I've only seen my best friend outside of his house twice this year. He and his wife have a 15-month-old baby boy, and they ignore, decline or don't make it to every social engagement because the baby might cry, or the baby is sleeping. They've all but stopped communicating with me. Help me understand why this is so hard for them, and if there is there any advice I can use or pass on that can help? [more inside]
I have a health care problem that is fairly ambiguous that deals with sleep. Basically, roughly since puberty (i.e. beginning of high school or a little before) I have been exhausted on anything less than 10 hours of sleep, and I don't sleep more than 3 consecutive hours more than a handful of times a year (generally this means getting up to use the bathroom, sometimes it can mean full on insomnia.) [more inside]
Looking for recommendations for books about bedtime or ending with the character(s) asleep. My not-quite-two-year-old seems to actively get much sleepier when we read bedtime orientated books. Goodnight Little Bear and Goodnight Moon have both worked to help calm him down for bedtime, and I'd like a bit more variety in my night time book repertoire. [more inside]
Is there any realistic way to train your body to need less sleep? Or any tricks to have better energy levels and brain activity if I just provide my body with less sleep? [more inside]
I have always had intermittent insomnia, but in the last week I have not been able to get to sleep every night without 3-4 hours of tossing and turning. My body is now physically exhausted (droopy eyes, drowsiness etc) but I still can't sleep. [more inside]
Very sleep deprived mom here at my wit's end, hoping you can help with strategy. Tried many different things without success. Baby wakes up 3-7 times a night to nurse back to sleep, has never slept through the night. Should we night wean? Sleep train? How to do this without too much pain and stress on either of us. Scared to sleep train, but really really really tired. [more inside]
There's this owl, and it starts hooting at around 2am, not finishing until 4:30am. This has now become a frequent occurrence, and it's driving me nuts. Unfortunately, one attempt to remedy the situation has made it worse. So, how can I get this owl to either shut up or go somewhere else? [more inside]
I'm a new nurse, just getting used to working second shift, now I'm switching to overnight 12-hour shifts. I haven't fully adjusted to the second shift way of life after two months of it, so I'm rather concerned with how this is going to go. I know intellectually the importance of sleep, proper meals, socialization, finances.... What am I missing? [more inside]
How do I endure the mice that descend upon my room at night? I really need to sleep again. [more inside]
I sleep hot. My body creates a lot of heat at night, which is good for me but bad for my partners. My ex-wife used to complain, and my current girlfriend doesn't enjoy cuddling because I'm warm and often sweaty. I sleep hotter when I drink alcohol, I know that, and memory foam seems to be a problem (so I'm replacing my memory foam mattress with an expensive mattress that's supposed to be cooler). What other things can I do to be cooler at night? I want my girlfriend to cuddle more!
Hi everyone, last night I found out my boyfriend of ~5 months occasionally sleep... sexes? What happened was, last night, several times, he seemed to awake after falling asleep before me, when I moved or got out of bed to go to the bathroom, and say '(my name), I want to lick your pussy' then go right back to sleep. Eventually, he starting touching me in places, and I got turned on, and we ended up having sex. After, he said, 'that was great, but how did it happen?' So, no recollection - he basically woke up inside of me, according to him. [more inside]
I tend to like high thread-count cotton sheets (at least 400). Of course, they're usually pretty pricey. Looking for alternatives. [more inside]
Someone once wrote (paraphrased), "I have done two things I hated every day of my life: woken up and gone to bed." Who said this, and where can I get the rest of the piece in which it appeared? I seem to recall it was Samuel Johnson, but have had no success tracking this quote down.
My husband frequently has to work overnight, leaving me alone in the house. I've been having a lot of trouble and worry over sleeping at night when he's gone, and it's eating into my day. What else can I try? Details inside. [more inside]
I'm sometimes an anxious person. Most times it doesn't really bother me, but it does affect my sleep, thereby indirectly affecting other parts of my life. I'd like to improve my bedroom layout and decor to maximize my calm and relaxation when I enter bed. I'm hoping to give my sleepy time a little boost so that I can set aside life's worries for at least 8 hours a night. [more inside]
I have a very busy, hard to shut up brain and falling (and staying) asleep has always been a problem for me. A few months ago I came across the guided relaxation/hypnosis/meditation programs by Andrew Johnson in the google play store and started listening to them in bed as I fall asleep. They are wonderful. I want more, and I want to be able to do this more comfortably. [more inside]
So I've had sleeping problems for the last five years or so. Not in the sense of being an insomniac, but that I'm always tired and feeling drained. I've done tons of research over the last few years and have done several things to improve my sleep. For example exercising more and eating organic and healthy food. Lets just say I've done a lot of things (including going to the doctors) regarding my sleep and have not been successful so far. Sleep-wise, I know that I'm ok-ish on eight hours and crap on anything plus or minus 30 minutes of that figure. I came across this: recently and wondered if trying an alternative sleeping method/cycle might help or be worth a try. Can anyone who has tried or uses any of the alternative sleeping cycles share their experiences on them with me please.
What is the gentlest, kindest way to wake someone up who is in a deep sleep? [more inside]
I often find that I sleep way better if my body is slightly confined? For example I might put my arms in the waistband of my pajamas or more often I will push one arm against the nightstand while lying on my side. Does this maybe have some connection to infants enjoying being swaddled? Something more primal? AmI just a weirdo?
I want to eliminate some of my son's nighttime feedings and start sleep training him. Am I going about this right? [more inside]
My SO wakes up in the night sometimes, let's say at 3am, and starts to get ready for work. Like, 3 hours too early. After 5-10 minutes he usually snaps out of it and comes back to bed. What is this? [more inside]
My 14 month old baby has crying thrashing wakeful periods during the night on a semi-regular basis (roughly speaking, perhaps once every fortnight). He wakes up crying and can’t be consoled – arches his body and pushes away from me while in my arms (but cries harder if put down in his cot). [more inside]
If I don't have to be somewhere by a certain time, I turn my alarm forward in increments between ten minutes and an hour and a half until mid-afternoon, never waking up enough that I don't feel like I couldn't and don't want to fall immediately back to sleep. On days when I do have something to do, I set my alarm an hour early, reset it to the real time when it goes off the first time, and wake up immediately after that. [more inside]
I've been struggling with two sleep-related issues: anxiety over going to bed and waking up early feeling overheated. Tips on how to manage either problem? [more inside]
What can I do to fall back asleep when I wake up in the middle of the night? [more inside]
My significant other (with whom I share an apartment) falls asleep in front of the TV every night and sometimes doesn't make it to bed. I am annoyed. Should I be? [more inside]
I work at a small shelter in the Midwest, working with clients who struggle with substance abuse, domestic violence, etc. It's an amazing job, but at the same time, it's incredibly stressful. Until this week, I thought I might be about to hit the point of burnout. Then my partner pointed out to me, very gently, that that isn't the only thing going on. I sat down and looked at this summer's happenings, and I feel like an idiot: he's right, there's a lot of stuff I'm not handling well at all. I need help getting my sleep schedule back to normal, and to get rid of, or at least slow down, the serious case of hamster brain I've got. Books, YouTube videos, anything is welcome. [more inside]
I am waking up in the middle of the night every night due to panicky stress dreams/half-dreams that are about my job. Is there a way to stop this without having to find a new job? [more inside]
I'm considering paying for a sleep consultation (examples here and here) because we are getting pretty worn out with Baby Tafetta and her sleeping issues. Has anyone tried these? Is there someone else to recommend? Should I continue just reading random experts and waiting for things to get better? Is all of this really just because of the recent events of the past month and now we're just trying to get back to where we were? [more inside]
Somewhere in the back of my brain there's a memory of a quote I once read, possibly by a Greek philosopher but just as possibly not. The quote was something about sleep (and maybe dreams?) being the greatest reward in life - that the only reason we toil through the day is to "earn" our sleep at night. [more inside]
I recently moved into a new apartment on short notice. One thing I didn't realize when kicking the tires was that there is no natural light in my bedroom during the morning. This tends to make waking up an unpleasant and lengthy event—it's dark, and often I just fall asleep again. I don't want this to happen, and I've noticed that when I sleep in a room with good morning light exposure I wake up earlier and happier. So: how can I replicate a rising sun in my room? Full spectrum light (like for SAD) hooked up to a dimmer hooked up to a timer? Clever arrangements of mirrors?
I am looking for an album of classic lullabies. Any recommendations for a good one? Prefer one with vocals. (Will also take recommendations for non-classic lullaby songs that are good for rocking a baby to sleep!) Thanks!
Brief explanation: I am in crisis emotionally right now, and there is a lot of related spiritual stuff that goes along with it. However, I still have a lot of "real world" stuff to do that isn't getting done, mainly because I can't stop sleeping right now. I have good meds and a wonderful therapist. See extended explanation for more info. [more inside]
I have an annoying tendency to go to bed very late, like 3 or 4 am and wake up at lunch hour. I've tried to change this by getting used to wake up when the sun comes up but I'm always breaking this habit and going back to sleep with the windows covered. I think I got this annoying habit because I procrastinate during the day and when the day comes to an end I don't want to go to bed because I didn't do what was most important during the day. So I try to do that important thing until like 4 am and them go to sleep. I want to break this cycle but it's so difficult!
I need to purchase three pillows. I have the internet, Costco, Sam's Club, WalMart, Target, Kohls, and the other usual suspects from whom I can purchase the thing. What's the best pillow to gt? [more inside]
I go to bed around 10:30 at night, I get up around 7:00 AM. But I only get an average of 4 hours of sleep per night. I'd love to find out some tips for a menopausal woman to get a good nights sleep. Any tips, suggestions, or questions are welcome?
I have a beautiful kitten who is roughly one year old. For the past few weeks she's been bringing things to my bed in the middle of the night. I'm at a loss as to why. [more inside]
My 6 month old baby has become increasingly difficult to put to sleep, and I feel like a failure every night. He was easy to put to sleep as long as he was swaddled, but now he fights going to sleep at most naps and especially at night. I feel like we need to do some kind of sleep training, but he's got horrible reflux and "crying it out" only results in him flipping onto his stomach, getting upset, not being able to turn back over, and then puking all over the crib. What should we do? [more inside]
My husband and I need a bed, but we're on a tight budget so we are considering a mattress directly on the floor. Is there a kind of mattress more suited for this kind of arrangement? Any tips in general?
I love watching horror films and reading frightening books. Always have. Now, however, it seems to be backfiring, in that I can't get to sleep at night due to all the freaky images floating around in my head. Bonus question: is this sleep paralysis? [more inside]
Weighted blanket: good idea, or recipe for pickier sleep habits? This special snowflake travels a lot for work, has dust mite allergies, and dehydrates easily during sleep. [more inside]
We're using all the advice from the Happiest Baby on the Block to get Little Stardust to fall asleep. It works the majority of the time and I can successfully get him to fall asleep by swaddling, rocking, white noise, etcetera. The problem is that he'll only stay asleep as long as I'm holding him. [more inside]
In the next two weeks, there will be a new addition to our household -- a baby. (Not mine.) And since it's not mine, I would prefer not to hear it. There are lots of AskMes about earplugs, but many (like the ETY ones) use as a selling point that they don't muffle speech. I want to muffle everything. Best ear protection for the job, <$30?
I am worried about my 2.75 year-old daughter. Today is the 8th day she has been in the new, 3-ish to 4-ish age room at daycare. She is now crying really hard every morning when I leave here there (new behaviour, but still normal). But she is also refusing to go to sleep at night, throwing huge fits, jumping out of the crib, clawing at us to get away when we try to rock her, and basically forcing herself to be awake until she is so exhausted she can't stay awake any longer. She won't or can't give me a clear answer about what's wrong. How do I help her? [more inside]
Our 5½-month-old baby, once a great sleeper, has now become a fussy, nervous child who can only fall asleep while breastfeeding. What are we doing wrong and how can we get his sleeping back into shape? [more inside]
I got my sleep study results today. Yippee! My doctor can't see me for over two weeks, how am I supposed to get anything done until then? [more inside]
What can cause a fast pulse sensation in the ear that isn't a pulse? [more inside]
I'm having some abdominal discomfort that might be related to my alcohol use. But I don't know what to do about it, for reasons related to sleep issues. Long story within. [more inside]
I had a baby a few months ago, and all of the sudden I can't sleep through the night without having excruciating back pain. YANMD, but I have never had serious back pain before and don't know really know where to start. New mattress? Chiropractor? Physical therapy? Stop getting older? Some more details inside. [more inside]
I frequently half-wake from dreams and start doing or saying weird things while I’m in bed. They often relate to my dreams and it's a big disruption to my wife’s sleep as well as my own. What is going on with me and how can I stop it? Plenty of details inside. [more inside]