My 17-year-old son sits in front of a computer screen (well, 2 screens since Xmas) ALL DAY every day, and it's making me crazy. [more inside]
My 1.5 yr old cat will escalate grooming/playing with other cats into aggressive biting. What should I do? [more inside]
So, my sweet little girl is about to turn 16 and we've started doing a little car shopping - for a Subaru. My mechanic (a SubaruGuru who I trust implicitly) made me aware of a hyper-meticulously maintained 1996 Subaru Legacy wagon with only 88K miles and in mint condition. Drove it, and it's true, it's an excellent car for it's age. Price is very affordable for us too, at a time when we don't need a lot of extra expense. I'm ready to go... but... [more inside]
Hi, I'm working with very troubled and damaged teens (a relatively new client group for me). I'd prefer not to be too explicit about my role but it's a lot to do with helping them develop life skills and also manage mental health problems. But my remit is wide and includes looking at life balance /quality and leisure.. things that matter to them so.. [more inside]
My 14 year old son and I have been talking a lot this past week about the Anita Sarkeesian videos (we watched a few together) and have been having some really great discussions. We've always talked about what games he can or cannot buy and the reasons for it. I'm really more concerned with the misogyny than the violence, although the violence doesn't thrill me. Now however, my son is concerned that I won't let him buy *any* games anymore because the misogyny is so pervasive. Is he right? [more inside]
My friend teaches in a school in in a large municipality in Denmark and is looking for advice on how to comply with the latest "Great Idea For The Kids". [more inside]
Which organisations, companies, community groups, etc support and encourage embracing both arts/humanities AND STEM (especially technology)? [more inside]
I'm looking for blogs, books, articles or other materials written from the perspective of foster children or former foster children in the United States. I'm especially interested in those who aged out of foster care or who were adopted as older children/teens. [more inside]
Yet another asking for a friend book recommendation. Looking for teen / older tween books that are based in/around Florida, punny, humor-wordplay, fantasy based, not that usual go-to-guy. [more inside]
My soon-to-be-17-year-old niece is interested in pursuing forensic science as a career. What are the best books on the subject that would both entertain and inform her? Fiction and non-fiction suggestions are welcome.
I think I'll take my kids (18 yr. old daughter & her boyfriend; 16 yr. old son) down to NYC for just the day this Sunday. Kids have spent almost no time in NYC and not since they were little, so it's pretty much brand new to them. I only get to go about once every 5 years, so I'm not very familiar. Son is video game enthusiast, Minecraft, EDM, young for his age, geeky kid. Daughter likes everything and will be gung-ho no matter what we do. Neither of them is particularly into museums. I myself just like walking along the streets, taking in the sights, people-watching, window shopping. I'm thinking walking around in Central Park, maybe the zoo. Or maybe checking out the highline. But what else should we do with about 5 or 6 hours? Also, we're driving down, using a rental car. What's the best part of town to park in, and what kind of parking situation would be best?
What are some great conversation starting questions to ask young people over dinner? [more inside]
The kid reads. The kid writes. There's got to be a better way. [more inside]
Several people unknown to me (teenage girls, based on the content) have been group-texting me, an adult man, via iMessage sporadically over the past few months despite repeated explicit demands from me that they stop. How do I deal with this? At first it was just annoying but I am getting quite concerned. [more inside]
I would like suggestions regarding an age- and behavior-appropriate punishment for my 14-year old son. [more inside]
I'm revising a young adult novel that includes legal & police (sub)plotlines and have some questions. [more inside]
My teenage daughter has her first job, but has apparently been fired yet no one told her or warned her. What can be done? [more inside]
Parents, teachers, and those who work with youth: can you give me a heads up about what websites you have noticed your teens using? [more inside]
My 15-yo daughter has been dating a guy for about a year, has recently become sexually active with him, and we're moving toward getting her on hormonal birth control. The fact that she even came to me to talk about this is a minor miracle. How can I encourage a sex-positive attitude? What boundaries and limits, if any, should I establish? [more inside]
Does anyone have a recommendation for white water rafting excursions in West Virginia. Planning for the upcoming summer, with 2 parents and 4 teens, all beginners, but thrill seekers.
My 15 year old son is in 9th grade. He is not doing well in math (he's always struggled). He has no real friends to speak of. He has no desire to try any sports or extracurricular activities. He just turned 15 and doesn't seem at all interested in getting his restricted drivers license. He doesn't seem at all depressed. He tends towards the quiet side, but on the right topic he talks alot. [more inside]
I have 2 teen boys who have to share a room but without bunk beds. We are a family of 6 that live in 3 bedroom home(all teen boys). The 2 that are sharing right now have been switched from their previous situation. They are 18 (college freshman) and 13. The problem is they are currently sleeping in a bunk bed (twin over full) but that's not working anymore.They've both complained about one moving too much or if one goes to sleep later the climbing into the bed is waking the other one up. Or vice versa when one has to get up much earlier then the other. Also one likes to read in bed and for some reason that causes a problem too. My thought was to place the beds on opposite sides of the room and create separate spaces. [more inside]
Silver Pandora bracelets for teen nieces: Great idea, or old fogie fail? The girls are 14 and 16, in the US. Would this be something cool for them, or is there a new hotness along these lines that would more appreciated? (I'm working from thousands of miles, a different continent – and quite a few decades – away!) [more inside]
do young people (still) put up photographs in their rooms? [more inside]
The non-profit where I work runs an employment program for teens. I've been tasked with helping to come up with content for a facebook page for this program. We'll be posting info on local job opportunities, but I'm looking for more general resources on employment & education for teen audiences. Are there any good blogs or websites? Podcasts? Youtube channels? Books worth reading & recommending? Other sources for ongoing content? [more inside]
Help me find a recent study about multi-generational taste being more similar! I remember seeing a blurb about a study (market research not academic) that millennial and their parents have more similar pop culture tastes. There was some clever term or acronym for it that spoke to the blurring of generational taste. And now I need it! [more inside]
Has anyone rebooted their Facebook account? Do high school and college students delete, then restart, their Facebook accounts when they start looking for jobs? [more inside]
18 year old daughter doesn't want to go on annual family vacation because of anxiety. How does a caring single parent work through this? [more inside]
My 14 year old daughter loves to watch YouTube video blogs by Ryan Higa (Nigahiga) and Charlie McDonnell. She likes their humor, the fact that they're reasonably young & talented, and probably because they're both kind of cute. I'm looking for recommendations for similar video blogs for my daughter. They don't have to feature cute boys, but they should be appropriate for a young teen and shouldn't be vulgar, violent, or idiotic (as in "Fred"). Female video bloggers are welcomed, as long as they're not teaching beauty tips.
How to keep daily family friction from escalating into end of the world drama daily? [more inside]
So many young Asian girls holding hands. Why? [more inside]
I'd like to create a fun, team-building event for my synagogue youth group (grades 8-12) revolving around the use of Legos. Any ideas on where to find pre-fab instructions (or a qualified, not-astronomically priced expert) for such an event? This idea was inspired by the Lego Serious Play site, but that seems way to business-speaky to be used out of the box. I'm thinking 90 minutes worth of building, with about 15 teens.
Two moms, three home-educated early-teen boys, planning a learning adventure for two weeks at the end of August. Driving north from South Florida, which civil war sites/events should we not miss? Also looking for great not-too-primitive tent camping. So far all we know for sure is that we want to check out Gettysburg. We want to make it educational, but awesome and fun for our not-too-fascinated kids. Your suggestions welcome!
Hiking as a family (with 3 teens)-need help making it enjoyable for all. Any tips? The challenges I have had in the past are kids who want to sleep in so it is usually a hotter time of the day for hiking and I have noticed my DH likes to get way ahead of all of the rest of us and even takes different routes sometimes. It seems like the slower ones of our group have to hurry to catch up to the faster hikers. We are all in pretty good shape. [more inside]
Looking for suggestions for a novel for Jewish/Christian 7th graders that explores religion-- extra points for sci fi! [more inside]
I recently found out I have a 13 year old daughter. Now what? [more inside]
Looking at my phone bill, I see my daughter, 18, is averaging over 10,000 texts/mo over the past five months. [more inside]
Please help me make a playlist of songs for youth (7 - 18 years old) that they will actually enjoy and not just a playlist of songs I think they should like instead. [more inside]
Are there any good 'junior versions' of Metafilter? [more inside]
Please help me deal with the emotional fallout now that my son has moved out. [more inside]
Today while walking with my 13 year old daughter, I slipped my hand under her arm just to give her a little squeeze, and I discovered about a dozen thin superficial cuts on the inside of her left forearm, just below the elbow. I think I handled it wrong and I’m hoping someone has first hand experience to share with me. [more inside]
How do we "parent" a 16 year old girl? My family is taking in a 16 year old girl to be a new member of our family. She's an amazing young woman in a tough situation. No behavior or academic issues (I taught her in 8th grade, she babysits for us regularly), some emotional issues (most likely due to her environment). We're going to go through the process of temporary custody, so this is not a question about "the system" or "legality". This is a question of family dynamics. We have other children in the house who are super excited as well, but our oldest is 7 and we have no idea how to come up with rules, routines, and boundaries for a 16 year old. Of course we'll have to come up with what will work for us, but what kind of things should we be thinking about? We're already talking about curfew, bedtime!!!!?????, computer use, etc. What should we be thinking about that we might not be. Any help from those with teens or those who have adopted older kids would be appreciated.
My almost 13 year old daughter is bored with Yoville, Farmville, and other FB games. We're in search of free online games that allow her to design an avatar, compete for virtual prizes, and have moderated opportunities for interaction. [more inside]
Please help me compile a list of any thriller films that involve a group of unchaperoned kids/teens in the wilderness-- specifically stories where the kids are being pursued by bad guys in the woods. [more inside]
I'm doing research for a book and I'm looking for tv shows or movies that depicts teens having relationships with adults. I have a partial list that includes: PRETTY LITTLE LIARS, ONE TREE HILL, CALIFORNICATION, BORED TO DEATH, and PINEAPPLE EXPRESS. I'm also looking for examples of teens talking about sodomy e.g. NOT ANOTHER TEEN MOVIE and National Lampoon's PLEDGE THIS. Thanks!
Please help me come up with a reasonable comprehensive list for back-to-school wardrobe requirements for 16 year old boy, and 13 and 12 year old girls, living in New England and doing their laundry once a week. [more inside]
Please help me put together a care package for a homeless puppy and her young owners. [more inside]
My snarky teens could use some inspiration, ideally from literature. I'm a middle school teacher who works with students with various disabilities (physical, emotional, etc.) and beginning next year, we'll be doing a morning "read aloud" for the kids. [more inside]
Planning our vacation to California for the end of August and looking for suggestions on what will impress our 16 y.o. son and 13 and 12 y.o. daughters. We'll fly in to LA and out San Francisco, or vice-versa, and rent a vehicle for the week. So far, Alcatraz and Universal are on the list, but I'm not sure what other plans to make. What can you recommend?
What can a mom do to ease her 12, 13 & 15 year old's heavy hearts and worried minds after they discover that she and their dad like to smoke pot? [more inside]
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