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Seniors, Social Security, and Sallie Mae

Thinking ahead to my eventual retirement, I phoned Sallie Mae earlier this year, and spoke with a rep who was easy to chat with, and seemed well-informed and helpful. I asked her if there was any sort of discount or other concession made for student loan payments once the debtor retired and began drawing Social Security. Her answer was that, good news, once I provide Sallie Mae with documentary evidence that I am drawing Social Security, the balance of my loans would be waived. [more inside]
posted by mmiddle on Sep 11, 2014 - 7 answers

Social undermining, Reply-All email edition

What is the proper response when you've just sent out an email invitation to a regular social group because it's your turn to host, and immediately one of the members replies-all to your email in order to publicly "correct" you. Only they're actually wrong. [more inside]
posted by hush on Sep 9, 2014 - 55 answers

Like Gleick is to Information Theory, X is to Social Choice Theory

What are some great, accessible books that would allow me to learn more about social choice theory without having to become an economist? I am thinking something along the likes of James Gleick's "popular science" Information Theory book, but for social choice theory. [more inside]
posted by TheyCallItPeace on Apr 3, 2014 - 2 answers

What's this site where you suggest a question to accompany an image?

I stumbled across a site a few weeks ago which would put up an image of some sort and ask you to write what question came to your mind. I think the point was just to collect the questions and look at them (but it asked you to make an account before you could see more than a few of the other peoples' questions, and I never did that). I've forgotten where I found it. Does anyone know what site this was? [more inside]
posted by Wolfdog on Mar 6, 2014 - 4 answers

How to deal with difficult co-workers?

In December I started working for a mill that manufactures flour, and although most employees there are excellent and fun to work with, I am discovering that many of my immediate co-workers appear to sabotage others for their own benefit. [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend on Mar 1, 2014 - 9 answers

Knitting in public: have I been dastardly rude this whole time?

You and some friends (guys and gals) are hanging out chatting. It's all really casual and you guys are all good friends. One friend pulls out their knitting and starts working on it. (No charts, no pattern, just really simple stockinette stitch.) Do you feel slighted? Like she's checked out of the conversation? Like she's bored with you and the group? Do you wish she'd just put it away and pay attention? [more inside]
posted by unlapsing on Feb 28, 2014 - 139 answers

US elementary school teachers, two history questions.

In general, which elementary school grades cover prehistory? American colonial history?
posted by Elsie on Feb 27, 2014 - 11 answers

Can art/music/writing/film change us?

I'm looking to freshen up the assigned readings for an undergraduate writing class that I'm about to start teaching. The theme of the class is art (by which I mean not only visual art, but also music, film, and writing) and social change--that is, whether the former can actually help to achieve the latter. I have some readings on the topic but am looking for more. Help me, hive mind!
posted by chicainthecity on Jan 12, 2014 - 18 answers

I don't enjoy hanging out with women.

I AM a woman. I don't generally like hanging out with women. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by skbw on Dec 31, 2013 - 75 answers

Facebook etiquette for what is basically, a year-long vacation?

After years of saving and planning, I've been able to realize my dream of traveling the world for a year. I'm 6 months into my trip and I've been posting photos or updates about where I am in the world on facebook about 2 or 3 times a week. While many people have expressed appreciation for the updates or interest in what I'm doing, I've noticed about 7-10 friends who used to interact with me all the time on FB and real life have totally stopped liking/commenting/sending messages although they're still very active on the site. I kind of suspect some of them have blocked me from their timelines. I know not everyone will have an opportunity like this and I try to be sensitive to that. I'm not preachy about "the importance of travel", or posting pics of 5 star hotel rooms and fancy restaurants (I'm doing this as cheaply as possible, mostly hostels in developing countries and couchsurfing.) At the same time I LOVE seeing others' travel pics and, well, want to share some of the exciting, amazing things I'm experiencing with people in my life. But some people seem put off by this, so I'm wondering - am I being a jerk? What's the etiquette here?
posted by horizons on Dec 20, 2013 - 55 answers

Dates that encourage interaction with others?

I have been dating someone new and I really like spending time with him! But so far we've only hung out one-on-one. What are activities two people can do together, but which also encourage interaction with others? [more inside]
posted by figgy_finicky on Dec 16, 2013 - 13 answers

Kit me out in Union/Hippy/Socialist/Anarchist/Morals Friendly Clothing

I am looking for a new clothing supplier. The previous company I shopped with have been outed as a bunch of labour-abusing dirtbags and I can't have that. I need to know the names of some places I can buy clothes with confidence and conscience and was hoping maybe I could get some suggestions. [more inside]
posted by longbaugh on Nov 14, 2013 - 21 answers

What to do about a friend who is becoming a hater?

Someone close to me (a man) is developing an increasingly conservative, even bigoted, viewpoint on a number of topics. Please help me figure out what the hell is going on and what I can do about it. [more inside]
posted by switcheroo on Oct 13, 2013 - 38 answers

Congratulations! (as applicable!)

What phrases are reflexively on the tip of your tongue? [more inside]
posted by Chorus on Sep 5, 2013 - 33 answers

Marriage & Work Filter, opposing schedules edition

What non-obvious effects can I expect if I take a job with hours that are very different from my wife's? [more inside]
posted by jon1270 on Aug 31, 2013 - 21 answers

Eeew, that's disgusting. Elementary school lunchtime social resilience.

How can I help my son to not feel embarrassed socially for having the healthy (and admittedly a little weird) lunches that I give him for school? [more inside]
posted by spbmp on Aug 27, 2013 - 65 answers

Should I get an MSW?

A number of my peers are MSWs and I like the work. I would like to be able to advance further without moving into management. Is an MSW the right next step? [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight on Jul 31, 2013 - 7 answers

Separating Twins into Different Classes at School?

My (boy / girl) twins will be entering kindergarten this September. We've been asked if we want them placed into separate classes, or left together in the same class. Need to give them our answer by Monday and frankly, I'm at a loss and have no idea what I should do. If you are a parent of school-age or older twins, can you please share what you did and why? If you yourself are a twin, how did your parents handle it? How did it work out? Other knowledgeable anecdotes and advice welcome. Links to any online resources I can read on the topic would also be appreciated.
posted by zarq on Jun 22, 2013 - 28 answers

Stories of famous or well-known men who get nervous with women

I'm looking for stories of famous men (contemporary preferred, but historical ok) who discuss being nervous when approaching or dealing with women. Please cite sources and I will look them up.
posted by 4midori on May 27, 2013 - 3 answers

Can you two just please introduce yourselves because I have no idea!

I've had this silly and embarrassing little problem for years and I'm noticing that it's getting worse. Sometimes, when I run into somebody I know or if I'm introducing somebody I know to somebody they don't know, I truly blank out on the name of the person I know. [more inside]
posted by iamkimiam on May 18, 2013 - 25 answers

Help me tell my BFF to shut up, in the nicest of ways.

My best friend is dating a new guy and is currently in the "floating in the clouds" stage. He's all that she talks about, texts me about, emails me about, mentions, quotes, you name it. I'm happy for her, but I am quickly reaching "who cares" stage. She does this with everyone she dates, but this guy might become permanent, so I'm not brushing it off as "just wait until this passes". How can I politely tell her that we need to have conversations about OTHER THINGS? She can be very sensitive, and I don't want her to feel that I am not interested in the relationship or not happy for her. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by ElectricGoat on Apr 28, 2013 - 26 answers

I promise I don't bite . . .

What causes social rejection absent a glaring personality flaw? [more inside]
posted by chainsofreedom on Apr 27, 2013 - 16 answers

Social Math: 1+1=/=1

Suggestions for nice things to do for the couples who are nice to you (especially when you're single and kind of broke)? [more inside]
posted by xenization on Apr 3, 2013 - 18 answers

Stranger danger

Was I being creepy / out of line when I offered this girl a ride? [more inside]
posted by WhitenoisE on Mar 4, 2013 - 46 answers

Get off the floor Mr. Harman.

How historically accurate is the portrayal of the interaction between the worker/labor class and the sales/middle class in the British sitcom 'Are You Being Served?" [more inside]
posted by RolandOfEld on Feb 18, 2013 - 19 answers

Is it possible to develop conversational skills later in life?

I grew up as a painfully shy, socially anxious extrovert. No friends that weren't online, could not talk to anyone. This was not a fun combination, so after Highschool I worked on fixing it and I've gotten better. I can make small talk, break the ice, carry on a general conversation. But this is not what I want. [more inside]
posted by Pericardium on Feb 9, 2013 - 10 answers

Oh no you didn't

Recently in a social situation I was asked my thoughts on a budgeting item and I gave it along with a solution that I had given thought to and was planning on presenting to the budget chair. (We work in different departments but run things past each other on occasion). One of the people at the gathering was a woman with political ambitions for our small town. A few days later she wrote a letter to the editor that gave my exact idea. What would you do? On the plus side it was very well received, OTH it was mine. I realize I should have said nothing and it was my mistake. I figure people that were there would know it wasn't hers and hopefully someone will point that out. Can I address it or should I leave it?
posted by lasamana on Jan 28, 2013 - 12 answers

Help me network a little less awkwardly (what to do with my ham hands?)

I am in between jobs, just moved to a new market and have been advised my alma mater's career counselor to set up coffee dates with alums who are working at places that I am targeting. How can I go about doing this in a way that balances networking etiquette and making the most out of these meetings? [more inside]
posted by SpicyMustard on Aug 11, 2012 - 9 answers

Does Facebook publish photo upload statistics?

Does Facebook publish statistics? I'm specifically interested in statistics about photo uploads and camera metadata / popularity. [more inside]
posted by ztdavis on Aug 2, 2012 - 1 answer

Book suggestions on social skills and networking.

Hello Mefites, I'd like some suggestions for books on social skills and networking in order to get ahead professionally(and also on the personal front). Books with a Kindle edition would be a bonus. Thanks a lot!
posted by synapse2512 on Jul 2, 2012 - 8 answers

Cinderella goes to the ball...

Ritzy-ditzy gala, need a dress [more inside]
posted by cartoonella on Apr 11, 2012 - 24 answers

Auto-aggregating homepage?

I have a Wordpress blog as my "homepage". I barely use it, because it has been almost entirely supplanted by Facebook, Twitter, and Flickr. However I still have a need for a homepage, if only to have somewhere to quickly point people to the aforementioned external services, and maybe a place to stick a link to my Amazon wish list, for example. Is there a service which will auto-agregate content from Facebook, Twitter, Flickr, etc. and create a nice friendly page to show technophobic family members? [more inside]
posted by Mwongozi on Apr 5, 2012 - 7 answers

How to cope with feeling "outside" company

How to cope with feeling "outside" company [more inside]
posted by Lotsofcoffee on Mar 7, 2012 - 33 answers

How to bail on plans made with a new acquaintance who has my real number?

So I got picked up while visiting a friend in a different city, and I made myself seem available but I have a boyfriend and have a lot of other things on my plate. How do I get out of following up? [more inside]
posted by maykasahara on Mar 2, 2012 - 15 answers

Unpin me from Pinterest!

Knew it, shouldn't have indulged in the whim of this "pinterest" nonsense. I click "unlink" for Facebook, save, nothing happens. I get redirected to the main page, facebook photo and friendlinks intact. I get so frustrated I choose "delete account"....again, nothing happens. Redirected back to my main page, self's facebook photo serenely mocking me. [more inside]
posted by keasby on Feb 11, 2012 - 6 answers

I seem to have Online Reverse Midas Touch Syndrome. Anyone know of a cure?

I seem to have Online Reverse Midas Touch Syndrome. Anyone know of a cure? [more inside]
posted by tamagogirl on Jan 30, 2012 - 18 answers

IT and social networking replacing old jobs?

What jobs/businesses have been negatively affected by the rise of information technology and social networking? [more inside]
posted by gnossos on Nov 22, 2011 - 33 answers

Activity-less in Seattle

What are some good social clubs / activities / volunteer-type things in the Seattle metropolitan area? I want to make more friends. [more inside]
posted by lockstitch on Nov 21, 2011 - 8 answers

are social clubs dead?

are social clubs like Rotary dead?
posted by parmanparman on Nov 16, 2011 - 26 answers

Union Square "hot" spots?

Where to hang out and have fun in the union square area of San Francisco? [more inside]
posted by mbatch on Oct 2, 2011 - 8 answers

My socially disordered coworker scares me more than he annoys me.

Coworker definitely has a social disorder (undiagnosed) and the suggestions given by my boss to handle the situation have not worked and I've become very anxious and have difficulty keeping myself from acting out towards this person when they continue with the unsettling behavior. [more inside]
posted by RoadMapper on Sep 6, 2011 - 45 answers

This Genie is Not Coming Out

I have a problem. When I decide I don't like someone, it's very hard for me to act as if everything is okie dokie especially if I have to work with them. I am usually bubbly and talkative but when I'm around an individual or a couple of people who rub me the wrong way, it's hard to hide my dissatisfaction with them so my mood becomes mellow and almost somber for the event or gig. How do I change that to become an enagaging, genuine person even when I have judged them to be what I feel they are to me? I'm kinda introverted too.
posted by InterestedInKnowing on Jul 31, 2011 - 25 answers

Socially inept and thankless

Fix me: I'm a jerk! After 8 years at my work place, today was my last day. I didn't expect any gifts. A "party/lunch" was to happen after our morning work period, but due to extenuating circumstances (namely a huge leak causing damage) the party/lunch didn't occur. Instead I was given my gift/cards intermittently between cleaning up. I was gifted a nicely wrapped present with three cards on it. I opened the first card and written in it was a heartfelt message, I put it as well as the others aside, knowing that if I read them, I would probably cry. Turns out, one of them contained a generous gift card. I feel awful for not opening and properly thanking the givers in front of them. Of course I'll write them a nice thank you note, but should I call or email them now and explain myself?
posted by JacksonandFinch on Jul 28, 2011 - 11 answers

Racially loaded foot-in-mouth extraction, prevention

Please help me salvage this situation, if possible. I accidentally said something racist to someone I want to be my friend. [more inside]
posted by ferngully on Jun 25, 2011 - 56 answers

Doomed to play WoW for the rest of my nights??

Am I being unreasonable or should I be looking for new friends? [more inside]
posted by astapasta24 on Jun 17, 2011 - 39 answers

Help an academic organize interviewee data!

I'm a social scientist heading off to do a year of field research, which will include lots and lots and lots of interviewing. What tools to you recommend to keep all your interviewees' data straight, and to show how they are connected to each other? [more inside]
posted by foodmapper on Jun 6, 2011 - 8 answers

DEAFENING DRUMBEAT OF LOWERED EXPECTATIONS

Listening to NPR I heard them saying, a little too casually, that "Generation Y is preparing for a future without any Social Security benefits". REALLY?? I did _NOT_ get that memo. [more inside]
posted by shipbreaker on May 23, 2011 - 38 answers

What to do about social anxiety?

Orlando adventure update and please share some tips for loneliness [more inside]
posted by srbrunson on Feb 12, 2011 - 6 answers

Safety tips without pop-ups/unders

Please recommend good websites and blogs about computer/internet/social media security issues, someplace where I can find out about the latest scams, phishing attempts, malware, etc. I don't really like Snopes, due to the pop-under ads (what is up with that, anyway?). Thank you.
posted by SillyShepherd on Feb 1, 2011 - 4 answers

How to push an iPhone app?

My company iPhone app is now live. What do I need to make sure I don't forget when it comes to getting the right people to know about it? [more inside]
posted by man down under on Jan 28, 2011 - 6 answers

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