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Late 30yr Little Person keep getting hit by Married (fetish) men. Advice

My case is very similar to this woman's story. Otherwise I feel I'm at my wits end regarding this issue. Would appreciate thoughtful answers, as I've asked this in other forums and have gotten some of the jealous lot who say I must be a flirt, I must dress sexy, I'm a hoe, etc. -- which all are not true and are really the opposite. I have strict rules of having male friends to only past work colleagues, classmates and social circles. [more inside]
posted by sam3cat on Jun 17, 2016 - 17 answers

Dealing w/ Stalkers when trying to publicize + being a Recovering Addict

I've filed a civil harassment order against a former college professor for stalking me online regularly in the last 4 years that has started to take its toll on me. [more inside]
posted by sam3cat on Jun 10, 2016 - 12 answers

How did this person find out my address?

Super creeped out how a guy who only had my first name, cell phone number not billed to my address, town I live in, and birth year could have discovered my mailing address. Help me protect my privacy better in the future! [more inside]
posted by shortskirtlongjacket on Oct 3, 2015 - 27 answers

Did Facebook out me to someone that had blocked me?

I know this is a long shot, but maybe someone here knows exactly how Facebook blocking works. Necessary details under the fold. [more inside]
posted by Promethea on Aug 10, 2015 - 13 answers

My elementary school best friend is stalking me.

A girl I was good friends with in elementary school, sort of friends with in high school, but hadn't talked to since 2002 has been sending me repeated, unwanted, disturbing messages online. They are escalating in weirdness. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 30, 2015 - 25 answers

How to deal with a creepy, stalking customer?

There's a creepy regular who comes into my store and now I've found out he's possibly stalking a woman. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by blackzinfandel on Jun 4, 2015 - 26 answers

Anonymice? Anonymoose?

Should I stop using my name online? Everywhere? Somewhere? With several pseudonyms? Details after the jump. [more inside]
posted by Promethea on Apr 10, 2015 - 8 answers

How to "block" unwanted contact

I've had a stalker for about 4 years. I'm not physically afraid of this person, but this is a nuisance in terms of intrusive, unwanted phone calls, texts, emails, social media. I am just so done with this person not respecting my right to peace in my own home. How do I "block" landline/cell phone when Verizon tells me "no can do?" Details after the fold. [more inside]
posted by alwayson_slightlyoff on Mar 23, 2015 - 21 answers

Dealing with online harassment

For the last several years I've been getting occasional sexually harassing emails and Twitter @ mentions from a specific person - not an ex, almost a stranger. I've read The Gift of Fear and have been doing my best to ignore, but... I have published a book under my real name, and intend to publish more, and I don't want to nuke my whole public Internet presence just to shake this guy. Do I have to? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 6, 2015 - 7 answers

an unwilling muse (or I'm not THAT awesome)

My ex sort of boyfriend has been writing (and publishing) identifying "fiction" about me for nearly seven years. Lately, the stories (my friends forward them to me with worry, they're that identifiable) are darker. What options are available to me to stop it? [more inside]
posted by sweltering on Jan 18, 2015 - 20 answers

Hiding from a stalker

Asking for a friend: How did her stalker find her again? It seems like she's following all the advice out there on staying safe and yet this woman keeps coming back. [more inside]
posted by gilsonal on Dec 31, 2014 - 40 answers

How do you get someone who likes you to stop harassing you?

My brother's too much for me to handle. How can I get him to stop calling and showing up so often? Simply telling him not to do it isn't working; he keeps coming up with dumb excuses for doing it. Though I hate the word 'creepy', what he's doing is what many would consider just that. And his behavior is almost stalker-like. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 15, 2014 - 22 answers

Brain hacks for the mildly stalked?

OK, so...it appears I may have acquired a stalker. A very lazy stalker who only pops up to make his/her presence known every couple of months or so, but a stalker nonetheless. I'm doing my best to ignore this and live my life, but I'm feeling very alone in this and would like to know how I can cognitively address the fact that I have no way to make this person stop. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2014 - 15 answers

How to deal with harassment when most of the evidence has been deleted

One of my good friends is being harassed by a man she dated for a few months in high school. They are both in their late 20s now. [more inside]
posted by sock it to me on May 30, 2014 - 16 answers

Requesting guidance re: stalkerish ex-friend

Hi all, I have a former friend with mental health issues who is somewhat obsessed with me and has been increasingly creeper-ish over the past year. I just found out today that he now lives within 1.5 miles of me and I'm a bit freaked out. Would like to request input/advice re: next steps, partially because I'm not sure how concerned I should be. More after the cut. [more inside]
posted by cardinality on Mar 17, 2014 - 17 answers

Not Exactly Mister Rogers

How do I get my elderly neighbor to stop harassing me? [more inside]
posted by SkylitDrawl on Jan 28, 2014 - 65 answers

How to deal with a stalking e-mail sent to 12 year old girl

My friend's 12 year old daughter just received a disturbing anonymous e-mail. What should my friend do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 22, 2013 - 28 answers

I have unintentionally become an internet stalker

I took "internet stalking" a little too far. It's best to never try to contact this person, right? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 1, 2013 - 27 answers

My feelings were hurt. Should I say anything at all?

I told my friend about an experience that caused me anxiety in the past. I felt that her responses were tone-deaf and hurtful. Was it? And should I say anything, even though the moment has passed? If so, what should I say? [more inside]
posted by orangutan on May 13, 2013 - 37 answers

My abusive mother is now stalking me on Facebook and Twitter. Advice?

She sent me a friend request on Facebook, which I declined, and a tweet on Twitter, which squicks me out even more as I have followers there that I don't want to shut out. [more inside]
posted by oogenesis on Apr 22, 2013 - 14 answers

Trying to evade violent stalker, seeking feedback and advice

A woman I'm seeing has an ex who was abusive, and is now back in her life and an active violent threat. Help us respond appropriately. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 3, 2013 - 20 answers

What can I do to help my brother-in-law not be/stop being a stalker?

What can I do to help my brother-in-law not be/stop being a stalker? [more inside]
posted by msbubbaclees on Dec 31, 2012 - 33 answers

What are examples of apps/sites/experiments that have shamed/exposed people sharing their info online?

I'm looking for examples of apps, websites, or experiments that have exposed people sharing their information online, or that sought to raise awareness about info being explicitly or accidentally shared. I'd love your help. [more inside]
posted by waxpancake on Jul 3, 2012 - 12 answers

I've got a few hangups.

Should I ignore occasional--maybe accidental--hangups from a former coworker? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2012 - 33 answers

Help my family get protection from an unwell, potentially violent woman.

How can I arrange action to be taken against a mentally ill woman who is harassing my family? [more inside]
posted by v.barboni on Feb 28, 2012 - 6 answers

No. You really ARE crazy.

Rejectionfilter: I'm not that into him, told him and now he's causing drama. How do I navigate this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 13, 2011 - 33 answers

How to prevent companies from snooping into my web searches?

Soo...I was doing a search on buses that run to Vegas and the next day, I get email from a couple of Groupon style websites I subscribe to toting their discounts on Vegas bus rides. Note that I did not enter my email address anywhere during my previous search. Coincidence? I think not. How did they make the connection and how can I prevent this type of internet sleuthing by companies?
posted by tastycracker on Jul 15, 2011 - 9 answers

Responding to an ex who's broken with reality

Utterly delusional letter sent from my ex to my current partner (stating I belong with the ex, am being kept from him, and am currently in love with him). Here is our plan; what do you think? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 27, 2011 - 58 answers

You stay in your state, I'll stay in mine.

Can I obtain a domestic violence restraining order in California against a person who lives in another state? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 17, 2011 - 5 answers

Polite Dispensation of Elderly Attentions?

How do I deal with my elderly gentleman stalker? Story inside. [more inside]
posted by thisness on Apr 3, 2011 - 32 answers

Mom, if you're reading this? Please go away!

My mother stalks me online and it bothers me. How do I get her to stop. Or, an easier question: How do I stop letting it bug me so much? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 16, 2011 - 40 answers

Damnit, I have to be social.

How do I keep my offline life private AFTER I sign up for Facebook? [more inside]
posted by hal_c_on on Jan 30, 2011 - 40 answers

I don't want to be a crazy ex-girlfriend.

How do I stop my obsession of stalking/thinking of my ex so that I can start liking myself again? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 28, 2010 - 25 answers

Should I text this stranger?

Yesterday I received a text message from an excited stranger asking me whether I was ready for some sort of meet-up (possibly a first date) tomorrow (today). I duly yet tongue-in-cheekly informed her that she had the wrong number. Now I'm wondering, on a scale from stalker/freak/weirdo to fun/random/friendly, how inappropriate would it be for me to follow up tomorrow, asking if it went as well as she hoped? (Obviously in a humorous and "I'm aware of how random this is" kinda way) [more inside]
posted by spr on Nov 15, 2010 - 95 answers

I'm being harassed in a public-facing job

I work at a radio station in a big city, and am being harassed by one of our listeners. How to deal? [more inside]
posted by frosty_hut on Jun 23, 2010 - 20 answers

The right to control an ex's dating habits?

What legal, moral or ethical rights does ex-spouse A have when it comes to controlling ex-spouse B's dating habits, under the guise of protecting their children? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy Zaga on Jun 16, 2010 - 17 answers

[creepy filter] Is it normal to become this distracted from seeing an attractive person in public?

OK, I'm pretty sure this issue is creepy, so, brace yourself. The gist of the issue is that I'll be in public, at the store, the park, whatever, and I'll see someone who I find is very attractive ("wow, I can't believe how hot she is."). But, instead of simply letting that nice moment pass and continuing on my way as normal, I remain distracted, not really able to focus on what it is I was doing or was going to do, for a very long while, up to an hour or more. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 22, 2010 - 94 answers

How to keep stalker at bay?

Tell me what I can do to protect my house and my wife from a creepy guy who has previously had run of our house, but hasn't broken any laws. [more inside]
posted by robokevin on Mar 15, 2010 - 65 answers

Did a robot call and take over my iPhone?

I just answered a call from "Unknown number" on my iPhone. (Its my work phone; I sometimes get calls from blocked numbers.) There was silence, followed by three beeps and then the phone made the noise it makes when it is taking a photo, but no photo was saved. That ended the call. What the hell just happened?
posted by anastasiav on Feb 11, 2010 - 12 answers

Even moving 2000 miles away didn't help...

My mom stalked my girlfriend's mailing address. This is not okay, right? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 10, 2009 - 72 answers

Please help me keep my girlfriend safe from a stalker

My girlfriend is being stalked by a fugitive, what can I do to try and keep her safe, and where can I turn for help. [more inside]
posted by digividal on Nov 1, 2009 - 77 answers

Recommendations for books dealing with overcoming stalking/harassment?

My mom is dealing with the aftermath of a stalking situation. Looking for books and other things that might help her get through it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 18, 2009 - 6 answers

When does occasional contact from a former colleague turn into stalking?

When does occasional contact from a former colleague turn into stalking? What is the best way to handle unwanted communication from a person for whom rejection may cause real emotional hardship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2009 - 19 answers

How can I get my ex to leave me alone?

My ex is still contacting me and begging for another chance more than a year after the breakup. A restraining order is apparently not an option. I can't become unreachable. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2009 - 44 answers

Other than hope

What does Barack Obama smell like? [more inside]
posted by boy detective on Oct 7, 2008 - 22 answers

Should I follow up with a random hookup?

A few years ago I had a very drunken, but very exciting hook-up with a woman I met at a bar. I never saw her again, but now she's working at my institution. Should I follow up? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 8, 2008 - 33 answers

George Washington Carver is haunting me.

About once a month, I find a roasted peanut on the ledge beside the outside of my front door. Is someone testing to find out if I am in town? [more inside]
posted by oats on Apr 9, 2008 - 22 answers

Can we not be friends?

How do I "break up" with a platonic friend? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 2, 2008 - 26 answers

My roommate is stalking my sister.

My roommate is stalking my sister. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 11, 2007 - 31 answers

How can I keep someone from finding my home address?

I've got a cyber-stalker. This isn't a case of "OMG, he won't stop reading my blog!" The guy's got a very clear obsession with me and has been sending me long, rambling messages for about a year. He often brags about the amount of work required to find me online, and I'm concerned, based on things he's said, that he will elevate his research to finding me in person. What can I do to protect my privacy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 1, 2007 - 42 answers

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