I have some talent at drawing, but I'm awful at accepting compliments about it, and paranoid about coming off as arrogant (...I could barely type the word 'talent' just then). Help me be less awkward and accept compliments with more dignity! [more inside]
About a decade ago I started University in the UK. Towards the end of my first year a friend I made began to become paranoid. His behaviour towards me was particularly troubling, and eventually rumours circulated that he had been institutionalised. I have always wondered what happened to him, and if he is OK. My concerns linger these many years later, but tracking him down online has achieved nothing. Is there any way I can find out if everything turned out alright for him, preferably without causing too many ripples? [more inside]
I grew up as a painfully shy, socially anxious extrovert. No friends that weren't online, could not talk to anyone. This was not a fun combination, so after Highschool I worked on fixing it and I've gotten better. I can make small talk, break the ice, carry on a general conversation. But this is not what I want. [more inside]
Have you successfully made an intentional transition from introversion (socialization = draining) to extroversion (socialization = sustaining)? If so, please step inside and share your insights with me. [more inside]
Now that WeEndure is going away, I need somewhere to track my exercise. There are a number of places that have biking and running, but not swimming. I'd prefer simpler to the more complex sites like MapMyRun (which, again, doesn't do swimming, from what I can see). I have seen this and wondered what things are out there, four years later. Bonus: a place that I can dump all my WeEndure data into so I hit the ground running. [more inside]
Recently in a social situation I was asked my thoughts on a budgeting item and I gave it along with a solution that I had given thought to and was planning on presenting to the budget chair. (We work in different departments but run things past each other on occasion). One of the people at the gathering was a woman with political ambitions for our small town. A few days later she wrote a letter to the editor that gave my exact idea. What would you do? On the plus side it was very well received, OTH it was mine. I realize I should have said nothing and it was my mistake. I figure people that were there would know it wasn't hers and hopefully someone will point that out. Can I address it or should I leave it?
I recently discovered Commander Chris Hadfield's excellent Twitter stream, and would love suggestions for other great "tweeters" that I am currently missing out on. [more inside]
I've asked similar questions on here, but I'm now focusing on one of my behaviours--Talking way too much, way too soon. I'm in France on exchange, and while I've made friends and calmed down a lot since my last question, I'm still in the habit of monopolizing conversations (ughhhh) and generally being an intense weirdo due to my social anxiety. I'm generally confident and extroverted and was improving on my intense-crazy communication style quite a bit, but this trip is bringing out the worst of my social anxiety bad habits. Please help! [more inside]
I ran into someone at a party that I'd previously met briefly in a clinical setting (in a position of authority), but I lacked the social tact to refrain from mentioning this. Is there anything I could have done to right the situation? [more inside]
Hello. I'm curious about why Facebook members use the TripAdvisor Facebook app and / or other FB travel applications. Can you tell me why you use them? Apparently, the TripAdvisor app has 32 million users inside Facebook every month. But what's so good about it, that it attracts such a large user-base? Thanks for reading.
I want this: 1) highlight portion of any website, including embedded youtube, images, text, what have you. 2) click bookmarklet. Optional step 3) a new window pops up, allowing me to add a note. 4) a subscribeable RSS feed receives a new entry, whose title is a link back to the website in step one, and whose body is the highlighted portion from step one as well as my note. 5) share RSS with friends. Does it exist? [more inside]
Looking for advice on best way to get more cardio exercise, for both physical and emotional health. Limitations: poor, bad knees and socially anxious. [more inside]
Every once in a while, I find myself alone and bored with nothing to do. Normally I have plenty of friends and an active social life, but in times like right now, for instance, when I'm away from home visiting family, and everyone I know in this city is out of town for the holidays, and lots of things like dance classes are closed for the holidays, I don't know what to do with myself. [more inside]
Is it wrong for me to not want any friends, or will it destroy me in the long run? [more inside]
Starting to feel uncomfortable about work events which are allegedly optional but don't turn out to be. How to approach this with boss? [more inside]
I want to keep in touch better with family and friends. What are your techniques, tools, and strategies for doing this? [more inside]
I need to rent or purchase a reasonably priced record lathe to cut short run vinyl LPs. Advice/contact info needed. [more inside]
i know you googled me, but i swear that isn't me throwing up gang signs or pitching for AAA baseball in Cincinnati.
i share a somewhat random name with a miscreant from the midwest. when i google my name, i get a mixed return of my stats and his; his being mostly juvenile youtube vids of him skateboarding and flipping off the camera. i KNOW employers in my field google search/research online profiles heavily. what to do? [more inside]
How would you compare a career in social work with elementary school teaching? Given that underlying values overlap so much, how might you decide which would spark more passion, happiness, and success? (Not that any career is perfect.) [more inside]
From Jerk to Justice League: How to be a leader, not a whiner? [more inside]
I'm moving to a new city. How can I best build a social network - and what can I do before I get there? [more inside]
Do I have an appropriate background for admissions to an MSW program? Lots of details inside. [more inside]
Introvert needs help with social niceties at a funeral. [more inside]
I'm wondering if I'm being too sensitive regarding a perceived slight from one of my friends at a party? I have a mild case of social anxiety which may be exacerbating this. Details inside. [more inside]
New to PhD candidacy and tanking fast - academics of MeFi, help me figure out how to get through this mess. [more inside]
Someone made a comment on the blue recently about "this is what happens when private companies are put in charge of" some sort of social service and it got me thinking. I'm interested in any recent books or articles that give a good account of what goes right or wrong when private enterprise provides social services that charities and government-funded programs currently provide. [more inside]
Could you point me in the direction of interesting scholarly work being done on social networking sites, especially Facebook? [more inside]
Does your High School have a fun and effective way of staying in touch with the alumni? How do they do it? Class agents?, Mass emails?, Facebook groups?, Annual events?, Online or hard publications? I am looking for your advice and ideas. [more inside]
Is it common when trying cognitive behavioral therapy for you to become more anxious when challenging your thoughts? Does cognitive behavioral therapy work for drug addicts? I have been a drug addict, and I have been trying CBT and sometimes I feel like I will always feel like this because I dont have something in my system. I have bad Social anxiety when i try to talk to people. It happens almost everyday. I hope CBT will eventually help, but I do not know if this is just the way I am because of a lack of dopamine in my system?
Pretending to be normal. [more inside]
How to make new friends: socially awkward version. Or, have I slipped up here? [more inside]
I feel like I've tried the usual suggestions...I'm looking for more ways to "get out there", meet new people and have fun. [more inside]
Looking for Social DRM solutions/prorgram providers for epubs. [more inside]
I want to offer to handle a few acquaintances' domain management and some basic social media presence stuff, as they've offered to pay me to do it. Can I just do things in my name and have them pay me directly? I am a complete newbie to being paid for this, and I just want to see if I should look into anything. [more inside]
How the heck do I re-enable Twitter on my Facebook friend feed? [more inside]
I've done absolutely nothing since graduating college in May 2011 due to social anxiety and other issues. The months seem to go by quicker and quicker. What should I do? I apologize in advance that my question is not that well organized. [more inside]
I was (am?) socially broken, and had (have?) crippled my self-confidence, as well as my body. Help me fix me. [more inside]
I'm looking for Best Practices worldwide for improving conditions for low-income families. Do any of you know of organizations with available data on specific ways that their programs have increased opportunities and quality of life for low income children and families? [more inside]
For those of you with true social anxiety or generalized anxiety, what prescription drug worked the best for you with the fewest side effects? How much better did you feel on a daily basis, and were the side effects worth it?
How the hell do I teach sixth grade social studies? [more inside]
Moving away to university in September. What can I do to meet people, and improve my abysmal social life, confidence, and interpersonal skills?
Moving away to university in September. What can I do to meet people, and improve my abysmal social life, confidence, and interpersonal skills? [more inside]
My friend has heard that people marry those who are similar to themselves (in looks, age, social class, education etc). He worries this will rule out all the "good" women. Help me advise him how marriages really work. [more inside]
I am in between jobs, just moved to a new market and have been advised my alma mater's career counselor to set up coffee dates with alums who are working at places that I am targeting. How can I go about doing this in a way that balances networking etiquette and making the most out of these meetings? [more inside]
Does Facebook publish statistics? I'm specifically interested in statistics about photo uploads and camera metadata / popularity. [more inside]
How do I cope with daily life without any friends? I feel like my latest attempts at making friends is going nowhere.. [more inside]
Please reccomend Social Media Monitoring software or services. [more inside]
Why am I always uncomfortable around people? What the hell is wrong with me, mentally? *Warning* LONG LONG LONG READ, but probably interesting?* [more inside]
Any tips on being more social ? Lately, I have noticed that I am becoming more and more intraverted, whenever an activity comes up where other people I know will be there , I automatically start thinking of the reasons why it's not worth going or how it might go wrong. I don't like this new frame of mind , but at the same time I never feel bored or anxious to do anything else when Im by myself , or with my gf. Any tips on changing my intraverted ways ??
I've noticed lately that some new friends I've met last year via a social anxiety meetup group make plans for getting together amongst themselves and then inform me at the last minute, after all the plans have been made. This bothers me and I don't know why it's happening. Any insights on what I could do to handle it without sounding like a whiny child? [more inside]
Hello Mefites, I'd like some suggestions for books on social skills and networking in order to get ahead professionally(and also on the personal front). Books with a Kindle edition would be a bonus. Thanks a lot!