Help me understand how to make trans-inclusive games. [more inside]
I know that YANML, but does going through a background check to work in a state-licensed childcare center in New Mexico require that you disclose your legal name change? If so, who sees this disclosure: just the background check company, the state, or the potential employer? [more inside]
Looking for information and support for family of a man grappling with (maybe) emerging schizophrenia and/or gender dysphoria. [more inside]
My partner and I are having a wedding in two months. We'd like to get legally married before the ceremony, but can't decide what the best option for us would be. My partner is a man, but here in Ohio it isn't possible for him to change his birth certificate to match this. Do we go to another state to marry, or try to get a license in Ohio? [more inside]
A friend of mine who is transitioning has asked me to ask MeFi for a couple of recommendations for beauty-related services in New York City. Needs and requirements as follows: [more inside]
Can you help a cis and trans lesbian couple try to have a baby? Looking for resources, forums, blogs, columns, articles, and anything else that might be helpful. [more inside]
Hello everyone! I am early in my transition as a trans woman and am working on growing my hair out. In the meantime I am interested in figuring out some way to do my hair that looks cute and feminine and doesn't require a ton of maintenance. [more inside]
I am a trans woman. Recently, I received a job offer from a private higher education institution in New York City. I would really like to accept the job, but repeated conversations with the individual who recruited me—who has been asking questions on my behalf to the institution's Human Resources department—have left me unsure whether or not their health insurance will cover trans-related care. How do I get this information? Can
I get this information? [more inside]
A former distant colleague of mine is a trans woman. I'm pretty clear on the importance of not misgendering people, but I'm running into one or two slightly awkward practical issues in making sure I don't screw that up. [more inside]
I am looking for style blogs by and for trans women
— either single-contributor "here's what I wore today" blogs or tumblr/pinterest-type aggregators. Details within. [more inside]
I could really use some fashion tips and am feeling in over my head. Difficulty level: Hard - Recently actualized transwoman on a tight budget. [more inside]
I'm a queer girl who sometimes likes to dress like a boy. I would like suggestions for fashion blogs that focus on genderqueer/butch/trans fashion. I'm especially looking for style aesthetics other than the very popular "dapper" look. [more inside]
The book I'm looking for is one I remember reading in my childhood. It had a boy as a protagonist. It was similar to The Wizard of Oz in that the boy was travelling with friends through a magical realm to free it from some kind of oppressive rule. And when the boy arrived to the happy ending (which I think took place in the royal palace) it was revealed that actually he's not a boy - he's a girl. A princess, to be exact. And a rightful ruler of the realm. Which came as quite a shock to him/her. I must have been less than 10 years old when I read it, which places the book in the 1970s. Did I imagine it or does it really exist? (it is possible that I mixed it up with The Wizard of Oz, although I think I've read it later).
I want to read more about alternative family structures in queer communities, particularly trans* communities, particularly communities of and for queer transpeople of color. What can you recommend? [more inside]
I need more sources for smart, trans-aware intersectional feminism. [more inside]
The next city I live in will be the city where I start taking hormones and eventually try to pass as female in public. Should it be Chicago or Seattle? [more inside]
The National Guard thinks I'm in high school and is sending me recruitment materials. I'm not in high school and I'm not going to join the military. Can I make them stop? [more inside]
A friend's 11-year old transgender child had an extremely traumatic and invalidating experience with a Medicaid primary-care provider in Corpus Christi, TX. What recourse does she have? [more inside]
My girlfriend is about to start a series of medical-related procedures as part of her gender transition (M2F). What can I, as a cis(ish) woman, do to be a good support to her? [more inside]
(Australian) Melbournian mefites - can any of you recommend a trans-friendly therapist? [more inside]
I am looking for a foreign language transgender/transexual dictionary or glossary. I have done a bit of searching and there seem to be several English glossaries or dictionaries of trans terminology. But I am having trouble finding any sources for foreign language terms. I can't tell if I just don't know what search terms to use or if such a source simply doesn't exist. [more inside]
I am in my early thirties, identify as agendered and my body dysphoria is getting worse and worse. Is it worth transitioning if I know for sure I'll never have a body that feels right for me? [more inside]
The State-sanctioned homophobia and transphobia in Malaysia
, my country of origin, is breaking my heart. What can I do as a currently overseas citizen to make things better for my fellow LGBT folk back in Malaysia, particularly in raising awareness of the issue internationally? [more inside]
Which books and articles are the most important for understanding transgender issues?
A transgender friend of mine was denied health insurance in Louisiana because of the 'underwriting risk' of her condition: "gender identity disorder". What are her options here? [more inside]
When and how do you decide it’s ok for an opposite sex to sleep with your adolescent / young adult at your house?
Asking for a friend: suggestions for good, AFFORDABLE (read: sliding scale goes down to <$20/session) gender therapists in Milwaukee or Madison?
Quarterlife crisis and being trans--how to optimally navigate a job/career quest while addressing gender identity issues?
Should I try to start an LGBTQ organization at my middle school? How? [more inside]
So, I'm trans, have a really horrible job where I can't reveal it and I need to get a new one. There's one issue that I've been struggling with: All of my legal documentation is still under my old name, which means I'm going to have to disclose my trans status at some point. But how and when? [more inside]
How to find a trans-friendly doctor in Northern Virginia? [more inside]
We are taking our daughter and one of her friends in her troop to the Girl Scouts Rock the Mall
sing-along shindig next Saturday. That's also the day of the Capital Pride Parade
. Whether/how to do both? Much snowflakiness inside. [more inside]
I am looking for a surgeon in or around the Middle Tennessee area willing to do FTM Transgender chest reconstruction surgery. [more inside]
What are the ways we could expand services and support available to LGBT young people online? [more inside]
I am transgender (transsexual MTF). I am self-medicating and I need to go legit. I am looking for a recommendation for a therapist in NYC (and possibly an endocrinologist) who is accepting new patients and is willing to work with the fact that I am self-medicating (and hoping to stop self-medicating and go legit). [more inside]
I think I might want to change gender (ftm)... now what? [more inside]
Seeking resources for a friend who is mom to a (possibly transgender) questioning 5-year-old boy. [more inside]
Hello. I'm a trans (MtF) person of color. I live in a mid-sized East Coast city. My partner lives in Williamsburg, BK. I got into grad school in the Heartland. Please help! [more inside]
I'm an academic who officially gender transitioned about three years ago, and am fortunate enough in my appearance that strangers now almost always refer to me as "he" or "sir." Yet some colleagues consistently misgender me, which can be quite awkward in professional contexts. How ought I respond? [more inside]
So, I came out as transgendered about a year ago
, and I'm finally financially secure enough to move out of my urban rednecky neighborhood. This, of course, leaves me with a few questions. [more inside]
Please help me find resources and support for my transgendered, eating-disordered, underage cousin, whose family is somewhat unsupportive and doesn't know how to help. [more inside]
I was a man. Then a woman. Now a man again. So, um, how do I tell potential romantic or sexual partners this without scaring them away? [more inside]
Need suggestions on how my kids should address me, their transgender father. "Dad" now seems kind of weird at times. [more inside]
I'm about to start working at old job. I'm thinking about coming out as trans during interview. Any thoughts? [more inside]
I am transitioning (ftm) and haven't told my extended family. My grandmother is extremely distraught by my mother's passing last year. We are seeing each other for the first time in 6 months at a holiday dinner this month. How do I balance my needs with her needs and minimize drama? [more inside]
I think my boyfriend is cheating on me, or at least looking for opportunities to do so. The problem is, if I can't trust him not to cheat, then I also can't trust him to tell the truth if I confront him. So how do I deal with this? (details below) [more inside]
My spouse and I got married when I was still legally designated "female" and she was still legally designated "male," under our old names. How can we legally remarry, using our new names and identified genders, after gender transitioning? We don't want to get divorced (it's expensive and we love eachother) to do it. [more inside]
Are these types of questions normal when seeking professional help for depression and anxiety?
-Were you abused?
-Have you ever had a homosexual experience?
-What do you need help with?(asked at least twice, when I answered depression and anxiety, he persisted in asking again) [more inside]
My family refuses to use the correct pronouns for my partner. What is the best way to approach this? [more inside]
I am looking for a Trans support group and/or therapist in Austin, TX. I have used the googles, but many of the resources listed are woefully out of date.