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Should I tell my therapist?

Seeing a therapist for extreme lack of self-esteem and fear of intimacy and I'm not sure if I should tell them about childhood trauma. (Trigger warning) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 13, 2014 - 24 answers

Help me be less angry all the time

For the past couple of months, I have been angry (or at least irritable) almost all the time. Though I know many factors can cause this, I am fairly certain that my own anger is linked to trauma / PTSD. I have had plenty of bloodwork done and thoroughly discussed my meds (lithium, Zoloft, clonazepam, trazodone) with my doctor and pharmacist, so those factors can be ruled out. I am seeking your help for ways to lessen the anger or get breaks from it. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe on Aug 30, 2014 - 20 answers

Looking for a Dianetics therapist

Hello, I'm looking for a therapist who does Dianetics, and who's NOT affiliated with the Church of Scientology. If anyone knows of such a person or persons and could somehow help connect between us, I would be very grateful to them. [more inside]
posted by rodent on Aug 21, 2014 - 14 answers

Seeking a therapist in NoVA with experience in traumatic stress

I work in an extremely stressful field in which I make life and death decisions every day. I've been doing it for a long time, and I have good coping mechanisms, but recently my exposure to death and suffering has gone way up. I'd like to connect with a therapist in the Northern Virginia area with experience with traumatic stress, who could help me adapt to the demands this is putting on me. Someone experienced in treating members of the military might be helpful, but is definitely not necessary. Mostly I'm looking for somebody who has worked with people who encounter a lot of death and need to build appropriate coping skills.
posted by anonymous on Aug 6, 2014 - 2 answers

Refusing to validate client part of trauma therapy?

Is it common and recommended practice for a therapist to refuse to validate and affirm a trauma client? [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats on Jul 21, 2014 - 33 answers

Help me plan for a difficult conversation with my mother

I need to talk to my mother soon about something I did, and I am looking for advice on how to handle the conversation in a way that respects her but is also mindful of my own boundaries. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe on Jul 10, 2014 - 12 answers

I don't want to talk about that, but I don't want to stonewall, either

My wife will not stop questioning me about a horrible incident from my past. I've answered her questions already, but she doesn't like me asking to not talk about it. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by yasp on Jul 8, 2014 - 110 answers

Severe Health Anxiety. Is it possible to ever overcome this?

I feel like I've tried everything and am at my wits end. [more inside]
posted by noella on Jul 2, 2014 - 20 answers

How do I not get taken down by PTSD?

I am experiencing acute PTSD symptoms after a variety of different traumas, most recently an incredibly toxic roommate/landlady situation which I am now out of. I am looking for suggestions on behavioral changes to implement, therapeutic techniques, and books that might help. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe on Jun 22, 2014 - 11 answers

How do I deal with profound emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion?

Whenever I have a particularly stressful or taxing day, I end up being profoundly exhausted for 2-3 days after. We're talking sleeping for 16 hours each day, walking around in a daze, feeling sick after eating, and just feeling unable to do anything I want or need to do. It's like I'm dealing with trauma, but surely this isn't a normal or even reasonable response to trauma, right? If you've dealt with this in the past or are dealing with it now, could you please share any solutions you've found that have worked for you? This has been going on since 2008 for me.
posted by These Birds of a Feather on Mar 2, 2014 - 18 answers

Have other men suffered from castration phobia?

Ever since a particular childhood incident, I've had a fear of castration, which was pretty severe at some periods of my life. I've never heard anyone talk about this, so am wondering how rare or common of an experience it is. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 28, 2014 - 15 answers

how to deal with unsupportive friend after rape?

If it's important I'm a young woman. I don't want to talk about the rape or let this get derailed by suggestions of getting professional help. I'm seeing a counselor now and have dealt with the situation. But what's been eating away at me is a friend's reaction in the immediate aftermath. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 21, 2014 - 72 answers

Rape counselling in Bristol UK

Can anyone recommend a rape trauma counsellor/EMDR expert in Bristol UK? I was raped 25 years ago, so not a crisis, but following a recent brave question from someone else I realise I need to get help. M I am happy to pay and I'd like personal recommendations if anyone has any. Thank you
posted by anonymous on Feb 4, 2014 - 1 answer

How do I forgive my parents for reacting badly to my pregnancy?

My parents are very religious and do not agree with many of my life choices (I'm gay), but they have worked through their discomfort and I thought we were in a better place. They reacted badly to my new pregnancy and said horrible things which hurt me a lot. Where do I go from here? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 27, 2013 - 29 answers

Looking for a cognitive therapist in Ulster County, NY!

My father has recently suffered brain trauma and needs cognitive therapy. He is at a rehab center now but we are hoping to move him to outpatient soon. First we need to find a good cognitive (and possibly occupational) therapist. He lives in the Kingston/New Paltz area of New York. [more inside]
posted by silverstatue on Nov 22, 2013 - 4 answers

How to get a traumatised Labrador to like water

Friend rescued a five-year-old sick Labrador from the streets and adopted him, but he absolutely hates water and can't be bathed because of this. What can we do to get him over his fear? [more inside]
posted by madman on Oct 19, 2013 - 16 answers

Trauma, Food and Money...oh my.

How would one erase or get past a childhood trauma and its effects on one's relationship with food and money? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 8, 2013 - 8 answers

Cutting off abusive parents AFTER they have tried to make amends?

My parents were abusive for over a decade of my life, profoundly and in many ways permanently impacting my physical health and emotional and social well-being. Since that time, they have apologized, but I am still incredibly angry and hurt by the choices they made. Could cutting off contact help me move on? Mefites who have been in similar situations, please share your experiences and suggestions for healing. More details below. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2013 - 46 answers

How much should trauma scene cleanup cost? Is my dad getting ripped off?

A trauma scene cleanup company is quoting my dad $2100 for materials and 20 hours of labor to clean up the biohazardous material in the tiny bathroom my uncle died in. Is this a reasonable estimate of labor? [more inside]
posted by efsrous on Aug 22, 2013 - 19 answers

Dying from knife wounds, but only after several days in hospital?

Recently there was a stabbing where the victim was attacked on Monday, brought to hospital immediately, but died from her wounds on Thursday. What I don't quite get as a layperson is how a stabbing victim can perish in a modern, First World hospital after being kept alive for several days? The newspaper accounts were understandably short on detail. Are there blood vessel injuries that simply cannot be surgically repaired or replaced? Or might there have been secondary injuries due to the initial blood loss, ie brain damage, that prompted life support to be discontinued after a while?
posted by Harald74 on Aug 22, 2013 - 11 answers

Therapy for trauma: more trouble than it's worth?

I need to decide whether it's worth the trouble for me to go to therapy. I am fortunate to be able to afford it financially, but in terms of time and emotional energy, I am not so sure. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit on Aug 2, 2013 - 14 answers

Just started therapy, how can I deal with the constant flashbacks?

I have a lot of trauma in my past. My therapist is trying to teach me ways of being present, but I'm having a really hard time. Has anyone else with PTSD found something that helps calm the flood of memories? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 2, 2013 - 14 answers

Chronic pain from trauma

For the last year I have been experiencing varying intensities of chronic pain due to past trauma. My doctors have started shrugging me off. Since I cannot get a referral to anyone else is there anything I can do to make it more bearable on my own? (Trigger warning: Sexual abuse) [more inside]
posted by kanata on Mar 26, 2013 - 33 answers

Best books to heal from rape / sexual assault

I've been Googling and looking through different lists of recommended books (including some recommended by orgs like RAINN) about healing from sexual trauma, but I'm looking for 1 or 2 good books that are reasonably-priced. (Many of these books seem to be out of print and therefore expensive.) This is about an assault that happened to me as an adult, so books about child abuse are out. What I don't want: hokey, religious, new-age, preachy, textbooks, "workbooks" My ideal book would deal with many of the symptoms of Rape Trauma Syndrome, including having "body memories" of the assault. Hope this is descriptive enough.
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2013 - 5 answers

Helping a child cope with an absent parent

Daughter's father no longer in our lives, unexpectedly, after some sad times. Daughter (5) now a stressed little kid. Therapy coming up, but… ? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 3, 2012 - 12 answers

How bad is amputation?

How likely is it that someone who has just amputated the end of their pinky finger will go into "shock?" [more inside]
posted by GoingToShopping on Sep 25, 2012 - 49 answers

Recovery from trauma - help me educate myself?

I was in a traumatic event a few years ago which was followed by shock and near complete amnesia. Recently I've been getting memories back, and, following different triggers, experiencing physical and emotional exhaustion. Help me understand what to expect, and how best to deal with it ? (More specific qs after the cut) [more inside]
posted by EatMyHat on Aug 23, 2012 - 11 answers

how might you cope with childhood trauma?

How might you cope, if you were traumatized as a child by something you saw...? [more inside]
posted by thermonuclear.jive.turkey on Aug 10, 2012 - 11 answers

How can I stop traumatic flashbacks linked to my pet's death?

My pet died suddenly. How can I stop traumatic flashbacks and focus on happy memories? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 1, 2012 - 26 answers

How long is too long to use major life trauma as an excuse?

How long is too long to use major life trauma as an excuse for everything in my life falling apart? [more inside]
posted by Cat Pie Hurts on Aug 1, 2012 - 39 answers

How to support the abused

I've started to date again after the end of an eight year relationship. The good news is I've met an amazing woman and we're starting to develop a more serious relationship. The part I (male) need help with is that it turns out she was physically, sexually, mentally, and emotionally abused in several previous relationships over the course of about 15 years. How do I support her as a new relationship partner? Can you recommend any good resources for me to read? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 1, 2012 - 11 answers

How can I help my partner feel better after a random assault?

Some random jerk threatened my partner in public a few days ago and he's still pretty shaken, and can't stop thinking about it. What resources can I offer to help him cope? [more inside]
posted by rhiannonstone on May 29, 2012 - 18 answers

Talk to me about dissociation... or whatever my problem is

Is this dissociation? I would really like to learn more about my slightly peculiar experience of living life, and what it means, if anything. I've been suspecting some form of dissociation, but I'd love some pointers to books, articles or sites, or informed experiences that might help make things clearer. [more inside]
posted by lizwykys on May 19, 2012 - 12 answers

How to help a traumatized friend?

Help me help a friend dealing with trauma/mental health/addiction issues in Georgia. [more inside]
posted by dortmunder on Apr 30, 2012 - 3 answers

Help with Being a Healthy and Honest Individual, after Trauma

Having grown up in an abusive home where every move of mine was watched and controlled like a hawk, and I had to anticipate reactions in order to survive, I ended up molding many of my desires around those anticipated reactions. So now, as an adult of advancing age, how do I learn to know what I want, and act on those desires with honesty and integrity? What are some steps I can actually take? Books I can read? Simple thoughts to repeat to myself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 19, 2012 - 27 answers

helping someone who survived war.

My SO went through trauma. They are starting to open up a bit and I don't know what to do, or even if I should do anything. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 17, 2012 - 13 answers

Are you a reformed malingerer? How did you quit?

I'm the boy who cried wolf! (or 'ouch'!) Help me stop, especially in light of the fact that this behavior has been positively reinforced at some points. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 9, 2012 - 5 answers

Poems with a feminist slant?

I'm looking for poetry with a feminist leaning and/or covering a certain set of topics. [more inside]
posted by kanata on Mar 23, 2012 - 30 answers

Cat very upset after outside time

Our indoor cat got outside, maybe tangled with a feral cat. He came back inside and is now growling and screeching in the bathroom. Bad situation. This is a long story. [more inside]
posted by bobbyno on Feb 19, 2012 - 23 answers

I need a first aid kit shopping list

What needs to be in a good first aid kit? [more inside]
posted by InkaLomax on Jan 10, 2012 - 19 answers

Hope for my ailing marriage?

After nearly 11 yrs of marriage my husband is talking of possibly finding his own place and at the very least separating for awhile to see if he can "get himself together". We have been a couple nearly 15 yrs. I am looking for experiences, resources, advice... [more inside]
posted by snuffyrat on Dec 27, 2011 - 21 answers

Need a little relief

Seeking ideas for the types of professional & social resources or services (organizations, agencies, providers, etc.) that would be included on a list of potential referrals to help people across the social spectrum deal with various forms of trauma, catastrophes & highly stressful situations. [more inside]
posted by cuddles.mcsnuggy on Dec 16, 2011 - 6 answers

How do I deal with the ghosts of bad relationships past?

Some years back, I got out of a really bad(/abusive/weird) relationship. My life is so different and so much better now, and I truly thought it was behind me. But recently, out of nowhere and eight years later, I keep getting this itch to talk/think about it all in gruesome and miserable detail. What's going on? [more inside]
posted by smockpuppet on Dec 16, 2011 - 21 answers

Help me become a grownup.

So, I've been joking for a while that I need, like, boot camp for how to be an adult. Help me find something? Maybe like Upward Bound for grownups meets finishing school plus...something? [more inside]
posted by tulip-socks on Dec 10, 2011 - 15 answers

Coping with emotionally difficult work

I have a very emotionally intense job, which combined with my natural introversion and lack of formal training in this field, has always been a challenge for me. Now I'm six months pregnant and crying at my desk every day. What are some resources for learning how to deal with difficult emotional work? How do social workers and crisis intervention workers learn to handle the constant barrage of tragedy? How do I get through the rest of my pregnancy like this? [more inside]
posted by arcticwoman on Dec 2, 2011 - 15 answers

Hair-trigger reactions

What does it mean to be "triggered"? [more inside]
posted by stuck on an island on Nov 9, 2011 - 10 answers

This really won't let me go. Please be my internet friends and counsel me.

How do you deal with a bad social experience that cannot leave you alone for years? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 1, 2011 - 57 answers

How can I let go of past abuse?

Is it possible to let go of past injuries? My parents were abusive when I was growing up (both physically and emotionally) and I have been dealing with depression and anxiety ever since, with medication and therapy. Now, though, they have changed (really), and I'm trying to figure out how to let go of what happened and have a good relationship with the people they are now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 7, 2011 - 16 answers

How to emotionally recover after losing all material possessions in a burglary?

What are some practical steps I can do to keep sane after a robbery and try to pick up the pieces of my memories? [more inside]
posted by bodywithoutorgans on Sep 29, 2011 - 12 answers

being triggered by jobhunting - help

How do I cope with being constantly triggered while job-hunting? It's severely impacting my ability to apply for jobs. [more inside]
posted by divabat on Sep 10, 2011 - 16 answers

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