We are a couple in our mid-50's and are looking for some specific things in our next move; more temperate weather than the North East where we are now; progressive thinking people, good food and a thriving food scene, ability to buy a house for less than $350K, low property taxes ( less than $5K) within driving distance (45 minutes is the max) to a major airport and open-minded people.
We are both entrepreneurial and active, love the outdoors and nature and want a small yard for a garden and to be near some kind of water be it a large lake, river or coast.
We are considering Portland Ore. or Durham NC. We are still working and work for ourselves.
Anyone have an opinion on either or both?
posted by privatechef
on Apr 29, 2013 -
I've become an unhappy Grumpy person. I would love some suggestions on positive music and notebooks, calendars which have inspiration positive quotes ? I just need some motivation in times of stress. Some blogs on positive thinking would also be useful.
Thanks to all!
posted by happiness01
on Mar 17, 2013 -
How can I avoid analysis paralysis in decision-making and pick what's "right for me" more consistently? How can I minimize regret? [more inside]
posted by Seeking Direction
on Mar 4, 2013 -
I still remember vividly the moment that I got
the idea of entropy in information theory; I spent weeks seeing the world in those terms, and playing out the implications (as I understood them). Likewise Nietzschean "eternal recurrence" -- not just as a hypothesis about things repeating on a cosmic scale, but to see if the world and history can be taken as a choice, as something we can affirm. What are your favorite deep, rich, meaningful concepts to think with? (They don't need to be scientifically accurate, necessarily, or something you personally believe -- just things that offer the pleasure of understanding, for you.) Links to explanatory resources, or explanations in the comments welcome, or just names and starting points. [more inside]
posted by the brave tetra-pak
on Mar 4, 2013 -
What is the most moral way for me to treat or respond to someone who acts in a way informed by less progressive values, given that they may not have had the opportunity, resources or upbringing to learn how to question their own thinking and biases? [more inside]
posted by Conspire
on Feb 8, 2013 -
I want to use this image for a critical thinking exercise in my classroom. I once saw a series of images that depict, what I remember to be a series of images that reveal more information as the frame pans backwards. But I can no longer find it. [more inside]
posted by swimbikerun
on Jan 25, 2013 -
I have a friend who has ADHD primarily inattentive type and struggles with multitasking in both work and home life. Rather than being the hyper person that most of us visualize, he is the exact opposite, very slow and methodical with some rigidity to how he must follow certain rules.
My buddy has been struggling in his work place, because he constantly feels overwhelmed. He does see a therapist, but it doesn't seem like any of his issues (at least in the work world) are getting any better. He told me yesterday that people are constantly telling him that he is not present even when he is at work or at home with his wife.
It must really be frustrating for him because I know him to be a good guy with good morals. From a brain perspective, it's kind of a bummer because he does take adhd meds, but he is constantly overwhelmed by everything and he tells me that people seem to get frustrated with him even though he is trying. When we hang out, I mainly validate and offer him some understanding.
Any suggestions on how to help my friend? [more inside]
posted by nidora
on Dec 12, 2012 -
My supervisor has pointed out to me that I tend to take language very literally, and it's impeding my performance at my job. Help me rewire my brain! [more inside]
posted by anotheraccount
on Jun 21, 2012 -
Can you help me cultivate common sense? I am very book smart - gifted/high IQ, excel at work, etc. I am relatively street smart - no walking down dark alleys at night, etc. But I fail spectacularly at common sense, and I've given a few examples below. [more inside]
posted by TestamentToGrace
on Jun 1, 2012 -
The way I research (academic or otherwise) is increasingly incompatible with the tools I have. Reams of handwritten notebooks, and hundreds of word docs vs a highly tagged website only add to my self-created confusion.
I'm drawn to Tinderbox software as a possible solution, but as an adamant PC user I'm locked out.
How do you order your research? / How to write-up my PhD now my brain is fried? [more inside]
posted by 0bvious
on Mar 16, 2012 -
Please help me find the critical thinking textbook my grade-school class used in the early eighties. [more inside]
posted by hydrophonic
on Mar 11, 2012 -
I really, really liked the flash game 3 Slices, recently posted on the blue. I also loved Lemmings. What other flash or internet-based games would I like that I can play on my (old) laptop? [more inside]
posted by shortyJBot
on Jan 22, 2012 -
I have trouble breaking through my mental block on the path to weight loss. How do I mentally adjust myself towards an exercise regime and stick to it? Special self-loathing snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by Ashen
on Jan 13, 2012 -
How can you change how you think and analyze things? How do you think and analyze things in different ways? [more inside]
posted by markbao
on May 28, 2011 -
How do animals think? I was watching a cat in our garden the other day, and I wondered how it thought as it doesn't have language to think in. Then I thought: yes, but when I am working on an (easy - not cryptic) crossword, sometimes I am not thinking in words (if this makes sense?) [more inside]
posted by marienbad
on May 20, 2011 -
Life is unfair, complex, illogical, closed ended, open ended, difficult, and when _____ happens, I try to think my way out of it until it hurts. Effective tools for limiting obsessive thinking? [more inside]
posted by Xurando
on Jan 29, 2011 -
I've come to the conclusion that the root of unhappiness/strife, etc. is what goes on inside my own noodle. In addition to meditation (and, with apologies, excluding western religion) how to tame The Monkey Mind?
How to better control the quality of one's thoughts?
posted by gb77
on Dec 16, 2010 -
I've become habitually prone to categorizing mankind according to various schema, many of which are informed by social science. The problem is this brings polarized and hierarchical thinking, and I suspect may be the illusion of intelligence. I suppose I am easily seduced by "frameworks". Can you recommend any books that address this issue, or could at least break me out of this tendency?
posted by blargerz
on Oct 7, 2010 -
What is it called when you make a mistake because you are thinking faster than you can speak/type/etc.? [more inside]
posted by caminovereda
on Sep 30, 2010 -
Anyone know this questioner's conundrum? the statement I'm searching for describes the attempt of the speaker to "not think of you" and subsequent efforts to avoid the seemingly inevitable results of thinking about the elephant when trying like crazy not to, heeding the exhortation "DON'T THINK ABOUT AN ELEPHANT!". My inclusion of the elephant reference is as a descriptive aid, not part of the musing of the speaker, by the way.
Tao? Buddhist? Zen? Certainly meditative, but all I got on Google were answers pertaining to present-day songs and the like.....
Ugh. It is something of a brain-teaser, but highly enlightening in its treatment of helping one get around the mental chatter that seems to predominate thinking. Or, not thinking, in this case.
I can find it in none of my books, nor on the net.
I can't be the only one who has read this. Not certain about the era in which it originated, nor country, although if I were to speculate madly I'd say Japan, perhaps? Arrrgh. Frustrating. Damn ADD. Thanks, folks-I'll try and check back in ASAP.
posted by girdyerloins
on Sep 29, 2010 -
I am a thinker. I want to stop thinking too much (over-analyzing) and start doing more. Any how to or tips? [more inside]
posted by bbxx
on Sep 11, 2010 -
Tell me about cultural differences in your workplace. How do German, English, Chinese, Nigerian, or Tazmanian workers differ when attacking a problem, reporting status, dealing with subordinates or drinking on the job? Use this infographic
as inspiration. Are certain cultures more effective than others on a shop floor versus a trading floor? I understand this question flirts with stereotypes and baked-in cultural bias. I get it, but that is what makes organizational dynamics so......dynamic. Pointing to a study
that says Latin American's have a higher power distance
than Germans is a great answer. Saying that the French aren't productive because they take all of August off is probably not as good. [more inside]
posted by jasondigitized
on Apr 29, 2010 -
I'm looking for suggestions for books that either general introductions or academic or school texts on topics like the proper design of scientific studies and experiments, the correct use scientific method and critical thinking as related to science and the errors usually associated with these.
I'm looking for books that treat these topics with a little more rigor than the average popular science bestseller.
posted by sk381
on Feb 3, 2010 -
If I'm trying to come up with a model or a function to determine to what extent a specific person is able to think outside the box (or unconventionally, or differently), what variables do you consider crucial to do this analysis?
posted by ttyn
on Jan 20, 2010 -
What are some tools and techniques I can use to become a better critical thinker? I asked my friend the other day what he got out of his tier-1 education and he said it taught him how to 'think through problems'. What exactly did his professors teach him about critical thinking? If I memorize the logical fallacies or make a pro's and con's list will I be a better thinker? Is 'going with your gut' an approved tactic in this pursuit? What things do you do to think through a problem and come up with rock solid plans, decisions, and recommendations?
posted by jasondigitized
on Oct 26, 2009 -
So, I'm sitting on the beach and a large flock of seagulls more or less simultaneously settle on the sand together, all facing the same direction. Intermittantly, individual birds will take off from the group and fly away. What is the motivation and even better, the decision process, for these rebel birds to depart from the flock at that particular moment?
posted by marcurios
on Sep 13, 2009 -
Those who have learned to speak and think
in another language, do you remember the age (and day) you started thinking in your current spoken language? [more inside]
posted by querty
on Aug 4, 2009 -
How might a person go about cultivating "number sense"? I mean something different from abstract reasoning. I'm asking how one might develop an intuition for physical concepts such as numbers, lengths, and sizes. Examples might include knowing how many people went to your school, how many yards away is a given building, how large is your apartment, how much does the average American earn, etc. These things could be measured or found out through research, but how might a person develop the ability to give reasonable estimates?
posted by Busoni
on Apr 15, 2009 -
Can anyone point me to literature about conceptual "sign flipping" or "parity errors" and confusion of opposites in humans? [more inside]
posted by rwhe
on Apr 4, 2009 -
I'm looking for mottos, slogans, or quotes that are short enough to be easily remembered, that are meant to spur someone to take action
towards their goals, and/or that warn against overthinking and overplanning and staying in your head – in other words, that laud the merits of action over thought. I've already thought of "just do it" (which is the precise sentiment I'm looking for), but it is so
overplayed that it doesn't have much meaning any longer. Any sentiment of any length is appreciated, but ideally it would be something that easily sticks in your mind.
posted by WCityMike
on Apr 3, 2009 -
I'd like to buy a book for my girlfriend to help her structure her ideas in academic writing. My girlfriend is a graduate student in the humanities. She is clever, erudite and rigorous, but her ability to build an argument is poor. She finds it particularly difficult to unpack a complex concept and present its constitutive parts in a logical sequence. The book I'd like to buy helps writers with these specific problems, ideally (but not necessarily) within the context of research in the humanities. [more inside]
posted by limon
on Mar 19, 2009 -
What are some easy, relatively quick ways to learn to write better, think clearer, and express myself better? [more inside]
posted by Bageena
on Jan 28, 2009 -
on AskMe: a whole bunch of questions about how to think more, better, etc. But what if I'm finding myself not interested
in deliberative thinking? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jan 20, 2009 -
First world problems, analysis paralysis, and personal actualization: Book's similar to Peter Block's The Answer to How Is Yes
? I haven't even read this book, actually. But, I probably will. Clarification inside. [more inside]
posted by zeek321
on Dec 20, 2008 -