My teenage brother has been struggling with pretty severe anxiety and depression for the last ~9 months; while my parents are being (in my view) amazing caregivers for him, I think they're both suffering from a lack of self-care, optimism, and support. What resources can I point them to, and what can I do, to help them with this? [more inside]
I saw on social media that my therapist's mother died on Saturday. However, she has confirmed our appointment for the day after tomorrow. I am quite sad about her loss. She doesn't know I look at her social media, and it is probably not appropriate to say anything about her personal life at any rate. How do I go to session two days from now and talk about my petty problems, knowing what she is going through? Is it inappropriate for me to be very upset about this loss in my therapist's life, that I'm not supposed to know about?
Hope me an online-only CBT class for Perfectionism, worthlessness, and other related 'Bad Thoughts'. (Or an alternative plan of treatment.) [more inside]
Are there any active online support groups for 9/11 survivors? I was in midtown when the WTC was attacked in 2001. That brought on several days of stressful situations for myself and others in the city (evacuating due to bomb threats, going near the site only to run for your life because fears of other buildings falling near the site, etc). I coped as everyone else did in the city, and for the past several years I've avoided most if not all 9/11 coverage. This year, the anniversary passed without me realizing it - but then on the 12th I was reading an article about first responders lobbying congress and it sent me down a rabbit hole of watching (for the first time) life news footage of the attacks. [more inside]
I have an English-language health handout that includes the self-care check-yourself acronym HALT (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired - more background on it here). I want to have the handout translated into Spanish. Is there an "official" Spanish-language version of HALT that therapists use? I don't want to make up something new. [more inside]
Physical or occupational therapists, speech pathologists, rehabilitation people etc., would you please step inside? I would like to collect some of the physical methods and exercises used to train and develop your clients. I am thinking there are probably things like blowing into straws or passing objects from one hand to another and would love to hear more and what it is they develop.
With the help of my excellent (CBT) psychotherapist, the last seven years have seen great strides in my mental health. But I fear that my therapist and I have reached our expiration date. Should I consider a life coach? Given my budget, can I even afford to have a life coach around often enough to be effective? [more inside]
My mom(85), recovering from a stroke she had in February 2015, is staying with me for a month. I would like to pay for someone to come to my building and work with her while she is visiting. We have a full gym in the building, but I don't feel comfortable leading her in exercise. Any references for hiring a visiting Physical Therapist in or near Jersey City, NJ, US?
Dealing with depression, nothing is working, every day is a waste. [more inside]
Therapy hasn't been providing the insight or chance to make changes that I seek. How do I find someone who actually uses the practical approach that they claim? [more inside]
I'm looking for some input on how best to proceed regarding my divorce and whether group therapy or an individual therapist would be best. [more inside]
I'm in a caring profession which is being cut and slashed repeatedly by government financial cuts here in the UK. I'm tired of having a precarious life where I'm not sure where I'll be living and what I'll be doing from one month to the next. Being in the process of transitioning male-to-female, I'm looking to build a little more stability into my life, so that I can plan a real future for myself rather than just surviving on a short-term basis. Help me build a future! [more inside]
I am seeing a therapist for pain management. I called to cancel this morning because I had a migraine and was in no shape to go to my appointment. His scheduler called me back and said that I had violated a no show policy, and she’s going to have to talk to the therapist but I’m probably discharged from their clinic. I was unaware of such policy. I’m pissed, hurt and feel incredibly vulnerable. I’m not sure what to do next and could use some advice. [more inside]
How do those of you in long-term therapy explain a regularly recurring absence during the work week without disclosing that you're in therapy? [more inside]
What type of therapist, counselor, or other "mental health professional" would be best suited to help me understand my difficulties with sociality? [more inside]
Is there any benefit to pursuing a diagnosis for neurodevelopmental disorders (specifically autism spectrum disorder or adhd) as an adult? Are there reasons not to seek a diagnosis in that realm? Are online screening resources useful for them, or is the use of those resources problematic? Is it better to stick with anxiety and depressive disorders, both as a means for seeking treatment as well as a means of self-understanding? More to the point: Am I trying to figure out what's wrong with me, or am I just trying to earn a Golden Sympathy Star? [more inside]
I'm trying to figure out, a few sessions into therapy, whether my feelings of initial apathy, now verging on annoyance, are a reason to consider looking for a new therapist or not. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
I'm looking for a therapist/counselor in Edmonton, but I'm having a hell of a time finding one. There are some relationship issues that I'd like to work on. Are there any really good ones in the Downtown/University area or in North Edmonton that anyone can recommend? It looks like there are a lot of good ones in the south side of the city (and in the surrounding areas), but it's not really feasible for me to travel that far.
My partner who is hemi-plegic would like to go swimming but when he walks out of the water (with assistance) he feels like his ankle is going to snap and break. I guess we need some kind of ankle support specifically for his situation. Help! [more inside]
but the therapist isn't letting go so easily. [more inside]
Could you recommend a therapist in the Somerville/Cambridge area who takes Cigna? [more inside]
When a child is in therapy, is it recommended to have parent meetings with the therapist if one of the parents has a history of violence toward the other? [more inside]
I just went for an interview but they took it a lot more seriously than I did and now I have to tell them that I don't want the job (even though I am starting to be in need of it). How do I handle this? [more inside]
I'm posting for a friend. Her child has PTSD (years of verbal/physical abuse by his dad) and she's looking for an EMDR therapist in Toronto who works with children and who works on a sliding scale, as the $175/session fee she was quoted is out of her price range. Please let me know of any recommendations you might have.
I am looking for a good therapist in the Watertown or Brighton area of Boston - say within a 5-10 minute drive from Brighton Center. Would prefer female and someone who has experience with relationship issues and/or mortality issues. Can anyone make a recommendation?
My psychiatrist lost his temper with me on the phone yesterday and said a lot of hurtful things. I must have deserved them, but I feel terrible. I have an appointment with him tomorrow (7/2) at 8am EST I need help figuring out how to keep my cool and understand how to be both a better patient and a better person. I apologize in advance for how incredibly long this is, and thanks in advance for those of you who read it. [more inside]
TherapyFilter: How do you come around to not just forgiving yourself, but believing you are worthy of forgiveness? And that to forgive is not some fault of a weak person who just wants others to like them? [more inside]
My partner and I (both bisexual women) are looking for a therapist in Chicago for help with our sexual relationship, in particular with opening it up to new partners and dealing with the negative emotions that come with that. [more inside]
I'm interested in finding a Life Coach. How does one do this? [more inside]
My partner and I are looking for a couples therapist in NYC - preferably Brooklyn and Manhattan. We tried one therapist about 8 months ago but we both felt he wasn't a good fit and quit after a few sessions. I'm looking for someone who really engages us and is both professional and empathetic. We have CIGNA and United Oxford insurances and would like to remain in-network if possible. Please share your recommendations, therapist hunting is really hard. Thanks!!
I started seeing a therapist about social anxiety/depression a couple months ago. When I walked into my most recent session, she almost immediately suggested that it might be a good idea if I switched to a different therapist. I was feeling fairly comfortable with her before, and hadn't even considered changing, but is it basically untenable to stay with a therapist who possibly thinks she can't help me? [more inside]
What are some careers in the sweet spots between people and technology? What is your day-to-day life like, if you work in a capacity that blends these two? I know a bit about UX research and I've taught computer classes, but I'm looking for some more specific guidance. [more inside]
I am looking for a good sex therapist in the SF Bay Area, preferably the east bay, as that's where I live. I need someone who identifies as female and is queer friendly. Bonus points for can talk from experience about lesbian sex. Also prefer someone who is very, very smart and who can handle the idiosyncrasies of PTSD-ish reactions. Thanks for your help!
About a month ago, I started therapy (for anxiety, possible depression, and relationship issues), and so far I've been frustrated with my inability to express myself to my therapist. Would it be OK to have her read my journal? [more inside]
I would like my therapist to teach me coping skills to deal with my life, as it currently is. Is that an unreasonable expectation for therapy? [more inside]
My mother has an advanced form of dementia that includes severe physical deterioration. She holds parts of her body very rigid and her caregivers say she is getting increasingly stiff. I’ve been thinking that there has to be a niche for a practitioner who would come to her nursing home and administer some kind of massage that would help relax and maybe assuage the stiffness of someone who is essentially bed/chair bound. [more inside]
Recently did my first 5K, which went great, except my knee got tweaked. Now it won’t go back to normal. What are some good exercises I can do to make my knee feel better and stronger? Hoping to avoid physical therapy. [more inside]
A Facebook friend I hardly know posted a very suicidal post a couple days ago involving being on a bridge and wanting to jump off. Because it appeared urgent and no one else had responded in any way, I sent him a message and my phone number and told him to call me. He did call (by this time he was in a bar), and we talked for about half an hour. I have been in somewhat similar situations before, but never with someone I really don't know (we've met once), and now he has sent me a Facebook message saying "I need huge support this weekend." I need advice on how to respond. [more inside]
Hi. I would like to explore new ways to address my problem of too many thoughts. [more inside]
How do I request therapy that's more medically/concretely focused without being perceived as drug-seeking or noncompliant? Complication: previous use of diverted psychiatric drugs. [more inside]
Know of any good therapists in the Philadelphia area? [more inside]
I've been in therapy for PTSD since October 2014 with a therapist who is trained in gestalt therapy. I'm feeling confused, angry and anxious about therapy and I'm trying to figure out whether this is something is should work through with my current therapist or whether it is a sign to change therapists. More detail below. [more inside]
My husband and I have had a terrible past year. He has verbally, emotionally and mentally abused me. We each started into individual counseling last fall. His counselor is extremely perceptive and has keyed in on behaviours that lead to him abusing me, and we've both noticed real improvement at home as a result. After one month without any abuse, now he wants to quit counseling. This led to a nasty fight, where he thinks that I am a bad, manipulative person for wanting him to stick with counseling. Now I feel absolutely awful in every way. [more inside]
I would like recommendations for a Seattle-area therapist for depression/anxiety problems. [more inside]
Can you recommend a good therapist in the Somerville/Cambridge area? Near Union Square or Harvard Square a bonus. [more inside]
So, after years of shying away from the idea, I'm looking into getting some help for some anxiety/depression issues that have affected me for most/all of my life. The big question that I have is how to go about finding a good therapist. [more inside]
How do I find a therapist who will help me develop a thicker skin regarding failure during the job hunt and keep me on a positive track? [more inside]
I met a counselor/life coach I really clicked with. But some of her old blog posts are full of woo. How to proceed? [more inside]
It's become abundantly clear that the way in which I lose my temper and the frequency with which I do so is (and it's hard to admit this) abusive. My wife has rightly given me an ulitmatum. I need a plan and I have no idea how or where to begin. [more inside]
I was let go from my job last November and having trouble securing work. After brief winter period, I've had phone screenings and in person interviews but still have not received any offers. I've reached out recruiters, employers, friends and family. The results aren't fruitless, but kind of grape-sized. It feels like I am trying to get myself out of a hole by digging. My friend is getting married on my birthday in August and I'd like not be unemployed at the time or unable to afford to go. (Further details and actual questions inside) [more inside]