My roommate's partner, who is a close friend of mine, has stage III terminal brain cancer. He has been symptom free for almost a year but he has recently been showing signs of the cancer advancing, including seizures. He is terrified of dealing with the system of getting treatment, and has been turned down for disability even though he is unable to work because of the cancer. How can we help? [more inside]
It looks like my friend's wife will be having a premature baby any day now - suggestions on thoughtful, considerate gifts? [more inside]
A friend of mine has won the US visa lottery, and plans to travel to the United States in August or September to settle there. The thing is... he knows next to nothing about the country , knows absolutely nobody and wants to know whether there are any resources or support network available for newly arrived immigrants. Also, which states or areas currently offer the best economic opportunities ? [more inside]
Anyone know how to find out if there is any fiber optic service in the Glendale/Montrose/La Crescenta/ Tujunga general area? (within say five miles of this area?) The Verizon, Time Warner etc. fiber optic "search availability" functions are really vague... even if you get them on the phone, they tell you to provide a specific address. How can they not have some sort of record of where they have laid cable??
A friend of mine is a former Methodist preacher who wants to become a carer support worker in England. He sees caring as an extension of ministry. He really wants to work, but getting him to put aside his faith to get the job is a suggestion he won't take. Are there Christian-centred care homes in England? How do I find them?
A friend of my close friend took his own life a couple of nights ago. My friend is pretty wrecked. What's the best way for me to support him? [more inside]
I'm 32 weeks pregnant with my first child. Meanwhile, my sweetie's father is succumbing to cancer (so, by the way, is my stepmom, whom I love dearly). I'm interested in tips on how to cope with tough stuff like this while pregnant, how to both be supportive and get the support I need right now. [more inside]
My mom has dementia. She's in denial about this dementia, and her denial has created some difficulties. I feel guilty, but acting as her primary caregiver is starting to affect me adversely. [more inside]
I am the volunteer marketing director for a transgender support group. I am trying to come up with a better name for it. I seek your assistance! [more inside]
Are you or were you part of a GSA or other LGBTQ organization in school? I'm a teacher starting a Gay-Straight Alliance at my public high school with the support of the administration. [more inside]
Nutshell question: "did YOUR kid act this way? What helped them? What was wrong with them?" Nutshell synopsis: WeeThumbscrew is a bright, sweet, cute nine year-old. He has also exhibited SEVERE social issues in school this year (think "has been kicked off of the school bus", think "at least one phone call from the principal every week"). He is already in therapy (with an excellent pediatric Psy.D). Miserable, gray, hopeless snowflakes inside... [more inside]
My mother moved to Fresno 4 years ago, to be near her sister. She likes it here, more or less. However, she is 65, single, bored, and I have run out of suggestions. Can you help? [more inside]
I have super high arches, a wide toe box, constant pain in my foot, and a weak ankle. Do you have any recommendations for a somewhat stylish but not-quite-formal dress shoe I can wear to work with slacks or khakis and a button-down shirt? I'm pretty butch and usually wear a leather loafer in a men's size 7.5 / women's size 9. [more inside]
I’m having troubles working out if I’m being unreasonable in the below scenario. [more inside]
Someone (?) registered and account on Thumbtack with my e-mail address. I've sent multiple e-mails to support and only really gotten a "your message has been forwarded to IT Support" response (via ZenDesk). Is there anything else I can do to get their attention? Any other avenues to pursue? [more inside]
My SO and I have been a primarily long-distance relationship for 3 years. Help me help him support him emotionally. [more inside]
My best friend called me last night to say that her father had died of a heart attack yesterday. She was clearly still in shock. She and her husband drove in overnight and as soon as she calls I'll leave work to go spend the day with her and her family. I don't want to show up empty-handed. Besides food for lunch, what should I bring with me? [more inside]
What kind of food donations can I send to the UIC faculty strike headquarters? [more inside]
I love my minimalist shoes, but a few years ago I attempted to run in them and ended up with capsulitis in the joints in the ball of my left foot. Here I am a few years later and I want to try running again. Difficulty level: female, with wide feet. [more inside]
Do you think starting a suicidal ideation support group (in the flesh, not chat groups or hotline numbers) would be helpful or detrimental? [more inside]
We bought theme park tickets but decided not to go. How can I assure my partner that it's really okay? [more inside]
Help me find a better soft arch support! I have been using Dr. Scholl's For Her arch supports in my work flats and low heels and, while they are soft and supportive, they never stay in place! Has anyone found an arch support that a) stays in one place and b) doesn't add as much bulk to a shoe as an orthodic or Superfeet?
I want to know if anyone has had experience with a loved one having a stroke, and did it change them permanently or temporarily? Is his new verbal introspection stroke-related? And for caregivers of loved ones with any sort of health issue, how can I be there for him, in the way he needs me, and not end up tired and cranky (which helps NO ONE). [more inside]
My cousin's husband was just admitted into Sloan Kettering (NYC) with stage 3 cancer. They live about 90 minutes outside of NYC. She is exclusively breastfeeding their infant, who is not allowed to be on the husband's floor. They also have a 2 year old and a 4 year old. What resources are available for her? The primary concern is close to Sloan childcare for the infant so that she can visit. (The older two could be watched near their home.) Any recommended hotels? We do know about hoteltonight.com. What can we be doing to support her?
What are some stress-reduction techniques that support representatives and forum moderators use on-the-spot to remain cool and collected during difficult interactions with clients, and not let their own frustration get the best of them? [more inside]
At work I frequently come into contact with people who are members of various at-risk populations. They often have to give me really intimate details of their lives within minutes of meeting. When first opening up to me, they'll usually pause to gauge my reaction. I respond with, "I don't judge," in my most supportive voice. But I realize this can be a loaded statement for people and easily taken the wrong way. What short declarative statement could I use in its place?
Blog/website tech support needed! How can I move my newly designed Wordpress site from a subdirectory to the root, while somehow archiving the old indexhibit site which currently dwells on the root? I only have a couple of days in which to do this! [more inside]
Oh, MeFites, I could use your insight. I'm probably going to have to call things off with my girlfriend - and it's mostly because she's depressed and out of resources to deal with things, so small things are becoming huge stressors on a near-daily basis. I feel like this makes me a horrible person, but things are so fraught, I don't know what else to do. Help? [Long, full of snowflakes and sadness] [more inside]
My father's parents just passed away, two weeks apart exactly. How do I support my dad through this time? [more inside]
About to start discussing divorce details. What do you wish you known, what would you have done differently, what do you regret, what are glad you did? [more inside]
I am looking for flip-flops that have nice arch support. The arch on my left foot collapses quite a bit when I walk. I want the shoes to be flip-flops, not Birkenstock-style sandals. I am male, and I live in the U.S.
How can I show my support for a new co-worker in my company's homophobic environment? [more inside]
cstross! jscalzi! Other fiction authors! What's the most efficient or author-preferred way to spend a given amount of money on his/her books? [more inside]
How do I support NPR from outside the US? I listen to a number of NPR podcasts and would like to do my bit. I've tried emailing them but have yet to get a response. [more inside]
I'm looking for support groups for soon-to-be-parents with Asperger's Syndrome. Both individuals are 20ish and haven't had a lot experience being self-sufficient, have had difficulty organizing their lives, keeping jobs, etc. They are very excited about having a child, but could use some guidance on parenting, setting up a home, etc.
System/network/desktop admins, what tools and utilities do you keep in your virtual toolbox? [more inside]
My desk's legs are shot, and I need to prop the desk's top off the floor at regular height... as cheaply as possible. [more inside]
IndianapolisWomensSupportFilter: My mom just left an abusive relationship in Daytona Beach, FL to live with some old friends in Indianapolis, IN and I want to get some information about what kind of support might be available in Indianapolis. As per usual, Snowflake Details inside. [more inside]
My friend's dad just passed away. How can I help him? What can I do? I live couple thousand miles away from where he is. Can you give me some suggestions? Is it bad if I start compiling list of government agencies or funeral homes for them to call? What else I can do?
why can word 2004 no longer indent block quotes properly? [more inside]
A colleague is going through a divorce. He told our boss and me that his wife left him last week. I feel really sorry for him. What should I do to support him through this period? [more inside]
How can I hug my friend on Facebook? [more inside]
Child support filter: Ex-husband voluntarily agreed 8 years ago to pay more than state minimum child support. Just got letter from his lawyer saying he wants to now pay state amount. [more inside]
My boyfriend and I are about to take The Bar Exam in less than a week. A few days ago, my boyfriend was having severe anxiety attacks and suddenly decided he'd be better off at his folks' house. We talked about it, I supported it, and he flew home that night. Now I'm alone in our house and I'm freaking out dealing with my own depression and anxiety. I know (I know, I really know) that what happened isn't his fault, and that he needs to do what is best for him, and that this doesn't mean he doesn't care about me. But my irrational me keeps feeling abandoned. I need advice on how to recontextualize the situation or something because with four days left I don't really have time or energy to spend being irrationally angry. [more inside]
I'm clueless. I have an ADSL modem and two computers. Despite having both a USB and Ethernet connection, only one works at a time. Help! [more inside]
My daughter wants to be my son, and I'm okay with that. But... [more inside]
Sadly I lost a friend to a long battle with cancer last night, her husband and teenage children are without any extended family in the area and will rely on some of us for the next while. Two things: 1 - Can you tell me of things that friends and family have done for you in similar circumstances that really helped at the time: large, small, immediately, over days, weeks, months, whatever. We'll sort out food, the pets and cleaning the house but what else can we do? 2 - Any advice on striking the right balance between giving them their space to grieve and being there to support to them?
Got my connectivity/internet issues fixed yesterday. But what was the problem? I don't understand what the tech guy told me. [more inside]
My boyfriend's ex-wife is trying to get him to pay more child support. We got a letter showing how much "available income" she has to support the child; included in the calculation is a deduction for the other two children she has with her new husband. How is this possible, when her new husband--who has a larger income than either the ex-wife or my bf--is also responsible for those other two kids? I understand that the new hubbie is not responsible for the support costs of my bf's son--but shouldn't he be responsible for the care of his own kids, such that the ex-wife cannot deduct this cost from her income when determining the percentage of my bf's son's care for which she is responsible? [more inside]
Air Canada WTF? On Tuesday I took a trip from Laguardia Airport to Pearson Toronto to CDG, Paris on Air Canada. From Toronto to Paris, they lost one of my bags, which wouldn't be terrible except said bas contained 1) My only change of clothes for the next 2 weeks 2) My BFs extra heart medication and 3) I'm leaving for Prague in 4 days and there is still no news. Is there anyone I can call or talk to see that I actually get my stuff before I leave France? Kakfaesque detail follows. [more inside]
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