It's become abundantly clear that the way in which I lose my temper and the frequency with which I do so is (and it's hard to admit this) abusive. My wife has rightly given me an ulitmatum. I need a plan and I have no idea how or where to begin. [more inside]
I was let go from my job last November and having trouble securing work. After brief winter period, I've had phone screenings and in person interviews but still have not received any offers. I've reached out recruiters, employers, friends and family. The results aren't fruitless, but kind of grape-sized. It feels like I am trying to get myself out of a hole by digging. My friend is getting married on my birthday in August and I'd like not be unemployed at the time or unable to afford to go. (Further details and actual questions inside) [more inside]
looking for recommendations for a therapist or specialist in LA area who can help treat my extreme obsession with appearance. I know I am suffering with a type of eating disorder and I think a form of OCD or body dysmorphic disorder, too. it's ruining my life. I am sick of this pathetic problem. there are actual sick people in the world and I'm worried about such trivial things and I can't help it. I want to stop thinking like this and am ready to get help. more inside. [more inside]
My wife told me last night that she has lost interest in sex. We'd like to go see a couples sex therapist, but that's not something we can afford at the moment. Until that changes, can you recommend books or online resources that might be able to help us?
**DISCLAIMER: This is very long, tediously written, incoherent, etc., so I don’t expect you to read all of it. I have listed my main problems in numbers 1., 2. and 3., and I don’t care how much you have read, as long as I get as many opinions as possible. The therapy section is in number two, just in case you were going to suggest that. I need some advice on what to do now, not what to tell my therapist** [more inside]
I recently posted my current situation here. I'm still struggling with a longstanding issue: My mom's undiagnosed (notwithstanding a brief stint on anti-depressants 15 years ago following her divorce) possible depression. About once or twice a year I find myself with her while she sobs uncontrollably and talks about how lonely and alone she feels as she ages. These are all valid feelings and fears, but everytime I bring up seeing a counsellor to help her get her life back on track, giver her tools to cope, filter out the negative energy in her life (such as her codependent relationship with her 29 y/o son), she refuses to admit there is a problem. [more inside]
I need a time flexible online therapy/therapist reommendation. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
Currently having Physical Therapy for hip anteversion/knock knees and general postural issues; what kind of pain is it 'normal' and beneficial in the long run to feel? Only muscular or is it okay for PT to provoke the outside of knee pain that I want to fix as well? [more inside]
Need help in establishing whether hypnosis would help me overcome some issues from the past that are affecting my relationship. [more inside]
I need a referral to a therapist who has experience getting people addicted to screens (and their contents) to do their damn job. (Chicago area, but will accept remote or even national if worth traveling to see) [more inside]
I seem to have acute anxiety lately, which is causing a cognition deficit for me. My memory is quite poor and lax these days - I'm not certain if it is due to my vegan diet, or my ongoing intensive anxiety? Are there any tips on how to improve my memory and stabilize my anxiety? [more inside]
The other night I asked my husband if he is happy and, after about 30 minutes of thoughtful consideration, he said he feels the concept of a long happy marriage is overrated and that he "isn't not happy." He is satisfied. [more inside]
I have a friend in Istanbul who is depressed. Do therapists do cognitive-behavioral therapy there? If so, can you recommend someone? Any other therapist recommendations would be appreciated as well, but CBT is preferred.
I’ve been seeing a therapist for a while for various reasons, including coming to terms with rape and a generally traumatic sexual history. My issues with sex have basically made any relationships impossible and at this point I’ve been single and celibate for five years. I would like to change this - or at least to feel like I have the ability to have a fulfilling sexual life if I want to. My therapist has suggested that I look into tantra and has recommended a practitioner for one-on-one work and also an organization that runs weekend courses for groups. Is this legit and/or a good idea? [more inside]
I'm seeing a therapist for the first time in my life next week following chronic illness. How do I get the best out of it? [more inside]
Marriage / Employment filter: My wife is finally incredibly happy in her job (a new career), but it hasn't paid a check for 6 months. I want to be supportive, but all I see is her working her ass off and not getting paid. What do we need to talk about / to weigh at the 1 year mark when we assess her getting a job with a salary? (see within for a very long story) [more inside]
I have cheated on my wife. Basically a one night stand, but the relationship was somewhat longer. I am now in the depths of despair and need to figure out where to get help and how to proceed. If anyone has any online support resources for adulterers I'd be interested. I'd also be interested in any therapist recommendations in the Newton, MA area. I am in disbelief that I've even typed these words. Thanks for any input.
How do I help my girlfriend get the help she needs? [more inside]
I'm only 3 sessions in, but I'm not feeling my therapist and think I should quit and find someone else. [more inside]
I am a 36 year old male. I have had OCD, Depression and Anxiety as far back as I can remember. I have done everything that I can to treat it - multiple medications, multiple therapists and a slew of naturopathic treatments Is there any hope for me? [more inside]
I'm a federal employee working in California. I just had an anxiety attack at work. I think I need space to regroup mentally and emotionally. What options are open to me? [more inside]
So I'm having trouble getting it up, and I want to be able to have sex with my girlfriend. So. [more inside]
I've been seeing a PT for 3 months who is covered entirely by insurance. They provide ultrasound, etc., but not much else. I want to see another PT to get better treatment and pay out of pocket. Would it be OK to continue seeing the insurance-covered PT for ultrasound and e-stem once a week and pay out of pocket to go to the other PT once a week? Would my insurance company frown on this if they found out?
Asking for a friend: help me find a psychiatrist or better yet a mental health outpatient clinic in NYC that takes Medicaid HealthPlus and doesn't have insanely long wait times. [more inside]
My spouse has a terminal diagnosis. What do I need to do? [more inside]
For anyone who has done online therapy, was your experience useful? Any specific recommendations or tips for finding something that is legitimate? I am particularly interested in therapy that can be done over instant messaging. [more inside]
Long story short, I've suffered from depression on and off for the past 10 years, with the past 3 years being the worst part of it. How do I take care of the incredible amount of stuff I've let pile up in my life? To add a little spice to the question, I'm also working in a bizarrely abusive, toxic job right now. [more inside]
It's extremely unpleasant and has not gotten better after two years of "working through it", but it's technically "mild". Is it bad enough to try meds? [more inside]
Assume first that it's appropriate for our particular relationship. I got her something last year--sort of a small $15 Christmas-themed funny sign thing that was connected to something we talked about one time. But this year I can't think of a single thing. Which may mean I shouldn't get her anything, but I'd still be grateful for any ideas you have. Thank you!
How is therapy supposed to help when it can't change why you are sad? I am in therapy for grief and it's not helping. I understand that therapy can't bring back the person I miss, but since that's the only thing I want, I can't figure out what therapy is meant to do. It would be helpful to me if I could understand at least what's SUPPOSED to happen even though it obviously isn't. [more inside]
After being recommended multiple therapists and not a single one accepting insurance, I've determined that the only financially advantageous avenue to pay for therapy is to switch to a high deductible insurance plan with a HSA in order to lower my premiums and maximize my tax situation. Is there anything I'm missing or not taking into consideration? [more inside]
The BlueCross BlueShield plan I've had for a few years "allows" only $78 of the $180 that my out-of-network therapist charges. Other companies can't/won't tell me what their allowed amount would be. Does your plan "allow" more than mine does? I just don't understand how they can say that the "reasonable, usual and customary charge" for a therapy appointment with a Ph.D. therapist is $78, because that's just ridiculous. Am I missing something here? Or is this just the insurance companies being $&%#?!*@.
Does it make much difference whether my therapist has a PhD or just a master's? [more inside]
How do I pick the right therapist to help with my anxiety, stress, indecisiveness, and perfectionist tendencies? What kinds of therapy/techniques/approaches might be most helpful? How do I quickly assess whether to stick with someone or look elsewhere? What are reasonable expectations of how much I can improve in therapy and how quickly? I'm terrible at making decisions-- I need help! (Especially since we want to start trying for kids in a few months so I feel real urgency to make progress quickly to feel comfortable going ahead, for both my and the kid's sake.) DC-area, FYI. [more inside]
A family member has been through a nearly unimaginably terrible saga over the past four years and has just been released from prison after a conviction related to it. What type of therapist and what type of therapy would be best to help him cope and to get back on his feet again? [more inside]
So this is actually a 2 part question.... [more inside]
For most of my adulthood, I've been unable to fully deal with normal things the way most people seem to be able to. I have a decent full time job, a nice home, and a great husband... really nothing major to complain about. But many things bother me to the point that it affects my daily life, and I want it to stop but I don't know how to make it. [more inside]
About a year ago, my father was in an accident and suffered significant brain trauma. Since then, he has made great physical progress, but his mental progress seems stagnant. His memories are intact, thank god, but what he has trouble with is focusing/concentrating on things. I’m looking for suggestions on exercises he can do on a computer/iPad or in his regular life that can help with his healing and growth. I would also love to hear anecdotes from people who themselves have suffered significant brain trauma and what they have done to help themselves heal. [more inside]
I often see recommendations on MeFi that people should seek counseling/therapy. In your direct experience, how has therapy affected you (or, less preferably, someone you know very well)? To be artless about it, therapy (I suppose) is supposed to help you change from one kind of person to another. To the extent you feel comfortable posting about it, can you explain the effect(s) on a particular person (ideally, you) that you have seen from therapy? How does it change one's personhood/capacity/inner life/ability to do stuff?
A family member is a physical therapist assistant in Virginia. They just completed a one or two-year massage therapy course at a local college (I forget the details). They want to know if the course meets their continuing education requirements. [more inside]
Can anyone recommend a marriage counselor who will work on Skype? [more inside]
I find myself unable to be fully candid speaking in person with therapists and wonder if I might do better corresponding with a therapist online by e-mail or chat or something. Does this exist? Would you recommend it? Is there a better idea? [more inside]
What do you do when a problem you've been trying to work through with other people in life suddenly becomes a problem with your therapist, too? [more inside]
I'm starting to accept that I desperately need to see a therapist, but I am unemployed (recently moved here to NYC) and have no health insurance. Are there any clinics or hospitals that offer low cost therapy services?
I have two questions: 1) Has social psychology given rise to clinicians, that is, therapists whose practices use the theories and principles that come out of social psychology? 2) If so, are there any in Portland, Oregon? [more inside]
If you are a writer (nonfiction or fiction), a designer, or a programmer, how do you survive the editorial process with your self-esteem intact? [more inside]
My spouse has long resisted going to couples’ mediation, despite on-going problems in our marriage. After a particularly bad fight a few days ago, my spouse reluctantly agreed to attend two sessions. I’m responsible for selecting the mediator. What’s the best way to extract the most benefit from just two sessions? [more inside]
I have been in therapy for a little while for anxiety/obsessive thoughts. This has gone very well so far, but I still feel awful, and I am wondering whether I should try meds. Snowflakes after the jump. [more inside]
After struggling with a few largely non-crisis issues for the last eight years or so, I've decided to go see a therapist. I've seen a counselor before, and she's lovely, but I feel like I need more cognitive insight now. I found my current counselor by calling the local Pride Center and getting a list of names, then going with the first one who answered their phone. I want to make a more informed decision this time. [more inside]
I recently began seeing a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist for the first time. Sometimes she also refers to what we are doing as "coaching." I have a lot of resistance to her suggestions, and I'm wondering if this resistance is something I should try to work through, or if I should try to stop seeing her. [more inside]