more inside]
posted by a knot unknown on Nov 2, 2015 - 28 answers

Apps for healing from trauma/abuse?

I'm looking for recommendations for an app that's a workbook for emotional healing. I've used (and liked) The Courage To Heal workbook and would be interested in something like that, but in app form. The specific focus could be anxiety, trauma, abuse, healing from narcissistic relationships, etc etc. For various reasons it needs to be text only (no audio or video). I'm also open to suggestions of other similar workbooks in book form. Thank you!
posted by anonymous on Oct 10, 2015 - 4 answers

shoulder separation: surgery vs. doing nothing, or is there third way?

Asking for a friend: he fell off a motorscooter while riding it and fell on his left side. The main injury was "AC separation" [a type of shoulder separation -- damage to the acromioclavicular joint -- which is _not_ the same thing as shoulder _dislocation_], type 3;means that surgery is optional but worth considering. Is there some other choices beside surgery, or doing nothing? [more inside]
posted by Oli D. on Aug 28, 2015 - 4 answers

She's slow but not stupid

How does a young adult with a mild intellectual disability navigate the world? Is there a way to let people understand that she just needs simpler and clearer words but otherwise her IQ is average? [more inside]
posted by Coffeetyme on Aug 2, 2015 - 13 answers

How do normal people deal with the loss of infatuation in a partner?

Due to dysfunctional upbringing, I am overly sensitive to any signs that might indicate rejection. I know this, but I don't know how to deal with it. Now my partner seems to be losing interest and I don't know if this is part of the normal development of the relationship or a sign to bail before I get hurt. [more inside]
posted by Ender's Friend on Jun 21, 2015 - 8 answers

What are some shows that depict victims of trauma becoming sociopaths?

Also interested in books, movies, even news articles that have similar themes. [more inside]
posted by mingo_clambake on Jun 15, 2015 - 21 answers

If SanFran slides into the Pacific, which apps will stop functioning?

With several major (many users) social media service providers being headquartered in, or near to, San Francisco in California, what would be the effect on these services of a catastrophe e.g. earthquake, tsunami, Godzilla etc laying waste to the city? Would these services still be able to function without a HQ, senior personnel and owners, and with all of the disruption caused by such a catastrophe to their HQ host city? [more inside]
posted by Wordshore on Jun 8, 2015 - 6 answers

Should I ask my uncle about his Big Secret car crash from 50 years ago?

This AskMe from 2010 is me. When I wrote that, I had just heard about a car crash my uncle was allegedly in when he was in his early 20s, where he was driving and a passenger died. I never asked about the crash and a newspaper search didn't pull anything up at the time. But I recently stumbled upon an old newspaper article that confirmed it. I don't know what to do, or not do, with this information. He has never even hinted about anything like this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2015 - 61 answers

Disclosing trauma to loved ones and confronting abusers, how did it go?

Looking for people's experiences of disclosing trauma to loved ones and confronting abusers. (trigger warning) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 15, 2015 - 10 answers

Coping with Trauma and the Loss of a Pet

I’m having trouble dealing with something terrible I saw involving a neighbor’s dog. I feel weird since it wasn’t my dog or my trauma, but it took me back to the night my own pet died, and I just feel awful about everything and I don’t know how to cope (warning: general description of terrible dog death under the fold). [more inside]
posted by girl flaneur on Mar 10, 2015 - 15 answers

All aboard the therapy bus

How do I help my girlfriend get the help she needs? [more inside]
posted by switcheroo on Feb 10, 2015 - 18 answers

Anger Diary, Day 4012

Starting in late August, I have been posting here about my increasingly constant irritability/anger, a lot of which comes up in conjunction with PTSD and/or being bipolar. When I do get through to the mental health center to try to talk about my symptoms, nurses just tell me things like “people don’t die from being angry” and don’t address my horrible quality of life. How do I get my healthcare team to take my symptoms seriously? And is there anything, medical or nonmedical, that might help? [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe on Dec 28, 2014 - 18 answers

How do I deal with intrusive thoughts after being mugged?

I was mugged just a few hours ago while walking to my car. The guy slammed my head against the side of a brick building multiple times, took my cellphone out of my hand and ran off. I know it's still early, but how do I keep myself sane and maybe get some sleep tonight (and upcoming nights)? [more inside]
posted by blixapuff on Dec 7, 2014 - 27 answers

Love for body after trauma

How did you learn to feel comfortable in your body after trauma? (Possible trigger warning) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 26, 2014 - 12 answers

Type of therapy/therapist for dealing with a horrible experience

A family member has been through a nearly unimaginably terrible saga over the past four years and has just been released from prison after a conviction related to it. What type of therapist and what type of therapy would be best to help him cope and to get back on his feet again? [more inside]
posted by duoshao on Nov 23, 2014 - 8 answers

How do I stop the pain and do what is best?

A little over two years ago I posted a question regarding a very difficult situation I was in. The result is - eventually after much trauma we got divorced. Two years have passed and whilst in some respects I have made progress, a terrible situation has now occured and I am weighed down with the weight of the world. Desperately need some hivemind perspective if possible. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 21, 2014 - 12 answers

How to deal with memories from an animal attack?

I recently lost my pet cat to a coyote attack. I think I'm dealing with the grief of his death OK, but I'm feeling a little murkier about the trauma from the actual incident, which I was present for. [more inside]
posted by BuddhaInABucket on Nov 19, 2014 - 11 answers

What are some exercises/games/etc that can help with brain trauma?

About a year ago, my father was in an accident and suffered significant brain trauma. Since then, he has made great physical progress, but his mental progress seems stagnant. His memories are intact, thank god, but what he has trouble with is focusing/concentrating on things. I’m looking for suggestions on exercises he can do on a computer/iPad or in his regular life that can help with his healing and growth. I would also love to hear anecdotes from people who themselves have suffered significant brain trauma and what they have done to help themselves heal. [more inside]
posted by silverstatue on Nov 13, 2014 - 11 answers

Trauma and Language

I have observed a new phenomenon in myself this year and noticed different patterns in how my brain interacts with language in the period after trauma. I have a lot of other stress reactions going on that seem to be hypothalamus stuff (loss of circadian rhythm, weird appetite things, feeling hot and sweaty) but am not sure how any of that plays into processing language. I would love to learn more about this, either from anecdotes or from a more research-based perspective. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe on Nov 7, 2014 - 9 answers

EMDR and Inpatient treatment

Have you had EMDR or gone for inpatient therapy for PTSD/sexual abuse? Care to tell me about it? [more inside]
posted by kanata on Oct 5, 2014 - 14 answers

Should I tell my therapist?

Seeing a therapist for extreme lack of self-esteem and fear of intimacy and I'm not sure if I should tell them about childhood trauma. (Trigger warning) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 13, 2014 - 24 answers

Help me be less angry all the time

For the past couple of months, I have been angry (or at least irritable) almost all the time. Though I know many factors can cause this, I am fairly certain that my own anger is linked to trauma / PTSD. I have had plenty of bloodwork done and thoroughly discussed my meds (lithium, Zoloft, clonazepam, trazodone) with my doctor and pharmacist, so those factors can be ruled out. I am seeking your help for ways to lessen the anger or get breaks from it. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe on Aug 30, 2014 - 20 answers

Looking for a Dianetics therapist

Hello, I'm looking for a therapist who does Dianetics, and who's NOT affiliated with the Church of Scientology. If anyone knows of such a person or persons and could somehow help connect between us, I would be very grateful to them. [more inside]
posted by rodent on Aug 21, 2014 - 14 answers

Seeking a therapist in NoVA with experience in traumatic stress

I work in an extremely stressful field in which I make life and death decisions every day. I've been doing it for a long time, and I have good coping mechanisms, but recently my exposure to death and suffering has gone way up. I'd like to connect with a therapist in the Northern Virginia area with experience with traumatic stress, who could help me adapt to the demands this is putting on me. Someone experienced in treating members of the military might be helpful, but is definitely not necessary. Mostly I'm looking for somebody who has worked with people who encounter a lot of death and need to build appropriate coping skills.
posted by anonymous on Aug 6, 2014 - 2 answers

Refusing to validate client part of trauma therapy?

Is it common and recommended practice for a therapist to refuse to validate and affirm a trauma client? [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats on Jul 21, 2014 - 34 answers

Help me plan for a difficult conversation with my mother

I need to talk to my mother soon about something I did, and I am looking for advice on how to handle the conversation in a way that respects her but is also mindful of my own boundaries. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe on Jul 10, 2014 - 12 answers

I don't want to talk about that, but I don't want to stonewall, either

My wife will not stop questioning me about a horrible incident from my past. I've answered her questions already, but she doesn't like me asking to not talk about it. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by yasp on Jul 8, 2014 - 110 answers

Severe Health Anxiety. Is it possible to ever overcome this?

I feel like I've tried everything and am at my wits end. [more inside]
posted by noella on Jul 2, 2014 - 20 answers

How do I not get taken down by PTSD?

I am experiencing acute PTSD symptoms after a variety of different traumas, most recently an incredibly toxic roommate/landlady situation which I am now out of. I am looking for suggestions on behavioral changes to implement, therapeutic techniques, and books that might help. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe on Jun 22, 2014 - 11 answers

How do I deal with profound emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion?

Whenever I have a particularly stressful or taxing day, I end up being profoundly exhausted for 2-3 days after. We're talking sleeping for 16 hours each day, walking around in a daze, feeling sick after eating, and just feeling unable to do anything I want or need to do. It's like I'm dealing with trauma, but surely this isn't a normal or even reasonable response to trauma, right? If you've dealt with this in the past or are dealing with it now, could you please share any solutions you've found that have worked for you? This has been going on since 2008 for me.
posted by These Birds of a Feather on Mar 2, 2014 - 18 answers

Have other men suffered from castration phobia?

Ever since a particular childhood incident, I've had a fear of castration, which was pretty severe at some periods of my life. I've never heard anyone talk about this, so am wondering how rare or common of an experience it is. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 28, 2014 - 15 answers

how to deal with unsupportive friend after rape?

If it's important I'm a young woman. I don't want to talk about the rape or let this get derailed by suggestions of getting professional help. I'm seeing a counselor now and have dealt with the situation. But what's been eating away at me is a friend's reaction in the immediate aftermath. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 21, 2014 - 72 answers

Rape counselling in Bristol UK

Can anyone recommend a rape trauma counsellor/EMDR expert in Bristol UK? I was raped 25 years ago, so not a crisis, but following a recent brave question from someone else I realise I need to get help. M I am happy to pay and I'd like personal recommendations if anyone has any. Thank you
posted by anonymous on Feb 4, 2014 - 1 answer

How do I forgive my parents for reacting badly to my pregnancy?

My parents are very religious and do not agree with many of my life choices (I'm gay), but they have worked through their discomfort and I thought we were in a better place. They reacted badly to my new pregnancy and said horrible things which hurt me a lot. Where do I go from here? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 27, 2013 - 29 answers

Looking for a cognitive therapist in Ulster County, NY!

My father has recently suffered brain trauma and needs cognitive therapy. He is at a rehab center now but we are hoping to move him to outpatient soon. First we need to find a good cognitive (and possibly occupational) therapist. He lives in the Kingston/New Paltz area of New York. [more inside]
posted by silverstatue on Nov 22, 2013 - 4 answers

How to get a traumatised Labrador to like water

Friend rescued a five-year-old sick Labrador from the streets and adopted him, but he absolutely hates water and can't be bathed because of this. What can we do to get him over his fear? [more inside]
posted by madman on Oct 19, 2013 - 16 answers

Trauma, Food and Money...oh my.

How would one erase or get past a childhood trauma and its effects on one's relationship with food and money? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 8, 2013 - 8 answers

Cutting off abusive parents AFTER they have tried to make amends?

My parents were abusive for over a decade of my life, profoundly and in many ways permanently impacting my physical health and emotional and social well-being. Since that time, they have apologized, but I am still incredibly angry and hurt by the choices they made. Could cutting off contact help me move on? Mefites who have been in similar situations, please share your experiences and suggestions for healing. More details below. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2013 - 46 answers

How much should trauma scene cleanup cost? Is my dad getting ripped off?

A trauma scene cleanup company is quoting my dad $2100 for materials and 20 hours of labor to clean up the biohazardous material in the tiny bathroom my uncle died in. Is this a reasonable estimate of labor? [more inside]
posted by efsrous on Aug 22, 2013 - 19 answers

Dying from knife wounds, but only after several days in hospital?

Recently there was a stabbing where the victim was attacked on Monday, brought to hospital immediately, but died from her wounds on Thursday. What I don't quite get as a layperson is how a stabbing victim can perish in a modern, First World hospital after being kept alive for several days? The newspaper accounts were understandably short on detail. Are there blood vessel injuries that simply cannot be surgically repaired or replaced? Or might there have been secondary injuries due to the initial blood loss, ie brain damage, that prompted life support to be discontinued after a while?
posted by Harald74 on Aug 22, 2013 - 11 answers

Therapy for trauma: more trouble than it's worth?

I need to decide whether it's worth the trouble for me to go to therapy. I am fortunate to be able to afford it financially, but in terms of time and emotional energy, I am not so sure. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit on Aug 2, 2013 - 14 answers

Just started therapy, how can I deal with the constant flashbacks?

I have a lot of trauma in my past. My therapist is trying to teach me ways of being present, but I'm having a really hard time. Has anyone else with PTSD found something that helps calm the flood of memories? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 2, 2013 - 14 answers

Chronic pain from trauma

For the last year I have been experiencing varying intensities of chronic pain due to past trauma. My doctors have started shrugging me off. Since I cannot get a referral to anyone else is there anything I can do to make it more bearable on my own? (Trigger warning: Sexual abuse) [more inside]
posted by kanata on Mar 26, 2013 - 33 answers

Best books to heal from rape / sexual assault

I've been Googling and looking through different lists of recommended books (including some recommended by orgs like RAINN) about healing from sexual trauma, but I'm looking for 1 or 2 good books that are reasonably-priced. (Many of these books seem to be out of print and therefore expensive.) This is about an assault that happened to me as an adult, so books about child abuse are out. What I don't want: hokey, religious, new-age, preachy, textbooks, "workbooks" My ideal book would deal with many of the symptoms of Rape Trauma Syndrome, including having "body memories" of the assault. Hope this is descriptive enough.
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2013 - 5 answers

Helping a child cope with an absent parent

Daughter's father no longer in our lives, unexpectedly, after some sad times. Daughter (5) now a stressed little kid. Therapy coming up, but… ? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 3, 2012 - 12 answers

How bad is amputation?

How likely is it that someone who has just amputated the end of their pinky finger will go into "shock?" [more inside]
posted by GoingToShopping on Sep 25, 2012 - 49 answers

Recovery from trauma - help me educate myself?

I was in a traumatic event a few years ago which was followed by shock and near complete amnesia. Recently I've been getting memories back, and, following different triggers, experiencing physical and emotional exhaustion. Help me understand what to expect, and how best to deal with it ? (More specific qs after the cut) [more inside]
posted by EatMyHat on Aug 23, 2012 - 11 answers

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