My best friend is dating a new guy and is currently in the "floating in the clouds" stage. He's all that she talks about, texts me about, emails me about, mentions, quotes, you name it. I'm happy for her, but I am quickly reaching "who cares" stage. She does this with everyone she dates, but this guy might become permanent, so I'm not brushing it off as "just wait until this passes". How can I politely tell her that we need to have conversations about OTHER THINGS? She can be very sensitive, and I don't want her to feel that I am not interested in the relationship or not happy for her. More details inside.
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posted by ElectricGoat
on Apr 28, 2013 -
26 answers
I'm finally realizing that even though I'm at a huge school, people won't just magically come to me, so I'm trying to make new friends, go new places, and enjoy myself. I want to be the guy that everyone knows, who is always busy. Problem is, I don't understand how to start since I don't know anyone, and since I've been in this situation for two years now, I can't play the "new in town" card anymore. Help?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 15, 2013 -
33 answers
I want to keep in touch better with family and friends. What are your techniques, tools, and strategies for doing this?
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posted by cadge
on Dec 12, 2012 -
11 answers
I'm moving to a new city. How can I best build a social network - and what can I do before I get there?
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posted by Ashlyth
on Nov 10, 2012 -
15 answers
I've noticed lately that some new friends I've met last year via a social anxiety meetup group make plans for getting together amongst themselves and then inform me at the last minute, after all the plans have been made. This bothers me and I don't know why it's happening. Any insights on what I could do to handle it without sounding like a whiny child?
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posted by starpoint
on Jul 4, 2012 -
23 answers
I'm done with freezing up when I talk. Help me become a better conversationalist.
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posted by suburbs
on Sep 16, 2011 -
14 answers
I'm 31. I'd like to make some friends who are older than I am--even significantly older. How can I go about this?
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posted by vecchio
on Jul 26, 2011 -
35 answers
I've pruned my facebook friends list quite a bit. Am I going overboard or should I "refriend" some back?
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posted by lankford
on Jul 10, 2011 -
21 answers
What do I say to racist friends? A guy I know makes racist jokes, and I don't know how to call him on it because he's technically not disparaging me?
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posted by nickhb
on Jul 10, 2011 -
41 answers
I want to have an apartment that people congregate at. What makes an apartment a fun hang out spot?
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posted by amycup
on Jan 17, 2011 -
51 answers
I'm a woman in my 30s. Six months ago, I moved cities to be with my boyfriend. Things with him are going pretty well, but I really, really miss my old friends, and I really need to make some new friends. How can I make some new friends?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 23, 2010 -
16 answers
I seem to have a neverending list since adulthood of people that just simply do not like me, and increasingly shorter list of those that do. How do I become less of an asshole?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 2, 2010 -
55 answers
I haven't thrown a party since I graduated last year, and I'm not sure that Cheetos and beer pong will do this time around. How do I make sure that the upcoming get-together I'm hosting is a success?
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posted by halogen
on Jul 26, 2010 -
40 answers
I'm an American guy in my mid-late twenties living in Melbourne, Australia for (at least) the next eight months. My social life was quite exciting when I first moved here during late summer, but lately it feels a bit stagnant at times. I'm looking for ideas of activities to get involved with, to make use of my free time and help me connect with new people (friends of both sexes, plus THE LADIES).
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posted by adamk
on Jul 25, 2010 -
8 answers
Does anyone know of any research into social media platforms and the phenomena of looking up people from one's past? Surveys? Sociological Research?
posted by elis
on May 24, 2010 -
3 answers
What is the best way for a couple to tell their mutual friends that they're ending a long-term relationship?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 13, 2009 -
14 answers
How do I deal with anxiety about my discrete social groups interacting with one another?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 13, 2009 -
12 answers
"Please excuse me...No really, don't follow me, I don't want to talk to you." How do I politely get out of having to converse with someone I was friends with for a long, long time but am no longer? Person is inconsiderate, dismissive, and generally a bitch who thinks she's funny when she says mean things.
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posted by sio42
on Aug 17, 2009 -
27 answers
Is it weird to invite acquaintances/coworkers out for drinks after work to celebrate your own birthday? Is it a fairly accepted, normal thing to do, or is it likely to set off the "she's strange and/or desperate!" alarm bells?
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posted by EmilyClimbs
on Jan 22, 2009 -
32 answers
Since the beginning of the year, I've begun binge drinking in social situations to loosen up. What can I do that will help me get over my anxieties and not have to depend on a bottle to make me talkative and fun?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 12, 2009 -
21 answers
I'm off work the next four days over the New Year's holiday & weekend. I am usually a very social person, but I live alone and I don't have much of anything planned this weekend. And I'm worried about spending the whole weekend alone, because I think I will get really lonely and unhappy. How can I enjoy myself?
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posted by inatizzy
on Dec 31, 2008 -
20 answers
How to meet academic/intellectual/geeky people when you work in a mechanical trade (millwright), and can't feasibly go to college at the moment although you want to badly?
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posted by tehgeekmeister
on Nov 18, 2008 -
17 answers
Have you seen my people? They must be in Melbourne somewhere...
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posted by xz
on Nov 16, 2008 -
5 answers
You've moved to a town very remote from any of your established social circles: you have no best nor casual friends nor any romantic relationships. You go into one or more meetings of utter strangers with whom you know you share some common interest (OneBrick, a Mefi meetup, a Meetup.Com thing, or something else entirely). What do you do — specifically, pretend I've got Asperger's here (no offense to those who do) — to take things from the level of "just an amiable conversation" to an actual friendship?
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posted by WCityMike
on Sep 25, 2008 -
27 answers
I will be starting graduate school in the fall (thanks for the great advice on my previous question!), and going from a quite comfortable salary to a typical grad student's pay. Obviously, in order to keep my budget balanced I will have to cut back considerably on eating out and other costly entertainments. How can I maintain some kind of social life without going broke, and without offending my friends?
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posted by cortisol
on Jul 13, 2008 -
28 answers
I'm going to be hosting weekly patio-sits/get-togethers/hang-outs, but want some theme ideas to keep the conversations interesting, without too much work on my part. Help?
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posted by cheeken
on Jun 17, 2008 -
10 answers
Does reading "How to win friends and influence people" will help me win friends and influence people?
posted by dcrocha
on Apr 1, 2008 -
18 answers
Some friends of a friend don't seem to want to know me. At all. Which makes for some really uncomfortable get-togethers. Looking for suggestions on the best way to deal.
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posted by Ruby Doomsday
on Mar 17, 2008 -
37 answers
I'm moving to Venice/Santa Monica and want to meet good, intelligent, normal people in my age group. How?
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posted by JJ Jenkins
on Jan 25, 2008 -
14 answers
Help me be a more carefree person on a roadtrip, with someone who is having post-breakup depression, and who has always had terrible taste in music.
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posted by cobaltnine
on Oct 26, 2007 -
15 answers
[ChicagoFilter] I moved to Chicago recently, and I'm having difficulty making friends and meeting people who are around my age
(early 20s) who share similar interests -- and I am looking for suggestions on how to branch out. (mi)
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 7, 2007 -
31 answers
Is it morally, socially or even objectively wrong of me to spend time with my girlfriend's friends?
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posted by PuGZ
on Aug 23, 2006 -
37 answers
Six months ago, I moved to a new city (Philadelphia) to pursue a fantastic career opportunity. It has turned out to be everything I wanted from a career. Professionally and financially, things are great. So, why am I so unhappy here?
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posted by galimatias
on Jun 13, 2006 -
37 answers
Please explain to me about hugging and social touching in human relationships.
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posted by xo
on Dec 11, 2005 -
33 answers
