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Whatever could it be / that has brought me to this loss?

In a year full of grief, I’m searching for music, writing, and art to get me through. Please share what was meaningful for you in working through your own grief. [more inside]
posted by Synesthesia on Dec 3, 2016 - 10 answers

Dying grandparent, a toddler, and Thanksgiving

My father in law has end stage terminal cancer and intends to die at home--talking days/weeks. My wife and I will be going for a Thanksgiving visit in a couple of weeks with our 2.5 year old, who loves her grandfather very much. He is not going to be in good shape, and may well pass away while we're there. Help?! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 18, 2016 - 28 answers

I want to volunteer and provide effective support post-election. Help!

What are some good organizations to volunteer with, particularly after this election? Ideally in Portland, OR? More special snowflakey details inside. [more inside]
posted by actionpact on Nov 15, 2016 - 6 answers

What to put in my apartment window to show solidarity and support?

How can we best show our neighbors and passerbys that we welcome all and that we are a safe space? What signs would best get this message across? [more inside]
posted by raccoon409 on Nov 10, 2016 - 30 answers

Advice for people in the US but not a citizen?

I've seen a lot of advice for US citizens who wish to take care of their affairs post-Trump, but what are some useful measures for people in the US not as citizens (visa-holders, undocumented, Green Cards) to take care of themselves? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Nov 9, 2016 - 2 answers

Terminal Brain Cancer When You're Down and Out

My roommate's partner, who is a close friend of mine, has stage III terminal brain cancer. He has been symptom free for almost a year but he has recently been showing signs of the cancer advancing, including seizures. He is terrified of dealing with the system of getting treatment, and has been turned down for disability even though he is unable to work because of the cancer. How can we help? [more inside]
posted by ananci on Sep 23, 2016 - 10 answers

What, exactly, am I sending comfort into?

A very close friend's wife is in detox for alcohol abuse. Again. He's on his own, dealing with a stressful job in a toxic workplace and two kids who are on summer vacation. He and I don't get much time to talk each day, just a few sentences here and there. I want to be as supportive/comforting/distracting as possible during those brief chats, but my curiosity/lack of context for what the family is going through gets in the way of being present. [more inside]
posted by itesser on Jul 14, 2016 - 6 answers

How do you tell someone to stop saying "I told you so"?

You have bad news/concern about yourself. You tell someone about what's going on. The person says that it is your own fault - which is true, but seems like a variant of I told you so. You tell that person it seems like the wrong time to say that. The person doubles down on the statement. You walk away from the person - swearing to yourself that you won't ever talk to them about bad news/concerns about yourself. This feels like a big case of "I told you so", which I hate. How could this have gone better? [more inside]
posted by Mushroom12345 on Jul 7, 2016 - 30 answers

Online support system for new sci-fi writers

I'm starting to write short science fiction. Where should I look (online) for support, guidance and, eventually, publishing? [more inside]
posted by signal on Jun 22, 2016 - 4 answers

Preemie Prep

It looks like my friend's wife will be having a premature baby any day now - suggestions on thoughtful, considerate gifts? [more inside]
posted by lizbunny on Jun 21, 2016 - 17 answers

US Immigrants experience wanted

A friend of mine has won the US visa lottery, and plans to travel to the United States in August or September to settle there. The thing is... he knows next to nothing about the country , knows absolutely nobody and wants to know whether there are any resources or support network available for newly arrived immigrants. Also, which states or areas currently offer the best economic opportunities ? [more inside]
posted by Kwadeng on Jun 19, 2016 - 29 answers

Support organizations for Navy parents?

My son ships out for Navy boot camp later this month and I'm looking for online support resources and organizations to join. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 3, 2016 - 1 answer

fiber optiic internet in the east end of the San Fernando valley

Anyone know how to find out if there is any fiber optic service in the Glendale/Montrose/La Crescenta/ Tujunga general area? (within say five miles of this area?) The Verizon, Time Warner etc. fiber optic "search availability" functions are really vague... even if you get them on the phone, they tell you to provide a specific address. How can they not have some sort of record of where they have laid cable??
posted by ConnieL on May 28, 2016 - 2 answers

What Dansko alternative would Joseph Gordon Levitt wear?

I'm getting the old familiar twinge of plantar fasciitis, which means I need to get more supportive shoes. In the past, Danskos have really helped, but I'm trying to be more stylish/professional and dapper, so I'm wondering--is there anything with comparable support that's a little more chic? Please note: I'm a dapper female person (so nothing very femme, please). [more inside]
posted by c'mon sea legs on May 10, 2016 - 26 answers

christian themed healthcare in England?

A friend of mine is a former Methodist preacher who wants to become a carer support worker in England. He sees caring as an extension of ministry. He really wants to work, but getting him to put aside his faith to get the job is a suggestion he won't take. Are there Christian-centred care homes in England? How do I find them?
posted by parmanparman on May 6, 2016 - 4 answers

How to be supportive, when I can't be there in person

My partner is going to visit his parent, who has cancer and is in palliative care in another city (and might die quite soon.) Due to my own health, I genuinely can't travel there with him. What are some ways to be supportive of my partner, when I can't be there in person?
posted by Sockpuppets 'R' Us on May 5, 2016 - 6 answers

how do i emotionally disconnect while remaining supportive?

My spouse has got it rough, and I'm arguably the strongest pillar in his support network. Lately, though, I'm finding myself completely emotionally destroyed after offering him the support I've promised him. I need coping mechanisms to maintain my own emotional stability while still remaining supportive to my sweetheart. [more inside]
posted by blue t-shirt on May 4, 2016 - 6 answers

Resources to support the bullied

A child has shared several stories with me about her experiences at school that sound alarmingly like a pattern of persistent bullying. How can I support her through this? [more inside]
posted by eisforcool on Apr 23, 2016 - 12 answers

How to get Neat scanner to stop asking me to sync!?

We bought a Neat scanner and installed the software. Now it is asking in a pop up window if we want to sync with the cloud. There is no way to turn this off and it asks 10,000 times a day. And I am not allowed to call customer service without a paid account. And the scanner does not seem to work without the software. [more inside]
posted by cda on Apr 14, 2016 - 7 answers

Chronic pain, unsympathetic job, still need to work. What can be done?

Asking for a friend filter: Friend is in their 20s. Just got halfway decent health insurance. Working at a retail store since summer of last year, job involves a lot of physical labor along with sales desk. They've been commended for good work a few times and have been told they've been doing well enough to be a keyholder soon, which would involve more hours and a raise, Recently got a merit raise. They've had chronic pain for a while, and circumstances are... [more inside]
posted by ShawnStruck on Mar 16, 2016 - 7 answers

How to cheer up a friend who made a big mistake?

Someone close to me just made a HUGE mistake at work. How can I cheer them up without minimizing the situation or being preachy? [more inside]
posted by Tarumba on Mar 16, 2016 - 11 answers

How best to support my friend?

A friend of my close friend took his own life a couple of nights ago. My friend is pretty wrecked. What's the best way for me to support him? [more inside]
posted by holborne on Mar 9, 2016 - 19 answers

Help me be as supportive as possible while pregnant and full of anxiety

I'm 32 weeks pregnant with my first child. Meanwhile, my sweetie's father is succumbing to cancer (so, by the way, is my stepmom, whom I love dearly). I'm interested in tips on how to cope with tough stuff like this while pregnant, how to both be supportive and get the support I need right now. [more inside]
posted by Lisitasan on Feb 5, 2016 - 11 answers

Supporting a seriously ill loved one without being intrusive or grim

My favorite cousin is in a pretty serious health battle. She's vitally important to me, to my wife, and to my kid (her godson). We've always seen her at least monthly and called her every week or so. But now she's going through the fight of her life and she's not even always telling us when she's been hospitalized or is otherwise struggling. We want to find a way to step up our support for her without being intrusive or making any grim assumptions about her prognosis. How do we do that? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 4, 2016 - 12 answers

The thing that can't replace the thing

What small special experiences or things or brief travels might help in a grieving process (for someone who's already got great emotional and structural support)? [more inside]
posted by kalapierson on Jan 16, 2016 - 8 answers

Is Zendesk what I'm looking for? Or what am I looking for?

Zendesk: Paid support for my open source app. Is this a good way to monetize my Open Source Software? [more inside]
posted by alex_skazat on Nov 17, 2015 - 3 answers

Flourishing in a supportive environment

I am looking for stories, books, poems, data, or anecdotes, about people who have flourished (professionally, but also personally) when they have chosen an environment where they feel supported, loved, and connected. [more inside]
posted by hollypolly on Nov 3, 2015 - 3 answers

Asking for a friend that needs a lover who won't drive her crazy.

Have a long-term long-distance friendship. She has a lot of challenges, including self-confidence issues. I would love to believe I could do something to get her more local friends. Ideally help her find a guy as accomplished as she is. [more inside]
posted by Wilbefort on Oct 21, 2015 - 15 answers

How Can I Cope With Being a Primary Caregiver?

My mom has dementia. She's in denial about this dementia, and her denial has created some difficulties. I feel guilty, but acting as her primary caregiver is starting to affect me adversely. [more inside]
posted by Ashen on Oct 15, 2015 - 25 answers

Support Software

Do you know of any software or tools to help a team organise software support? I am thinking of something like a task list which pops up with simple tasks that need doing. (i.e. check these logs, reset this thing). [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know on Oct 7, 2015 - 4 answers

9/11. Oy. Are there any active online support groups for 9/11 survivors?

Are there any active online support groups for 9/11 survivors? I was in midtown when the WTC was attacked in 2001. That brought on several days of stressful situations for myself and others in the city (evacuating due to bomb threats, going near the site only to run for your life because fears of other buildings falling near the site, etc). I coped as everyone else did in the city, and for the past several years I've avoided most if not all 9/11 coverage. This year, the anniversary passed without me realizing it - but then on the 12th I was reading an article about first responders lobbying congress and it sent me down a rabbit hole of watching (for the first time) life news footage of the attacks. [more inside]
posted by zettoo on Sep 15, 2015 - 3 answers

How do I help my friend who is losing hope?

A distant but very dear friend of mine is in need of help. She is currently in the hospital and doesn't have many local friends. I'm in Wisconsin and she's in Louisiana so there are physical limits to what I can do, but I want to do something! Also I don't want to burden her by asking her what I can do to help. Please give me suggestions, ideas, anything I can do to help her. [more inside]
posted by lriG rorriM on Aug 27, 2015 - 10 answers

Help Little Fluffy Grads + Postdocs Fly The Nest

What can a Professor do to help Grad Students (post-Masters) and Postdocs when they go to another country? What problems did you, as a grad/postdoc, have abroad? What helped? What resources exist to help such people? [more inside]
posted by andrewcooke on Jul 28, 2015 - 5 answers

Help me find my people - online or group support for infidelity

So this is me. My husband cheated on me (twice), and at this point, I really need a safe place to share my experience and the experiences of others. There seem to be an endless number of online forums for this, but the ones I have explored have all been really religious (not my thing), really hostile (understandable but not my style), or all about reconciliation at all costs. Please help me find the support I need. [more inside]
posted by Lamb_Chop on Jul 21, 2015 - 12 answers

Ankle support for swimming?

My partner who is hemi-plegic would like to go swimming but when he walks out of the water (with assistance) he feels like his ankle is going to snap and break. I guess we need some kind of ankle support specifically for his situation. Help! [more inside]
posted by cda on Jul 15, 2015 - 3 answers

Where to find advice and support after Dad's mesothelioma diagnosis

My father was recently diagnosed with mesothelioma at age 83, caused by exposure to asbestos at his former workplace. Multiple doctors have urged him to seek a settlement by engaging an attorney. Is there any way to know which firms, if any, are reputable? The ABA website was no help. Also, where can we read about the experiences of other asbestos victims and their families to better know what to expect w/r/t his condition and also with w/r/t their experiences with claims for compensation? [more inside]
posted by miaou on Jul 14, 2015 - 6 answers

Partner's request to bring his mom to my co-worker's bbq...

Wall o’ text follows. All names have been changed. [more inside]
posted by foxjacket on Jul 4, 2015 - 75 answers

Need emotional support regarding my mom

Hi! My mom never leaves the house and pretty much never has for the last 20 years. She has physical issues but no social anxiety really, it has just become a habit. Anyway I have posted before about her, I am asking about me now. [more inside]
posted by low_horrible_immoral on Jun 26, 2015 - 7 answers

What did you need to hear—and NOT hear—after a devastating breakup?

One of my dearest friends got dumped this week, the end of a nearly 7-year relationship that both had hoped would head toward marriage. My friend (whom I'll anonymize as "Fred") is devastated, angry, and hurt, and doesn't have any local friends who knew him before the relationship. Fred lives quite a ways away, so all my support right now must be from afar. He's asked if we can talk by phone this Saturday, and while I anticipate I'll mostly be doing a lot of listening, I want to say the right things to help, too. If you've been through something similar, can you guide me? [more inside]
posted by ocherdraco on Jun 25, 2015 - 33 answers

Easing away from Al-Anon

My weekly Al-Anon group are all very sweet and I enjoy them a lot, but I also have grown tired of the tedium of the meetings and feel less and less like it's applicable to my life. Seeking a bit of perspective and advice on how to gracefully move forward without burning any bridges. [more inside]
posted by witchen on Jun 24, 2015 - 14 answers

My gender is ....confusing

I identity as genderqueer but as time goes on I think I may actually be a man instead. Can you point me to online support where I can try to sort this stuff out and learn what to do next? [more inside]
posted by kanata on Jun 16, 2015 - 11 answers

Resources for a teacher to handle bullying in her class.

An acquaintance of mine needs resources to help one of her students who is being bullied for being (apparently) LGBTQ. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Promethea on Jun 15, 2015 - 5 answers

Seeking resources for friend with metastatic prostate cancer

I am seeking resources for a 60 year old friend in difficult circumstances who has just been diagnosed with metastatic prostate cancer. It is unclear what medical resources may be available. It is unclear at this early point just what or whether any treatment options are available to him or what his projected time to live may be. I am trying to learn of services that might be available locally or online. [more inside]
posted by SamFrancisco on Jun 10, 2015 - 10 answers

Having the hard conversations with good friends

Several of my friends have gone through some hard life events lately (death, unemployment and more) and I want to know how to talk about it with them. [more inside]
posted by Toddles on Jun 9, 2015 - 17 answers

Catchy name ideas for a transgender support group?

I am the volunteer marketing director for a transgender support group. I am trying to come up with a better name for it. I seek your assistance! [more inside]
posted by battleshipkropotkin on Jun 4, 2015 - 15 answers

"You can't handle the truth!" But I need to learn how to...

Last week, my partner admitted that he's been not just hiding things, but outright lying to me. The revelations hurt, but I need honesty if we're to stay together. How do I make it safe for my partner to tell me the truth when it's repeatedly been so startling and upsetting? Difficulty level: partner is dealing with Major Depression, and has been near-suicidal. [more inside]
posted by Someone Else's Story on Apr 17, 2015 - 56 answers

How do VC firms support marketing for the startups they invest in?

How do venture capitalist firms support marketing and communications for the startups they invest in? Is there an established model, or does it vary by firm? Is it direct support, or coaching? Looking for examples, first-hand experience, insider knowledge. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 6, 2015 - 4 answers

Support Email from HTC in Taiwan

Does anyone have the Support Email from HTC in Taiwan? [more inside]
posted by yoyo_nyc on Mar 27, 2015 - 1 answer

TechSupportFilter: Keyboard is behaving a little strangely.

We've got a mac running OS 10.9.5, with a wireless keyboard. Every time we hit the n key OR the command key, it acts as if we've hit command-n. There is not a shortcut set up, I've already checked the system preferences. This behavior happens in every application. What on earth is going on?
posted by BuddhaInABucket on Mar 20, 2015 - 10 answers

Support my wife with her new career, that hasn't paid yet.

Marriage / Employment filter: My wife is finally incredibly happy in her job (a new career), but it hasn't paid a check for 6 months. I want to be supportive, but all I see is her working her ass off and not getting paid. What do we need to talk about / to weigh at the 1 year mark when we assess her getting a job with a salary? (see within for a very long story) [more inside]
posted by lonemantis on Mar 4, 2015 - 35 answers

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