I told my friend about an experience that caused me anxiety in the past. I felt that her responses were tone-deaf and hurtful. Was it? And should I say anything, even though the moment has passed? If so, what should I say?
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posted by orangutan
on May 13, 2013 -
37 answers
She sent me a friend request on Facebook, which I declined, and a tweet on Twitter, which squicks me out even more as I have followers there that I don't want to shut out.
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posted by oogenesis
on Apr 22, 2013 -
14 answers
A woman I'm seeing has an ex who was abusive, and is now back in her life and an active violent threat. Help us respond appropriately.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 3, 2013 -
20 answers
I'm looking for examples of apps, websites, or experiments that have exposed people sharing their information online, or that sought to raise awareness about info being explicitly or accidentally shared. I'd love your help.
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posted by waxpancake
on Jul 3, 2012 -
12 answers
How can I arrange action to be taken against a mentally ill woman who is harassing my family?
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posted by v.barboni
on Feb 28, 2012 -
6 answers
Rejectionfilter: I'm not that into him, told him and now he's causing drama. How do I navigate this situation?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 13, 2011 -
33 answers
Soo...I was doing a search on buses that run to Vegas and the next day, I get email from a couple of Groupon style websites I subscribe to toting their discounts on Vegas bus rides. Note that I did not enter my email address anywhere during my previous search. Coincidence? I think not. How did they make the connection and how can I prevent this type of internet sleuthing by companies?
posted by tastycracker
on Jul 15, 2011 -
9 answers
Utterly delusional letter sent from my ex to my current partner (stating I belong with the ex, am being kept from him, and am currently in love with him). Here is our plan; what do you think?
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posted by anonymous
on May 27, 2011 -
58 answers
Can I obtain a domestic violence restraining order in California against a person who lives in another state?
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posted by anonymous
on May 17, 2011 -
5 answers
My mother stalks me online and it bothers me. How do I get her to stop. Or, an easier question: How do I stop letting it bug me so much?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 16, 2011 -
40 answers
How do I stop my obsession of stalking/thinking of my ex so that I can start liking myself again?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 28, 2010 -
25 answers
Yesterday I received a text message from an excited stranger asking me whether I was ready for some sort of meet-up (possibly a first date) tomorrow (today). I duly yet tongue-in-cheekly informed her that she had the wrong number. Now I'm wondering, on a scale from stalker/freak/weirdo to fun/random/friendly, how inappropriate would it be for me to follow up tomorrow, asking if it went as well as she hoped? (Obviously in a humorous and "I'm aware of how random this is" kinda way)
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posted by spr
on Nov 15, 2010 -
95 answers
I work at a radio station in a big city, and am being harassed by one of our listeners. How to deal?
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posted by frosty_hut
on Jun 23, 2010 -
20 answers
What legal, moral or ethical rights does ex-spouse A have when it comes to controlling ex-spouse B's dating habits, under the guise of protecting their children?
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posted by Ziggy Zaga
on Jun 16, 2010 -
17 answers
OK, I'm pretty sure this issue is creepy, so, brace yourself.
The gist of the issue is that I'll be in public, at the store, the park, whatever, and I'll see someone who I find is very attractive ("wow, I can't believe how hot she is."). But, instead of simply letting that nice moment pass and continuing on my way as normal, I remain distracted, not really able to focus on what it is I was doing or was going to do, for a very long while, up to an hour or more.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 22, 2010 -
94 answers
Tell me what I can do to protect my house and my wife from a creepy guy who has previously had run of our house, but hasn't broken any laws.
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posted by robokevin
on Mar 15, 2010 -
65 answers
I just answered a call from "Unknown number" on my iPhone. (Its my work phone; I sometimes get calls from blocked numbers.) There was silence, followed by three beeps and then the phone made the noise it makes when it is taking a photo, but no photo was saved. That ended the call. What the hell just happened?
posted by anastasiav
on Feb 11, 2010 -
12 answers
My girlfriend is being stalked by a fugitive, what can I do to try and keep her safe, and where can I turn for help.
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posted by digividal
on Nov 1, 2009 -
77 answers
My mom is dealing with the aftermath of a stalking situation. Looking for books and other things that might help her get through it.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 18, 2009 -
6 answers
When does occasional contact from a former colleague turn into stalking? What is the best way to handle unwanted communication from a person for whom rejection may cause real emotional hardship?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 11, 2009 -
19 answers
My ex is still contacting me and begging for another chance more than a year after the breakup. A restraining order is apparently not an option. I can't become unreachable. What can I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 21, 2009 -
44 answers
A few years ago I had a very drunken, but very exciting hook-up with a woman I met at a bar. I never saw her again, but now she's working at my institution. Should I follow up?
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posted by anonymous
on May 8, 2008 -
33 answers
About once a month, I find a roasted peanut on the ledge beside the outside of my front door. Is someone testing to find out if I am in town?
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posted by oats
on Apr 9, 2008 -
22 answers
I've got a cyber-stalker. This isn't a case of "OMG, he won't stop reading my blog!" The guy's got a very clear obsession with me and has been sending me long, rambling messages for about a year. He often brags about the amount of work required to find me online, and I'm concerned, based on things he's said, that he will elevate his research to finding me in person. What can I do to protect my privacy?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 1, 2007 -
42 answers
My husband recently recieved a death-threat via email from a former coworker. We want to know what we can do to track his home address, car, and other stuff, so we don't run into him.
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posted by beezy
on Oct 31, 2007 -
26 answers
If you wanted to track down someone you knew from an online community, given only a username, how would you go about it?
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posted by jojopizza
on Mar 26, 2006 -
16 answers
How are you about being contacted by old friends? Not in the singles scene kind of way, but in the "old friends" kind of way. A general question - not really seeking insight or advice.
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posted by ValveAnnex
on Jun 7, 2005 -
19 answers
Can anyone point me to real-world examples (i.e. news articles) of children/teenagers who have experienced Internet-related stalking/kindapping/harassment?
posted by jeremias
on Jan 6, 2005 -
4 answers
Blogspot harassment. Anyone have any experience? Google's support response was less than helpful. [mi]
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posted by dhartung
on Dec 17, 2004 -
7 answers
