I’ve been seeing a therapist for a while for various reasons, including coming to terms with rape and a generally traumatic sexual history. My issues with sex have basically made any relationships impossible and at this point I’ve been single and celibate for five years. I would like to change this - or at least to feel like I have the ability to have a fulfilling sexual life if I want to. My therapist has suggested that I look into tantra and has recommended a practitioner for one-on-one work and also an organization that runs weekend courses for groups. Is this legit and/or a good idea? [more inside]
I'm seeing a therapist for the first time in my life next week following chronic illness. How do I get the best out of it? [more inside]
Marriage / Employment filter: My wife is finally incredibly happy in her job (a new career), but it hasn't paid a check for 6 months. I want to be supportive, but all I see is her working her ass off and not getting paid. What do we need to talk about / to weigh at the 1 year mark when we assess her getting a job with a salary? (see within for a very long story) [more inside]
I have cheated on my wife. Basically a one night stand, but the relationship was somewhat longer. I am now in the depths of despair and need to figure out where to get help and how to proceed. If anyone has any online support resources for adulterers I'd be interested. I'd also be interested in any therapist recommendations in the Newton, MA area. I am in disbelief that I've even typed these words. Thanks for any input.
How do I help my girlfriend get the help she needs? [more inside]
I'm only 3 sessions in, but I'm not feeling my therapist and think I should quit and find someone else. [more inside]
I am a 36 year old male. I have had OCD, Depression and Anxiety as far back as I can remember. I have done everything that I can to treat it - multiple medications, multiple therapists and a slew of naturopathic treatments Is there any hope for me? [more inside]
I'm a federal employee working in California. I just had an anxiety attack at work. I think I need space to regroup mentally and emotionally. What options are open to me? [more inside]
So I'm having trouble getting it up, and I want to be able to have sex with my girlfriend. So. [more inside]
I've been seeing a PT for 3 months who is covered entirely by insurance. They provide ultrasound, etc., but not much else. I want to see another PT to get better treatment and pay out of pocket. Would it be OK to continue seeing the insurance-covered PT for ultrasound and e-stem once a week and pay out of pocket to go to the other PT once a week? Would my insurance company frown on this if they found out?
Asking for a friend: help me find a psychiatrist or better yet a mental health outpatient clinic in NYC that takes Medicaid HealthPlus and doesn't have insanely long wait times. [more inside]
My spouse has a terminal diagnosis. What do I need to do? [more inside]
For anyone who has done online therapy, was your experience useful? Any specific recommendations or tips for finding something that is legitimate? I am particularly interested in therapy that can be done over instant messaging. [more inside]
Long story short, I've suffered from depression on and off for the past 10 years, with the past 3 years being the worst part of it. How do I take care of the incredible amount of stuff I've let pile up in my life? To add a little spice to the question, I'm also working in a bizarrely abusive, toxic job right now. [more inside]
It's extremely unpleasant and has not gotten better after two years of "working through it", but it's technically "mild". Is it bad enough to try meds? [more inside]
Assume first that it's appropriate for our particular relationship. I got her something last year--sort of a small $15 Christmas-themed funny sign thing that was connected to something we talked about one time. But this year I can't think of a single thing. Which may mean I shouldn't get her anything, but I'd still be grateful for any ideas you have. Thank you!
How is therapy supposed to help when it can't change why you are sad? I am in therapy for grief and it's not helping. I understand that therapy can't bring back the person I miss, but since that's the only thing I want, I can't figure out what therapy is meant to do. It would be helpful to me if I could understand at least what's SUPPOSED to happen even though it obviously isn't. [more inside]
After being recommended multiple therapists and not a single one accepting insurance, I've determined that the only financially advantageous avenue to pay for therapy is to switch to a high deductible insurance plan with a HSA in order to lower my premiums and maximize my tax situation. Is there anything I'm missing or not taking into consideration? [more inside]
The BlueCross BlueShield plan I've had for a few years "allows" only $78 of the $180 that my out-of-network therapist charges. Other companies can't/won't tell me what their allowed amount would be. Does your plan "allow" more than mine does? I just don't understand how they can say that the "reasonable, usual and customary charge" for a therapy appointment with a Ph.D. therapist is $78, because that's just ridiculous. Am I missing something here? Or is this just the insurance companies being $&%#?!*@.
Does it make much difference whether my therapist has a PhD or just a master's? [more inside]
How do I pick the right therapist to help with my anxiety, stress, indecisiveness, and perfectionist tendencies? What kinds of therapy/techniques/approaches might be most helpful? How do I quickly assess whether to stick with someone or look elsewhere? What are reasonable expectations of how much I can improve in therapy and how quickly? I'm terrible at making decisions-- I need help! (Especially since we want to start trying for kids in a few months so I feel real urgency to make progress quickly to feel comfortable going ahead, for both my and the kid's sake.) DC-area, FYI. [more inside]
A family member has been through a nearly unimaginably terrible saga over the past four years and has just been released from prison after a conviction related to it. What type of therapist and what type of therapy would be best to help him cope and to get back on his feet again? [more inside]
So this is actually a 2 part question.... [more inside]
For most of my adulthood, I've been unable to fully deal with normal things the way most people seem to be able to. I have a decent full time job, a nice home, and a great husband... really nothing major to complain about. But many things bother me to the point that it affects my daily life, and I want it to stop but I don't know how to make it. [more inside]
About a year ago, my father was in an accident and suffered significant brain trauma. Since then, he has made great physical progress, but his mental progress seems stagnant. His memories are intact, thank god, but what he has trouble with is focusing/concentrating on things. I’m looking for suggestions on exercises he can do on a computer/iPad or in his regular life that can help with his healing and growth. I would also love to hear anecdotes from people who themselves have suffered significant brain trauma and what they have done to help themselves heal. [more inside]
I often see recommendations on MeFi that people should seek counseling/therapy. In your direct experience, how has therapy affected you (or, less preferably, someone you know very well)? To be artless about it, therapy (I suppose) is supposed to help you change from one kind of person to another. To the extent you feel comfortable posting about it, can you explain the effect(s) on a particular person (ideally, you) that you have seen from therapy? How does it change one's personhood/capacity/inner life/ability to do stuff?
A family member is a physical therapist assistant in Virginia. They just completed a one or two-year massage therapy course at a local college (I forget the details). They want to know if the course meets their continuing education requirements. [more inside]
Can anyone recommend a marriage counselor who will work on Skype? [more inside]
I find myself unable to be fully candid speaking in person with therapists and wonder if I might do better corresponding with a therapist online by e-mail or chat or something. Does this exist? Would you recommend it? Is there a better idea? [more inside]
What do you do when a problem you've been trying to work through with other people in life suddenly becomes a problem with your therapist, too? [more inside]
I'm starting to accept that I desperately need to see a therapist, but I am unemployed (recently moved here to NYC) and have no health insurance. Are there any clinics or hospitals that offer low cost therapy services?
I have two questions: 1) Has social psychology given rise to clinicians, that is, therapists whose practices use the theories and principles that come out of social psychology? 2) If so, are there any in Portland, Oregon? [more inside]
If you are a writer (nonfiction or fiction), a designer, or a programmer, how do you survive the editorial process with your self-esteem intact? [more inside]
My spouse has long resisted going to couples’ mediation, despite on-going problems in our marriage. After a particularly bad fight a few days ago, my spouse reluctantly agreed to attend two sessions. I’m responsible for selecting the mediator. What’s the best way to extract the most benefit from just two sessions? [more inside]
I have been in therapy for a little while for anxiety/obsessive thoughts. This has gone very well so far, but I still feel awful, and I am wondering whether I should try meds. Snowflakes after the jump. [more inside]
After struggling with a few largely non-crisis issues for the last eight years or so, I've decided to go see a therapist. I've seen a counselor before, and she's lovely, but I feel like I need more cognitive insight now. I found my current counselor by calling the local Pride Center and getting a list of names, then going with the first one who answered their phone. I want to make a more informed decision this time. [more inside]
I recently began seeing a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist for the first time. Sometimes she also refers to what we are doing as "coaching." I have a lot of resistance to her suggestions, and I'm wondering if this resistance is something I should try to work through, or if I should try to stop seeing her. [more inside]
Have you had EMDR or gone for inpatient therapy for PTSD/sexual abuse? Care to tell me about it? [more inside]
When I graduated college I moved to NYC alone and found myself severely depressed to the point where I could barely get out of bed. I didn't have very good insurance so I had trouble getting help. I overheard a co-worker talking about her therapist and I looked him up and contacted him. He was able to take my insurance but when I told him I found him by overhearing a co-worker, he told me he wouldn't see me anymore. I still can't figure out what I did wrong. [more inside]
Looking for recommendations for sex-positive, progressive, poly-friendly therapists in the Washington DC region. [more inside]
I'm an ASW in San Francisco, planning to have my LCSW by next year. I have many years of mental health experience and my ultimate goal is having my own psychotherapy practice. My mentors who are either LCSW's or MFT's are pretty negative about the state of private practice. Are there any clinicians in the Bay Area or elsewhere with success stories? Any words of advice on where to start? This is unfortunately not something they teach us in grad school. Thanks in advance!
My therapist suggested that I do some activities with my inner child. What are some activities you've enjoyed and have helped you heal? (a variety of ages inside) [more inside]
I've been in and out of therapy my entire adult life (over twenty years) and am currently in treatment with a psychiatrist. The past few days I have been plagued with horrible feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness which culminated in crying uncontrollably this morning and unable to leave the house and go to work, and I barely managed to let my office know I wasn't coming in. I haven't been able to focus and I am sure everyone at work can tell how much my performance is slipping. I feel like a complete mess. No matter how good I can wind up feeling for a while, I always wind up back to this state. If I haven't managed to get to a good place in my life by now, how can I ever hope for improvement? Do I need more intensive treatment? What would that even look like? [more inside]
My anxiety has flared up recently, to the point where I am reluctant to leave my house unless absolutely necessary. This weekend, I checked myself into urgent care after having five panic attacks in 12 hours. The health care providers there were less than helpful, and I feel like I've hit a wall in terms of figuring out how to get the help that I need. [more inside]
I've had anxiety issues for years that are variable, but getting worse, and I'm having trouble coping. Should I make an appointment with a psychiatrist and try meds first, or start with therapy and add meds if necessary? [more inside]
I've been struggling with depression and anxiety for years, and I'm tired of trying to struggle through it on my own. I've decided I need to get help, but I have no idea where to start. I'm gay and in Seattle. [more inside]
Seeing a therapist for extreme lack of self-esteem and fear of intimacy and I'm not sure if I should tell them about childhood trauma. (Trigger warning) [more inside]
How should I handle my hunch that my boyfriend was abused as a child -- when I am unsure about the future of our relationship in general? [more inside]
After a turbulent period in my marriage, I'm taking a few days out for myself. Thing is, I don't know exactly what to do in those few days, or how best to work on things in my marriage whilst I'm away. [more inside]
I'm 32, in NYC, no psych degree, and I'm burned out on my current job path. How do I break into a career as a therapist or counselor? [more inside]