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Tips for indulging in some femme alone time

How do I cultivate a more relaxing/sensual/sexy mood while masturbating, as a trans woman very much over old dudely habits? Vibrators, lube, and Bjork inside.. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 25, 2015 - 8 answers

Is going no-contact my only choice here?

I'm a trans woman, and my mom is completely unaccepting of my transition, and I feel like I need to cut her out of my life entirely. Is that my only option? [more inside]
posted by and they trembled before her fury on Apr 23, 2015 - 29 answers

How do I "come out" to my new office that my partner is trans?

I (cis het male, 30YO) just joined a new company a month ago, and my partner has asked that I ask my coworkers use preferred pronouns when talking about them. I've not even done this with my closest friends - not sure how to proceed. What do I say? To who? How? [more inside]
posted by rebent on Apr 10, 2015 - 51 answers

Is there an adoption registration for disowned gay youth?

I would totally be willing to take in a kid who has been disowned by his/her parents for being LBTG. Is there somewhere I could register for that? Note: I am legally married cisgender woman with three young children of my own. Not being gay myself, there should be no legal obstacles in that regard. I'm just trying to connect with a disowned population.
posted by wwartorff on Apr 4, 2015 - 6 answers

Namefilter? Not quite, nameCHANGEfilter (and gender too).

Dual nationality edition. And stateless until 4 years old. I'm trans. In which country do I have to change my legal name and gender? What? You want MORE snowflake details? Ok, ok, some more after the jump. [more inside]
posted by Promethea on Mar 10, 2015 - 12 answers

So... how do I trans?

I'm 30 this year, and I've known something's up with my gender identity since... well, since ever. Over the past year or so, I've come to realise through a lot of reading, thinking, talking that I'm male-to-female transgender. My feelings of dysphoria aren't going away, and they're getting worse, but I'm not making any practical progress towards transition because Life Stuff keeps happening and giving me an excuse to put off scary stuff. I need to do something about this, but I'm struggling to find practical resources for transitioning women around my age. [more inside]
posted by winterhill on Mar 9, 2015 - 13 answers

Transgender support in Brazil?

A transgender friend of mine said in a chatroom last night "Right now I'm just regretting I didn't manage to kill myself earlier last month when I tried." She is roughly five thousand miles away. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by Evilspork on Mar 4, 2015 - 7 answers

How to support myself while supporting my transitioning spouse?

Looking for emotional guidance while my spouse goes through gender reassignment. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 18, 2015 - 10 answers

What is a good academic introduction to transgender theory?

I'm updating a graduate survey course in critical theory that cavasses all the main 'isms' and is quite high level. It includes readings and discussions on feminist and queer philosophies and literary theories but there is currently no section on transgender at all. I'd like to change this. What's the best academic introduction to transgender or transgender theory/politics, the position of transgender within queer theory that you've read? It needs to be scholarly but memoir or personal reflection or journalism could also be okay as further readings. Suitable for Masters students so it can be philosophical/dense/complex. Happy to hear of any ideas for readings that fall outside these requirements if you think I'm going about this the wrong way too. It would need to be a book chapter or journal article not a whole book. Thanks!
posted by JayAlfred on Jan 20, 2015 - 11 answers

Unsupportive grandparents of a transgender child

My oldest child, age 12, has recently come out as transgender. We are trying to show her our unconditional support, but her grandparents are unlikely to be as supportive. Suggestions for coping? Difficulty: Asian and Catholic. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 15, 2015 - 22 answers

Relating to a colleague who has come out as Transgender to me

A woman at work came out to me earlier this week as Transgender (she is, I am fairly certain, a woman who was assigned male at birth). I'm not sure I handled it well and based on the generally sensible, kind, and intelligent way that Trans* issues are discussed on Metafilter (especially when compared to other places on the web) I am hoping for some advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 3, 2015 - 23 answers

Cooter or bust!

Help me move to Vermont and acquire a vagina. (This is not a joke.) Insurance and relocation-related questions within. [more inside]
posted by nebulawindphone on Dec 4, 2014 - 12 answers

Gender transition and grad school applications

I'm a transgender woman in my last year of an undergraduate degree. I'm currently using male pronouns and my given name in most situations, but I'm planning to come out over Christmas break and use female pronouns and a new name in the spring semester, which will be my last before graduation. If I apply to computer science grad schools after I graduate, is my transition likely to cause complications which could hurt my application? [more inside]
posted by unknot on Oct 10, 2014 - 9 answers

Inclusiveness and Diversity in Games

Help me understand how to make trans-inclusive games. [more inside]
posted by tocts on Oct 1, 2014 - 21 answers

Background checks while trans*

I know that YANML, but does going through a background check to work in a state-licensed childcare center in New Mexico require that you disclose your legal name change? If so, who sees this disclosure: just the background check company, the state, or the potential employer? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2014 - 13 answers

Gender Dysphoria or Schizophrenia or both? How to tell, what to do?

Looking for information and support for family of a man grappling with (maybe) emerging schizophrenia and/or gender dysphoria. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 16, 2014 - 12 answers

How do I "I do?"

My partner and I are having a wedding in two months. We'd like to get legally married before the ceremony, but can't decide what the best option for us would be. My partner is a man, but here in Ohio it isn't possible for him to change his birth certificate to match this. Do we go to another state to marry, or try to get a license in Ohio? [more inside]
posted by dinofuzz on Jul 25, 2014 - 11 answers

Aestheticians, et cetera for a transitioning trans lady in NYC

A friend of mine who is transitioning has asked me to ask MeFi for a couple of recommendations for beauty-related services in New York City. Needs and requirements as follows: [more inside]
posted by brina on Jul 17, 2014 - 2 answers

Help a cis and trans lesbian couple make a baby.

Can you help a cis and trans lesbian couple try to have a baby? Looking for resources, forums, blogs, columns, articles, and anything else that might be helpful. [more inside]
posted by trogdole on Jun 26, 2014 - 5 answers

Cute short feminine hairstyles for curly haired trans lady?

Hello everyone! I am early in my transition as a trans woman and am working on growing my hair out. In the meantime I am interested in figuring out some way to do my hair that looks cute and feminine and doesn't require a ton of maintenance. [more inside]
posted by tinyfolk on Jun 20, 2014 - 49 answers

How do I know if I'm covered?

I am a trans woman. Recently, I received a job offer from a private higher education institution in New York City. I would really like to accept the job, but repeated conversations with the individual who recruited me—who has been asking questions on my behalf to the institution's Human Resources department—have left me unsure whether or not their health insurance will cover trans-related care. How do I get this information? Can I get this information? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 3, 2014 - 21 answers

A minor question about transgender nomenclature and etiquette.

A former distant colleague of mine is a trans woman. I'm pretty clear on the importance of not misgendering people, but I'm running into one or two slightly awkward practical issues in making sure I don't screw that up. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2014 - 21 answers

Seeking style blogs by and for trans women

I am looking for style blogs by and for trans women — either single-contributor "here's what I wore today" blogs or tumblr/pinterest-type aggregators. Details within. [more inside]
posted by Now there are two. There are two _______. on Dec 14, 2013 - 7 answers

I'm new to this fashion thing.

I could really use some fashion tips and am feeling in over my head. Difficulty level: Hard - Recently actualized transwoman on a tight budget. [more inside]
posted by spungfoo on Sep 2, 2013 - 18 answers

Transmasculine / Masculine-of-Center Fashion Blogs

I'm a queer girl who sometimes likes to dress like a boy. I would like suggestions for fashion blogs that focus on genderqueer/butch/trans fashion. I'm especially looking for style aesthetics other than the very popular "dapper" look. [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana on Aug 23, 2013 - 6 answers

A children's book about gender change

The book I'm looking for is one I remember reading in my childhood. It had a boy as a protagonist. It was similar to The Wizard of Oz in that the boy was travelling with friends through a magical realm to free it from some kind of oppressive rule. And when the boy arrived to the happy ending (which I think took place in the royal palace) it was revealed that actually he's not a boy - he's a girl. A princess, to be exact. And a rightful ruler of the realm. Which came as quite a shock to him/her. I must have been less than 10 years old when I read it, which places the book in the 1970s. Did I imagine it or does it really exist? (it is possible that I mixed it up with The Wizard of Oz, although I think I've read it later).
posted by hat_eater on Jul 11, 2013 - 7 answers

Reading recommendations on queer families

I want to read more about alternative family structures in queer communities, particularly trans* communities, particularly communities of and for queer transpeople of color. What can you recommend? [more inside]
posted by liketitanic on Jun 29, 2013 - 4 answers

Trans-feminist bloggers in the vein of Natalie Reed?

I need more sources for smart, trans-aware intersectional feminism. [more inside]
posted by Corinth on Jun 12, 2013 - 5 answers

Trans and moving: Chicago or Seattle?

The next city I live in will be the city where I start taking hormones and eventually try to pass as female in public. Should it be Chicago or Seattle? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 2, 2013 - 22 answers

Opting out of military recruitment

The National Guard thinks I'm in high school and is sending me recruitment materials. I'm not in high school and I'm not going to join the military. Can I make them stop? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 26, 2013 - 11 answers

This doctor should never be allowed near transgender children.

A friend's 11-year old transgender child had an extremely traumatic and invalidating experience with a Medicaid primary-care provider in Corpus Christi, TX. What recourse does she have? [more inside]
posted by QuantumMeruit on Apr 25, 2013 - 14 answers

Supporting my girlfriend through medical transition

My girlfriend is about to start a series of medical-related procedures as part of her gender transition (M2F). What can I, as a cis(ish) woman, do to be a good support to her? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Apr 10, 2013 - 4 answers

Trans-friendly therapist in Melbourne AU?

(Australian) Melbournian mefites - can any of you recommend a trans-friendly therapist? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 13, 2013 - 4 answers

Is there a multilingual dictionary of trans terms?

I am looking for a foreign language transgender/transexual dictionary or glossary. I have done a bit of searching and there seem to be several English glossaries or dictionaries of trans terminology. But I am having trouble finding any sources for foreign language terms. I can't tell if I just don't know what search terms to use or if such a source simply doesn't exist. [more inside]
posted by Michele in California on Mar 8, 2013 - 8 answers

I'm a transgender version of Anne Rice's Claudia.

I am in my early thirties, identify as agendered and my body dysphoria is getting worse and worse. Is it worth transitioning if I know for sure I'll never have a body that feels right for me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 6, 2013 - 30 answers

Playing my part in making life for fellow LGBT countryfolk bearable.

The State-sanctioned homophobia and transphobia in Malaysia, my country of origin, is breaking my heart. What can I do as a currently overseas citizen to make things better for my fellow LGBT folk back in Malaysia, particularly in raising awareness of the issue internationally? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Mar 5, 2013 - 5 answers

Transgender reading list

Which books and articles are the most important for understanding transgender issues?
posted by morninj on Jan 7, 2013 - 19 answers

health insurance options for transgender people in louisiana?

A transgender friend of mine was denied health insurance in Louisiana because of the 'underwriting risk' of her condition: "gender identity disorder". What are her options here? [more inside]
posted by yeoz on Nov 20, 2012 - 17 answers

When and how do you decide it’s ok for an opposite sex to sleep with your adolescent / young adult at your house?

Unsure When and how do you decide it’s ok for an opposite sex to sleep with your adolescent / young adult at your house? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 8, 2012 - 53 answers

Gender therapist suggestions in SE Wisconsin?

Asking for a friend: suggestions for good, AFFORDABLE (read: sliding scale goes down to <$20/session) gender therapists in Milwaukee or Madison?
posted by Vibrissa on Oct 10, 2012 - 1 answer

Figuring out careers and jobs while working out my gender issues

Quarterlife crisis and being trans--how to optimally navigate a job/career quest while addressing gender identity issues? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 19, 2012 - 5 answers

Should I try to start an LGBTQ organization at my middle school?

Should I try to start an LGBTQ organization at my middle school? How? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl on Sep 19, 2012 - 32 answers

Hey, Potential Employer, Guess What?

So, I'm trans, have a really horrible job where I can't reveal it and I need to get a new one. There's one issue that I've been struggling with: All of my legal documentation is still under my old name, which means I'm going to have to disclose my trans status at some point. But how and when? [more inside]
posted by Toby Dammit X on Aug 4, 2012 - 18 answers

It's Virginia! It's hard!

How to find a trans-friendly doctor in Northern Virginia? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 28, 2012 - 5 answers

Girl Scouts on the Mall + Capital Pride == ??

We are taking our daughter and one of her friends in her troop to the Girl Scouts Rock the Mall sing-along shindig next Saturday. That's also the day of the Capital Pride Parade. Whether/how to do both? Much snowflakiness inside. [more inside]
posted by TranSubstantial on Jun 3, 2012 - 6 answers

Transgender surgeon around Middle Tennessee?

I am looking for a surgeon in or around the Middle Tennessee area willing to do FTM Transgender chest reconstruction surgery. [more inside]
posted by Twain Device on May 17, 2012 - 3 answers

What are the ways we could expand services and support available to LGBT young people online?

What are the ways we could expand services and support available to LGBT young people online? [more inside]
posted by Kirn on May 2, 2012 - 7 answers

I'm transgender and I need to go (on the) straight (and narrow).

I am transgender (transsexual MTF). I am self-medicating and I need to go legit. I am looking for a recommendation for a therapist in NYC (and possibly an endocrinologist) who is accepting new patients and is willing to work with the fact that I am self-medicating (and hoping to stop self-medicating and go legit). [more inside]
posted by sokkupapetto on May 1, 2012 - 14 answers

coming out as ftm

I think I might want to change gender (ftm)... now what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 28, 2012 - 30 answers

What if little Tommy wants to be a girl?

Seeking resources for a friend who is mom to a (possibly transgender) questioning 5-year-old boy. [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife on Apr 27, 2012 - 26 answers

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