176 posts tagged with stress by Anonymous.
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My job is killing my soul but I can't leave

I'm at the point where my job is actively causing me despair. Since I can't quit without getting a new job first, how do I cope every day while I try to find something new? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2016 - 0 answers

Working with an overbearing, disorganized colleague

I have a senior colleague who is dedicated, bright, well-meaning, and hard-working, but extremely scatter-brained and not particularly respectful of other people's opinions. I started this job recently, and worked with this person in a team for the first few months. It made me miserable and affected my performance and health. I have to work with him again soon. How do I keep my sanity? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 7, 2016 - 19 answers

Coping with suddenly severe anxiety

It's been a long time coming, but today my ability to cope with the pressure in my life collapsed, and now I don't know what to do. I'm looking for guidance from others who've gone through this sort of thing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 29, 2016 - 16 answers

Need help with my dominating perfectionism...

Help. I am in a heavy stress short term situation, working closely with others for long hours. I need immediate coping mechanisms to keep from dominating every situation and making things worse. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 28, 2016 - 8 answers

emotional stress-induced amenorrhea

If you have dealt with emotional stress-induced hypothalamic amenorrhea, with emphasis on the emotional sort of stress (as opposed to physical / excessive exercise-induced), what did you do to ensure that you regularly got your period? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 4, 2016 - 4 answers

Should I leave the relationship?

I have been in a relationship for 3.5 years and have currently been told by my partner to have a 'think' about what I want to do. I don't expect you to solve my problems for me but other perspectives might be useful. Apologies as there is a background blizzard which I will try to keep brief. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 19, 2016 - 21 answers

I'm the office punching bag - what do I do?

I'm working in an office job at a small non-profit. As a junior member of staff, I'm repeatedly being blamed quite aggressively for things that either aren't my job or aren't anyone's fault. My concerns about this are being brushed off. The job consists of constant firefighting, there are constant non-specific threats over my future at the organisation and the stress and anxiety is making me sick. I'm planning to move on next year - but how do I make this place bearable in the interim? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 16, 2015 - 49 answers

Please help me stop freaking out about an abnormal pap.

I just had an email from my doctor that a Pap test was abnormal. I know that the problems are not uncommon (I tested positive for HPV for the first time, and had atypical squamous cells). They told me to schedule a colposcopy. I'm 36, and my mother had uterine cancer when she was fairly young (though unrelated to HPV or cervical cancer). I'm feeling freaked out, though I know rationally I shouldn't yet. Need some tips on how to focus on work and not stress out too much about this...I'm already anxious and having a lot of trouble sleeping for other reasons. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 10, 2015 - 32 answers

Is this depression or am I just being dramatic?

Can I technically be depressed if I'm still finding joy and comfort in my relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 1, 2015 - 15 answers

Why do I always get sick before I travel on vacation?

I'm due to fly overseas on vacation next week for the first time in five years. There is a bunch of stress surrounding it: I have to finish a bunch of work before leaving, it's the first time I'm vacationing internationally since my divorce nearly three years ago, etc. And, since yesterday, I've been getting post-nasal drip, sore throat, chills, etc. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 10, 2015 - 5 answers

Help me avoid losing my mind over work stress

Over the next month my job is going to be insane. I'm in charge of a major initiative type thing that means I will be working pretty much almost every day this month, doing things that stress me out such as leading tours, speaking in front of hundreds of people, etc. This stupid thing hasn't even begun yet and I'm losing sleep. How do I cope? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 3, 2015 - 7 answers

Graduate advisor thinks I'm being taken advantage of at my new job.

I am a new teacher and also enrolled in an M.A. program for secondary education. Recently the head of the Education program at my university called me and gave a piece of her mind. She wants to contact either the principal or the superintendent. Should I take her up on this offer? Need to decide soon. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2015 - 11 answers

Dealing with the stress of a court process which may take time?

We are involved in a court process which may take some time to complete. The stress is getting to me. How can I deal with this better? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2015 - 5 answers

Advice needed on phased return to work due to work related stress UK

I could really do with some advice on my rights for a phased return to work after absence due to work related stress, complicated by chronic fatigue syndrome. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 22, 2015 - 3 answers

What, Me Worry?

I tend to obsessively brood about things -- usually frustrations or conflicts at work -- and I want to know how to leave that alone so I am not stressed out all the time thinking through situations I can do nothing to solve. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 18, 2015 - 13 answers

midlife crisis? minor Major Depression? bad habits?

I have been struggling with lethargy, lack of interest, procrastination, and some sadness after not-so-recent transitions in my life and would like help with diagnosis and suggestions for next steps. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 14, 2015 - 14 answers

I'm having erectile dysfunction issues.

So I'm having trouble getting it up, and I want to be able to have sex with my girlfriend. So. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 2, 2015 - 10 answers

How should I reward myself?

I work a late shift at my job, which usually gets me home around midnight or later and in bed by 3 a.m. or later after I manage to relax. What's an alternative to pouring a drink and sitting by myself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 10, 2015 - 24 answers

How to address burnout and work overload when you're the sole employee?

I manage a very small nonprofit organization. We had two employees, including myself, but had to let employee #2 go due to funding cuts. Our workload was already too heavy and I was burning out, so now it's just getting worse. I have the authority to control my workload and make cuts, but I don't know where to begin since nothing on my plate is unimportant and there's no other employees to shift the work to, either. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 5, 2015 - 13 answers

How do you get someone who likes you to stop harassing you?

My brother's too much for me to handle. How can I get him to stop calling and showing up so often? Simply telling him not to do it isn't working; he keeps coming up with dumb excuses for doing it. Though I hate the word 'creepy', what he's doing is what many would consider just that. And his behavior is almost stalker-like. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 15, 2014 - 22 answers

FMLA in Massachusetts?

I am an employee in Boston, MA who is strongly considering taking a medical leave of absence. Please help me to understand my rights. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 2, 2014 - 7 answers

How to proceed when things are bad?

My girlfriend and I (female) have been together nearly 6 years. Things were really solid the first 4 years or so, but for the last two years we've really been struggling. There are a lot of frustrations on both sides, but things really came to a head about 6 weeks ago. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 26, 2014 - 43 answers

Why am I so unhappy with my perfectly OK life?

I am having a hard time figuring out how to fix some of my mundane, yet very real, problems. Is it time for a counselor or psychologist? Any advice out there that could help me sort all this out? More (lots more) details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2014 - 27 answers

My wife is overworked and stressed and it's making me resentful

My wife is overworked, underslept, and stressed, and I wanted to know if anybody had any advice that might be helpful. She has a job that requires long hours and causes her a lot of stress that she is committed to until the end of the school year. On top of that, she has a job for a few hours every weekend that she is committed to for a while as well. We also have a two year old daughter and we are climbing out of debt. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 21, 2014 - 35 answers

Did you have a Lexiscan? How did it go?

My dad is going for a Lexiscan on Friday and the internet seems filled almost exclusively with horror stories. . [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 14, 2014 - 4 answers

Seeking a therapist in NoVA with experience in traumatic stress

I work in an extremely stressful field in which I make life and death decisions every day. I've been doing it for a long time, and I have good coping mechanisms, but recently my exposure to death and suffering has gone way up. I'd like to connect with a therapist in the Northern Virginia area with experience with traumatic stress, who could help me adapt to the demands this is putting on me. Someone experienced in treating members of the military might be helpful, but is definitely not necessary. Mostly I'm looking for somebody who has worked with people who encounter a lot of death and need to build appropriate coping skills.
posted by anonymous on Aug 6, 2014 - 2 answers

How can I keep going forward during a series of crises?

My life has been a bit hard for a while now. It has been ruthless #@$* for a few months. I need some strategies to force myself to keep going. Lots of moaning follows. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 10, 2014 - 30 answers

Survival tips sough: dissertation due/daily agony--how to make do?

My dissertation hand in deadline is within two months. I still have a sh*tload left to do, and I fear I'm sinking fast. I have well meaning friends and colleagues that offer support, but the stress is killing me because I can't trust my own instincts and I don't know how to ask for help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 26, 2014 - 16 answers

Help me stay sane and professional in dealing with my crazy boss

I'm a middle manager in a branch of an international organization, and its head, my boss, is nuts. Really. She seems gripped by wild ambition and self-importance one minute, and extreme, childlike helplessness the next. She refuses to manage anything, at all, and can't stay on topic during a three-minute conversation, let alone set any kind of priorities for the organization. She never refuses a request from higher management and is constantly pushing us all to work longer and more unpaid hours. Sometimes I think she is addicted to stress, since she always chooses the most difficult, time-consuming, complicated path. Every. Single. Time. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 2, 2014 - 12 answers

Coping strategies for dealing with the public, please!

Do you have a job where you deal with the public? If so, how do you deal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 31, 2014 - 13 answers

Question for people with OCD

I was never diagnosed but it is pretty clear that I have OCD. I understand that irrational guilt, doubt, and anxiety are classic issues associated with OCD. Are there any tricks or ways that anyone can say has helped them to step back and evaluate circumstances somewhat objectively to decide if guilt and anxiety towards something is appropriate or irrational? I have found that explaining a set of circumstances to people whose opinion I trust and them telling me that my concern is irrational has only helped a little. Thank You. P.S. I have already set up a first meeting with a psychologist so that base is covered.
posted by anonymous on Mar 15, 2014 - 12 answers

How to best support my partner with a stressful academic job?

I'm in a LTR and my partner is unhappy in her academic job and considering a major career change. How can I best support her? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 25, 2014 - 11 answers

How do I break up with a partner who is going through a rough time?

My partner of several years and I are in a long-distance relationship, and I think I've come to the point where, due to a whole bunch of things (which probably mostly rely on a fundamental difference in what we want in terms of a romantic relationship), that I want out. At the same time, I do care about them, and since they are in a really rough spot, I don't want to abandon them. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 22, 2013 - 19 answers

How can I best help my depressed friends & also take care of myself?

I watch many people who I care a lot about suffer from depression. I would sincerely do anything to help them, and do whatever I can think of: conversations, little notes and random texts, hanging out, offering help with thinking through options if they want it, etc. But, as someone who is lucky to not have 'been there', it's hard to know when I'm crossing a line and what's really needed. In fact, I think most of my efforts translate to "I know you mean well, but..." even though I'm also one of the few people these friends go to when things get bad. On top of worrying and trying to help, I also spend (probably too much) time thinking about what they're going through and what would be most helpful. It's exhausting for me and stressful, but it's personally not an option not to care. I end up internalizing this stuff and it affects my normal activities, even though at the end of the day, I'm not the one suffering. I want to be as good a friend and resource as possible to these people I truly care about and also want to avoid falling victim to anxiety or depression myself because of it. Any tips from either the 'been there' - depressed and knows what's helpful - perspective or the sincerly-caring-friend side of this equation would be much appreciated. Thanks.
posted by anonymous on Nov 12, 2013 - 15 answers

Back to school with Fs in sex and social life.

I just started an intense school program and I have very little sex drive or social drive. This is frustrating for my boyfriend. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 8, 2013 - 8 answers

I desperately want to be who she needs: emotion control advice

I'm caring for my sick and declining wife, but my own anger issues have made me a terrible caregiver at times, let alone partner. We both love each other deeply, and want to spend our final years together, but if I can't stop making her miserable I have to go. I'm already pursuing therapy, have a psychiatrist, etc. I am not ashamed to seek help; the stakes are so high. I will be devastated if I have to walk away because I am a toxic presence, and so I'm determined to address my problems and be the husband she needs. I'm seeking ideas and advice on how to eliminate the bad so we can enjoy the good. More below... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 23, 2013 - 55 answers

Escaping a sick system

It's clear to me that my job is a sick system, and I don't know how to get out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 21, 2013 - 12 answers

Is there a pill for this?

I seem to have the patience, judgment and self-control of a two-year-old. Nothing against two-year-olds, I'm sure many of them are lovely people, but little is expected of them beyond not biting people. I've mastered the not-biting part, it's the rest I have a problem with. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 12, 2013 - 10 answers

Wedding and controlling parents-- how to cope

I'm getting married in 10 days, and it's stressful for everybody involved, mostly because I have controlling parents who are intricately involved with every part of this. Any tips/advice for coping with this situation? Lots of culture-specific snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 18, 2013 - 45 answers

Here we go again...?

My long-term partner and I had relationship problems, spent some time apart, and are in the process of getting our lives back into one home. Now that I've moved my stuff back in, problems that I thought we'd dealt with are happening again. Is it time to go back to therapy or is there something else I can be doing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 2, 2013 - 44 answers

How do I stop dwelling?

I made a professional mistake which I had to own up to very publicly. No one, not my boss or my co-workers or my friends seems to think any less of me for it, but it's eating away at me and has had me in agony for the better part of a week. How do I stop dwelling on this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 23, 2013 - 27 answers

Keep calm and carry on?

I'm going through a bout of depression and while it isn't affecting my work, it is affecting how I behave at work. I realised today that some of my colleagues have picked up on this change in behaviour. How can I maintain my dignity and privacy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 19, 2013 - 7 answers

Your Stress is Stressing Me Out

How do I effectively communicate to my husband that I'm afraid that his job stress is spilling over into our family life and negatively affecting his relationship with our kids? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 11, 2013 - 14 answers

How to deal with an inefficient bureaucracy-- from the inside?

What are your strategies and best practices for being a cog in an inefficient bureaucracy? How do you compartmentalize the frustration and leave it in the office? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 11, 2013 - 14 answers

Stop-gap strategies for work anxiety

I have on-going problems with work anxiety and impostor syndrome. The worst part? I’m starting a new, high-demand job in two weeks and need help now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2013 - 4 answers

Compounding Life Disasters

I think my friend tried to fondle me in my sleep. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 7, 2013 - 50 answers

What kind of company name is Internet Brands, anyway?

Need some career advice: Internet Brands has had me for a few interview for a Project Manager, but Glassdoor has some really bad things to say (and good, but those can be phony placements). Has anyone ever worked or know someone that worked there? What's it like? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 20, 2013 - 5 answers

Quitting smoking: Life after butt

Beyond the initial challenges of quitting smoking, what are the longer-term effects? How does life actually change? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2013 - 34 answers

You lying asshole.

So I'm on a performance plan at work due to dishonesty. Please help me turn this around. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 14, 2012 - 53 answers

Help me get to January

Marriage fizzling; need your best holiday coping methods to get through the rest of the year. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 4, 2012 - 12 answers

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