29 posts tagged with shyness by Anonymous.
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I can't stop not doing my final project. I don't want to fail. Help.

This is my last semester of college, and there's a major project I haven't worked on for weeks. Parts of it are past due. Other people are counting on me. I feel paralyzed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 2, 2014 - 23 answers

help me be sexy

How do I be seductive? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 30, 2012 - 23 answers

Shy and Unlucky in Love

Help me figure out why I'm so unlucky with romance [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 18, 2012 - 26 answers

Dating advice for shy people?

Dating advice for introverted/shy women (or men!)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2012 - 11 answers

why can't I keep a job?

I keep getting fired from jobs, and I think my poor social skills play a major role. I don't know how to change this pattern. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 10, 2012 - 29 answers

How can a former shy person go from merely functional to friendly?

I used to be very shy. Through years of pushing myself (I'm 33 now), I've become pretty amazingly functional. But I find myself in an unexpected spot. While I very much want to be around people and I can now handle it without freezing up, my experience of actually being around people is one of gritted teeth and willpower. There's very little joy in it. In theory, I'd like nothing more than a bushel of friends hanging out in my kitchen on a Sunday night. In practice, I push myself into social situations like dunking my arm in freezing water, pulling it out with a huge sigh of relief as soon as I let myself. That's not a recipe for forging new friendships, which I know take time and certain amount of vulnerability. What can I do to take myself to the next level -- from functional to genuinely friendly? Do people ever make it to the next level? On the phobia scale, it's not enough for me to be able to let a spider crawl on my arm without having a panic attack, I need to be able to lay down in a cave full of spiders and love it. (I've been in therapy for a year, but aside from that, I'd like to hear from you all.)
posted by anonymous on Jun 7, 2012 - 21 answers

How to Get What I Want

How do I, an early-30's woman, get what I want when it comes to dating and sex? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 21, 2012 - 16 answers

How to ask for phone numbers

How do I ask for a woman's phone number in a non-creepy way? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2011 - 43 answers

How can I break free and love her like she needs?

You are a man and you were once shy about sex, particularly about vocalizing your wants/needs. How did you come out of your shell? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 21, 2011 - 20 answers

Help me get over my self-conscious side!

I’m half introvert (don’t need to socialize every day; do like to escape and regroup after socializing) and half extrovert. My extroverted half can be extremely social, and even, on occasion, meet people really easily—and get them to like me. But if I feel I don’t relate to people around me, or that they won’t get me, or that they are poor listeners and I’ll either have to fight for their attention or fight against their judgmentalism (on whatever subject), I get hideously self-conscious and tongue-tied. How can I change that? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 11, 2010 - 9 answers

Overcoming shyness in dating

Can't make a move... should I just talk to her about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 19, 2010 - 46 answers

How do I at least get a date with a shy guy when I am shy and full of self-doubt?

I like shy boys and grumpy boys. I am shy. How to approach? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 2, 2010 - 24 answers

Need hotter sex plz kthx!

I'm somewhat less than satisfied with my sex life. How do I talk to my girlfriend about this, without sounding critical or exacerbating her shyness (which is part of the problem)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 5, 2010 - 18 answers

How do I get this kitten's inner tiger to come out and play?

The lady I'm seeing is really shy in bed. What can I do to help her feel more comfortable? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 1, 2010 - 20 answers

She likes me, but does she *like* me like me?

Late start at dating, and I'm worried that I don't/can't express attraction on dates or around people I like. Halp! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 18, 2009 - 8 answers

How did you find love or companionship in spite of anxiety?

What steps did you take to find your partner in spite of social anxiety or severe shyness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 2, 2009 - 33 answers

Coyness is nice, but coyness can hurt you..

I"m still struggling with shyness and anxiety as an adult -- and I'm not for therapy. I think I can overcome, as I seem to have two personalities, it's a matter of making one of them stick. How can I just stay in the right one, and make the other one never come back (or limit how much it does) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 7, 2009 - 8 answers

Should a reclusive borderline try to meet people or find intimacy? If so, how?

Long post about my struggle with friendlessness, shyness and borderline personality disorder inside. Short form: how does a shy, sensitive, friendless guy meet kind, like-minded people and build up a social support network, and should a borderline avoid seeking a partner altogether? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 10, 2009 - 19 answers

ShyGuyFilter: What's my next move with an unassertive guy?

I initiated our hang-out; he enthusiastically responded. The evening started with great conversation and mutual interest-- and then the energy seemed to weirdly wane as the evening went on. To be fair, we had a grueling evening. What now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 21, 2008 - 22 answers

Extroverts, please speak up!

This one is for the extroverts. As someone who has struggled with social anxiety/shyness to varying degrees my entire life, I'm very curious to know what your inner dialogue is like? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 19, 2008 - 32 answers

How can I overcome my sexual shyness?

I would like to be more, er, assertive in bed, but I'm too shy. How can I get past this? Is there a good self-help book on the subject? Is there anything you've personally tried that worked for you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 16, 2008 - 19 answers

How does a decent, caring but impotent and shy guy ever find a girlfriend?

I am a 38-year-old man who has many good qualities (I hope so at least) but two drawbacks which understandably be dealbreakers for most women - I am impotent and I have a small penis (around 4 inches on the rare occasions it is erect), so even if my impotence got treated I am not sure I could satisfy a women. On the other hand, I have heard that it's possible to have satisfactory sex life with a 3 inch penis, but have no idea how that can be. So basically I am what would be a figure of ridicule for many other men, and not exactly a strong candidate to be a boyfriend for most women either. However I know some women while still heterosexual may not want a sexual partner e.g. they may be celibate for whatever reason. And there may even be women who will overlook a sex life without penetrative sex for the right person. I have just come out of a four-year relationship which had lots of affection and companionship but not strong feelings of passion and obviously no sex, but I eventually want another relationship again and believe I have a lot of love to give the right person. How can I find her? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 23, 2008 - 38 answers

Hi, I'm AWKWARD! (But how awkward am I?)

Do people with under-developed social skills know that their skills need work? If so, how? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 14, 2008 - 23 answers

I use drinking to manage social anxiety.

I use drinking to manage social anxiety. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 13, 2007 - 24 answers

I'm a great public speaker, but painfully shy in every other situation. What to do?

I'm a great public speaker, but painfully shy in every other situation. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 10, 2007 - 38 answers

You scare me and I don't want to talk to you.

Is there a way to tell clients I want them to communicate with me through email instead of the phone that doesn't make me sound weird? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 31, 2007 - 39 answers

How can a late-bloomer sow oats without getting stuck?

Late-bloomer-filter: I was a painfully shy, geeky, withdrawn guy with almost no friends and no social life. Over the past few years (I'm 28 now), I went to therapy, got a new job, moved from my sleepy suburban town to New York, got tons of people-practice, made new friends... and then this year, it all suddenly and magically clicked. It's unreal, but instead of nights alone with my laptop, I'm out almost constantly with tons of friends, hanging out, going on dates, drinking, dancing, and generally having more fun than I ever believed was possible for me. But I need your advice before I create a monster. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2006 - 22 answers

Have a Nice Day!

I'd like to be nicer to people. I'm generally anxious, socially awkward, and don't enunciate very well. I have trouble with spontaneous conversation and small talk, and get flustered by clumsy social encounters. As a result I've developed a reputation as aloof and unapproachable. What can I do to be a more pleasant person?
posted by anonymous on Dec 19, 2004 - 48 answers

How can you overcome pee shyness in public urinals?

How can you overcome pee shyness in public urnials? As in, stepping to the plate, but being unable to pee until the bathroom is empty?
posted by anonymous on Oct 29, 2004 - 28 answers

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