For the past two and a half years, I've been in a relationship with a Very Nice Man. We are both in our early 40s, and when we met we had both recently left much longer relationships, although neither of us came straight into this. We own our own houses, and neither of us has kids, although we do have pets. So we're fairly stable, with few obvious complications. The Little Big Words were said long ago and are repeated sometimes, and he describes the relationship as serious. There are no significant problems in the relationship, and things are always good when we're together. So what could possibly be wrong? [more inside]
posted by sockasm
on Feb 24, 2014 -
I'm looking for bars/cafes in Hong Kong with a quiet, cozy vibe where I could feel comfortable taking a book and spending a few hours in a relaxing environment. Central/Sheung Wan would be ideal, but I'm open to suggestions anywhere.
posted by modernnomad
on Feb 15, 2014 -
Is there a time to be alone/ How to feel like life is meaningful when I am mostly alone? [more inside]
posted by ichomp
on May 21, 2013 -
People who need a lot of home all alone time – how did you get used to (if you did) living with a spouse or partner? What was the adjustment period like? Also, can you get enough the alone time you need if the other person is in the same house, but not in the same room
What advice would you give to each person in this type of relationship? Anecdotes welcomed on cohabiting with a person who needs lees or more alone time than you.
posted by Lescha
on Apr 11, 2013 -
Do we really "need" romantic love in our lives? Is there a magical point of self-love where one just attracts love from others? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 4, 2012 -
After many years of living a very social life in a very big city I find myself living alone in a very remote part of the world. Seeking advice and insight into a life of solitude. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 31, 2012 -
I keep thinking about solitude. I find myself drawn to the idea of a hermetic retreat lasting a week or more. I think I would like to be off the grid and perhaps even verbally silent for that time. I find myself imagining a facility in the woods of British Columbia that provides for the simplest of material needs and enables real solitude and introspection.
I have found several such retreats on the web but it seems they primarily religion-based and I am thinking I might be uncomfortable in such a situation as I am an atheist.
Have you had such an experience? Can you recommend any facilities that might enable such time? I would love to hear any insights you might have on the topic.
posted by royboy
on Jun 4, 2012 -
I don't know what else to do anymore.
Not asking for advice on taking rejection. [more inside]
posted by Angel of Khaos
on Jan 31, 2012 -
Do you really have to be a very highly confident, self-sufficient, charismatic, successful person before you can have a healthy relationship? [more inside]
posted by sucky_poppet
on Oct 27, 2011 -
I'm hurting after a breakup, and am lucky enough to be leaving tomorrow for just over two weeks on Salt Spring Island. For about half that time, I will be alone and mostly isolated. How can I best use this period of solitude to reflect, refresh and heal myself? [more inside]
posted by yellowbinder
on Oct 4, 2010 -
23-year-old shut-in with no work experience: how can I move to a place with jobs and gain employment? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jul 26, 2010 -
I'm being romanced by a wonderful man. Problem is, he's a super-social extrovert, and I am your classic introvert who needs lots of alone time. Communication is good about this, but I am worried that I am somehow "holding him back". [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on May 20, 2010 -
Everyone has their if-I-win-the-lottery/if-my-company-gets-bought dreams. Mine involves settling down in a small house somewhere to a comfortable life of solitude with all the modern conveniences. But my daydreaming brain has an unfortunate practical streak, insisting on knowing exactly where I could do that, and would it be safe, how could I get food, yadda yadda. [more inside]
posted by Billegible
on Oct 21, 2009 -
I want to spend Jan-Apr of the 2010 season snowboarding in the Salt Lake City resorts. Can you guys help me figure out where to live in SLC (three months at a resort is just too much $$, and plus I'd like to be able to get away from the mountain on the days I don't ride) , and the best way to go about securing a place? [more inside]
posted by Calloused_Foot
on Jun 16, 2009 -
Is it possible to write a story with no hint whatsoever of any other being but one? [more inside]
posted by dnial
on Apr 23, 2009 -
We're desperate to escape Toronto for a week, but we don't want to go to a big resort. In fact, we're basically looking for somewhere like the island on "Lost," without The Others. [more inside]
posted by Beardman
on Feb 1, 2009 -
Fellow introverts, and others who need lots of alone time: How did you deal with becoming a parent? [more inside]
posted by El Curioso
on Jan 31, 2009 -
I need to know how to enjoy my own company. That is, I need to know how to enjoy my own company enough so that I don't have pangs of envy whenever I see long-term acquaintances having a great time with each other and with Facebook photos to show for it. [more inside]
posted by drea
on Jun 7, 2008 -
I am looking for some fiction where the main character is a loner and seems to be OK with it. (possible spoilers) [more inside]
posted by bitteroldman
on Nov 11, 2007 -
Am I normal? Our company recently closed its New York office and asked some of us to stay on and work from home. At first it was heavenly, but now, nearing the end of month two, I think I'm starting to go a bit balmy from lack of stimulation and human contact. Is it me? Or is this somewhat normal?
posted by cookie googleman
on Oct 9, 2007 -
Solitude on the Atlantic Coast or Gulf of Mexico? I am looking to get away for about 4 days sometime this month for some R&R by myself. I would prefer to be by the water, away from crowds, maybe in a hammock or sitting by a pool. I will spend most of my time reading, writing, napping, and maybe walking. I wouldn't mind some healthy food. A massage would be a bonus. It could be at a hidden away resort, a cabin, or a spa. Price isn't really an issue. I would prefer to be within a few hours drive to a major airport. I am just looking for somewhere to chill out and find some much needed solitude. Where should I go?
posted by jasondigitized
on Jun 27, 2007 -
Which books (or movies) have a similar survivalism theme as 'I am Legend' by Richard Matheson? The specific theme I'm looking for: one person, fighting to hold on to their sanity without the support of any other people. Not necessarily postapocalyptic, just a person struggling to maintain their humanity despite limited/no other human contact.
posted by philomathoholic
on Mar 16, 2007 -
If you wanted to be completely alone, by which I mean away from people, for say, a year, where would you go? The pacific comes to mind... [more inside]
posted by phrontist
on Dec 21, 2004 -