If your spouse catches a cold, how likely are you to catch it from them? [more inside]
posted by ManInSuit on Nov 9, 2009 - 23 answers

Is there a financially beneficial way to bring my spouse on as an employee in my consulting business? [more inside]
posted by teg4rvn on Sep 29, 2009 - 8 answers

Have you lost a spouse at a very young age? How did you cope? [more inside]
posted by mrbill on Jun 21, 2009 - 71 answers

"Trailing spouse" experiences moving to Japan? [more inside]
posted by em on Jun 5, 2009 - 20 answers

Seeking techniques for aiding/supporting/educating a financially irresponsible spouse who talks the talk but won't walk the walk. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 3, 2009 - 27 answers

Please recommend websites/forums where people/couples share their experiences with swinging. [more inside]
posted by rockhopper on May 28, 2009 - 3 answers

Looking for fun ways to tell my SO that the baby we have been trying to make is on the way! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 29, 2008 - 42 answers

My wife and I speak different languages. Is this gonna be a problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2008 - 23 answers

This is in California, a community property state. One spouse has slightly better credit than the other. If only the good credit spouse takes out the mortgage, the interest rate will be 5.25. If good credit and less good credit spouse take out mortgage interest rate will be 5.38. The difference in monthly payment is about $50 a month. Both spouses will be on the title regardless of how the mortgage is handled. Salary will be used to pay the mortgage so any payments made will be community property. One downside of having only good credit spouse on mortgage is that if good credit spouse dies, less good credit spouse will have to refinance at a possibly higher interest rate (mortgage rates are historically low). Are there any other ramifications of having only one spouse on the mortgage?
posted by bananafish on Dec 5, 2008 - 5 answers

I need help helping my severely depressed boyfriend. Caveat: I am severely clinically depressed myself, and don't really know how to be the stable person in a relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2008 - 7 answers

My wife and I have been together for 10 years and for the next few, she is giving me a gift that I fear I can never repay. I recently began medical school at the age of 32 and, as you might imagine, just getting to this point required several serious sacrifices on her part. I've just finished my first "block" and have a week of vacation before the next block begins. I'm at home all day while she's working and I want to spend my time showing her how much I love her, how much I appreciate her sacrifices, and how I realize that I couldn't do this without her. I'm doing the normal things like making nice dinners, cleaning the house, and tackling honey-do items. But what else can I do? I'm looking to the hive to help me be creative. [more inside]
posted by stuboo on Sep 29, 2008 - 15 answers

Seeking recommendations for memoirs published in the past two years. [more inside]
posted by mojohand on Jul 21, 2008 - 8 answers

How soon is too soon to start dating after the death of a spouse? All the websites I've read have been for widows and widowers and tell them not to feel guilty for moving on with their lives after the passing of their loved one. But surely there really *is* such a thing as too soon? [more inside]
posted by jennak on Jun 3, 2007 - 38 answers

Question about infidelity? My spouse recently disclosed an emotional affair with a coworker that has been escalating for the last few months. There hasn't been any sexual contact so far but there is a fear that it's not far off. She wants to end the affair and has told the lover many times to back off. He basically ignores her and continues to persue, recently telling her he loved her etc. She is afraid of repercussions if she were to file a sexual harassment claim, and she also says she doesn't want to destroy his career. Unforuntately we can't afford for her to leave her job (government employee) and she can't avoid seeing him at least for a couple hours each week. There involvement is becoming workplace knowledge so I am expecting it to get easier for her to claim harassment. It's my understanding that once she told him to back off he is legally in violation if he continues to pursue. My question is can I sue him for trying to break up my marriage and my family, if so what grounds?
posted by overweightgeek on Dec 24, 2006 - 50 answers

How do you deal with a spouse that jumps on the bandwagon of everything you do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 9, 2006 - 23 answers

We've been together for a little more than ten years. He's an all around nice level-headed guy and we share many interests. He's very handsome and I am attracted to him still. However, I've cheated on him a couple of times since we've been together. No sex. But recently, the invitation was offered...by me. The invitation was declined - good thing but of course I badly wanted it to happen as the chemistry was intense. It was purely lust in both incidences but neither led to sex. I am wondering why I got married in the first place. I do care for my husband very much and enjoy spending time with him. We go out together, we do day trips, etc. Sex is good but not great. I have tried communicating this with him many times but nothing really changes. Either way, I still love him immensely and love being with him so I'm not sure why I let myself do these things. Naturally, I don't trust myself... After the first time, I tried to work on my "hormones" by focusing only on him but now, I find myself back in the same spot. Should I let him go so he can find someone better (we're both in our mid-30s) or try to change...
posted by anonymous on Jun 11, 2006 - 36 answers

ImmigrationFilter: my good friend is in a serious same-sex romantic relationship with a Bolivian man. They've been a couple for several years, and they would marry if it was possible. They would like to live together as a couple in the US. If they were heterosexuals, they would have wed by now. Since gay marriage isn't exactly recognized by the feds/Immigration & Customs Enforcement, can you help these lovebirds make their nest? [more inside]
posted by evariste on Feb 7, 2006 - 15 answers

I believe my wife is cheating on me. I have confronted her and she's denied it. How can I catch her? [more inside]
posted by dking on Nov 3, 2005 - 57 answers

Need help with a gift for my spouse. She likes to read memoirs (not biographies) focused on food and/or travel. She's mined this category heaviliy, so titles published this year are a plus.
posted by mojohand on Dec 7, 2004 - 27 answers

How do you rediscover your spouse after a few years of doing Really Big Things, and kinda losing each other along the way?
posted by anonymous on Oct 21, 2004 - 11 answers

What do you do when your spouse/partner/significant other is just being plain weird? Or rather, when (s)he's not being overtly bizarre, but is setting off your spider-sense all the damn time? [more inside] [more inside]
posted by LittleMissCranky on Mar 5, 2004 - 39 answers