We are looking for a case management/social worker-style arrangement to help a relative with mental illness/learning disabilities manage their medical care, SSI benefits, personal finances and taxes, and basically whatever else comes up that they need help with (home organization, major home or auto repairs, getting a new cell phone plan, etc.)
The relative lives in Northern Virginia.
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My son's father suffered a ruptured aneurysm last week. He's not getting better and I want to be as supportive as possible to him and his family. How do I do that like a normal person? [more inside]
My girlfriend was raped by a former coworker and friend. How would you recommend I offer support? [more inside]
What are some stress-reduction techniques that support representatives and forum moderators use on-the-spot to remain cool and collected during difficult interactions with clients, and not let their own frustration get the best of them? [more inside]
I am a (new) professor at a small, rural university. One of my students has had to take an emergency leave due to a death in their family. Aside from assuring them that they need not think about their schoolwork at all, and that we'll work it out when they're ready, is there anything else I can do to support them? [more inside]
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What are some great CRMs for a small business/startup with the potential to grow? [more inside]
She has landed a sweet paying job. But I'm still in college trying to graduate [more inside]
Where can I buy a quality buckwheat pillow in the DC area, or Maryland, or online? Or what do I need to look for to get a good one, and how much should I expect to pay? My aching neck is ready to try something new. [more inside]
Is there any discussion available of the social/behavior results of having multiple generations of only children in a family? Know of any sources? Have any personal experiences? [more inside]
My girlfriend is about to start a series of medical-related procedures as part of her gender transition (M2F). What can I, as a cis(ish) woman, do to be a good support to her? [more inside]
The soles on my dress shoes are not cushioning my feet properly and causing me back pain. What type of shoe inserts do I need? [more inside]
At work I frequently come into contact with people who are members of various at-risk populations. They often have to give me really intimate details of their lives within minutes of meeting. When first opening up to me, they'll usually pause to gauge my reaction. I respond with, "I don't judge," in my most supportive voice. But I realize this can be a loaded statement for people and easily taken the wrong way.
What short declarative statement could I use in its place?
My elderly mother in law recently confided in me that her now-deceased husband sexually assaulted her decades ago and it haunts her daily. [more inside]
Over on reddit, a commenter said that they once read a "social science study" which showed that people are more likely to rally in support of a cause when there's a common enemy to hate. It supposedly showed how when people were given the opportunity to unite and campaign for a positive cause, they showed little interest; but that the presence of a hostil opponent motivated the group to unite and rally against it. Can anyone think of a study along those lines?
I have the opportunity to work a 4-month part-time (approx. 26h/week) contract providing in-home support for a woman who is in the early stages of Parkinson's disease, starting next Friday. I have provided intimate care like this for a family member before, but have no professional experience otherwise in this field. What should I keep in mind in terms of covering my ass with respect to liability in the contract? [more inside]
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Hey mefites, how did you build up your friendship group and support system? [more inside]
I have a friend who has become totally reliant on an e-mail account, which was provided by an internet service provider which she has just left to go to a new ISP. She uses Outlook 2003 as her e-mail client program. Unfortunately, she is now finding that after moving to this new ISP that although she can receive e-mails absolutely fine, she cannot send e-mails. [more inside]
How do normal, happy couples support each other in a non-dysfunctional, healthy relationship? Not surprisingly, longish snowflake details inside. [more inside]
Looking for a replacement to TeamViewer for our corporate remote assistant client. [more inside]
I lost my dear dad unexpectedly Sunday after a series of illnesses. My mom, luckily, is still with us. They were together 54 years and my mom was only 17 when they met. The most important thing to my dad was my mom's well-being and I feel it is now my duty to look after her to the best of my ability. I have no idea how to help her cope with the loss of my father. I want to be there for her as much as possible, but I don't want to smother her. Does anyone have any advice?
Screening questions (and answers!) for low-level office IT admin staff. [more inside]
29 years old and divorcing after 1 year of marriage- looking for support/help with my decision. [more inside]
How to help a close friend who was just fired? [more inside]
Blog/website tech support needed!
How can I move my newly designed Wordpress site from a subdirectory to the root, while somehow archiving the old indexhibit site which currently dwells on the root? I only have a couple of days in which to do this! [more inside]
The mother of the family I work for just passed away after a long illness. What can I do to help? [more inside]
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YANAT, but I need a little help untangling my jumbled feelings.
How to deal with deep feelings of resentment and sadness and get back to focusing on what's really important to me? [more inside]
Need to find a reliable host and occasional support for a Drupal site for a non-profit. Questions abound! [more inside]
My friend is in a very bad way. She's had a painful breakup, and she has a long-term chronic illness that's tough to deal with. She's housebound, isolated, very unhappy and says she's thinking of suicide. What, if anything, can I do to help? [more inside]
Oh, MeFites, I could use your insight. I'm probably going to have to call things off with my girlfriend - and it's mostly because she's depressed and out of resources to deal with things, so small things are becoming huge stressors on a near-daily basis. I feel like this makes me a horrible person, but things are so fraught, I don't know what else to do. Help? [Long, full of snowflakes and sadness] [more inside]
My husband will be having major surgery next week. As far as I can tell, I was born without normal sick-person-wrangling instincts. What helpful or comforting things should I be planning to do to support him through recovery, at the hospital and afterwards at home?
Dating someone who just had a friend commit suicide and has now gone to ground completely. How can I best support them now? They were already having a troubled time and weren't sure whether they could commit to dating, so I want to be supportive in a way that does not put more pressure on them around our relationship (if it still exists).
My SO has Graves disease. How do I be a good partner to them? [more inside]
I am the only one who knows that my friend is suicidal. What do I do? [more inside]
My brother is being admitted to an inpatient facility. How can I support him, and can you calm me down about the long-term picture? [more inside]
Need a GeekSquad alternative for business. Must serve all (or most) of Oregon, Washington, and Idaho. [more inside]
My father's parents just passed away, two weeks apart exactly. How do I support my dad through this time? [more inside]
My friend is ill with a condition that might be psychosomatic. She doesn't believe or trust her doctors, and she is continually diagnosing herself with new illnesses. What's the best way I can be supportive? [more inside]
How do I help a very pregnant friend whose support network is falling apart before my eyes? [more inside]
I am in a cohort of a few PhD fellows who, at the time we could really use each other for support, find ourselves scattered to various corners of New England. How can we motivate each other when we don't see each other on a regular basis? [more inside]
My mother hasn't received child support payments from my father for over a year; I think she's become incredibly depressed about her treatment by the legal system, and has come to believe that no matter what she does, she'll have to bear the full financial burden of raising my sister. Help me inspire her with a rational reason why she should keep trying. [more inside]
About to start discussing divorce details. What do you wish you known, what would you have done differently, what do you regret, what are glad you did? [more inside]
How can I assert my support of issues that matter to me without going hog wild and kicking a lot of people out of my life? [more inside]
I've started to date again after the end of an eight year relationship. The good news is I've met an amazing woman and we're starting to develop a more serious relationship. The part I (male) need help with is that it turns out she was physically, sexually, mentally, and emotionally abused in several previous relationships over the course of about 15 years. How do I support her as a new relationship partner? Can you recommend any good resources for me to read? [more inside]
Are there online forums/communities for support for medical professionals/students with serious mental health diagnoses? [more inside]
What's the best (ie fool proof) way for me to get some ongoing analytics data for my department at work? [more inside]
What do I need to know to be a proper support boat to a long distance swimmer? [more inside]
I am looking for flip-flops that have nice arch support. The arch on my left foot collapses quite a bit when I walk. I want the shoes to be flip-flops, not Birkenstock-style sandals. I am male, and I live in the U.S.
How can I support my father through what's likely to be a really painful breakup? What support do you wish you had, or were you grateful to have, from your adult children while going through divorce? [more inside]