We have a 3 year old that doesn't sleep through the night yet. A good night is a single wakeup, a bad night is 3 or 4. I thought by the age of 2 they generally start to sleep consistently. Any pointers to get there? Is "crying it out" really the only option?
I work late one night a week. What's best - getting up the next morning at the time I usually get up, or sleeping for 8 hours? [more inside]
Winter brings sleeping woes... I am typically very cold natured, except in the middle of the night. I am FREEZING when I go to bed, necessitating long-sleeved/long-pants PJs and a down comforter to get warm enough to sleep - but then I wake up drenched in sweat and radiating heat. Why do I seemingly only produce body heat in the middle of the night, and how can I fall asleep comfortably but also stay comfortable in the middle of the night? [more inside]
Over the past six months, I've got into this consistent habit of waking up much too early. Like from 4 to 5am. That would be fine except I go to bed around 12 or 1. Is this a big problem? [more inside]
I managed to get a cough over Thanksgiving Day, giving it to no one in the family (thank goodness) but ended up coughing for 5 days.Yes, there were little pockets of sleep and warmth and hydration, but it was mostly cough. This perfect storm got better when I spoke to my PA on Friday who informed me they were going to be closed all weekend. "If I gets bad go to an Urgent Care." Sound advice except a myriad of reasons, like they just moved out of our network and I didn't have $100. (The docs office only charges the copay up front.) I had some Tylenol AM/PM some Cheratussin AC from April 2014 (the one that takes like paint remover so you don't abuse it). It was awful and was effective for about 1/3 the time it said. Cough, read, doze, hydrate, rinse and repeat for five days. (Oh and don't forget the Lithium!) Monday I went to the PA who gave me scrips for Benzonate and a breathing treatment machine and also extra nebulizers. My boss has e-mailed me when I I think 'll be back to work. [more inside]
For 15+ years I've been a daily drinker. I quit several days ago, and my sleep has been horrendous. When, if ever, does it return to normal? [more inside]
Is it possible to make a mattress firmer, or am I better off buying a new mattress? [more inside]
For the past couple years I have gone to sleep with podcasts on (usually sports or news podcasts) and find it really difficult to go to sleep without a podcast on. I have tried sound machines and they do not help. No matter how long I sleep, I generally wake up feeling fatigued, and can have brain fog or feel tired and am tired throughout the day. I have never been a particularly great sleeper, but I am at a place that I need to address the fatigue. I am going to go get checked by a sleep doctor in a couple months (switching insurance and travel schedule), but in the meantime I am assessing things I am doing that may cause the fatigue. Does anyone sleep with podcasts on? Could this be an issue? My thought is maybe my brain is semi-engaged because I am listening to the conversation. Total guess, but thought I would reach out and see if anyone else has dealt with this. Thanks!
Over the past year, my girlfriend and I have suffered through a series of mattress missteps to the tune of about $2500. Yesterday we were in Ikea and tried out the Sultan Heggedal mattress, which is $999 for a king. We were impressed both with the comfort and price of this mattress, but are trying to do some additional research so we don’t make the same mistake again. [more inside]
My newish home-built desktop PC stopped sleeping/hibernating and restarting/shutting down in most cases. I recently installed a program that allows it to do these things, but only while the program is running. I'm looking for a permanent fix if possible. Details within. [more inside]
I'm not a morning person at all, I never have been, and I doubt I ever will be. Unfortunately, society refuses to acknowledge this, and even forces me to do things before midday. Because of this, I'd love to hear what you do that makes getting up into a somewhat pleasurable experience, rather than keep experiencing the Promethean torture I go through every morning. [more inside]
We are about to move to a new home where my kids (ages: 4 years and 19 months) will share a room for the first time. How can I finesse this so we all get some sleep? Difficulty level: the older one is a Wild Thing. [more inside]
I want to be able to nap at any point during the day, but I can't make myself go to sleep. Any tricks for napping at will? Difficulty level: I've got a newborn. [more inside]
Live-in boyfriend and I are on completely different schedules, and he requires lots of loud alarms to wake up. But they wake me up, too. [more inside]
What is the best prescription sleep medicine for someone using Adderall to treat ADD? I will be speaking to my doctor of course, but I wanted to see if anybody had a sleep medication that worked well with your ADD medicine. Anecdotal help welcome.
12.5-month-old Supercoolbaby was a very good sleeper from early on (she slept through the night at 2 months and carried on with that until about 10 months, but never more than 2 wakeups during the night), but recently some problems have developed. Would love your thoughts/advice. Many details within. [more inside]
What can I do that will best ensure I feel awake and ready to get up when the alarm goes off? [more inside]
My two year old currently really prefers his mother. This is not a surprise, she is awesome. She is also very pregnant. I would very much like to be able to settle him back to sleep at 2am, but when he sees me he cries harder. Does anyone have a successful strategy for getting a toddler to accept the ministrations of the less-preferred parent rather than get more upset? I would prefer something that doesn't just disrupt my wife's sleep anyway, like letting him cry until he calms down. I know I am asking for magic here.
I want to get a mosquito net for my bedroom. My motives are functional rather than aesthetic. Some nets are treated with chrysanthemum pesticides, others are just nets. For those who've been to places where the nets are essential, is the pesticide treatment necessary or a just a marketing power-up? I'd rather not sleep bathed in bug killing gases if the nets are as effective sans poison.
I know the lullabies my mother sang to me, but I'd like to learn some more lullabies or lullaby-like songs (we can go broad, but I think "soft, sweet and slow" are our watchwords) that I can sing to our child. [more inside]
Family trip coming up, and I need advice on helping my five-year-old daughter manage sleep-deprivation and jetlag. In the context of a wedding weekend, with all the attendant social and behavioral expectations. With bonus similarly-aged relative who brings out her most rambunctious side. What can I do by way of scheduling, boundaries, etc., to keep this sane while still being polite? [more inside]
I want to come home and put my phone down in a dock and not carry it around all the time. I'm trying to reduce both anxiety (from checking work email) and distracted/divided attention (from playing games while talking or watching TV). Is there a good (small/cheap/easy to use) dock or other solution for this? I don't care about playing music or anything else. I just want a ringer I can hear a room away. [more inside]
My father has suffered an extended series of illnesses and has a terminal disease. He's weak but has shown a capability to physically recover. Left to his own devices he sleeps a lot. How do I keep him engaged? [more inside]
I haven't been able to sleep well for the past week; this is totally out of the blue, as I usually get around 7 hours of z's. I think it's due to stress. I'm averaging around 3 hours on a good night, which is taking its toll on my physical/emotional/cognitive health. I'm actually dreading getting into bed tonight, and would like some advice from MeFites who are struggling with/have overcome insomnia on how I can best rig my chances for possibly sleeping well. [more inside]
Hey everyone. I don't know what's going on with me. For a while now, I've had this worn down feeling where I just want to sleep, even during the day. [more inside]
I need 8 or more hours of sleep a night, and some people need 6 or less, and I'm having a hard time dealing with the fundamental unfairness of this, and the fact that it seems like they have a huge advantage in life. I need insight from other people: emotional, practical, or scientific. [more inside]
Outfitting my new apartment and I'm in need of a queen-size mattress... price range $200-$600. I like soft beds but don't have a great back either, and generally I sleep well in hotel beds. Already have an Ikea bed and slightly flexible slatted base--can I put a memory foam mattress directly on top of this setup? Otherwise, what mattress should I acquire and where, which will arrive in under a week? Thanks in advance!
We're thinking of starting some sort of sleep training for our four month old. I know, she's young, but the "magical thinking" we have in getting her to sleep (hours of nursing, rocking, squats, singing, nursing) as well as the hourly (or even half-hourly) wake ups are not good for us, and they're not good for her. She really needs to sleep, and I can tell she really wants to. The question is, how? [more inside]
I keep putting myself to bed too early. I fall asleep easily and stay asleep for a couple hours, but I sleep very lightly and wake up for a period of time around 2-4am. What are some things I can do to stay out of bed for an extra couple hours until I'm at the can't-keep-my-eyes-open point level of sleepy? [more inside]
I've been diagnosed with idiopathic hypersomnia - which means I sleep too much and nobody can figure out why. With the diagnosis, I was essentially told that there's nothing the medical establishment can do for me beyond prescribing modafinil [Provigil]. Provigil only works a little for me, and is extremely expensive. I am currently disabled by my oversleeping (11-16 hours a day) and my inability to wake up before noon, and it's sort of ruining my life. I feel really let down by my doctors and hopeless about the future. Is there anything else I can do to manage this condition and/or my life with it? Way too much more inside. [more inside]
Whenever I haven't slept very well (i.e. very much), I spend the next day feeling somewhat feverish. [more inside]
I know that asking "Why is my toddler doing X?" is like shouting into the void, but perhaps you have some insight into why my toddler is suddenly having a hard time with waking up from a nap... [more inside]
I am struggling with back aches when I'm trying to sleep. I think it has something to do with my sleeping partner weighing about 60lbs more than me. What are the possible solutions - both short term (mattress toppers, etc.) and long term (new mattress)? [more inside]
I aggravated a lower back injury on June 3rd. This injury caused pretty bad nerve pain down my right leg that totally disrupted my sleep. Even though I am feeling much better now physically, my normal sleep has not returned. Note: I have read a bunch of AskMes about insomnia but I thought I would get some fresh responses here. [more inside]
I need help with overcoming my stress in order to start eating and sleeping heathily. What are your hints and tips to get my life back on track? [more inside]
My mother is trying a number of tactics to help with debilitating chronic migraines (occurring multiple times weekly). She's been told that getting out of bed immediately on waking has reduced the occurrence of migraines in some other sufferers. This is proving a difficult thing to implement. Hive, how would you motivate yourself to get out of your cosy cosy bed? [more inside]
I used to be good at sleep. Now I suddenly suck at it. [more inside]
For years, when I couldn't sleep for whatever reason, I was able to mindlessly play this game where I would picture my dream flat (which was an actual place I had spent time) and arrange the furniture in it how I would do it if it was mine. Now it doesn't work. What are your mental mindless games you use to drift off to sleep, or relax? [more inside]
I am in search of the best pillows ever for sleeping. Can you help me? [more inside]
Our 6 month old has never slept well. The sleep deprivation is destroying me. Is there anything we haven't thought of? Anything else we can try? [more inside]
Over the past 6-8 months, I've fallen into a lot of bad habits that affect how I feel in my body. I want to improve, but there is so much that needs improving that I'm not sure where or how to start, and I don't have a lot of motivation. How do I begin to turn things around? [more inside]
We're buying a house (hooray, and thanks for the previous helpful advice, AskMe!). It has a basement with no egress windows or doors. Our parents visit frequently. I'd like to get a sleeper sofa for the upstairs den to put them on when they come; both sets of grandparents and my husband would like to put a guest bed in the basement. [more inside]
Over the past six months, I've noticed that I've engaged in a number of increasingly bizarre behaviors while sleeping. I know that I'm doing these things because I usually wake up in the middle of whatever I'm doing. [more inside]
I used to get more energy from working out, but now I have to go home and sleep all day after I go to the gym. Why is this happening to me?! [more inside]
Has anyone had any success with finding the right barrier layer to stop a memory foam mattress topper trapping too much heat? [more inside]
I've noticed that when I sleep from, say, 11-6 as opposed to 12-7, I feel very different upon waking up. Even just shifting everything one hour late, when I get up at 7 my mornings are pleasant and alert. If I wake up at 6, even if I had gone to bed and fell asleep at 11, I had to take a nap somewhere in there. Are there studies that shows which hours you sleep actually matter? Or are all of this in my head?
And how does a terrible, light sleeper maximize rest? [more inside]
Considering getting a bedside co-sleeper for my baby. Parents who've used these, were they worth the money in your experience? [more inside]
So, yes, I love it when my adorable newborn falls asleep on my chest. But how can I get her to transition to the bassinet so I can get some sleep? [more inside]
This is possibly the dumbest/strangest question I've ever asked, but it's one of those "is it like this for everyone, or is this actually unusual?" things. Everyone has trouble getting out of bed in the morning, I know. But I experience what I can only call a drug-like chemical high while I'm lying there. [more inside]