Parents of MetaFilter: What are some things you commonly find yourself wanting/needing from your friends when it comes to interacting with your children, especially as the kids get older? What are some of the most valuable things the long-term honorary aunts and uncles in your lives have done for the kids that has help them feel loved and supported growing up? [more inside]
Toddler daughter has a friend who treats her badly... but she's the only friend nearby that she can usually hang out with outside of school. [more inside]
What are your best, specific recommendations for great food, design, and local culture highlights in Copenhagen for 3-4 adults and 2 18-month olds? [more inside]
We'd like a relaxing vacation, but no vacation we've taken as a family has ever been relaxing. They've been fun, and they've gotten us out of our routines, but they're always intense, and we're always more tired than when we left. Is there a Somewhere Special we could go where that wouldn't be the case? [more inside]
I need to switch up to a front facing toddler seat for a tiny car. Too many options. Going insane. Help! [more inside]
So I have a small child who is in the process of converting from a passive milk converter into some of actual human. Do you know of any sources I could look at which would enlighten me on how their brain develops and most importantly any fun experimenty things I could do to see how their perception is changing and to better understand how they are seeing the world. [more inside]
Extended family that I visit (I'm in Canada) and stay with a few times a year have started the application for a "pistol permit" in New York state. I have a toddler who's never met a button that he didn't press or a latch he didn't fiddle with. I know it's unlikely a gun would be accessible during a visit but I've seen the statistics. My gut reaction is to not visit anyone who has a gun (maybe having one locked in a gun safe would be ok) but I don't know if that is excessive. They are buying the gun "for protection" so I am assuming it will be carried and I want to get a handle on my feelings before I discuss it with them. Have you been in this situation? How did you manage it?
We have a sippy cup that operates without the internal addition of a valve. Instead it seems to have a rubber gasket built into the sippy portion that keeps water from spilling until suction is applied. It is unbranded. Can anyone point me to sippy cups that are two pieces (cap and cup), rather than three (cap, valve and cup)?
I'm going to a multi-day event where the homes/restaurants/event halls are all kosher. Give me your top 3 kosher kids snacks. [more inside]
Our 21 month old is fascinated by the photos of parents and babies in The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding. It got me thinking that although he's got over 50 story and picture books, they nearly all feature animals as protagonists. Can you recommend some books featuring realistic everyday life with toddlers as the main characters? [more inside]
We're flying with two small kids in a month. The younger is barely under two, and we planned on taking her as a lap child because the tickets are $$$, and it'd be nice if the four of us could sit together in a three seat row. And we're driving on the other end, so we had planned to check both kids car seats. The internet is making me feel like this plan is tantamount to letting them play with bottlerockets, matches and switchblades in a highway medium, and that I am an unfit mother who doesn't love her children for even considering it. [more inside]
My partner has been involved in a somewhat casual debate on Facebook between herself and another friend who is from a scientific background about whether the fact that a carnivorous diet is best for raising a newborn or not. We'd like to gather some scientific evidence to get to the bottom of this the best we can. Can you help? [more inside]
I need help choosing whether to go to London with a day trip to Paris or stay in Paris the entire trip on our family vacation this summer. [more inside]
My nearly three year old has been in part time preschool since summer. He, and all of us, have been struggling a lot since then. During school breaks he is different (less fragile, nicer) and our home is different (happier, less stressful). I'm trying to sort through options for care/schooling options for him. I need help! [more inside]
Dear hivemind: I'm going to bring a 300X video microscope to my daughter's preschool. What easily obtainable substances will be super cool to view? Bacteria are too small, red blood cells are a biohazard. Toddlers could care less about onion skins, cork, and plant vasculature in my experience, and I am not doing anything that requires fixing/staining. [more inside]
I'm going to be throwing a party soon & many of my friends have babies or toddlers. What can I have on hand to entertain babies and toddlers? [more inside]
Help us get a young toddler and a baby to sleep at roughly the same time in the same room. Is it possible? Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
My 2.5 year old toddler is going to be flying for the first time since she was a baby next week. We've been talking to her about it a bit, but I'd love to show her a video that would prepare her for the experience (security, boarding, taking off, landing, etc). I've found a few videos that show the process, but nothing really geared for toddlers.
Trying to take a short trip with two toddlers where they can get knee-deep in nature - forests, lakes, whatever. Ideally it's a nice, high-end hotel that's family friendly, a short flight (we'd like to go beyond the road trip radius) from LA. Any suggestions? Maybe somewhere outside of Portland?
I've need to find a house in San Diego for my family vacation. This means 4 adult couples, 3 kids and 2 toddlers. I know about VRBO but the last time I was in San Diego was 10 years ago and stayed at a tiny hotel downtown, so I don't really know what areas to look at that would be nice for a summer vacation. Please help. [more inside]
Hi ask.mefi! You are not my doctor but right now my doctor is 3000 miles away and won't be open for another two hours. Ditto with my husbands he office to find out if our insurance will cover a quick walk in visit with someone else. Tue-wed night Typechip (13 months old) had uncomfortable stomach cramps and lots of gas and loose stool - not watery but runny and yellow. We thought it was due to Mac and cheese made with milk since he reacts badly to milk (but not cheese or yogurt) and cleaned him up and moved on. He's had loose-ish stool since but no cramps or epic gas. This morning though another really messy diaper with lots of sticky liquidy yellow brown poo. However he's eating well, happy and playful and chattering and has no fever or anything like that. I plan to call is doctor once they open but in the meantime what can I do for the little guy?
I would like to take my family (husband, myself, toddler under 2) to visit my brother in DC this spring. Help us make it work! [more inside]
Just recently, I did "potty training bottcamp" for an entire week at my house and successfully pee-trained my 3.5 year old son. But he REFUSES to go #2, but doesn't hold it. I'm cleaning up crappy underwear a few times a day. Helpful tips/guidance/encouragement needed! [more inside]
Taking the chirren (3 and 10 months at the time) for 19 days in Scotland, and wondering how to handle the logistics. Is a campervan a good idea? [more inside]
My otherwise healthy and happy 2-year-old is extremely frightened by noises of all sorts. The list includes dogs barking, cows mooing, chainsaws, the big bucket of water at the swimming pool, diggers, distant freight trains, vacuums, the popcorn popper, etc. This is really affecting his quality of life, and we're not sure how best to deal with it. Ideas? [more inside]
Where should we go for a vacation in mid-January with our two small children? We don't need anything complicated; we just want to play on the beach, read books, eat tasty food, and maybe see a few fun things. [more inside]
Most of our friends have kids under age five. We're considering whether and how to make our wedding a kid-friendly event. Have you seen this done? Have you tried it? As a parent, what would help? Or do you just want a night out? Would anything make you more likely to stay overnight for more fun the next day? [more inside]
What's a good video game controller for a toddler? Absolutely required: A reliable way of connecting it to a Windows 7 or 8 laptop. I don't mind using JoyToKey or 3rd-party drivers if necessary. Preferred: Wireless, so it can't be used to pull the laptop off the desk; Durable and/or cheap, in case it gets thrown or dropped; Simple, few inputs. [more inside]
Mini-me is starting day care at a place that takes the toddlers to a local park every day. I'm cool with this (wearing him out FTW!) but they apparently have the class walk there — about six blocks through a dense urban area. I was a little surprised by this practice for such little kids (18-36 months). Husband is really concerned about the whole thing and I'm not sure what to think. Is this actually a totally reasonable thing for toddlers to do in a group care environment? [more inside]
I have a lot of cream cheese. I have a lot of wonton wrappers. I need to make room temp (in hot August weather) appetizers. Hopefully toddlers will like some of them. What recipes do I want? I'm also happily accepting other recipes or ideas for warm room temp apps, and/or store bought items. I'm throwing a party in August for my toddler's birthday and am, um, self-catering. It will be an indoor/outdoor party, and our AC isn't great to begin with, so let's assume it will be warm inside as well as hot outside. I'm planning to rely heavily on Trader Joe's NYC stores for apps and wine, so suggestions are welcome, as they are for other stores or homemade ideas.
We will be spending four days in Stockholm in the middle of June, with two boys, three and six years old. We've got the standard order guidebook suggestions (Vasa Museum, Skansen, etc.) of things to do, but I'd really love some suggestions of fun things for kids, or even just playgrounds for them to run around when they have had enough of Vikings and whatnot. They tend to be very excited about all modes of transportation, so trams, ferries, etc are a bonus. We will be staying near Ostermalm.
Bedtime has always been a production with our now 13 month old, and unfortunately I don't know many parents of similarly-aged kids to calibrate against. Does this routine seem normal/okay to you for this age? Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
We have always lived in secure places and rarely locked our front door (a metal screen and a wooden door), but today our 2 year old demonstrated vividly that she can open the stiff high handle on the door and make it to the lift lobby fast. We need to socially engineer the rest of our family to keep the damn door properly locked all the time now. And to hide the key that the toddler is obsessed with and able to use. [more inside]
My toddler son is finally of an age where the iPad and youtube are beginning to be a big draw. This is great, but I'd like to have some good guidelines from the start that allow him some screentime but prevent it from taking over too much of his life. I'm looking for a sense of what others have found works and doesn't work for them. [more inside]
What is the best special toy or activity to keep at my house to occupy or entertain my friends' little kids when they visit? [more inside]
I have a 2 year old (26 months to be very precise). We have entered the phase of "I do it!", which is okay in and of itself, but a pattern is starting to appear. He wants to, say, put on his coat himself. Great! Usually one of 2 things happens: he puts it on himself (about 10% of the time), or as soon as I hand him the coat he insists that I do it. So I start to do it, but I get a tearful "MAMA I DO IT!" He creates an impasse where I can't help him but he refuses to do what he says he wants to do. [more inside]
I know that picky toddlers are so common they are a cliché, but I really need help with mine. He has nutritional deficiencies that have disrupted his sleep (and therefore his daytime mood) due to his unwillingness to eat anything but cheerios, crackers, and fruit. We've tried different strategies but nothing seems to work. Advice? [more inside]
My son will be turning two soon. We'd like to take advantage of his spongelike brain to expose him to as many different opportunities to learn new things as possible. I've seen early footage of Justin Bieber and Tiger Woods showing proficiency at this young age already in their respective fields, it seems like there is an advantage to seeing if your child shows talent even at that stage. I have no desire to be a pushy stage mother but if our kid does show interest and ability at something it would be nice to encourage it. So what activities, (violin, guitar, tennis etc) should you be learning very early on to have any chance of really excelling at? And which ones are ok to pick up later? It would be a little sad to find out at 12 that he showed talent at say, gymnastics but started too late to make anything of it.
The baby machine, a small boy of 15 months, and I will be taking our first flight in a couple of weeks and I'm freaking out just a little about keeping him entertained for the time at the airport as well as the 2 hours that we're on the plane. We don't do a lot of screen time as he's pretty little but I was thinking that if we there were some fun apps he could play with as part of our entertainment package (!) for the journey. [more inside]
I need help teaching my 4 year old how to not interrupt and how to be silent when necessary. [more inside]
We are making a rare trip to IKEA tomorrow in part to get a table and chairs for our one-year old. What are other IKEA items that we should look at for him? [more inside]
Me, my wife, and our twin 2-year old boys are taking a day-trip to Vancouver, BC next Friday, mainly to get some paperwork taken care of at the Bentall Centre downtown (above the Burrard Skytrain station). We'll be flying in by float plane in the morning, will be finished with our appointments at 11am, and taking a ferry home from Tsawwassen in the evening. What to do in-between? [more inside]
Being without children myself and not that well versed on what they need/want or the big trends right now, i need suggestions for the following gifts i need to buy in the next month or so: gift for a premature baby boy (or his mum); gift for a 2yr old girl; gift for my soon to be arriving nephew [more inside]
Parenting a toddler: what should I know? What are your tips? [more inside]
Is everyone changing diapers at 3am and I just didn't know about it? [more inside]
Should foxglove be removed from a garden used by a toddler? [more inside]
How can I help my 4-year old get over her new fear of public toilets? [more inside]
Please tell me about your toddler's difficult questions. [more inside]
What are some science-y experiments that would be fun (and impressive) for a 4 year old? [more inside]
My husband loves his 2007 Mini Cooper S convertible, but also loves his 3 year old, 38" tall, 30 lb daughter. We're hoping to bring the two things together with the perfect car seat. It needs to be easy to get into for the kid, harness (as opposed to seat belt) preferred. Have any actual real-life Mini owners made this work?