For much of my life I dealt with rather severe depression and anxiety, which I've recently overcome with nearly 3 years of therapy. I'm 24 years old, trying to find a meaningful career that's more than just a paycheck. At this point, all I want to do is be a therapist. I want to help others the way that I've been helped. However, another issue I've been working to overcome is crippling social anxiety. It's gotten much better; I hardly consider myself shy anymore. Still, though, I'm not sure if I have the warm, trust-inspiring personality a therapist should have. Could I be a successful therapist if I'm far quieter and more reserved than the norm? I do love people and want to help, but sometimes I might not come across that way. Can a shy person be a good therapist?
I'm often told that I take things too literally or serious. What can I do to lighten up a bit and help my brain out? [more inside]
I'm a social scientist heading off to do a year of field research, which will include lots and lots and lots of interviewing. What tools to you recommend to keep all your interviewees' data straight, and to show how they are connected to each other? [more inside]
What could I study, learn, and eventually do (for a career or otherwise) that would help the most amount of people in the most meaningful way? [more inside]
Do people (especially men) tend to assume that a newly single woman of >45 must be desperate for a new partner, or am I misinterpreting normal conversational gambits? [more inside]
Listening to NPR I heard them saying, a little too casually, that "Generation Y is preparing for a future without any Social Security benefits". REALLY?? I did _NOT_ get that memo. [more inside]
How can I make money (or at least get my tab paid for) organizing outings and events at different local bars, restaurants, theaters, etc? [more inside]
What can I do right now, to reduce my loneliness? [more inside]
What kinds of volunteer opportunities provide significant interaction with other volunteers? (And any suggestions for specific organizations in the DC area?) [more inside]
These days, what sorts of URLs are people likely to put in a "home page" field for their online directory listing? While some folks do indeed still have what I think of as an old-school home page, what other sorts of places might such a link lead to? Some possibilities I thought of so far are a flickr account, facebook account, linked-in, a business page rather than a personal page, 404's, and the occasional unintentional link-farm or porn takeover of expired domains. I'm looking for other landing page types that may be joining old-school home pages as increasingly common personal web address identifiers.
I have a personal goal to do karaoke in the future. It's not because I enjoy making a spectacle of myself in public or want to show off my singing voice (to the contrary!), it's because I currently have severe social phobia. I think doing something that anxiety-inducing would be a great stepping stone and I'd also like to use that hopefully positive experience as a marker for how far I've come. What songs would suit an otherwise mediocre female voice that surprisingly sounds decent singing There Is A Light That Never Goes Out by The Smiths and most of Bohemian Rhapsody by Queen? I'd prefer if the songs are available on your average bar's jukebox, but feel free to suggest obscure songs. Genre does not matter.
How Do You "Break Up" with Another Dude? I think I remember my present problem turning up on Seinfeld or Friends or something, which makes sense because it's kind of absurd. When a romantic relationship no longer functions, there are some established processes and social mores. When a regular friendship maybe needs to end or be heavily renegotiated, the way to proceed is much less clear. Help? [more inside]
What do you say to friends or acquaintances when passing each other while walking in opposite directions? [more inside]
I suspect I have Body Dysmorphic Disorder and Avoidant Personality Disorder. My current psychiatrist is only treating me for Social Anxiety/selective mutism. During our first session he did not focus on what I consider to be the disorders causing me to remain homebound and avoidant of people. [more inside]
Is there anything I can say to discourage my socially-anxious friend from giving pedantic lectures? [more inside]
(Spain) Spanish Social Movements: What sites and literature can I look into to get up to date with social movements on the ground in Spain currently?
(Spain) Spanish Social Movements: What sites and literature can I look into to get up to date with social movements on the ground in Spain currently? [more inside]
How do I find contacts that work in corporate social responsibility at CISCO or other companies? [more inside]
You all have met some of those non-responsive people in your life. You engage in a rather personal and/or meaningful cyber-conversation and ask open-ended, non-intrusive questions. After a few exchanges, bam, suddenly, no reply, no apology, no nothing. [more inside]
I believe you when you tell me that we've met before, this time you've got my interest, this time you've got the floor
How can I get better at talking to new people? [more inside]
I am looking for theories of political/social movement (i.e. dance, performance not ideological) for a research paper on the Mass Games in North Korea, a large-scale spectacle including gymnastics, music, dance and art performed for Kim Jung-Il.
Tips on how to be less patronising and condescending [more inside]
Can I sue my former employer for leaking my social security number, email address and physical address? [more inside]
Are there any sites out there that work on a principle similar to gnod, but for finding web sites you might like? i.e. You input sites that you like, and it gives you a list of other sites you might also like.
Orlando adventure update and please share some tips for loneliness [more inside]
For a long time now I've been aching to feel part of a larger community. Have you ever felt this way? How did you handle it? Have you ever built or been a part of a tight-knit social circle or community that lasted? [more inside]
What are some definitive online and published print resources on socially responsible investment fund ownership in Europe?
I work in health communications and have spend a couple of years now engaging with adult patients and the public using Facebook and Twitter. Now I need to understand how to communicate with a much younger age group using social networks - but have no idea where to start... [more inside]
Should I try online dating or stick to hoping to meet someone in the outside world? More details inside. [more inside]
Please recommend good websites and blogs about computer/internet/social media security issues, someplace where I can find out about the latest scams, phishing attempts, malware, etc. I don't really like Snopes, due to the pop-under ads (what is up with that, anyway?). Thank you.
I'm looking for a creative and/or active, social hobby. Interests and restrictions inside. [more inside]
My company iPhone app is now live. What do I need to make sure I don't forget when it comes to getting the right people to know about it? [more inside]
I am currently looking for companies, viral social media marketing firms who have clients in the entertainment industry or similar to the ones on the company's clients page. I need mefite help....anyone know any?
A colleague and I are writing a book chapter on social media, and we have been unable to find or make up terms for one distinction we would like to make. What is a good, compact term for 'information that is endorsed or supported by a credentialed expert on the subject or is agreed to be true by a community of experts'? [more inside]
I want to have an apartment that people congregate at. What makes an apartment a fun hang out spot? [more inside]
How can I overcome my anxiety over Facebook and other highly interactive social media? [more inside]
[Life Path/Career Advice Filter]: How can someone a person with diagnosed depression work in the field of social justice?
[Life Path/Career Advice Filter]: How can someone a person with diagnosed depression work in the field of human rights and social justice? [more inside]
I'm doing an online community + linguistics project. What sites in non-English languages are like Metafilter? [more inside]
I want to provide as many different communication channels between my students and me this semester. Which ones should I use? [more inside]
2 part question: 1. I used to be a member of a movie site which made recommendations based on your likes and your friends likes and movies of a similar genre, but I've forgotten what it was called. Do you know of a site like that? Maybe I can recover my membership if I can find it again! 2. Can you recommend a social network for the cinema? Preferably one with similar characteristics to the one i used to know, with a good number of European & British, as well as US, content & users.
I'm a woman in my 30s. Six months ago, I moved cities to be with my boyfriend. Things with him are going pretty well, but I really, really miss my old friends, and I really need to make some new friends. How can I make some new friends? [more inside]
How can I deal with fake profiles of myself showing up all over the internet? [more inside]
I seem to have a neverending list since adulthood of people that just simply do not like me, and increasingly shorter list of those that do. How do I become less of an asshole? [more inside]
How do I find some not-yet-famous Paul Grahams and Seth Godins? I'd like to put together a small circle of bright iconoclasts for regular online conversations. Graham and Godin would be perfect, but they're otherwise engaged. How do I find people who are curious, wise, and highly verbal, but haven't (yet) attracted large audiences?
How do you elicit respect -- while still being liked -- in a supervisory position? [more inside]
I have a small business and was looking at a new social relationship management website. In the comment box, somebody said the whole SRM concept is dead and has been for months. [more inside]
If you hadn't sent me after that snipe, I would've had plenty of time to put better slides together.
Should I tell my professor that I'm pretty sure he gave me an incorrect reference, which cost me a good deal of preparation time on an assignment, or is this the kind of thing I'm expected to be able to deal with easily? [more inside]
Sources about social and economic impact of groundnut growing in Africa. Groundnut=Peanut [more inside]
"Of all eloquence a nickname is the most concise; of all arguments the most unanswerable." - Wacky Bill
Under what circumstances can you assign someone an affectionate nickname? [more inside]
How to I do effectively go from being a few friends person to being a many friends person? For most of my life I was the kind of person who had a small, intense circle of friendship and now I have a much larger and less focused social sphere - and I'm having trouble managing it and making sure I spending enough time with people - not feeling guilty about not seeing people for weeks - having people who are friendly but not your super duper friends - and just dealing with suddenly having a much, much larger social world when you're used to a private, focused one.
What do you think are the most interesting / surprising / perspective-changing findings in social/cognitive psychology?
What do you think are the most interesting / surprising / perspective-changing findings in social/cognitive psychology? I'm preparing a talk for a German hacker conference (27c3), mainly about cogsci & socpsych. Bonus points if it's something that has some element of demonstrating bias / illusion / manipulability, or if it can have a quick actual demonstration, since I try to make my talks as audience-interactive as possible. [more inside]