Help me understand the role caffeine might play in moderate to severe anxiety, intrusive thoughts (that I'm in danger) and occasional panic attacks. I'm perplexed by elimination of what I consider to be relatively low caffeine intake. Interested in others' experiences. [more inside]
How to maintain online privacy and NOT be searchable as someone else's friend social networking friend? [more inside]
I just checked my retirement account. Last year, I lost about 7% of the total after ten years of contributions. Is this happening to everybody? [more inside]
Where to hang out and have fun in the union square area of San Francisco? [more inside]
Ways to get out and relieve cabin fever late at night, and maybe even be somewhat social? [more inside]
TL;dr, I have a very clingy friend. [more inside]
How can I revolutionize the way I think about and organize my Facebook friends? [more inside]
I'm done with freezing up when I talk. Help me become a better conversationalist. [more inside]
Have you ever reported anyone for Social Security or other entitlement benefit fraud? What came of it? [more inside]
Coworker definitely has a social disorder (undiagnosed) and the suggestions given by my boss to handle the situation have not worked and I've become very anxious and have difficulty keeping myself from acting out towards this person when they continue with the unsettling behavior. [more inside]
Socially Awkward around women [more inside]
Catch-up-the-North-American-filter: Please suggest films that I can watch to get up on the socioeconomic situation in Britain, leading up to the current unrest. Bonus if it's streaming on Netflix. Documentary or not.
Help me name my social entrepreneur ideas network? I want to create an online idea-exchange for social entrepreneurs. They'd share their problems and help each other find solutions. I'm really struggling to find a good name for the website... [more inside]
I'm in contention for a job as a social media marketing and advertising representative at a medium sized music hardware-related company. Basically, I haven't found a great idea of how much I should ask for as far as salary. Additionally, I don't know what else to ask for in this job as I've never held a salaried position in my life. [more inside]
I have a problem. When I decide I don't like someone, it's very hard for me to act as if everything is okie dokie especially if I have to work with them. I am usually bubbly and talkative but when I'm around an individual or a couple of people who rub me the wrong way, it's hard to hide my dissatisfaction with them so my mood becomes mellow and almost somber for the event or gig. How do I change that to become an enagaging, genuine person even when I have judged them to be what I feel they are to me? I'm kinda introverted too.
Under what circumstances is it acceptable to laugh at one's own joke, and what are the social implications of doing so? [more inside]
Fix me: I'm a jerk! After 8 years at my work place, today was my last day. I didn't expect any gifts. A "party/lunch" was to happen after our morning work period, but due to extenuating circumstances (namely a huge leak causing damage) the party/lunch didn't occur. Instead I was given my gift/cards intermittently between cleaning up. I was gifted a nicely wrapped present with three cards on it. I opened the first card and written in it was a heartfelt message, I put it as well as the others aside, knowing that if I read them, I would probably cry. Turns out, one of them contained a generous gift card. I feel awful for not opening and properly thanking the givers in front of them. Of course I'll write them a nice thank you note, but should I call or email them now and explain myself?
Expert googler help needed! [more inside]
I'm 31. I'd like to make some friends who are older than I am--even significantly older. How can I go about this? [more inside]
Help me become my organization's social media guru! [more inside]
I have a weird brain that needs fixing. Any recommendations for NHS advice/private psychiatric recommendations in London? [more inside]
I've pruned my facebook friends list quite a bit. Am I going overboard or should I "refriend" some back? [more inside]
What do I say to racist friends? A guy I know makes racist jokes, and I don't know how to call him on it because he's technically not disparaging me? [more inside]
Interested in changing my career PT, Lawyer, Teacher? ..but what should I know before. [more inside]
How can a professional poker player turned college graduate transition into a "real" job? [more inside]
Please help me salvage this situation, if possible. I accidentally said something racist to someone I want to be my friend. [more inside]
Am I being unreasonable or should I be looking for new friends? [more inside]
(in theory) I'm a manager, how do I get my staff to start treating me like it? [more inside]
Some bothersome social anxiety issues...should I seek medication/treatment? [more inside]
For much of my life I dealt with rather severe depression and anxiety, which I've recently overcome with nearly 3 years of therapy. I'm 24 years old, trying to find a meaningful career that's more than just a paycheck. At this point, all I want to do is be a therapist. I want to help others the way that I've been helped. However, another issue I've been working to overcome is crippling social anxiety. It's gotten much better; I hardly consider myself shy anymore. Still, though, I'm not sure if I have the warm, trust-inspiring personality a therapist should have. Could I be a successful therapist if I'm far quieter and more reserved than the norm? I do love people and want to help, but sometimes I might not come across that way. Can a shy person be a good therapist?
I'm often told that I take things too literally or serious. What can I do to lighten up a bit and help my brain out? [more inside]
I'm a social scientist heading off to do a year of field research, which will include lots and lots and lots of interviewing. What tools to you recommend to keep all your interviewees' data straight, and to show how they are connected to each other? [more inside]
What could I study, learn, and eventually do (for a career or otherwise) that would help the most amount of people in the most meaningful way? [more inside]
Do people (especially men) tend to assume that a newly single woman of >45 must be desperate for a new partner, or am I misinterpreting normal conversational gambits? [more inside]
Listening to NPR I heard them saying, a little too casually, that "Generation Y is preparing for a future without any Social Security benefits". REALLY?? I did _NOT_ get that memo. [more inside]
How can I make money (or at least get my tab paid for) organizing outings and events at different local bars, restaurants, theaters, etc? [more inside]
What can I do right now, to reduce my loneliness? [more inside]
What kinds of volunteer opportunities provide significant interaction with other volunteers? (And any suggestions for specific organizations in the DC area?) [more inside]
These days, what sorts of URLs are people likely to put in a "home page" field for their online directory listing? While some folks do indeed still have what I think of as an old-school home page, what other sorts of places might such a link lead to? Some possibilities I thought of so far are a flickr account, facebook account, linked-in, a business page rather than a personal page, 404's, and the occasional unintentional link-farm or porn takeover of expired domains. I'm looking for other landing page types that may be joining old-school home pages as increasingly common personal web address identifiers.
I have a personal goal to do karaoke in the future. It's not because I enjoy making a spectacle of myself in public or want to show off my singing voice (to the contrary!), it's because I currently have severe social phobia. I think doing something that anxiety-inducing would be a great stepping stone and I'd also like to use that hopefully positive experience as a marker for how far I've come. What songs would suit an otherwise mediocre female voice that surprisingly sounds decent singing There Is A Light That Never Goes Out by The Smiths and most of Bohemian Rhapsody by Queen? I'd prefer if the songs are available on your average bar's jukebox, but feel free to suggest obscure songs. Genre does not matter.
How Do You "Break Up" with Another Dude? I think I remember my present problem turning up on Seinfeld or Friends or something, which makes sense because it's kind of absurd. When a romantic relationship no longer functions, there are some established processes and social mores. When a regular friendship maybe needs to end or be heavily renegotiated, the way to proceed is much less clear. Help? [more inside]
What do you say to friends or acquaintances when passing each other while walking in opposite directions? [more inside]
I suspect I have Body Dysmorphic Disorder and Avoidant Personality Disorder. My current psychiatrist is only treating me for Social Anxiety/selective mutism. During our first session he did not focus on what I consider to be the disorders causing me to remain homebound and avoidant of people. [more inside]
Is there anything I can say to discourage my socially-anxious friend from giving pedantic lectures? [more inside]
(Spain) Spanish Social Movements: What sites and literature can I look into to get up to date with social movements on the ground in Spain currently?
(Spain) Spanish Social Movements: What sites and literature can I look into to get up to date with social movements on the ground in Spain currently? [more inside]
How do I find contacts that work in corporate social responsibility at CISCO or other companies? [more inside]
You all have met some of those non-responsive people in your life. You engage in a rather personal and/or meaningful cyber-conversation and ask open-ended, non-intrusive questions. After a few exchanges, bam, suddenly, no reply, no apology, no nothing. [more inside]
I believe you when you tell me that we've met before, this time you've got my interest, this time you've got the floor
How can I get better at talking to new people? [more inside]
I am looking for theories of political/social movement (i.e. dance, performance not ideological) for a research paper on the Mass Games in North Korea, a large-scale spectacle including gymnastics, music, dance and art performed for Kim Jung-Il.
Tips on how to be less patronising and condescending [more inside]