What’s the best, scientifically-supported mindset for success, resilience, confidence, and rebounding from stress and failure?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 3, 2012 -
16 answers
Mr. SPA told me last night that he thinks about suicide. Knowing Mr. SPA and based on the surrounding facts and circumstances, I think he's referencing suicide in a bid to talk about escaping from the stress in his life. In other words, I think he's asking for my help. I don't know if I can help him. What do I do?
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posted by SPA
on Sep 27, 2012 -
16 answers
Routine mammogram yesterday, not entirely unexpected secondary mammogram and ultrasound next week. Please help me calm down about it.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 21, 2012 -
16 answers
Last night I slept for five hours and 45 minutes. For the last 20 years. I've tried many of the frequently recommended solutions such as melatonin and environmental changes, and am not sure what my next step should be.
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posted by mecran01
on Sep 20, 2012 -
34 answers
What can I do to manage my stress and anxiety (about being the center of attention, the logistics, and getting married itself) on and leading up to my wedding day? And do you have any other advice to help me enjoy and appreciate my wedding?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 13, 2012 -
28 answers
My husband has just gotten a new job in his dream company at much higher pay/benefits after a long and stressful search. That's the good part. The bad part is this job involves a lot more responsibility, longer hours, commuting time, and a much bigger project to oversee. How can I help him deal with the increased workload and stress when he is clearly having trouble adjusting to it?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 12, 2012 -
13 answers
Very overweight. Constant jaw clenching. Stress. Fixation with "input". Any idea if these things could be related?
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posted by skypieces
on Sep 8, 2012 -
15 answers
Give me your tried-and-true tips on eating (consistently and healthily) when anxious.
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posted by pinetree
on Sep 8, 2012 -
22 answers
The semester has just started, and I'm feeling extremely overwhelmed. Some advice would be appreciated.
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posted by lobbyist
on Aug 28, 2012 -
19 answers
Anyone have any positive stories to share involving simultaneous end of marriage, job departure and moving?
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posted by DuckGirl
on Aug 20, 2012 -
24 answers
New-ish guy friend I've been dating is experiencing a (potential) flare-up of an old, painful and worrying health issue/injury. How can I support him without going overboard into mothering mode, overstepping his/my boundaries, or otherwise screwing things up?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 15, 2012 -
11 answers
I have two weeks of PhD qualifying exams coming up - how do I stay sane, healthy, and positive?
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posted by SNWidget
on Jul 22, 2012 -
15 answers
Back in May I cosigned a lease for an apartment with a friend of a friend running from July to July. Thanks to changing circumstances since then, I can't afford it and I have no choice but to get out of the whole arrangement by September, before university starts back up again. The province I'm in has extremely pro-tenant rental laws, so transferring the lease will not be a problem. What concerns me is dropping this bomb on the cosigner, who is 4000 km away until, well, just when I'd have to leave. Since we were introduced in April for the purposes of being roommates, he's also shown himself to be far more naive than he appears when it comes to stuff like this. But I've also committed a huge error in judgement by signing for this place, and I feel guilty for helping to convince him. I've accepted I'll have to burn more than one bridge. But I'm way too overwhelmed by the hundreds of responsibilities have piled up on my shoulders, and need to tell him very soon. How do I make this as quick, painless and guilt-free as is possible? More on the "changing circumstances" inside: read just the bold bits if you're short on time.
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posted by denmarkstreet
on Jul 21, 2012 -
6 answers
I got fired from two of my three jobs for absenteeism. For some reason, when I get stressed out in life, I get so down that it's hard to go in. I get sick to my stomach and anxious, it's like I have a panic attack at just the thought of going in.
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posted by Autumn
on Jul 14, 2012 -
22 answers
I feel like a mess and never thought I'd end up here. I'm broke, headed for eviction, jobless, no insurance, on food stamps, overweight, have panic attacks, can't afford a therapist, have no friends that I can talk to about any of this. Did I mention I am 40 and married with two kids? If I don't get a handle on all this, my family is about to hit the skids. Ideas?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 7, 2012 -
31 answers
I'm being asked to engage in business practices that are probably bad for my company in the long run and driving me nuts personally. I'm also a new temp and not in a great position to rock the boat. Is there any way to make this situation more bearable?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 29, 2012 -
14 answers
I recently posted a
question on getting my confidence back after making a number of (considered major) mistakes in my work. Since then I've been having odd emotional reactions and I'd appreciate any thoughts as to how to manage and minimise them.
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posted by gadha
on Jun 28, 2012 -
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Dealing with feeling lousy, and possibly capital-D depressed, when swamped with school demands and most of all, terribly uncomfortable with seeing doctors. How?
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posted by undue influence
on Jun 19, 2012 -
8 answers
Is leaving my job because of (possibly irrational) fears an example of avoidance? Or a realization of limitations?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 13, 2012 -
7 answers
Panic attacks are killing my self employment. What (work) should I do?
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posted by b33j
on Jun 11, 2012 -
13 answers
My sister is in hospital waiting for a lung transplant. Help me keep her rampaging anxiety under control.
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posted by teedee2000
on Jun 10, 2012 -
20 answers
I'm suddenly caregiver for my mid-70's parents after a serious car accident, and I'm completely lost, and while I'm sympathetic, I want them the heck out of my house as soon as possible.
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posted by kinetic
on Jun 7, 2012 -
22 answers
Within the last month, I've been diagnosed with two autoimmune disorders. I'm tired, everything hurts, and my life is pure insanity right now. What are your hacks for getting what you need when life simply isn't giving them to you? What about from the ones you love?
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posted by your mom's a sock puppet
on Jun 1, 2012 -
27 answers
Some random jerk threatened my partner in public a few days ago and he's still pretty shaken, and can't stop thinking about it. What resources can I offer to help him cope?
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posted by rhiannonstone
on May 29, 2012 -
18 answers
If you have a tendency to gain weight due to stress I'd like to know how you recognized this was THE reason for weight gain and found a solution that worked for you. Please don't ask questions that tend to speculate or diagnose the cause of weight gain (no issues with food/exercise) . I want to hear from you if you (or someone you knew) struggled to keep your stress low, which you knew led to your weight gain and how you went about it (without using any drugs!).
posted by xm
on May 28, 2012 -
9 answers
So much is going wrong, I'm having a hell of a time coping. Huge deadline looming and I need help coping/repressing all this stress for at least a week.
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posted by Beacon Inbound
on May 24, 2012 -
12 answers
What can I do from afar for a bedridden SAHM of an 18mo, and in general for their stressed-out family? Looking for anything and everything---advice, care basket ideas, childcare options, cleaning services, etc.---in the Echo Park/Silverlake/Los Feliz area of Los Angeles.
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posted by cocoagirl
on May 22, 2012 -
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I'm trying to convince my wife to attend marriage counselling with me, but I'm having a hard time doing so. Her opinion of marriage counselling (based on what she's read online) is that it's a waste of money and that a marriage counsellor would "only tell us what we already know." When I've pointed out that a marriage counsellor is there to help facilitate communication, her response has been "if we need a facilitator to help us communicate we're fucked anyway."
Reasons for needing counselling + bonus snowflakery inside. Apologies; it turned into a bit of a mind-dumpy wall of text.
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posted by anonymous
on May 21, 2012 -
21 answers
Should I be someone who takes more action when I'm under stress? If so, how do I go about becoming that person?
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posted by EatMyHat
on May 21, 2012 -
9 answers
I am in my 7th year of a science Ph.D. at MIT and I need to graduate. I have invested an incredible amount of time and energy in this process, and I definitely have a Ph.D. level of skills and knowledge by now. 7 years is not outside the norm for my department. The problem is that a number of circumstances occurring in a row have lead to a bad/toxic relationship with my advisor and slow performance on my part.
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posted by anonymous
on May 7, 2012 -
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Help me get through a toxic and stressful situation (revolves around work) and successfully get some coping mechanisms (and cajones) for the first time ever.
After a couple years of amazing- work has gotten tough-and I need help getting through it- and I respect you guys on MeFi a lot... I'm getting support but there must be some other things I could be doing. I've attempted to write in order of: context, challenge, question.
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posted by misspony
on May 6, 2012 -
14 answers
Has anyone ever had an itchy skin problem, with or without a medical diagnosis, seen a shrink about it when dermatology didn't seem to be helping much, and the shrink treatment helped?
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posted by whatdidyouforgettoday
on May 3, 2012 -
16 answers
In the past three weeks I've gone from working 23 hours a week to 53 hours a week, and having 2-3 days off a week to having maybe one day off every 3 weeks if I'm lucky. How do I handle the resulting stress?
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posted by Autumn
on Apr 20, 2012 -
4 answers
I need some guidance/opinions on my situation with hyperthyroidism because I am losing faith in my doctors.
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posted by iz0rz
on Apr 16, 2012 -
7 answers
Help me deal with depression/stress-related weight loss and the resulting loss of body image. And how can I healthfully gain it back?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 25, 2012 -
16 answers
Give me your best tips and strategies for combating work-related stress, particularly how to not let the stress leak into time when I want to be decompressing, not worrying.
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posted by peacheater
on Mar 22, 2012 -
9 answers
My wife is struggling with stress levels at work. How can I help her reduce them without patronising her, and at the same time stop being so selfish when dealing with her stress?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 21, 2012 -
8 answers
Did your chronic emotions (good or bad) in early pregnancy affect your child's temperament or health?
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posted by mild deer
on Mar 20, 2012 -
18 answers
The psychological fallout of my wife's 13-month unemployment is going to make me crack. Please help me deal.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 14, 2012 -
31 answers
