I'm looking for a therapist in Portland who is great at helping with bipolar II. My disorder has gotten out of control lately and my moods are cycling much too quickly for me to handle and I'd like to find a regular therapist and also someone that could help with medication. Curve ball: I either don't have insurance or I am on the OHP but don't know how to use it. I'm also jobless, so low-cost/sliding scale is the best option. My old therapist was the greatest, but currently I can't afford to pay her. Any recommendations? Let me know if I should memail you for any other details. Thanks!
Looking for a therapist in Roanoke, Virginia for an anxious new college graduate. [more inside]
I'm looking for a couples counselor in the Honolulu area who isn't a big proponent of anything religious/"Eastern"/mystical/etc. Degrees from accredited universities are preferred. I've already checked the Psychology Today website without much luck. [more inside]
Can anyone recommend a good massage therapist in the Encino or Santa Monica area? My dad is recovering from surgery and is having a lot of muscle tightness as he is becoming more active.
I need to see a therapist but I have NO idea how to find one. I live in Brooklyn and would go anywhere in Queens/Brooklyn/Manhattan (but mid/down town and northeast Brooklyn would be best.) I would prefer to see a woman, maybe someone who specializes in emotionally abusive relationships. I have Oxford insurance but I dont know if that even covers therapy. I could pay up to $100 a session out of pocket, I guess. I need to see someone as soon as possible. [more inside]
How do I find a non-abusive, trustworthy therapist when that's never happened before? [more inside]
My GF is considering a career change, and we both think PT could be a great fit. I am curious what the job environment for PTs is right now! [more inside]
I emailed my therapist for an appointment, and it bounced. When I googled her to see if contact info changed, the first link was her obit (Nov 2015). My therapist died. I just found out, and I am pretty wrecked. Thoughts? [more inside]
I think I need a new career: my current one is going nowhere, and I'm incredibly unhappy. It occurred to me that I might have a better life, if I were to become a counselor of some sort. Am I right? [more inside]
OK, AskMe, around these parts we know and love the advice to get therapy. It's great advice! But what about the 201-level advice? Once you get yourself into therapy, how do you get the most out of it? I'm curious to hear some MeFite wisdom. What has made your experience with therapy richer and more helpful? Give me your practical tips, and tell me about mindsets and attitudes that you have found to be helpful (or not helpful). [more inside]
I'm completely confused and upset about recent developments in my therapy, and I don't know if I should continue it or not. I'm sorry but this is loooong, and there's really no good TL;DR I can come up with. Please be gentle; I realize I'm possibly wrong about everything, but I'm feeling fragile right now. [more inside]
I spent a sizable portion of my adult life, a good 25 years, searching for a therapist who would truly understand me. In 2005, I did. After a a few years of not going, I went to see her again. As usual, she made me feel so much better that months passed before I called for another appointment. Then I learned she passed away suddenly. I honestly don't know what to do now. She had a private practice, so no colleagues, though I did reach out to a former associate of hers from a while back. I'm not sure if he's taking new clients, though. What are your suggestions? Any ideas would be much appreciated.
I've been working through a career change decision and it involves going back to school. Did you change careers in your 30s and go back to school? Did it work out? (More details/specifics, but I'm interested in eventually practicing Clinical Psychology). [more inside]
Therapy hasn't been providing the insight or chance to make changes that I seek. How do I find someone who actually uses the practical approach that they claim? [more inside]
I'm trying to figure out, a few sessions into therapy, whether my feelings of initial apathy, now verging on annoyance, are a reason to consider looking for a new therapist or not. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
I am a working artist and I've been dealing with a ton of anxiety and depression for much of my life, but it's getting particularly rough lately. Portland is a city of creatives, so can someone recommend me an awesome therapist who also understands creative people's problems? [more inside]
My partner and I are looking for a couples therapist in NYC - preferably Brooklyn and Manhattan. We tried one therapist about 8 months ago but we both felt he wasn't a good fit and quit after a few sessions. I'm looking for someone who really engages us and is both professional and empathetic. We have CIGNA and United Oxford insurances and would like to remain in-network if possible. Please share your recommendations, therapist hunting is really hard. Thanks!!
I started seeing a therapist about social anxiety/depression a couple months ago. When I walked into my most recent session, she almost immediately suggested that it might be a good idea if I switched to a different therapist. I was feeling fairly comfortable with her before, and hadn't even considered changing, but is it basically untenable to stay with a therapist who possibly thinks she can't help me? [more inside]
I would like recommendations for a Seattle-area therapist for depression/anxiety problems. [more inside]
Can you recommend a good therapist in the Somerville/Cambridge area? Near Union Square or Harvard Square a bonus. [more inside]
I need some suggestions for psychologists in Vancouver BC, preferably someone who is in the downtown area. I have no idea where to start with choosing someone and would rather not just pick someone randomly from Google. [more inside]
I'm not talking about "information management" in terms of corporate IT, which is all you find when you search on Google. I'm talking about someone to help me develop a sustainable plan to process the absurd amount of information that constantly bombards me. I figure I need someone who can help my develop reliable, efficient systems and also probably the mental toughness to keep doing it. I've looked at so many books, but my situation is beyond any one of them. I feel like I need someone who understands the psychology, systematizing , and technology of the matter. [more inside]
I'm only 3 sessions in, but I'm not feeling my therapist and think I should quit and find someone else. [more inside]
Asking for my partner: I’ve been a licensed massage therapist since 2011 and have been working full time (24-28 hours/week hands-on) since then. Over the past two years, my body has been protesting more and more when I work. [more inside]
Can you recommend a female marriage counselor in Durham, NC? Or, failing that, any good female therapist who can help me make sense of my marriage?
I am looking for a good therapist in NYC who has experience with the anxiety/avoidance/ADD nexus. I'm biased towards cognitive therapy but open to other modalities. [more inside]
Apparently, my nephew witnessed a friend commit suicide and is now falling apart. I'm 2500 miles away and his parents don't seem motivated to get him some help. They live in the middle-of-nowhere. How can I get him hooked up with some help? [more inside]
For as long as I can remember, I've experienced anxiety, depression, and concentration problems. After finally going to a therapist/psychiatrist for these, they think I have ADHD and want me to start on Ritalin. Problem is, my brother has schizophrenia, and I'm right in the target age range for it to hit me as well. Stimulants can trigger this. Thoughts? [more inside]
Assume first that it's appropriate for our particular relationship. I got her something last year--sort of a small $15 Christmas-themed funny sign thing that was connected to something we talked about one time. But this year I can't think of a single thing. Which may mean I shouldn't get her anything, but I'd still be grateful for any ideas you have. Thank you!
My health keeps getting worse and I feel stuck. Looking for next steps and support ideas to get myself through this after all the tests keep coming back “negative.” I'm out of ideas and at the end of my rope and I'd like to know how to approach doctors and therapists. [more inside]
The BlueCross BlueShield plan I've had for a few years "allows" only $78 of the $180 that my out-of-network therapist charges. Other companies can't/won't tell me what their allowed amount would be. Does your plan "allow" more than mine does? I just don't understand how they can say that the "reasonable, usual and customary charge" for a therapy appointment with a Ph.D. therapist is $78, because that's just ridiculous. Am I missing something here? Or is this just the insurance companies being $&%#?!*@.
How do I pick the right therapist to help with my anxiety, stress, indecisiveness, and perfectionist tendencies? What kinds of therapy/techniques/approaches might be most helpful? How do I quickly assess whether to stick with someone or look elsewhere? What are reasonable expectations of how much I can improve in therapy and how quickly? I'm terrible at making decisions-- I need help! (Especially since we want to start trying for kids in a few months so I feel real urgency to make progress quickly to feel comfortable going ahead, for both my and the kid's sake.) DC-area, FYI. [more inside]
I'm looking for a therapist to help with my excessively self-destructive, masochistic desires and tendencies. Don't misunderstand; I don't need a "kink-aware" therapist, because these feelings do not fall within the realm of safe, sane, and consensual; they're compulsive, intrusive, and interfering with my life. They are also not exclusivly sexual or fetishistic in nature. I'm putting myself in real danger, and I need someone to help me stop wanting to.
I have two questions: 1) Has social psychology given rise to clinicians, that is, therapists whose practices use the theories and principles that come out of social psychology? 2) If so, are there any in Portland, Oregon? [more inside]
I have made the decision that I want to change careers to become a counsellor (talking therapist) and I'd additionally like to specialise my therapy (but not exclusively) in gender and sexual identity issues. What study paths should I follow to turn this ambition into a specific plan? I never went to university after leaving school - so I would like to go back into academic education and get a degree while working towards this career rather than just doing a vocational course. Difficulty level: UK. [more inside]
Is it (ever) (at all) appropriate to stay in touch with a therapist -- as friends -- after therapy itself ends? [more inside]
Friends: do you know the most amazing, effective, compassionate, assertive yet gentle NYC-based therapist who accepts Empire Blue Cross Blue Shield insurance? 'Cuz that's what I'm looking for. I need to work on self-esteem and relationship issues. CBT and non-CBT suggestions desired. I am a 44 year old man. [more inside]
I think I want to try therapy again, but I'm not sure even what I should be looking for. Looking for general advice and specific recommendations in the DC area. [more inside]
I work in an extremely stressful field in which I make life and death decisions every day. I've been doing it for a long time, and I have good coping mechanisms, but recently my exposure to death and suffering has gone way up. I'd like to connect with a therapist in the Northern Virginia area with experience with traumatic stress, who could help me adapt to the demands this is putting on me. Someone experienced in treating members of the military might be helpful, but is definitely not necessary. Mostly I'm looking for somebody who has worked with people who encounter a lot of death and need to build appropriate coping skills.
I have been isolated and depressed for 10 years. I need help. [more inside]
Looking for advice on finding a suitable therapist for some issues I'm having and just for a long term self improvement. I have been putting it off, but finally am at a space where I'm ready to find a good long term therapist. About a year ago I met with a therapist a few times but we didn't "click" plus I couldn't afford it at the time. Things I want to work on: [more inside]
What kinds of things should I be asking about/finding out while I'm shopping around for a new therapist? [more inside]
My therapist has recommended I regularly attend AA meetings. While it's true I quit drinking nearly 4 years ago, and alcohol had been a prevalent and destructive force in my life at that time, I have never experienced anything like a craving to drink in all the time I've been sober. My M.O. has always been a, "Eh, I'll have a drink when and if I ever feel like it. Which will probably be never, because I love this clear-mindedness!"-sort of thing. The therapist is treating me as a patient "in recovery". Fair enough: She can use whatever approach she sees fit, but now I'm entertaining the idea of AA and simultaneously questioning whether the therapist is a good fit for me. Yes, there are more details. [more inside]
A friend is currently in a crisis of depression and anxiety and feels like her current therapist is not meeting her needs. Recommendations in the Chicago area are welcome. [more inside]
I was using an online "therapist finder" (Probably Psychology Today but I can't be certain) about 6 weeks ago to find myself a therapist. I had come across one in particular that I thought I saved a link to, but now can't find. I know it was a woman, and she mentioned dogs in her description/bio - both that she was a dog owner and lover, but also that her dog could sometimes be present for therapy, and/or you could bring your dog. I know that's not unheard of, but her description really resonated with me in terms of what I need right now in a therapist and I am hoping someone might recognize my description. Thank you!
I just need a quick reality check: it would be totally unprofessional for my therapist to leave a comment on my unrelated-to-therapy blog, right? [more inside]
I am tired of myself, and feeling like I do, and I feel very isolated with it all. I realise that probably need to go and talk with someone. What kind of therapist do I need to look for? Does anyone have any recommendations for English speaking therapists in Amsterdam? [more inside]
My only real experience with mental health practitioners was a brief stint with my free university counseling where I tried one or two medications for anxiety and depression. They didn't do anything for me and I became disheartened and left the idea behind for the past few years. Having gotten health insurance for the first time a few months ago and after some recent introspection, I've found myself interested in possibly trying some anti-anxiety/depression medication again, as well as some sort of ongoing psychotherapy. [more inside]
I have always wanted to live in New York for a year. Life circumstances mean there is now a possibility of being able to make that happen, in theory. Can you let me know if this will remain a pipe dream or if there is a chance of turning it into reality? I would like to work as a counsellor, or with an NGO. Many specifics to follow. [more inside]
Can anybody recommend a therapist in Birmingham Uk or in the vicinity that specialises in gender/sexuality issues? [more inside]