I made a professional mistake which I had to own up to very publicly. No one, not my boss or my co-workers or my friends seems to think any less of me for it, but it's eating away at me and has had me in agony for the better part of a week. How do I stop dwelling on this?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 23, 2013 -
27 answers
I'm going through a bout of depression and while it isn't affecting my work, it is affecting how I behave at work. I realised today that some of my colleagues have picked up on this change in behaviour. How can I maintain my dignity and privacy?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 19, 2013 -
7 answers
How do I effectively communicate to my husband that I'm afraid that his job stress is spilling over into our family life and negatively affecting his relationship with our kids?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 11, 2013 -
14 answers
What are your strategies and best practices for being a cog in an inefficient bureaucracy? How do you compartmentalize the frustration and leave it in the office?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 11, 2013 -
14 answers
I have on-going problems with work anxiety and impostor syndrome. The worst part? I’m starting a new, high-demand job in two weeks and need help now.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 8, 2013 -
4 answers
Need some career advice:
Internet Brands has had me for a few interview for a Project Manager, but
Glassdoor has some really bad things to say (and good, but those can be phony placements). Has anyone ever worked or know someone that worked there? What's it like?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 20, 2013 -
5 answers
Beyond the initial challenges of quitting smoking, what are the longer-term effects? How does life actually change?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 13, 2013 -
34 answers
So I'm on a performance plan at work due to dishonesty. Please help me turn this around.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 14, 2012 -
53 answers
Marriage fizzling; need your best holiday coping methods to get through the rest of the year.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 4, 2012 -
12 answers
Nearly everything I liked about my current job has evaporated, and I am left with stress and anxiety. In addition, I've always been indecisive about what my career should be. At this point should I try to build a career at my current company or leave and try something else?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 19, 2012 -
11 answers
So, I just started my PhD program. Are my feelings normal? I'm worried that I'm not working enough and that my ideas are bad.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 4, 2012 -
21 answers
What’s the best, scientifically-supported mindset for success, resilience, confidence, and rebounding from stress and failure?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 3, 2012 -
16 answers
Routine mammogram yesterday, not entirely unexpected secondary mammogram and ultrasound next week. Please help me calm down about it.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 21, 2012 -
16 answers
What can I do to manage my stress and anxiety (about being the center of attention, the logistics, and getting married itself) on and leading up to my wedding day? And do you have any other advice to help me enjoy and appreciate my wedding?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 13, 2012 -
28 answers
My husband has just gotten a new job in his dream company at much higher pay/benefits after a long and stressful search. That's the good part. The bad part is this job involves a lot more responsibility, longer hours, commuting time, and a much bigger project to oversee. How can I help him deal with the increased workload and stress when he is clearly having trouble adjusting to it?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 12, 2012 -
13 answers
New-ish guy friend I've been dating is experiencing a (potential) flare-up of an old, painful and worrying health issue/injury. How can I support him without going overboard into mothering mode, overstepping his/my boundaries, or otherwise screwing things up?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 15, 2012 -
11 answers
I feel like a mess and never thought I'd end up here. I'm broke, headed for eviction, jobless, no insurance, on food stamps, overweight, have panic attacks, can't afford a therapist, have no friends that I can talk to about any of this. Did I mention I am 40 and married with two kids? If I don't get a handle on all this, my family is about to hit the skids. Ideas?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 7, 2012 -
31 answers
I'm being asked to engage in business practices that are probably bad for my company in the long run and driving me nuts personally. I'm also a new temp and not in a great position to rock the boat. Is there any way to make this situation more bearable?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 29, 2012 -
14 answers
Is leaving my job because of (possibly irrational) fears an example of avoidance? Or a realization of limitations?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 13, 2012 -
7 answers
I'm trying to convince my wife to attend marriage counselling with me, but I'm having a hard time doing so. Her opinion of marriage counselling (based on what she's read online) is that it's a waste of money and that a marriage counsellor would "only tell us what we already know." When I've pointed out that a marriage counsellor is there to help facilitate communication, her response has been "if we need a facilitator to help us communicate we're fucked anyway."
Reasons for needing counselling + bonus snowflakery inside. Apologies; it turned into a bit of a mind-dumpy wall of text.
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posted by anonymous
on May 21, 2012 -
21 answers
I am in my 7th year of a science Ph.D. at MIT and I need to graduate. I have invested an incredible amount of time and energy in this process, and I definitely have a Ph.D. level of skills and knowledge by now. 7 years is not outside the norm for my department. The problem is that a number of circumstances occurring in a row have lead to a bad/toxic relationship with my advisor and slow performance on my part.
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posted by anonymous
on May 7, 2012 -
11 answers
Help me deal with depression/stress-related weight loss and the resulting loss of body image. And how can I healthfully gain it back?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 25, 2012 -
16 answers
My wife is struggling with stress levels at work. How can I help her reduce them without patronising her, and at the same time stop being so selfish when dealing with her stress?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 21, 2012 -
8 answers
The psychological fallout of my wife's 13-month unemployment is going to make me crack. Please help me deal.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 14, 2012 -
31 answers
How can I motivate myself to work? What did you do to help kick yourself in the posterior and get going? Special snowflake details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 31, 2012 -
12 answers
I panic at work when the stress is on. Can you help me handle the fire more gracefully?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 24, 2012 -
5 answers
I got a job six months ago as a technical recruiter for a third-party contractor whose field techs replace parts for warranty customers. It's a family business with about a dozen employees in the office. Things are hinky there. Please help me understand what's going on and make a decision. Sorry, but it's very long.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 23, 2011 -
14 answers
Stress is starting to hurt me. What can I do? How can I dramatically reduce stress in my life? And/or take a budget vacation?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 22, 2011 -
21 answers
I need advice on surviving the ultimate type-A job. I've had a job at a small company for 2.5 years now. In my time at the company, I've accomplished a meteoric rise through the company ranks, from a skilled non-management position to an executive level position, supervising nine employees (seven of them international) and several divisions. I've started one division for the company, and I recently was promoted to the director of what we hope will be a multi-million dollar new division.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 19, 2011 -
13 answers
I'm really stressed about college right now. My grades are lower than ever (though not terribly low); I'm afraid I just can't do my major or that I'll disappoint my parents or just suck at school. What should my next steps be?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 13, 2011 -
14 answers
I tried starting over. It failed. I am feeling hopeless. I have a small group of friends in my new city, but I don't want to wear them out by being negative or constantly in crisis. I've been in therapy off and on for 15 years and am not in it right now because I don't know if more of it is even what I need.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 19, 2011 -
15 answers
Due to stress, my period has disappeared. I'm caught in seemingly neverending PMS. Is there any way I can summon my period back? Or at least mitigate the symptoms of fatigue, hunger and feeling so emotional?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 24, 2011 -
20 answers
Please advise me on how to help a friend whose reaction to the stock market situation is alarming to me.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 11, 2011 -
19 answers
We are having cut backs at work. One of the office staff was laid-off and I was told directly I would be expected to do her duties along with my current duties. This starts Monday, I and everyone else in the office knows I will not be able to be as efficient as I have been up to now. How can I not stress about this? If my boss jumps on to me I have decided I will just tell her I am doing the best I can. Has anyone else been in this situation and what are some words of advice you can give me to help me through this? (I live in a small town and jobs are scarce, I need to try to keep this job unless something better comes up.)
posted by anonymous
on Jul 24, 2011 -
14 answers
You know those intimidating situations or projects that strike terror into your heart? How do you think and act, even as your body's stress symptoms shoot through the roof?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 30, 2011 -
13 answers
Please recommend a therapist in Houston Texas specializing in financial stress issues.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 24, 2011 -
2 answers
Seven-year-old boy incredibly defensive, takes everything too seriously and overreacts to criticism. Have you been one or had a child like this and can offer advice?
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posted by anonymous
on May 11, 2011 -
23 answers
Does this situation sound like stress-induced erectile dysfunction? What can I do about it?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 30, 2011 -
3 answers
My annual review at work is coming up in three days. I’ve messed up, really bad. I feel like my life is about to be over. How do I get through this?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 12, 2011 -
39 answers
How do I make the most of this quarter, rediscover myself, and recover from hitting rock bottom?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 5, 2011 -
7 answers
