The next city I live in will be the city where I start taking hormones and eventually try to pass as female in public. Should it be Chicago or Seattle?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 2, 2013 -
22 answers
The National Guard thinks I'm in high school and is sending me recruitment materials. I'm not in high school and I'm not going to join the military. Can I make them stop?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 26, 2013 -
11 answers
A friend's 11-year old transgender child had an extremely traumatic and invalidating experience with a Medicaid primary-care provider in Corpus Christi, TX. What recourse does she have?
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posted by QuantumMeruit
on Apr 25, 2013 -
14 answers
My girlfriend is about to start a series of medical-related procedures as part of her gender transition (M2F). What can I, as a cis(ish) woman, do to be a good support to her?
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posted by divabat
on Apr 10, 2013 -
4 answers
(Australian) Melbournian mefites - can any of you recommend a trans-friendly therapist?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 13, 2013 -
4 answers
I am looking for a foreign language transgender/transexual dictionary or glossary. I have done a bit of searching and there seem to be several English glossaries or dictionaries of trans terminology. But I am having trouble finding any sources for foreign language terms. I can't tell if I just don't know what search terms to use or if such a source simply doesn't exist.
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posted by Michele in California
on Mar 8, 2013 -
8 answers
I am in my early thirties, identify as agendered and my body dysphoria is getting worse and worse. Is it worth transitioning if I know for sure I'll never have a body that feels right for me?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 6, 2013 -
30 answers
Which books and articles are the most important for understanding transgender issues?
posted by morninj
on Jan 7, 2013 -
19 answers
A transgender friend of mine was denied health insurance in Louisiana because of the 'underwriting risk' of her condition: "gender identity disorder". What are her options here?
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posted by yeoz
on Nov 20, 2012 -
17 answers
Unsure
When and how do you decide it’s ok for an opposite sex to sleep with your adolescent / young adult at your house?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 8, 2012 -
53 answers
Asking for a friend: suggestions for good, AFFORDABLE (read: sliding scale goes down to <$20/session) gender therapists in Milwaukee or Madison?
posted by Vibrissa
on Oct 10, 2012 -
1 answer
Quarterlife crisis and being trans--how to optimally navigate a job/career quest while addressing gender identity issues?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 19, 2012 -
5 answers
So, I'm trans, have a really horrible job where I can't reveal it and I need to get a new one. There's one issue that I've been struggling with: All of my legal documentation is still under my old name, which means I'm going to have to disclose my trans status at some point. But how and when?
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posted by Toby Dammit X
on Aug 4, 2012 -
18 answers
I am looking for a surgeon in or around the Middle Tennessee area willing to do FTM Transgender chest reconstruction surgery.
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posted by Twain Device
on May 17, 2012 -
3 answers
What are the ways we could expand services and support available to LGBT young people online?
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posted by Kirn
on May 2, 2012 -
7 answers
I am transgender (transsexual MTF). I am self-medicating and I need to go legit. I am looking for a recommendation for a therapist in NYC (and possibly an endocrinologist) who is accepting new patients and is willing to work with the fact that I am self-medicating (and hoping to stop self-medicating and go legit).
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posted by sokkupapetto
on May 1, 2012 -
14 answers
Hello. I'm a trans (MtF) person of color. I live in a mid-sized East Coast city. My partner lives in Williamsburg, BK. I got into grad school in the Heartland. Please help!
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posted by BEE-EATING CAT-EATER
on Mar 27, 2012 -
17 answers
I'm an academic who officially gender transitioned about three years ago, and am fortunate enough in my appearance that strangers now almost always refer to me as "he" or "sir." Yet some colleagues consistently misgender me, which can be quite awkward in professional contexts. How ought I respond?
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posted by DrMew
on Mar 26, 2012 -
26 answers
Please help me find resources and support for my transgendered, eating-disordered, underage cousin, whose family is somewhat unsupportive and doesn't know how to help.
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posted by rachaelfaith
on Mar 3, 2012 -
14 answers
I was a man. Then a woman. Now a man again. So, um, how do I tell potential romantic or sexual partners this without scaring them away?
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posted by omicron
on Feb 5, 2012 -
35 answers
Need suggestions on how my kids should address me, their transgender father. "Dad" now seems kind of weird at times.
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posted by TranSubstantial
on Jan 17, 2012 -
53 answers
I'm about to start working at old job. I'm thinking about coming out as trans during interview. Any thoughts?
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posted by Konani
on Jan 12, 2012 -
27 answers
I am transitioning (ftm) and haven't told my extended family. My grandmother is extremely distraught by my mother's passing last year. We are seeing each other for the first time in 6 months at a holiday dinner this month. How do I balance my needs with her needs and minimize drama?
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posted by buteo
on Dec 11, 2011 -
25 answers
I think my boyfriend is cheating on me, or at least looking for opportunities to do so. The problem is, if I can't trust him not to cheat, then I also can't trust him to tell the truth if I confront him. So how do I deal with this? (details below)
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posted by myShanon
on Dec 10, 2011 -
48 answers
My spouse and I got married when I was still legally designated "female" and she was still legally designated "male," under our old names. How can we legally remarry, using our new names and identified genders, after gender transitioning? We don't want to get divorced (it's expensive and we love eachother) to do it.
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posted by DrMew
on Dec 9, 2011 -
21 answers
Are these types of questions normal when seeking professional help for depression and anxiety?
-Were you abused?
-Have you ever had a homosexual experience?
-What do you need help with?(asked at least twice, when I answered depression and anxiety, he persisted in asking again)
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posted by Konani
on Dec 7, 2011 -
21 answers
My family refuses to use the correct pronouns for my partner. What is the best way to approach this?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 26, 2011 -
51 answers
I am looking for a Trans support group and/or therapist in Austin, TX. I have used the googles, but many of the resources listed are woefully out of date.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 22, 2011 -
8 answers
I think my dotted-line boss is going to come out to me as a transgendered person. The idea of introducing gender and sexuality into professional relationships is anathema to me. I will not deny her any support. I am genderqueer but don't trouble to make it obvious at work: work is a place I go to be engaged and interested, not a place for emotional entanglements. So what do I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 9, 2011 -
24 answers
Ever since that found-on-facebook date showed up on my doorstep I've had the same feeling : that person has not lived in that female body all her life. That hunch has been confirmed That person doesn't know I know - now what ?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 29, 2011 -
41 answers
Help me deal with the awkward fallout of telling my parents that I'm transgendered and want to begin hormone therapy.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 9, 2011 -
18 answers
My partner and I are a lesbian couple. One half of our happy couple is pregnant with our first child, the other half is a transsexual woman, and because of that we have been able to conceive a child that is genetically related to both of us. We know one other couple in the world who has dealt with these issues. Is anyone else out there?
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posted by anonymous
on May 28, 2011 -
17 answers
I just came out as transgendered in the past few days, and one thing that's immediately apparent is that I'm going to need a new line of work. I've worked in bars and restaurants for about ten years now, and it's not the kind of business that's kind on somebody in the middle of changing their sex. So, does anybody know of any kind of career that would be more open to a barely-educated MTF?
posted by Toby Dammit X
on Mar 27, 2011 -
9 answers
Please help me deal with issues regarding sexual orientation and gender identity, and either assure me that I’m not a bad person or tell me how to stop being a bad person. A lengthy, detailed and NSFW explanation follows.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 28, 2011 -
19 answers
I'm a trans-man looking into a month-long NOLS course. Is NOLS a safe place for LGBTQ folks?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 14, 2011 -
7 answers
For my entire life I have known I was transgender (mtf). I am only now finally ready to do something about it. How?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 12, 2011 -
15 answers
What is the official TSA policy on flying transgender regarding the enhanced search procedures for both transgender fliers as well as transgender TSA agents?
posted by Ardiril
on Nov 22, 2010 -
9 answers
Dear enlightened AskMe, can you help me talk well, make clear points and provide quality links to nerdy teenagers on the internet about transgender issues?
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posted by Mizu
on Aug 10, 2010 -
11 answers
