I've lived my whole life in the Midwest/Rust Belt and the South. A year ago, I moved to Boston, and I am floundering, struggling really hard to adapt to the aggressive conversational style people have here. I feel like I can't get a word in, can't ever finish a sentence, never get a positive or encouraging reaction to anything I say, and spend most of my time smiling and nodding stupidly as others talk over me. I know I need to "be more assertive" and "grow a thicker skin" and whatever, but... how? [more inside]
Does the relative treatment of second and third parties vary by culture? [more inside]
I am taking a very new, unique class this semester at my university, which has a final project related to "breaking social norms." The teacher implied the project should most likely have some videotaping or physical results, and manipulate social norms for a better/more positive outcome. Sky is the limit on this project, there are very few guidelines and boundaries, and I'm not sure where to go with it. Suggestions? [more inside]
How do I get better at managing multiple social cues? [more inside]
Are there any books that discuss morals as a kind of social norm?
How many ice cream samples is too many? [more inside]
I'm getting frustrated and increasingly upset by others' rose-tinted, idealized notions about youth and the pursuit of happiness (e.g., this very popular sideblogged comment). [more inside]
What am I missing because most people think it is too dangerous; even though you know it is just fine? [more inside]
Every morning, I wash my hair. Then I leave for work, while my hair's still damp/wet. Does this make me... weird? [more inside]
Over the course of my personal life I have noticed a trend of not shaking women's hands when first meeting them in social settings. What is the proper way to greet women in a first meeting in a public setting? [more inside]
sameoldrelationshipstuff filter: Like many of us, I have fears about my relationship. Does she really love me? etc. One thing that's starting to drive me crazy is that I want more affection than she wants to give. I know everyone is different, blah blah blah, but just so I can have some perspective, can you guys tell me: how often do you smooch your sweety? Do you tell him you love him every day? Do you expect a hug when he gets home from work? If he asks you for some attention - do you give it to him, or run the other way? Help me understand what is normal - or at least average!