Hey folks. I'm having some hang ups lately about arriving "late" to some areas of culture and life. I'm also still in a "phase" where I am reaching out, establishing new social circles, and attempting to validate a sense of self(I just* turned 24). Largely, I am wondering if any Mefites happen to recall stories of success, especially on a grand scale, of folks who pursued passions academic or not, a wee bit later in life and still fought/worked/finessed a means of becoming successful/happy/prolific in their fields or passions - especially after a means of difficult time or trauma. Super inspiration, please? Motive to keep going, work harder, even if you feel like you've been pretty beaten up/down and out for a little while? Stories of life-changing occurrences or pick-ups in character/pace, in a positive/radical/tremendous way? [more inside]
I have been out of a relationship for two years and working on myself emotionally, socially, and spiritually to clear out issues and limiting beliefs I have around dating and intimacy. I am currently in individual therapy to deal with personal stuff and have recently agreed (with prompting by my therapist) to participate in group therapy specific to dating and relationships. [more inside]
I have some weird thoughts re: relationships that are not good, but there are reasons for them. Should/ How do I change how I think? (Therapy is being arranged, and I want more POVs.) [more inside]
I've struggled with depression for 30 years and have tried multiple medications/treatments, light therapy, Transcendental Meditation, etc. The last modality I had so much hope for was Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation; the treatments actually made my depression worse. Since we all know of cases where tumorous cancers have disappeared without explanation, I'm hoping someone has witnessed this occurring in a friend or loved one who's been diagnosed with clinical depression?
A dear old friend is losing friends through drinking, drug use, treating partners badly and borrowing money never to pay it back. She's had anger and anxiety issues for years as well as eating disorders that come and go in severity. She won't consider therapy and things are getting worse. [more inside]
Hello! I am an independent contractor (1099 Misc form) for the first time in my life and need some tax advice as the budget is a bit tight! Therapy, acupuncture, bicycle, insurance, computer, etc. How do deductions work? [more inside]
I have a lot of trauma in my past. My therapist is trying to teach me ways of being present, but I'm having a really hard time. Has anyone else with PTSD found something that helps calm the flood of memories? [more inside]
Very short and to the point question. A family member has been the victim of identity theft, and are doing very poorly in terms of mental health in the process of trying to cope. They have severe phone anxiety, social anxiety, etc, and this is emotionally destroying them. I need a therapist in the Atlanta metro area, preferably Dunwoody/Norcross area that is taking new patients ASAP and who has experience with ID theft and anxiety issues. Bonus if they take Blue Cross Blue Shield GA's Blue Choice POS insurance, but willing to pay if they don't.
I think I might be a little depressed. Sometimes more than a little, but usually at least a little. And I know I have issues with anxiety. So, I've decided to get therapy. And I've called my insurance to figure out how to go about doing that. So my question is: now what? I don't know if I need a psychiatrist or a psycologist. I know that a psychiatrist perscribes medication, but I don't know if I need that. Knowing that seems like their job. [more inside]
I’ve got an appointment with a new therapist next week. I’m really excited, because wow do I have some things to work out, but I’m also wary because I’m crap at being in therapy. This new therapist seems to be a good fit, at least on paper and according to a recommendation I’ve gotten. Does anyone have any constructive ideas about how to be a good patient in therapy? [more inside]
I urgently need to find a good therapist/counseller in the Mid Sussex region of the UK (ideally in the Haywards Heath area). More details after the break, however I need help dealing with some issues in my marriage, but I don't have a clue how to go about seeking this help. I would ask my GP, however she is on vacation for the next couple of weeks but I need to start getting some help sooner than that. [more inside]
What I want is an older sister /grandmother/ auntie type - someone wise I can write letters to from time to time, who will write me thoughtful letters back and offer suggestions and whatnot. A life coach? A counsellor (or therapist)? Does anyone offer this service? I would happily pay a reasonable fee. [more inside]
My long-term partner and I had relationship problems, spent some time apart, and are in the process of getting our lives back into one home. Now that I've moved my stuff back in, problems that I thought we'd dealt with are happening again. Is it time to go back to therapy or is there something else I can be doing? [more inside]
I was sexually assaulted a few times and stalked/harrassed by an abusive, predatory and highly manipulative man who was in a position of trust to me. (We weren't in a relationship; he is nearly three times my age.) I am confused about where I should "be" or where I amin terms of getting over the events. Counselors and websites are quick to point out things like PTSD and rape trauma syndrome; they are suggesting things like EMDR and strongly hinting that I'm traumatized. I'm not convinced. Is it possible to actually be traumatized and not realize/recognize it? Is a "trauma response"... with panic attacks, flashbacks, and such... the only possible response to rape and harassment? Secondly: Is therapy always necessary to deal with this sort of thing? Or is it possible that I have/will get over it by myself? I don't want to pathologize myself. I don't want to create new problems for myself by going to therapy that I might not actually need. I wanted to ask metafilter because the counselors I speak to are obviously going to be somewhat biased in telling me that I am "traumatized". [more inside]
I'm asking for a friend. Any recommendations or resources available? Located in Vancouver area and working on a sliding scale (or relatively affordable) would be much appreciated.
I'm looking for personal recommendations for a therapist located in Nassau county (preferably south shore, and preferably one who accepts blue cross insurance, though this is a secondary concern) who can help a teen I know and love with self harm and an eating disorder. She is the adolescent child of an alcoholic, and is in what seems to me to be a major depressive state right now, and has agreed to attend therapy. [more inside]
I made an appointment at a local clinic. Assuming things start well (right Dr.+ right drugs). What can I expect 2-3 years down the road? [more inside]
Should I find a new therapist when I'm only in town for 6 more months? [more inside]
I went to a couple ones and they just say “uhh huh” and “ya” and “how does that make you feel?” all the time and dont give me any advice. Are there any that actually help you and give you advice? I also want to mention that going just made me focus on my problems and feel sorry for myself instead of changing things and going just seemed to make my problems worse.
I've been struggling with mild depression for a long time. I think therapy is probably a good idea for someone like me, but I've been unable to find a therapist I really respect. I've tried seven different therapists (one I stuck with for a couple years), but none have seemed very insightful or helpful. I'm feeling like I should try again (my wife definitely wants me to). Do I just have to be willing to try a dozen therapists until I find the "right" one? (That seems really daunting.) Or is there maybe some way I can better benefit from a therapist who doesn't seem very insightful? [more inside]
Asking for a friend who is an MFT. He is considering moving into private practice, however, he isn't ready to make the leap from a steady and reliable job to a job where income is very dependent on the size of your professional network--and he doesn't really have a professional network at all right now. Any tips on how to ease into private practice with a low initial commitment and pressure--just a part time thing with only one or a few clients?
It's been a few months after my fiance proposed and he made plans to move in with me and my 15-year-old son this summer. As predicted, my son began acting up, basically in the form of talking back and being a little rude to me in front of the fiance, who comes here every weekend. It's important to note my son does not act this way when it's the 2 of us and I completely understand what's going on and we're talking to someone. [more inside]
I felt invalidated by my therapist two sessions ago and can't seem to get over it, even after bringing it up with her. There also has been a lot of awkward silence lately and I feel like I'm just saying the same things over and over again. [more inside]
I have pretty severe social anxiety. How do I gain the courage to see a therapist? I am mostly afraid of my parent's reaction. [more inside]
How do you handle mental health in NYC- insurance, out of pocket, other options? [more inside]
Therapist(s) Recommendations in the Bay Area (CA): Three areas. [more inside]
I've been seeing a new therapist for about two months. I dread going to him every week. The conversation feels forced, and I can't open up to him. Is it too soon to decide he's not for me? [more inside]
Hello Mefites, I am in the process of moving away from my abusive family (Previously: here and here). I've had a rough week, with my dad escalating his anger despite no provocation from me, which helped me make a lot of progress on moving out my things (discreetly) but I had a therapy session yesterday and I feel like my therapist has been screwing with my need to protect myself and get out. I was wondering what you think about it and for any tips on finding work in Seattle, because I don't consider moving back home a possibility should I be unable to find a job. Even if you're not from Seattle, any help is appreciated! [more inside]
What techniques can I employ to help deal with crippling anxiety and bug-phobic behaviors until I can afford regular therapy appointments? Ugly details inside - apologies for the length. [more inside]
I'm a first time mom. My son has some special needs that are causing me a considerable amount of stress. We are working with specialists to address his needs and we have a ton of support in that arena - it will be a long process but will likely eventually be corrected. My concern is more about me. [more inside]
My wife and I are having a lot of problems in our marriage, have been for quite some time. Infidelity on both sides. Unresolved childhood trauma. Lack of trust and honesty from both parties. We have a wonderful life and two amazing children and are best friends, have been since high school. We're both starting therapy (separately) and then maybe marriage counseling. And I suppose this is one of those things that I can expect or hope to work out in therapy? But right now, how do I know if I should stay in my marriage? What signs did you have that your marriage was over or was salvageable?
I recently got an MRI and was diagnosed with a cervical herniated disc. Not much pain, but there is numbness and tingling in the left thumb, and very tense shoulders along with some other symptoms. It has been about 2 months since I got it. For people who have had a cervical herniated disc - besides resting and visiting the doctor, do you have any other advice for getting the hernia gone as quickly as possible? [more inside]
My mom wants me to help her with her "online presence." How do you do that for a therapist? [more inside]
My wife and I separated six months ago. Now, after marriage and individual counselling, it looks like we might be ready to give things another shot. How do we go about re-integrating our lives whilst there are still small alarm bells ringing? [more inside]
Do you have faith in your therapist's sense of certainty? [more inside]
(Australian) Melbournian mefites - can any of you recommend a trans-friendly therapist? [more inside]
Suggestions for coming to terms with childhood neglect. [more inside]
Asking for a friend-- Can anyone recommend a therapist for anxiety/depression in Riverdale, Inwood, or nearby Westchester? No particular approach preferred, although approaches like CBT that have some literature supporting their efficacy would be better.
I need to find my partner some help with ongoing depression symptoms that she has been suffering from for a decade but has deepened recently. [more inside]
My therapist has suggested that the concept of a highly sensitive person might be a helpful way for me to frame my understanding of myself, but I am very torn. On the one hand I recognize myself in a lot of the description; on the other hand it feels like a very uncomfortable kind of "I am not awkward, I am special!" kind of thing. [more inside]
I teach for a living but have a lot of linguistic baggage that I'd like to get rid of. Specifically, I have some weird pronunciation/accent issues and would like to speak "General American" or newscaster English. Is this something I can do on my own? What resources should I use? [more inside]
My wife and I separated a few months ago (which was my choice, not hers) and it seems that many of the things that I left over may have been addressed, but I still feel cagey about it all. How do I square this circle in my head and in my heart? Blizzard inside. [more inside]
Looking for resources for supporting a partner (and my own mental health) in an ongoing, possibly abusive relationship with a family member. [more inside]
About 6 months ago my partner told me he had stopped taking his Prozac. He was on a low 'maintenance dose' and had been feeling better. Now things have gone belly up and going back on the meds hasn't helped. He's drinking heavily and can barely function. How can I find him the help he needs and also help him myself with little money and no support network whilst looking after our young daughter? [more inside]
My wife died. Everyone keeps telling me I should have someone to talk to - a counselor or someone from hospice or whoever. I don't really feel like I need or want that, though. Am I harming myself by handling this on my own? [more inside]
What are my options for low-cost talk therapy in Houston? I'm quitting my current job that has good health insurance, but low pay and not the greatest for overall body health. I'll be out of insurance for 2 months until my new job (much better, not a grocery store, and it's in my field of IT) insurance kicks into effect. [more inside]
I'm interested in finding a therapist in Vancouver for help with anxiety issues. Specifications are below the fold. [more inside]
I'm asking for one of my sons. He's looking into the psychology program in college and thinks it would be interesting. He was wondering if therapists/psychologists typically seek therapy for themselves after or before practice. He was wondering if it would cause him to burn out or need help to deal with clients. I'd like to add he's thinking of adolescent kids and young adults. He was tossing that up with another career in the health field and I have no idea how to answer this for him. We've looked online and the answers seem to be all over the place, with mostly yes, they do seek therapy - but is it because of the work or because of other issues?
I think I have a personality disorder (not an illness or condition) that few therapists ever deal with. How can I find a therapist up to the challenge of helping me with this? [more inside]
Hello. The other Boston area marriage counseling posts are several years old. I hope metafilter can help me find a good marriage counselor. My husband and have been together for 17 years, married for four years. He is at his wits end dealing with my depression (which I'm currently in treatment for). We need to talk to someone soon. Please give me some recommendations of good couples counselors.