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How can I keep going forward during a series of crises?

My life has been a bit hard for a while now. It has been ruthless #@$* for a few months. I need some strategies to force myself to keep going. Lots of moaning follows. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 10, 2014 - 30 answers

Should I quit my temp job or am I just being fussy?

Last week, after 5 months of unemployment and desperation I managed to get a minimum wage temp job through an agency. On my first day I was incredibly excited to have finally found a job, but quickly realised that I hate it. It's a data entry position, inputting handwritten inventory data into a database. Basically the job is incredibly tedious, there is no variety, I'm doing exactly the same repetitive task for 7.5 hours a day. I'm basically working by myself in an office with other people and can't really talk to anyone because it distracts me. I can't really leave to take a break because the office door is locked and someone has to let me in every time. They are nice to me though and tell me to take regular breaks but there is nowhere to go. [more inside]
posted by fallingleaves on May 18, 2014 - 29 answers

Finding meaningful work and having an awesome marriage

I'm struggling with choosing between a town I don't like, my marriage and starting a career as after graduating in April 2013. Where should I go from here? [more inside]
posted by snowysoul on Jan 31, 2014 - 11 answers

Dealing with stress and comparmentalization.

Problems with the SO, family acting irrationally and Career in a turbulent state. Help me find a way of dealing with the stress! [more inside]
posted by perspicaturous on Jan 23, 2014 - 13 answers

How do I work productively at ANY time in ANY mood?

I have trouble getting work done if I'm not in the right mood, which is a rarity. I've become an extreme avoider of anything that will make me mad or frustrated or remind me of things that make me mad and frustrated. The problem is that I’m the number two in a small, overly-ambitious company that may just be the most frustrating one in existence. So I have what many would call an impossible workload and also a massive amount of frustration. The latter unfortunately usually cancels out the former for me and leads to much more of both. Oh, and I can’t easily quit, because it’s a family business and my boss/dad’s life’s work. Simply put, I need to do a complete 180. I need to go from being an emotionally-scarred avoider to a guy that can do what needs to be done even when he feels like screaming until his lungs explode. Paper thin skin to tank armor. I’ve taken too long to realize that if I don’t solve this now, it may ruin the company and my life. I’ll take whatever you can give me: advice, coping techniques, books or articles I should read, websites and online communities I should visit, specific counseling suggestions (not just “get counseling”), whatever. I just can’t take it anymore. [more inside]
posted by KinoAndHermes on Jan 6, 2014 - 23 answers

How can I best help my depressed friends & also take care of myself?

I watch many people who I care a lot about suffer from depression. I would sincerely do anything to help them, and do whatever I can think of: conversations, little notes and random texts, hanging out, offering help with thinking through options if they want it, etc. But, as someone who is lucky to not have 'been there', it's hard to know when I'm crossing a line and what's really needed. In fact, I think most of my efforts translate to "I know you mean well, but..." even though I'm also one of the few people these friends go to when things get bad. On top of worrying and trying to help, I also spend (probably too much) time thinking about what they're going through and what would be most helpful. It's exhausting for me and stressful, but it's personally not an option not to care. I end up internalizing this stuff and it affects my normal activities, even though at the end of the day, I'm not the one suffering. I want to be as good a friend and resource as possible to these people I truly care about and also want to avoid falling victim to anxiety or depression myself because of it. Any tips from either the 'been there' - depressed and knows what's helpful - perspective or the sincerly-caring-friend side of this equation would be much appreciated. Thanks.
posted by anonymous on Nov 12, 2013 - 15 answers

Even meditating overwhelms me with fear and rage.

I have anxiety and depression, and I'm starting to realise that underneath that is a bubbling fount of rage. I need some suggestions for coping with and dismantling the anger I'm feeling. I didn't realise it before, but I'm angry pretty much all the time, except when I'm with my boyfriend, scared, or distracting myself via escapism. And even then, it's still there. I'm looking in to going back to therapy, and I'm currently on antidepressants. I've tried meditating, but it just stresses me out or gives me panic attacks- to be honest, I hate it. What are some suggestions for coping with this?
posted by windykites on Nov 7, 2013 - 27 answers

Celexa's not working anymore. Should I give Prozac a shot again?

I've been taking Celexa for a year and 9 months. It doesn't work as well anymore, and due to FDA warnings, I don't want to up my dosage anymore (currently at 40mg/day). I took Prozac a dozen years ago and it worked well. Should I switch back to Prozac? [more inside]
posted by Val_E_Yum on Jul 7, 2013 - 13 answers

Keep calm and carry on?

I'm going through a bout of depression and while it isn't affecting my work, it is affecting how I behave at work. I realised today that some of my colleagues have picked up on this change in behaviour. How can I maintain my dignity and privacy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 19, 2013 - 7 answers

Hand Surgery Part Two?

About 8 weeks ago I sliced the flexor profundus tendon that allows the tip of my right pinky to function. I had surgery and have now subsequently re-severed the healing tendon, requiring ANOTHER round of surgery to try to repair again. Should I go through with this? Issues related to post-operative depression, unemployment, and general existentialist angst inside. See previous. [more inside]
posted by jnnla on Apr 16, 2013 - 11 answers

How do you stop a self-sabotage spiral?

My life is spiraling out of control due to constant self-sabotage. How do I start battling this problem? [more inside]
posted by tammi209 on Nov 18, 2012 - 26 answers

How to exit gracefully from an unworkable & unaffordable living situation?

Back in May I cosigned a lease for an apartment with a friend of a friend running from July to July. Thanks to changing circumstances since then, I can't afford it and I have no choice but to get out of the whole arrangement by September, before university starts back up again. The province I'm in has extremely pro-tenant rental laws, so transferring the lease will not be a problem. What concerns me is dropping this bomb on the cosigner, who is 4000 km away until, well, just when I'd have to leave. Since we were introduced in April for the purposes of being roommates, he's also shown himself to be far more naive than he appears when it comes to stuff like this. But I've also committed a huge error in judgement by signing for this place, and I feel guilty for helping to convince him. I've accepted I'll have to burn more than one bridge. But I'm way too overwhelmed by the hundreds of responsibilities have piled up on my shoulders, and need to tell him very soon. How do I make this as quick, painless and guilt-free as is possible? More on the "changing circumstances" inside: read just the bold bits if you're short on time. [more inside]
posted by denmarkstreet on Jul 21, 2012 - 6 answers

Help me not screw up my life!

I got fired from two of my three jobs for absenteeism. For some reason, when I get stressed out in life, I get so down that it's hard to go in. I get sick to my stomach and anxious, it's like I have a panic attack at just the thought of going in. [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Jul 14, 2012 - 22 answers

Mayday! Your input for this guy about to crash?

I feel like a mess and never thought I'd end up here. I'm broke, headed for eviction, jobless, no insurance, on food stamps, overweight, have panic attacks, can't afford a therapist, have no friends that I can talk to about any of this. Did I mention I am 40 and married with two kids? If I don't get a handle on all this, my family is about to hit the skids. Ideas? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 7, 2012 - 31 answers

Depression question: there are many like it, but this is mine.

Dealing with feeling lousy, and possibly capital-D depressed, when swamped with school demands and most of all, terribly uncomfortable with seeing doctors. How? [more inside]
posted by undue influence on Jun 19, 2012 - 8 answers

Help me get my sexy back.

Help me deal with depression/stress-related weight loss and the resulting loss of body image. And how can I healthfully gain it back? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 25, 2012 - 16 answers

Emotions in the mysterious, dark womb.

Did your chronic emotions (good or bad) in early pregnancy affect your child's temperament or health? [more inside]
posted by mild deer on Mar 20, 2012 - 18 answers

Help me keep helping my wife deal with long-term unemployment.

The psychological fallout of my wife's 13-month unemployment is going to make me crack. Please help me deal. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 14, 2012 - 31 answers

How do I get better emotionally and still have a job?

How to deal with severe depression and delusions? Where do I go from here? Special snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Gosha_Dog on Feb 18, 2012 - 7 answers

How can I motivate myself to work?

How can I motivate myself to work? What did you do to help kick yourself in the posterior and get going? Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 31, 2012 - 12 answers

I know I'm lucky to have a job at all, but two is killing me.

I've got two full-time jobs and depression/anxiety. I'm a zombie. Help me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 14, 2011 - 52 answers

Please help me find a purpose in life.

Please help me find a purpose in life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 16, 2011 - 15 answers

Help me out of this pattern

I tried starting over. It failed. I am feeling hopeless. I have a small group of friends in my new city, but I don't want to wear them out by being negative or constantly in crisis. I've been in therapy off and on for 15 years and am not in it right now because I don't know if more of it is even what I need. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 19, 2011 - 15 answers

There comes a time, in every man's life, where decisions have to be made. Whether to toil, to labor, or just plain piss your days away.

This is a long question about what to do with a troublesome parent. It's less a "what would you do" and more a "what is the right thing to do" question. This is the longest question I have ever asked. I'm sorry. [more inside]
posted by TomMelee on Aug 11, 2011 - 29 answers

Please help me

My annual review at work is coming up in three days. I’ve messed up, really bad. I feel like my life is about to be over. How do I get through this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 12, 2011 - 39 answers

Tell me about your mother...

Help me feel less anxious in general but in this specific situation too. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 15, 2011 - 11 answers

Managing anxiety and depression in a stressful job

How do those of you with depression and anxiety manage demanding professional jobs? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 20, 2011 - 11 answers

If I give in, I'm giving in to all the cute, fuzzy bunnies in the world.

All of the places I trust to provide comfort and security, in any form, are imploding. I've already been existing in coping mode; what can I do now (particularly day-to-day)? [more inside]
posted by Madamina on Feb 15, 2011 - 10 answers

Quarter Life Crisis, Redux

When I'm not in school, I feel like my life has totally dead-ended. I'm starting to think that stress and anxiety are the only things that motivate me. How do I stop delaying (and being terrified of) reality and finally become a real (adult) person? The details inside are super long, and I apologize for them in advance. [more inside]
posted by timory on Dec 29, 2010 - 17 answers

How do I 'get happy?'

How do I... feel better? [more inside]
posted by shortbus on Dec 16, 2010 - 47 answers

Is my job killing me?

I'm pursuing a career, but is it at the cost of the rest of my life? [more inside]
posted by beefetish on Dec 1, 2010 - 13 answers

Is my fiancée mourning the loss of being alone

Is my fiancée mourning the loss of being alone? If so, what can I do? [more inside]
posted by PonderousPursuit on Nov 17, 2010 - 61 answers

Help me think happy thoughts

[Stressed not Depressed Filter] Help me think happy thoughts. I feel like I'm sliding down a slippery slope. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 20, 2010 - 15 answers

What can I do to help my severely depressed and overworked boyfriend?

What can I do to help my severely depressed and overworked boyfriend? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 17, 2010 - 11 answers

Am I depressed or just unlucky?

I have had a rough year and my husband thinks I may be depressed, but I think it may just be a rough patch. There are a few things that have happened in my life over the past year or so that are making me bummed out and exhausted almost constantly. What does your experience with depression tell you about my situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 27, 2010 - 22 answers

How do I not go crazy under exam pressure?

I've had to miss two weeks of university lectures due to health reasons and now have a lot of catching up to do before my exams. How do I not go crazy? [more inside]
posted by teraspawn on May 9, 2010 - 5 answers

Help me help my anxious, bipolar, stressed-out friend.

What more can I do to help a very dear friend who suffers from bipolar disorder and is currently having a very difficult time, both as a result of his illness and due to outside factors? I am also bipolar, so I kind of know what he's going through. Lengthy but informative explanation of his circumstances and history follows. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 22, 2010 - 6 answers

These Days

Help me become less selfish/self-absorbed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 14, 2010 - 16 answers

Mom at her wit's end / Therapy in San Diego

My mom has always had high anxiety, been prone to fear and pessimism, and has tended to focus on her fears in a very repetitive, verbal way that is often tiring to those around her. Her situation has worsened recently for several reasons. I want to help her find help. This question is both about therapy in general and for recommendations in San Diego in particular. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 23, 2009 - 9 answers

Should I keep taking Adderall?

I was recently diagnosed with adult ADHD (inattentive type) and put on Adderall. I have very, very mixed feelings about this -- hopeful, because it seems to really be helping me in multiple areas of my life, but also anxious that it is a crutch that I can't use forever. Does anyone have any insight or anecdotes to help me either (1) feel better about being on Adderall, or (2) come up with an alternative plan to manage my issues? [more inside]
posted by dumbledore69 on Oct 19, 2009 - 23 answers

Dealing with stress?

If you give me a checklist of signs of serious stress or depression, I can check off pretty much all of them. Constant anxiety, panic attacks, flares of irritation at trivial things, headaches, feeling the overwhelming urge to break down and cry or just snap and yell at someone, exhaustion, lack of sleep, inability to enjoy my time off and alas heavy loss of libido. How do I cope when I can't escape what's causing me stress? [more inside]
posted by ArkhanJG on Sep 28, 2009 - 32 answers

I am in despair

I think I'm broken. How can I see any hope? [more inside]
posted by lndl on Aug 26, 2009 - 28 answers

How can I work through my work-related anxiety?

Recommendations for overcoming fear and anxiety about work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 6, 2009 - 10 answers

How much is it worth to be worth less?

Have you left a high-paying but bad-fitting job? How and when did you decide to go? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 28, 2009 - 17 answers

I think I might be about to flunk out of college for the second time.

I think I might be about to flunk out of college for the second time. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 30, 2009 - 30 answers

How can I comfort myself instead of leaning on my stressed-out boyfriend?

Help! My boyfriend/roommate has less time for me than he used to, and now I feel like I'm sabotaging my relationship with insecurity and anxiety. Help me deal with this without being crazy and treating my already-stressed boyfriend badly. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 6, 2009 - 18 answers

OK, you've got my life, but I won't get fat, damnit!

I need some suggestions for nutritious foods to eat while I'm trapped in crunch mode at work. [more inside]
posted by pazazygeek on Feb 9, 2009 - 28 answers

Fear The Pill.

Could birth control cause a phobia to rear its ugly head? [more inside]
posted by ElectricBlue on Jun 30, 2007 - 13 answers

I love my boyfriend, but feel tense near him. Why?

I love my boyfriend and enjoy his company. He loves me a lot. Why then do I feel on edge when I'm near him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 9, 2007 - 16 answers

Work = Stressed, No work = depressed. Lame!

I get depressed when I don't have any work to do, but get totally stressed with the workload I usually have. What gives? [more inside]
posted by sdis on Apr 4, 2006 - 17 answers

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