I seem to have a neverending list since adulthood of people that just simply do not like me, and increasingly shorter list of those that do. How do I become less of an asshole? [more inside]
How do I find some not-yet-famous Paul Grahams and Seth Godins? I'd like to put together a small circle of bright iconoclasts for regular online conversations. Graham and Godin would be perfect, but they're otherwise engaged. How do I find people who are curious, wise, and highly verbal, but haven't (yet) attracted large audiences?
How do you elicit respect -- while still being liked -- in a supervisory position? [more inside]
I have a small business and was looking at a new social relationship management website. In the comment box, somebody said the whole SRM concept is dead and has been for months. [more inside]
If you hadn't sent me after that snipe, I would've had plenty of time to put better slides together.
Should I tell my professor that I'm pretty sure he gave me an incorrect reference, which cost me a good deal of preparation time on an assignment, or is this the kind of thing I'm expected to be able to deal with easily? [more inside]
Sources about social and economic impact of groundnut growing in Africa. Groundnut=Peanut [more inside]
"Of all eloquence a nickname is the most concise; of all arguments the most unanswerable." - Wacky Bill
Under what circumstances can you assign someone an affectionate nickname? [more inside]
How to I do effectively go from being a few friends person to being a many friends person? For most of my life I was the kind of person who had a small, intense circle of friendship and now I have a much larger and less focused social sphere - and I'm having trouble managing it and making sure I spending enough time with people - not feeling guilty about not seeing people for weeks - having people who are friendly but not your super duper friends - and just dealing with suddenly having a much, much larger social world when you're used to a private, focused one.
What do you think are the most interesting / surprising / perspective-changing findings in social/cognitive psychology?
What do you think are the most interesting / surprising / perspective-changing findings in social/cognitive psychology? I'm preparing a talk for a German hacker conference (27c3), mainly about cogsci & socpsych. Bonus points if it's something that has some element of demonstrating bias / illusion / manipulability, or if it can have a quick actual demonstration, since I try to make my talks as audience-interactive as possible. [more inside]
Hell is waking up to two traveling Australians I've never met sleeping in my living room for six days.
How can a quiet and reserved person make living with very social individuals work? What's the best way to reconcile each side's concerns about the living situation? [more inside]
In balancing my budget, I found that I have, while not champagne tastes, microbrew tastes on a PBR budget. Help me brainstorm ways to drink on the cheap! [more inside]
Where can we find awesome posters & prints that are dedicated to public health and social justice themes? [more inside]
Help my mom find her social bearing in the South. [more inside]
Following your bliss, writing mentor edition -- how can positive experiences with mentoring and writing lead me to a career I'll love? [more inside]
Social Media Groupies: I need ideas and input for implementing a process for creating and maintaining content for a fundraiser. [more inside]
Need to get up to par in 2010 web training--social media, mobile devices, SEO/SEM...where in Chicago can I get this minus a degree? [more inside]
How, as a blondiepants white girl, can I successfully participate in discussions about Black hair? [more inside]
Looking for advice on avoiding undergraduate regret... [more inside]
How can I get out and meet people with -zero- financial cost? [more inside]
I'm in the process of developing an online community (for a fairly specific industry/group of people) and was hoping to hear from others about their experiences during the early months/first year of getting an online community to grow. [more inside]
Finding friends at college? [more inside]
Does Germany have its own LinkedIn? Is there a strong professional social networking community in Germany apart from LinkedIn, in the way France has viadeo? China and Japan are also of interest, but I care most about Germany. For the sake of future readers, other countries are welcome. Does not have to be in English.
Help me find a speech on secrecy introducing the experience of having high clearance. It was an excerpt from a book, and was a speech given from someone who already had clearance to a state official who was about to gain such clearance. Involved how one's attitude changes over time. I think I saw it on boingboing or kottke but my google-fu is failing so far. [more inside]
Some questions about creating a modern (online) web/graphic design portfolio... [more inside]
Is there any way to have Facebook tell me who dropped off my friends list?
I have a fear that people will perceive my intentions as the exact opposite of what they really are. I'm scared the people who I feel friendly towards will perceive me as hostile, rude, or uncaring. I worry that those I love the most will think I don't care. What the heck is my problem? And what can I do to straighten myself out? [more inside]
I want to learn as much as possible about the psychology of purposely forming new habits (like exercising each day) or sticking to something which requires daily work (like learning a language). I am especially interested in the role that social pressure of peers can play in a person's success (Alcoholics Anonymous, study partners, even the recent findings that a person's weight is related to the weight of those close to them may be examples). Books, articles, jumping off points -- academic or otherwise -- would be very much appreciated!
I want to host a tasteful grown-up party. I have never done this before... [more inside]
How do I become one of those people who makes everyone they talk to feel great? With bonus: how to manage the situation gracefully if this is taken as a come-on... [more inside]
Do you have any advice for me in this strained but simple social situation with coworkers & boss? [more inside]
Socialise me! [more inside]
A couple of years ago, an acquaintance invited me to join a book club that met on Wednesday nights. I joined and came to meetings for several months. Then, one night, I walked in on Thursday night book club by accident... [more inside]
Mr. DeludingMyself is turning 30 in September, and isn't entirely pleased with the idea. I know I can't stop him from being upset about the big 3-0, but I want to come up with something to make the day itself awesome. [more inside]
Are British people kind of socially retarded or is it normal for them to not be chatty and friendly with people they don't know well? [more inside]
Recently visited a website, social advocacy, that had twitter icons as the page background of people joining the movement. New people joining would come in at the upper left. Anyone remember the site?
I haven't thrown a party since I graduated last year, and I'm not sure that Cheetos and beer pong will do this time around. How do I make sure that the upcoming get-together I'm hosting is a success? [more inside]
I was "homeschooled" from age 11 to 18 by emotionally/verbally abusive and neglectful parents. During this time I was deprived of contact with the outside world, an education, medical care, and much needed therapy and medication for what is obvious to most people in the world except my parents. [more inside]
I'm an American guy in my mid-late twenties living in Melbourne, Australia for (at least) the next eight months. My social life was quite exciting when I first moved here during late summer, but lately it feels a bit stagnant at times. I'm looking for ideas of activities to get involved with, to make use of my free time and help me connect with new people (friends of both sexes, plus THE LADIES). [more inside]
What's the best way to manage multiple social media streams? [more inside]
Why can't I tweet from my facebook statuses? Is there a way to do that? [more inside]
A girl I am currently living with and working with abroad has the terrible habit of unknowingly chewing all of her food with her mouth open and making a terribly annoying sound. We´re friendly though not best friends. Do I tell her? I feel like I would only be doing her a favor but I haven´t known her that long and I don´t know if it´s my place to intervene. Thoughts?
What should I do with Facebook, Twitter, Blogger, Livejournal, Flickr, Tumblr and my own website? [more inside]
A couple of wannabe college students showed up at my door asking if I would be interested in a $1,500 home security system and lifetime service in exchange for posting a security company sign in my front yard. They left me a card to fill out that asked for all my crucial information, including social security number and date of birth, that had boxes to check for accepting, or rejecting, the promotional offer. The card they left didn't have the name of the alarm company on it, a website address, phone number, nada. What do the guys get out of it? The company pays them $500 toward their tuition for every customer they sign up. What does the company get out of it? Supposedly, free lawn signeage/advertising.
Hey you fancy phone app developers... how do you usually charge when you're doing an app for a licensor? What's standard? What kinds of contracts and stipulations do you sign? What kinds of fee structure? And what are the things a SMART licensor should really know and pay attention to along the road while building a new app for the public? (I hope these questions make sense.) [more inside]
Infographics: How to visualize a country? [more inside]
I'm moving into a new neighborhood where a lot of nice people live. I'd love to meet them and make some new friends. But I'm dealing with some weight issues and therefore have low self-confidence, not to mention being a natural introvert. How do I get through this in a positive way? [more inside]
Shelfari vs. Good Reads vs. Library Thing. I know it's subjective, but could you tell me the benefits of one or all three? [more inside]
Social media? Great! But what do you charge and deliver? [more inside]
I am interested in learning more about legitimate old-school marketing applied to the web, including how it relates to SEO, web analytics, usability testing, email campaigns, social media, etc. I'm looking for books and other resources to help me learn the basics of both technology and philosophy. [more inside]
I've just graduated with my Master's in Social Work and am waiting to be approved to take the licensing exam in my state. Getting a job without a license is veeeery difficult. Also difficult: paying my bills when I have no income. I know opportunities will present themselves once I'm licensed but...any ideas as to what I can do to make money for a few months in the interim? So far it's babysitting and the food service industry... but is there anything even slightly social service-related I can do part-time? Or just easy, temporary gigs? Get rich quick schemes? Thanks all!