You've moved to a town very remote from any of your established social circles: you have no best nor casual friends nor any romantic relationships. You go into one or more meetings of utter strangers with whom you know you share some common interest (OneBrick, a Mefi meetup, a Meetup.Com thing, or something else entirely). What do you do — specifically, pretend I've got Asperger's here (no offense to those who do) — to take things from the level of "just an amiable conversation" to an actual friendship? [more inside]
On city sidewalks, when strangers pass each other, why do they sniffle? Walking toward each other, we size each other up at a distance of 25 ft, then avert eyes, then 10 ft, then avert eyes and as we pass *sniffle* or quick intake of air through the nose that makes a sound. What does this mean? It seems wholly subconscious. Are we tracking a scent? Are they sticking their nose in the air in an aristocratic air of disapproval? I've noticed this phenomenon, so I consciously avert my sniffling because I don't even know why it happens, or what it means. But now I hear it from passers-by all the time. It's definitely not allergies; it seems very focused.
Grr, how to stop being the butt of all the jokes and defend... it's getting annoying! [more inside]
What are some benchmarks in the history of multiplayer game lobbies? [more inside]
I'm a young (early 20s) gay guy living in San Francisco. I haven't come out yet, mainly because I don't feel like I have a supportive, positive social base to fall back on if everyone in my life turned away from me. I want to surrounded myself with the right kind of people such that I feel more comfortable being myself. So, specifically, I want to get more involved with the LGBT community and more importantly I want to move beyond the scene and meet guys my age in normal social activities. For instance, I'd be interested in a hiking/outdoors kind of group. I guess my question is, where do I start? How do I get involved?
How do I teach GRATITUDE to my 9-year-old daughter? [more inside]
I have finally decided that though I'm smart, I'm mostly average. The only way for me to be able to make decisions that will lead to becoming really successful is if I have people around me who are smarter than me, and who can teach me stuff. I need a mentor, how do I find this mentor? [more inside]
I am a clinical social worker looking to start a private practice. Are there any good books that cover the basics on how to do this? if you are in private practice, how did you start? What are the main things I should know? Is it possible to make a living doing this? Should managed care be avoided? [more inside]
Social stratification is braking my heart . Can any of you out there, help me translate this situation and maybe give me some guidance as to how to go forward? [more inside]
How can I remember to smile more? [more inside]
Coming out of a 5-year relationship and need help recalibrating my expectations about what is a "normal" amount of social interaction. [more inside]
Why don't other women like me? Women who meet me singly, or as part of a mixed-gender group usually like me. I function just fine in mixed-gender or mostly male situations. When I'm part of an all-woman group, I get bullied and scapegoated. In particular, the "queen bee" of the group almost always singles me out as a target. What am I doing wrong?
I'm 27 years old now and haven't started a serious career yet, but I have graduated with an engineering degree. I decided I wasn't interested in engineering after some work experiences in the past and so I've tried to move into other fields. By now, I've dabbled in 3-4 other areas, but still can't make a decision. I'm afraid that this switching around is going to continue my whole life and waste my precious time. [more inside]
What is the best studio in Manhattan and/or Brooklyn for learning Swing/Lindyhop and WC Swing? Also what are the best boards where I can find a partner if I choose to later compete? [more inside]
Looking for community building tool to create a family website. I have family all across the US and would like to create a website where each family member could create their own profile, make posts, share photos. Like a MySpace or Facebook but something more private and to a degree less complex. Something that is just for invited users, something that is easy to use for non-technical users and something that I can host and administer. Open source solutions would be preferred. I have used wordpress, drupal, and joomla but each requires tweaking and modules, and lots of research to setup. Just wondering if there are any prepackages solutions or easier to use modules for WP, drupal, or joomla. Thanks.
I will be starting graduate school in the fall (thanks for the great advice on my previous question!), and going from a quite comfortable salary to a typical grad student's pay. Obviously, in order to keep my budget balanced I will have to cut back considerably on eating out and other costly entertainments. How can I maintain some kind of social life without going broke, and without offending my friends? [more inside]
How can I confront my brother on his (illegal) drug habits in a way that will make him actually change them; and not just hide his habits from me/lose his trust in me. [more inside]
My social life is falling apart and I don't know what to do to fix it. [more inside]
I live in Vermont. I work in a small town that has been directly affected by the recent Brooke Bennett tragedy (family involved 12 year old in sex ring and killed her, attempted to blame it on a MySpace predator) in an industry that is directly related to dealing with the aftermath. I am also reading Freakonomics, which amongst other things has persuaded me to look past media hype and compare numbers to actual relevant data. I have two questions [more inside]
Best non-alcoholic social events in Houston? [more inside]
If you work (or have in recent memory) in a service position, what are the pet peeves/annoyances you remember most that people in general can fix? No matter if you're a dentist, waiter, teacher, or used car salesman, let us know (: [more inside]
I'm going to be hosting weekly patio-sits/get-togethers/hang-outs, but want some theme ideas to keep the conversations interesting, without too much work on my part. Help? [more inside]
Yet Another Social Networking Question: I'm looking for something that does well with different user groups. [more inside]
Is there anything meaningful I can do with 10Mbps worth of spare download bandwidth? [more inside]
Why do people I know, both acquaintances and quasi-friends, bring up my oddities whenever we go out together? It annoys me, and I wonder if I'm overreacting. [more inside]
What should I do with eight six-year-old girls for 1.5 hours a week that targets social skills and building peer relationships? [more inside]
My divorced parents are both going to be at my college graduation party. How do I deal with this? [more inside]
Good examples of web-based professional social networks? [more inside]
I find it hard to maintain friendships with women. What's up with me? [more inside]
I'm trying to locate a couple of case studies that speak to old school traditional marketing versus the benefits of new media and integrated marketing campaigns ... especially online marketing. Googling has left me wanting, does anyone know of any such case studies available online?
I seem to have a very particular social skills deficit. Can you suggest software that might serve as a kind of brain prosthetic for me? [more inside]
I remember coming across a book a few years ago that detailed life in (I think) California mining camps (it may have been less specific, but the general theme was frontier/wild west). The book's focus was on customs and social mores and it had a kind of "mythbusting" approach and was fairly academic and rigorous. I've tried searching, but I can't seem to find it. Any ideas?
If I wanted to build a Social Networking Site, what are some of the software options out there that I should explore? [more inside]
EttiquetteFilter: Is there any graceful way of dealing with a glass-clinking toast with greater than 6 people? [more inside]
Help my bf's sister get a real job, so she can be as independent as she wants--and he doesn't have to worry about her as much. [more inside]
Does reading "How to win friends and influence people" will help me win friends and influence people?
Does reading "How to win friends and influence people" will help me win friends and influence people?
Could someone recommend a social exercise log along the lines of We Endure but which allows one to track more general exercises (like weight training) along with activities like running and swimming. Thanks!
Examples of online communities assembled from free social tools? [more inside]
Are there any statistics available regarding the number of lurkers versus contributors on sites with community-generated content? [more inside]
GayDramaFilter. How can I make sure that people don't confuse my basic interest in them with flirting?
GayDramaFilter. How can I make sure that people don't confuse my basic interest in them with flirting? [more inside]
Some friends of a friend don't seem to want to know me. At all. Which makes for some really uncomfortable get-togethers. Looking for suggestions on the best way to deal. [more inside]
Can anyone tell me if this website was built from the ground up or used a CMS of some sort? [more inside]
How do I know when I'm being self-assertive vs. being a jerk? [more inside]
How can I best involve myself in the Social/Political cause against Water Privatization? [more inside]
How to deal with memories of long past embarrassments? [more inside]
Social Psychology Ph.D. from Penn State? Or Psychology and Social Behavior Ph.D. from University of California at Irvine? [more inside]
Anyone knows a good alternative to 43places.com? 43places is great, I like to social idea, the lot of pictures and info you get, but 43 places is too limited. [more inside]
Please recommend some albums I'd like based on two of my favorite albums of all time: the Buena Vista Social Club & Manuel Galban & Ry Cooder's Mambo Sinuendo. [more inside]
What are some compliments you can give strangers without seeming like a creep? [more inside]
For the past few months my girlfriend has felt very anxious when I have discussed going to out any social event with my friends, so I have been staying at home which makes her feel guilty but has been the only way she could cope. She wants to get better but doesn't know any skills or techniques for reducing anxiety that would help her, and her feelings of guilt only make things harder. Of course there's deep background inside. [more inside]