My mother is going to die and my boyfriend is barely able to provide the support I need. How do I deal with this?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 28, 2010 -
26 answers
Sadly I lost a friend to a long battle with cancer last night, her husband and teenage children are without any extended family in the area and will rely on some of us for the next while. Two things:
1 - Can you tell me of things that friends and family have done for you in similar circumstances that really helped at the time: large, small, immediately, over days, weeks, months, whatever. We'll sort out food, the pets and cleaning the house but what else can we do?
2 - Any advice on striking the right balance between giving them their space to grieve and being there to support to them?
posted by HopStopDon'tShop
on Mar 21, 2010 -
22 answers
Got my connectivity/internet issues fixed yesterday. But what was the problem? I don't understand what the tech guy told me.
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posted by mreleganza
on Mar 20, 2010 -
5 answers
How to get Dell to follow through with their warranty promises, when they insist the problem is "software related"? PS They installed the problematic software.
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posted by BusyBusyBusy
on Mar 19, 2010 -
15 answers
Recently, a police officer here in Canada was
killed in the line of duty. He left behind his wife and 3 sons. I'm curious what sort of support, financial and otherwise, is available to her in the coming days, months and years. Does she keep getting his paycheque? Does that stop after a while? I keep thinking that if I were a police officer, and I was killed, I would like my wife and kids to be taken care of like, forever.
posted by Sully
on Mar 14, 2010 -
10 answers
My support group is having some drama that is making me uncomfortable. The leader is involved with the drama, so I don't feel I can go to them. I still feel the group is beneficial for me, should I stick it out?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 7, 2010 -
7 answers
My boyfriend's ex-wife is trying to get him to pay more child support. We got a letter showing how much "available income" she has to support the child; included in the calculation is a deduction for the other two children she has with her new husband. How is this possible, when her new husband--who has a larger income than either the ex-wife or my bf--is also responsible for those other two kids? I understand that the new hubbie is not responsible for the support costs of my bf's son--but shouldn't he be responsible for the care of his own kids, such that the ex-wife cannot deduct this cost from her income when determining the percentage of my bf's son's care for which she is responsible?
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posted by vegsister
on Feb 23, 2010 -
21 answers
I am looking for resources to help me deal with the growing realization that I was abused, physically and emotionally, by my older brother for the better part of 20 years.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 8, 2010 -
25 answers
I'm looking for a reputable computer repair shop in the Phoenix, AZ area. I lent my Compaq laptop (running vista) out to a friend and now it's totally owned by virii, and I don't have the time, patience, wherewithal to fix this level of problem.
Is there a good, independent (not Best Buy) place in town to get this looked at and potentially fixed for a reasonable price? Again, I'm not interested in fixing it myself, I'd rather pay someone else to be frustrated for me.
posted by chlorus
on Jan 25, 2010 -
10 answers
Air Canada WTF? On Tuesday I took a trip from Laguardia Airport to Pearson Toronto to CDG, Paris on Air Canada. From Toronto to Paris, they lost one of my bags, which wouldn't be terrible except said bas contained 1) My only change of clothes for the next 2 weeks 2) My BFs extra heart medication and 3) I'm leaving for Prague in 4 days and there is still no news. Is there anyone I can call or talk to see that I actually get my stuff before I leave France? Kakfaesque detail follows.
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posted by The Whelk
on Jan 7, 2010 -
21 answers
How can I help my girlfriend who's coming out of depression, without going out of my mind?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 20, 2009 -
16 answers
TechFilter:
I'm part of a medium-sized IT support company and we're looking at some new helpdesk/workflow management software. What advice can you give on your setup or software you are currently working with?
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posted by de1mar
on Oct 14, 2009 -
8 answers
How can I support my good friend (and roommate) through a breakup, and not lose my patience?
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posted by jalebi
on Oct 9, 2009 -
11 answers
My coworker came to work and shot himself today. I was the only person to talk to him and was one of the first people to reach him after he did it. I'm planning on speaking with the grief counselors they're bringing in tomorrow. But I'm wondering if there are any resources I should know about for people in a situation like mine, specifically: witnesses of the suicide of a coworker or friend. In case the details are relevant: they are below.
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posted by nerdcore
on Sep 30, 2009 -
31 answers
Desperate friend has turned to me for book suggestions on her three year old. Ideally available in Australia, but Amazon is always possible.
What are your killer books for nailing the second really difficult time in a parent's life.... the 2-3year old?
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posted by taff
on Sep 6, 2009 -
9 answers
I run a moderately popular blog. I'd like to have the Twitter account associated with the URL, but it's suspended -- presumably because somebody used it for evil. I've contacted Twitter support several times, and they make motions like it's possible for me to claim this account but then they just close my ticket (marking it as "solved") with no explanation. I cannot figure out how to get actual support. Has anyone experienced a similar issue? How can I get Twitter support to actually
support me and not mark an unsolved issue as "solved"? Am I simply at the mercy of the Twitter fates?
Yes, I know Twitter is a free product and that I get what I pay for. Thanks.
posted by jdroth
on Sep 2, 2009 -
11 answers
My mom sent me an email today acknowledging for the very first time (that I am aware of) that she experiences symptoms of Autism Spectrum Disorder. I would like to write the best response that I can to her, with some links or information about possible next steps. I don't want to screw this up, please help me help her!
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 30, 2009 -
8 answers
My ex-wife's boyfriend wants to try to claim my son on his taxes... is this legal?
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posted by MMALR
on Aug 19, 2009 -
6 answers
I deleted 267,000 messages from my gmail account and now, when I log in, I see a Temporary Error (500) / Numeric Code 93 message. Emails sent to me are bouncing. It's been five days.
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posted by ph00dz
on Aug 19, 2009 -
14 answers
How do I offer support for people attending/wanting to attend college, but who have very different situations from anything I knew? 2 different scenarios!
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posted by brainmouse
on Aug 8, 2009 -
9 answers
I would like to help my friends, if I can; two of them are individually dealing with incredibly stressful and sad health-related situations related to their parents.
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posted by taz
on Aug 8, 2009 -
7 answers
I have no idea what to charge to be "on call" for a year, just in CASE a computer has a problem.
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posted by CommonSense
on Aug 4, 2009 -
22 answers
What's the best way for a non-computer oriented person to tap into the blogosphere support network for help with her ADHD child?
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posted by jacquilynne
on Jul 26, 2009 -
4 answers
I found a job posting from a Mac software developer for a support/QA guru that pretty much sums up exactly what I want in a job right now. However, circumstances are not right for this particular position. How can I still do this as a job?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 7, 2009 -
1 answer
Could someone reccomend me a lightweight/easy to use web/email based support ticket management tool?
Preferebly open source.
posted by nam3d
on Jul 7, 2009 -
12 answers
I found out that I might be a father when I got served papers for child support... now what?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 1, 2009 -
30 answers
How does one go about getting a child support order if one (me, the mother) is in the U.S./a U.S. citizen and the other (him, father) is in Canada and is a Canadian Citizen? The child (who at this time is unborn) will have (I believe) dual citizenship.
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posted by Bueller
on Jun 10, 2009 -
14 answers
How best can I, as a passing pedestrian, indicate support for a picket line? Is my current method appropriate, or weird?
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posted by librarina
on Jun 7, 2009 -
15 answers
Does anyone have any information about best practices & strategies for online community support and community development?
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posted by mere
on May 8, 2009 -
6 answers
I'm out of fresh encouraging perspectives, and the stakes are higher than ever. Please help me figure out how to best be a supportive friend in the 11th hour of my pal's struggles with studying for the med school boards.
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posted by dorothy humbird
on Apr 29, 2009 -
7 answers
Cancer Filter - My dad has leukemia and wants an inspiring non-religious book or two about positive thinking - suggestions?
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posted by DuckGirl
on Apr 17, 2009 -
10 answers
Anyone know any active writing forums they would recommend?
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posted by Ugh
on Apr 12, 2009 -
5 answers
I have an external usb drive running off my Windows 7 computer. It keeps switching back to Read-Only, so when I try to send files to it, it merely appends a file and adds a number to its name, instead of re-writing the entire file. I've tried to change it back, but it does not stay changed. The minute I refresh the page, the read-only status comes back! Is there some setting I'm missing? Is there something in Windows 7 that's causing this to happen?
posted by noir
on Feb 11, 2009 -
2 answers
In Photoshop 5.5 I was able to create an action to resize a layer/selection to a maximum width (say, 200 px). I could quickly select objects of varying initial sizes, run the action, and voila, everything fit neatly in a column. I've had Photoshop CS4 for over a week and can't figure out how to replicate this; my resizing seems to always be happening as a percent of the original size.
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posted by amtho
on Feb 8, 2009 -
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