It's that time of year again when the REI dividend is in the air, and I am thinking about a Fitbit (though if a Jawbone is really what I want, persuade me). Criteria that are making this difficult inside. [more inside]
Calling all parents of metafilter! You once had a baby who didn't sleep well. Let's say this baby was six months old. We will call this point A. Now you have an older toddler or a child who sleeps through the night in her own bed. Let's call this point B. How did you get from point A to point B? [more inside]
I can't fall asleep comfortably unless my head is elevated above my pillow. Is there a pillow that will solve this, or another standard solution? [more inside]
I've been a lifelong sidesleeper. My preferred hand position is with my hands curled up under my chin. For a while now, I'm being woken up by the pins and needles sensation in my hand (the shoulder side down hand) as it's asleep. I'm trying to figure out where else to put my hands while I sleep. [more inside]
Due to some changes in my life, I need to start getting up earlier in the morning. Problem is, I am a lazybones and I LOVE to sleep. In fact, I normally WAKE UP and start the day at 8 AM, and soon I will need to report to work at that time. I need to go to work looking very polished and feeling great. This means I need to start showering in the morning and eating breakfast before I go into work. This is going to mean a change in the way I deal with mornings. Please help me make this change as painless as possible. [more inside]
Why do I wake up after a few hours if I go to bed early specifically because I am super tired (not because I have to get up early for a flight or something), rather than just sleeping my normal length time? [more inside]
A kitty has joined my home as of 48 hours ago (photos eventually, pretty sure a coworker is on here and I need to preserve anonymity right now). She's 7 months old ish and now that she's made a fantastic turnaround from being huddled in a corner to triumphant queen of my entire apartment, I need to start getting her acclimated with some things so we set some behavior boundaries right away. Help! [more inside]
*Baby filter* Our 11ish month old has had two super weird bedtimes ("happy happy party time! Hey, did you know I can make farting noises with my mouth? woohoo!") this week and I'm trying to figure out what might be going on, and more importantly what our options are for dealing with it. All the gory details inside. [more inside]
Complication: moving transatlantically soon. [more inside]
I'm a relatively experienced air traveler and usually have no trouble napping on flights. But recently on the return leg of two trips I've experienced a dizzying, discombobulating roar in my ears when I drift from closed eyes to semi-sleep. The first time I just curled up and persevered, but my sleep quality was very poor and, more importantly, the experience left me dizzy for days afterwards. So the second time I forced myself to stay awake, but I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced the same feeling. If so, what have you done to combat/prevent it?
There's a lot of advice out there on how to achieve calm when you are awake and focusing. By day I apply this and have become decent at getting a grip and putting things in perspective once I'm awake and out of bed. But what about the hours when you are half-awake in bed and your guard is down? By 8 a.m. I feel like I have been in an all-night punching match with worries that have run loose while the watchmen are passed out. What do you do to avoid sleep-time anxiety? Is the answer just to be even calmer before you go to sleep? Or can you recommend some other middle-of-the-night strategy?
I just got a set of surplus unused Army sleeping bags (called the Modular Sleep System) and want to wash them. The tags say to use a commercial, front-load washer; can I use my modern, top-load washer that does not have an agitator? [more inside]
Sometimes I have trouble falling asleep because I can't stop worrying over issues of the day. I've found that listening to a slightly boring podcast really helps in those situations. So far, I've been listening to history podcasts but I think the technique would work with other subject areas and I'd like to find more such podcasts. I'm looking for intelligent and serious podcasts (little to no humorous banter) on important and/or academic topics. Ideally, the presenters would have monotonous voices and would spend a bit too much time on the dull minutiae, but the subject matter would be sufficiently interesting to help me stop thinking about other issues. I don't want to hear a group of friends or colleagues bantering. I don't want to hear comics interviewing each other. Pseudo-science or woo won't help because I may respond emotionally.
Babysleepfilter: how can I get my son to take longer naps? [more inside]
I want to finally start getting enough sleep, but I just can't see how I can do that without completely ruining my social life. How do young single people have friends when they sleep enough? [more inside]
You aren't my doctor, psychologist or psychiatrist, but maybe you have something to share that will help me get onto a path toward curing a relentless, life-altering ( in the worst possible way( issue with sleep. [more inside]
I keep waking up in the middle of night, thinking about things I have no control over. One area I gravitate to more than most is decisions my parents in their lifetimes that have been harmful to me. Sometimes I think about work related issues. How can I resolve this? [more inside]
It's like sleep apnea, but through my nose. What's going on? [more inside]
I need help finding an exceptional sleep specialist or sleep center to help with a complex, long standing problem with insomnia. I need to find someone really good who's serious. [more inside]
I'm sometimes jarred awake by the physical sensation of a hand roughly grabbing, shaking, or poking me. What's going on? NON-WOO EXPLANATIONS ONLY, PLEASE! [more inside]
I've only seen my best friend outside of his house twice this year. He and his wife have a 15-month-old baby boy, and they ignore, decline or don't make it to every social engagement because the baby might cry, or the baby is sleeping. They've all but stopped communicating with me. Help me understand why this is so hard for them, and if there is there any advice I can use or pass on that can help? [more inside]
I have a health care problem that is fairly ambiguous that deals with sleep. Basically, roughly since puberty (i.e. beginning of high school or a little before) I have been exhausted on anything less than 10 hours of sleep, and I don't sleep more than 3 consecutive hours more than a handful of times a year (generally this means getting up to use the bathroom, sometimes it can mean full on insomnia.) [more inside]
Looking for recommendations for books about bedtime or ending with the character(s) asleep. My not-quite-two-year-old seems to actively get much sleepier when we read bedtime orientated books. Goodnight Little Bear and Goodnight Moon have both worked to help calm him down for bedtime, and I'd like a bit more variety in my night time book repertoire. [more inside]
Is there any realistic way to train your body to need less sleep? Or any tricks to have better energy levels and brain activity if I just provide my body with less sleep? [more inside]
I have always had intermittent insomnia, but in the last week I have not been able to get to sleep every night without 3-4 hours of tossing and turning. My body is now physically exhausted (droopy eyes, drowsiness etc) but I still can't sleep. [more inside]
Very sleep deprived mom here at my wit's end, hoping you can help with strategy. Tried many different things without success. Baby wakes up 3-7 times a night to nurse back to sleep, has never slept through the night. Should we night wean? Sleep train? How to do this without too much pain and stress on either of us. Scared to sleep train, but really really really tired. [more inside]
There's this owl, and it starts hooting at around 2am, not finishing until 4:30am. This has now become a frequent occurrence, and it's driving me nuts. Unfortunately, one attempt to remedy the situation has made it worse. So, how can I get this owl to either shut up or go somewhere else? [more inside]
I'm a new nurse, just getting used to working second shift, now I'm switching to overnight 12-hour shifts. I haven't fully adjusted to the second shift way of life after two months of it, so I'm rather concerned with how this is going to go. I know intellectually the importance of sleep, proper meals, socialization, finances.... What am I missing? [more inside]
How do I endure the mice that descend upon my room at night? I really need to sleep again. [more inside]
I sleep hot. My body creates a lot of heat at night, which is good for me but bad for my partners. My ex-wife used to complain, and my current girlfriend doesn't enjoy cuddling because I'm warm and often sweaty. I sleep hotter when I drink alcohol, I know that, and memory foam seems to be a problem (so I'm replacing my memory foam mattress with an expensive mattress that's supposed to be cooler). What other things can I do to be cooler at night? I want my girlfriend to cuddle more!
Hi everyone, last night I found out my boyfriend of ~5 months occasionally sleep... sexes? What happened was, last night, several times, he seemed to awake after falling asleep before me, when I moved or got out of bed to go to the bathroom, and say '(my name), I want to lick your pussy' then go right back to sleep. Eventually, he starting touching me in places, and I got turned on, and we ended up having sex. After, he said, 'that was great, but how did it happen?' So, no recollection - he basically woke up inside of me, according to him. [more inside]
I tend to like high thread-count cotton sheets (at least 400). Of course, they're usually pretty pricey. Looking for alternatives. [more inside]
Someone once wrote (paraphrased), "I have done two things I hated every day of my life: woken up and gone to bed." Who said this, and where can I get the rest of the piece in which it appeared? I seem to recall it was Samuel Johnson, but have had no success tracking this quote down.
My husband frequently has to work overnight, leaving me alone in the house. I've been having a lot of trouble and worry over sleeping at night when he's gone, and it's eating into my day. What else can I try? Details inside. [more inside]
I'm sometimes an anxious person. Most times it doesn't really bother me, but it does affect my sleep, thereby indirectly affecting other parts of my life. I'd like to improve my bedroom layout and decor to maximize my calm and relaxation when I enter bed. I'm hoping to give my sleepy time a little boost so that I can set aside life's worries for at least 8 hours a night. [more inside]
I have a very busy, hard to shut up brain and falling (and staying) asleep has always been a problem for me. A few months ago I came across the guided relaxation/hypnosis/meditation programs by Andrew Johnson in the google play store and started listening to them in bed as I fall asleep. They are wonderful. I want more, and I want to be able to do this more comfortably. [more inside]
So I've had sleeping problems for the last five years or so. Not in the sense of being an insomniac, but that I'm always tired and feeling drained. I've done tons of research over the last few years and have done several things to improve my sleep. For example exercising more and eating organic and healthy food. Lets just say I've done a lot of things (including going to the doctors) regarding my sleep and have not been successful so far. Sleep-wise, I know that I'm ok-ish on eight hours and crap on anything plus or minus 30 minutes of that figure. I came across this: recently and wondered if trying an alternative sleeping method/cycle might help or be worth a try. Can anyone who has tried or uses any of the alternative sleeping cycles share their experiences on them with me please.
What is the gentlest, kindest way to wake someone up who is in a deep sleep? [more inside]
I often find that I sleep way better if my body is slightly confined? For example I might put my arms in the waistband of my pajamas or more often I will push one arm against the nightstand while lying on my side. Does this maybe have some connection to infants enjoying being swaddled? Something more primal? AmI just a weirdo?
I want to eliminate some of my son's nighttime feedings and start sleep training him. Am I going about this right? [more inside]
My SO wakes up in the night sometimes, let's say at 3am, and starts to get ready for work. Like, 3 hours too early. After 5-10 minutes he usually snaps out of it and comes back to bed. What is this? [more inside]
My 14 month old baby has crying thrashing wakeful periods during the night on a semi-regular basis (roughly speaking, perhaps once every fortnight). He wakes up crying and can’t be consoled – arches his body and pushes away from me while in my arms (but cries harder if put down in his cot). [more inside]
If I don't have to be somewhere by a certain time, I turn my alarm forward in increments between ten minutes and an hour and a half until mid-afternoon, never waking up enough that I don't feel like I couldn't and don't want to fall immediately back to sleep. On days when I do have something to do, I set my alarm an hour early, reset it to the real time when it goes off the first time, and wake up immediately after that. [more inside]
I've been struggling with two sleep-related issues: anxiety over going to bed and waking up early feeling overheated. Tips on how to manage either problem? [more inside]
What can I do to fall back asleep when I wake up in the middle of the night? [more inside]
My significant other (with whom I share an apartment) falls asleep in front of the TV every night and sometimes doesn't make it to bed. I am annoyed. Should I be? [more inside]
I work at a small shelter in the Midwest, working with clients who struggle with substance abuse, domestic violence, etc. It's an amazing job, but at the same time, it's incredibly stressful. Until this week, I thought I might be about to hit the point of burnout. Then my partner pointed out to me, very gently, that that isn't the only thing going on. I sat down and looked at this summer's happenings, and I feel like an idiot: he's right, there's a lot of stuff I'm not handling well at all. I need help getting my sleep schedule back to normal, and to get rid of, or at least slow down, the serious case of hamster brain I've got. Books, YouTube videos, anything is welcome. [more inside]
I am waking up in the middle of the night every night due to panicky stress dreams/half-dreams that are about my job. Is there a way to stop this without having to find a new job? [more inside]
I'm considering paying for a sleep consultation (examples here and here) because we are getting pretty worn out with Baby Tafetta and her sleeping issues. Has anyone tried these? Is there someone else to recommend? Should I continue just reading random experts and waiting for things to get better? Is all of this really just because of the recent events of the past month and now we're just trying to get back to where we were? [more inside]
Somewhere in the back of my brain there's a memory of a quote I once read, possibly by a Greek philosopher but just as possibly not. The quote was something about sleep (and maybe dreams?) being the greatest reward in life - that the only reason we toil through the day is to "earn" our sleep at night. [more inside]